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Hunter’s Pursuit, by Kim Baldwin \ I think Kim Baldwin specializes in using the cold to bring lovers together in peril. This one is so exciting: Kat is a mercenary contemplating retirement in her hillside hideaway when a super babe with memory problems and assassins on her tail shows up at her door. Kat has to decide what to do about this woman, who may or may not be deadly, and what to do when she starts falling for this woman, which may or may not be sexy (it is, it’s very sexy). It’s one of those “oh no we are stuck in close quarters together, whatever shall we do” situations that only gets hotter with the threat of death or dismemberment lurking outside. Source

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Olga Diyachenko, the Russian partner of Super Eagles captain, John Mikel Obi, who is currently in Nigeria with her family took to Instagram to write about Nigerian women. In the candid post, Olga praised Nigerian women for having so much grace, charisma and not a shred of insecurity. Read her post below. Nigeria, what a surprise you've turned out be. ?? But, if I’m to say what impressed me most, it’s The Women. So much; grace, charisma and not a shred of insecurity. Nigerian women walk swaying their beautiful hips with their backs impeccably straight, heads held high, knowing their worth. Their attitude is strong, yet very sensual, regardless whether it’s a wealthy woman walking through a 5 star hotel or a young girl crossing the road at 7 AM rushing to work. Although may I say, Nigerian women do not rush, nor do they fidget, they simply glide. The way Nigerian women preserve their culture and traditions is admirable. They don’t chase international designers or dress according to Vogue, they wear beautiful traditional dresses, dance the traditional dances and do it all with pride! I hope Ava and Mia will inherit the calmness, sense of pride, posture and self worth that I’ve witnessed Nigerian women posses with such ease. Nigerian Women hat off to you. Source

''When it comes to marriages and what a man or woman do, I don't really bother because it is their decision and they are adults and you must take the consequences that come out of it but when you involve your kids in it is where it gets me because these kids did not ask to be born neither did they ask for you to make some stupid decisions in your life. I am sick and tired of all these post people put up of somebody gets beaten up, gets stabbed. You get beaten up, you get killed because you want to. Don't involve your kids in it. When you make stupid decisions that you want to get married because the whole nation is crazy about getting married, don't get your kids involved in it. Please my sisters, if you want to get married, think about it thoroughly. Don't think about just the wedding itself. It's a marriage, a life time decision. It is not just about Asoebi, caterers, slaying or having the best wedding. Please women, if you are not ready for children, do not have them. I don't know why the society is so pressured about people getting married and having children when half of the people that have children are not supposed to. Honeslty, not every woman is supposed to have children and not everyone is supposed to be married. Not every woman who has kids is supposed to be called a mother''. Thoughts?

A pastor in Chicago has come under fire to telling a person in drag to leave the church during a service. Antonio Rocquemore, of Power House International Ministries, can be seen telling the individual to “put on man clothes” in a video shared to Facebook. “Can you leave my church and go put on man clothes? And don’t come here like that no more,” he says in the video. “I hold a standard in here. Whatever you do on the outside is your business, but I will not let drag queens come in here.” The audience can be heard saying “Amen” and “Jesus” and applauding the pastor. Rocquemore says in the video: “I don’t do no bashing, because everybody is struggling with something. The video has been shared thousands of times, with many criticising the pastor’s actions. Afterwards, Rocquemore shared another video to his personal Facebook page, in which he appeared unapologetic. He said the person at the service had been a member of the church for several months. The pastor said: “First of all, anybody that know me … I don’t bash nothing. “The reason why I don’t bash nothing because when you start bashing things then you’re separating them. I don’t separate sin. Sin is sin.” Source

Waconzy who was born in Port Harcourt, gained some popularity with his song “I celebrate” in 2010 and since then, has struggled to make a comeback even after releasing subsequent songs. The musician, whose music career is obviously over, took to Instagram to display his ignorance and homophobia. He posted “Gays & lesbians are bad children wey no gree change. They have nothing to offer to this world but HIV”. Given Nigeria’s increasing homophobia toward homosexuals due to ignorance on the issue, the statement above is capable of further encouraging discrimination and stigma which harms efforts to prevent HIV and care for LGBTQ+ persons living with the virus. Waconzy needs to learn that anyone regardless of their sexual orientation can contract HIV, the virus which causes AIDS and if he really understands the sort of harm that his post can cause to innocent lives, then he won’t wait for too long before taking it down with an apology. Source

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Sometimes lesbians want to find a wife with whom to run a small sheep farm in Wales; sometimes what we want is a hard wet fuck from a beautiful woman we barely know in the bathroom of a gay bar. We contain multitudes. But how do you make the latter happen? I bring to you cruising tips and casual sex advice built off the years of skanky queer life experience that have solidified me as one of the leading minds in the highly un-scientific field of “Lez Slut-ology.” The Basics What’s cruising? Cruising is going out into the world with the specific intention of finding someone with whom to have casual sex. If you message or approach someone just wanting to hook up, you are cruising. It’s a time-honored gay tradition and a rich part of our cultural history that forgoes respectability politics and homonormative assimilation in favor of radical expressions of queer sexuality. Cruising is knowing what you want and actively pursuing it. The term is thought to have come from queer folks walking or driving around town searching for a casual encounter. Though cruising has gained prominence as practiced by men who have sex with men, it isn’t theirs alone; dyke communities have also engaged in cruising and casual sex for years. Where do you cruise? I would recommend any events or settings where you know lady-loving lady hotties abound as a great place to cruise. This includes: + Dyke nights at your local gay bar + Pride + Dance parties + Brunch + A-Camp + A Hayley Kiyoko/Tegan & Sara/Mirah/Melissa Etheridge concert + BDSM play parties + A gay picnic + A book fair + NaijaLez So my golden rule is: “If there’s a hot gay around and you aren’t at like, a trauma center or a funeral, you can cruise there.” An elegant golden rule, I know. How do you cruise? Feel good about it! We live in a society that indoctrinates us into believing that having desires is predatory and shameful, and that women who desire women are even more so. I think another big part of it is that many of us have experienced predatory behavior and are very scared to replicate it. It’s not predatory to want someone and let them know it. It’s not predatory to desire another woman in a purely sexual manner. It’s only predatory if you are being disrespectful of someone’s boundaries, body, and personhood. So don’t do that. As for fears about being desirable or confident enough, remember that queer desire is complex and multifaceted and lots of types of people are attracted to lots of types of people and bodies; why not you! I suggest wearing something you feel really confident and hot in, that outfit that just makes you feel like the baddest bitch. And when all else fails, fake the confidence because we honestly all do that. Flirting Flirting is the first step of cruising and something I know many queers struggle with. I know many queer folx, especially women, feel frozen by this deep fear of rejection and getting over that is the first step to being a more confident cruiser. Being rejected doesn’t say anything bad about you or them and it doesn’t invalidate your gayness. I fear rejection too, but learning to accept it as a likely possibility has helped me become my best flirt and built my confidence in other aspects of my life. What is important is to not be objectifying in how you interact with them. If they aren’t into it, respect the no, move on, and don’t make it weird. If you’re approached by someone you aren’t into, try to handle it the way you would want to be rejected, say thank you and politely decline. My favorite ways to flirt with or be flirted with by women are to be complimented — find something you think is beautiful, stylish, or attractive about this person and let them know — and then having them get down to it — ask for what you’re interested in, whether it’s a number, a date, or getting fucked in the bathroom. Having Casual Sex How do you actually initiate casual sex? In practice: you’re out and about and have spotted a hottie, and have been flirting by complimenting them and chatting. Maybe this doesn’t go well; either they aren’t into it or upon closer interaction you aren’t as into them as you thought you were. That’s fine; chalk it up to the mysteries of life and move on. If they do seem equally interested in you, you can take the initiative! If it’s a setting like a bar, party or social gathering where you could feasibly say “Do you want to go to my place/the bathroom/my car/anywhere else we can have sex?” you can ask that! If you’re in the middle of a protest or drag queen story hour for kids at 10 am at the public library, maybe you want to ask for their number so you can make a similar suggestion at a more appropriate time — like getting someone’s info to ask them on a date, but focusing more on asking them “I think you’re really hot, do you want to come over Saturday night?” If you are trying to get fisted in your car in the parking lot of the bar — congrats! — maybe wear something you can slip in and out of easily. Once you get to actually having sex, you of course are aware it’s good to communicate basic stuff about boundaries and consent, even if it is casual. There’s no set list of things to discuss before sleeping with a stranger, but if it’s something like a medical condition, a boundary, or testing status, then definitely bring it up. Examples: “Hey just so you know, I have a latex allergy, so finger me with nitrile gloves.” “Please make sure you don’t touch my neck. It’s a trigger for me.” “How recently have you been tested?” “My partner and I have a rule about getting no marks from hookups.” “I don’t like gentle sex.” “I have been tested recently and my results came back positive for gonorrhea.” Source

Sparks fly on Halloween night as Nat faces her demons.

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In this video, I am showing you an easy way to incorporate corned beef into your pasta recipes in this recipe that I have called Corned Beef Spaghetti. It is absolutely delicious, and it takes less than 30 minutes to create...easy peasy right?

Following the Successful release of the audio and also to mark the One Anniversary of her Debut Album "THIS IS ME"...The Queen Of Afrohouse "NINIOLA" wastes no time to put out the video to her instant #HIT single #BANA. In a year that has been Fantastic for the Queen and as she prepares for her concert "The Human Radio Concert", She has decided to keep it HOT till the End of the Year... So Sit back and Enjoy how NINIOLA takes us on a colorful and energetic journey in this Video...And Yes Clarence Shot It... What do you ladies think? #SuperSong

What is anxiety? Are you anxious? Maybe you’re feeling worried about a problem at work with your boss. Maybe you have butterflies in your stomach while waiting for the results of a medical test. Maybe you get nervous when driving home in rush-hour traffic as cars speed by and weave between lanes. These are all normal symptoms of anxiety. In life, everyone experiences anxiety from time to time. This includes both adults and children. For most people, feelings of anxiety come and go, only lasting a short time. Some moments of anxiety are more brief than others, lasting anywhere from a few minutes to a few days. But for some people, these feelings of anxiety are more than just passing worries or a stressful day at work. Your anxiety may not go away for many weeks, months, or years. It can worsen over time, sometimes becoming so severe that it interferes with your daily life. When this happens, it’s said that you have an anxiety disorder. What are the symptoms of anxiety? While anxiety symptoms vary from person to person, in general the body reacts in a very specific way to anxiety. When you feel anxious, your body goes on high alert, looking for possible danger and activating your fight or flight responses. As a result, some common symptoms of anxiety include: nervousness, restlessness, or being tense feelings of danger, panic, or dread rapid heart rate rapid breathing, or hyperventilation increased or heavy sweating trembling or muscle twitching weakness and lethargy difficulty focusing or thinking clearly about anything other than the thing you’re worried about insomnia digestive or gastrointestinal problems, such as gas, constipation, or diarrhoea a strong desire to avoid the things that trigger your anxiety obsessions about certain ideas, a sign of obsessive-compulsive disorder (OCD) performing certain behaviours over and over again anxiety surrounding a particular life event or experience that has occurred in the past, especially indicative of post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD). Panic attacks A panic attack is a sudden onset of fear or distress that peaks in minutes and involves experiencing at least four of the following symptoms: palpitations sweating shaking or trembling feeling shortness of breath or smothering sensation of choking chest pains or tightness nausea or gastrointestinal problems dizziness, light-headedness, or feeling faint feeling hot or cold numbness or tingling sensations (paresthesia) feeling detached from oneself or reality, known as depersonalization and derealisation fear of “going crazy” or losing control fear of dying. There are some symptoms of anxiety that can happen in conditions other than anxiety disorders. This is usually the case with panic attacks. The symptoms of panic attacks are similar to those of heart disease, thyroid problems, breathing disorders, and other illnesses. As a result, people with panic disorder may make frequent trips to emergency rooms or doctor’s offices. They may believe they are experiencing life-threatening health conditions other than anxiety. Source

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The governor of Tanzania’s most-populated city, Dar es Salaam, has created a team to round up gay people. Paul Makonda urged the city’s more than four million residents to report any information they have about gay people before the crackdown starts on November 6, according to AFP. In the declaration on Monday (October 29), he said: “Give me their names. My ad hoc team will begin to get their hands on them next Monday.” Queer people can face up to life imprisonment in Tanzania if convicted of having gay sex. Makonda, who has held his position since 2016, said: “I have information about the presence of many homosexuals in our province. “These homosexuals boast on social networks.” The governor said that gay sex “tramples on the moral values of Tanzanians and our two Christian and Muslim religions.” Makonda was anticipating backlash from people who lived outside Tanzania, but said that he would “prefer to anger those countries than to anger God.” Police officers in Dar es Salaam arrested 12 men last year, accusing them of “promoting homosexuality” and engaging in gay sex. And at least 20 people were arrested for “homosexual activity” in a police raid in Tanzania’s semi-autonomous region of Zanzibar. The country’s penal code criminalises anyone who “has carnal knowledge of any person against the order of nature.” Last year, Tanzania stopped health clinics from providing HIV services, saying they “cater to homosexuals.” It is believed that 33,000 people in Tanzania died from AIDS-related illnesses in 2016. Many other countries on the continent also face oppressive actions from their government officials, with a study earlier this week finding that Malawi’s anti-gay laws mean members of the LGBT+ community are vulnerable to arbitrary arrest, physical violence and discrimination. Earlier this month, Uganda’s first LGBT+ centre was labelled a “criminal act” by Simon Lokodo, the country’s minister for ethics and integrity. He said homosexuality was “completely unacceptable” and that he would not allow it to be “popularised.” Lokodo also attempted to shut down popular music festival MTN Nyege Nyege in September, on the grounds that it catered to the “celebration and recruitment of young people into homosexuality and LGBT movement.” Despite the prevalence of anti-gay laws in Africa—where 34 countries still ban gay sex—and across the world, the Trump administration announced in July that it would not press countries to abolish their anti-LGBT laws. Mick Mulvaney, a former Republican lawmaker who is Director of the Office of Management and Budget, criticised President Barack Obama’s administration for using taxpayer dollars “to discourage Christian values in other democratic countries.” He added: “It was stunning to me that my government under the previous administration would go to folks in sub-Saharan Africa and say, ‘We know that you have a law against abortion, but if you enforce that law, you’re not going to get any of our money. “‘We know you have a law against gay marriage, but if you enforce that law, we’re not going to give you any money.'” He added: “That is a different type of religious persecution that I never expected to see. I never expected to see that as an American Christian, that we would be doing that to other folks.” Source

Headteachers in South Africa have been told to send the names of all their LGBT+ students to the government. Schools in the Eastern Cape province, which is home to six million people, received an email on October 16 from the department’s special programmes unit (SPU) which told them to hand over the names of their queer pupils by the end of the day, according to City News. The message stated that the SPU head office would be “conducting a workshop to raise awareness on the rights of the LGBTI community and to ensure that their lives, morals and integrity are respected.” “This will allow the district office to have a database of these learners and 10 of these learners will be attending the scheduled workshop.” Edmund van Vuuren, the education spokesperson for the country’s opposition party, the Democratic Alliance, wrote a letter to the SPU head condemning the email. The department subsequently said queer students no longer had to attend the workshop “due to exams.” In his letter, van Vuuren wrote that identifying LGBT+ students was “discriminatory, unconstitutional and may lead to verbal, mental and even physical abuse.” He said that “in a climate where ‘corrective rape’ and assault based on sexual preference are commonplace, we cannot afford to expose members of this community to further risk and discrimination.” Eastern Cape Department of Education spokesperson Malibongwe Mtima has denied that the department is creating a list of LGBT+ pupils, adding that the email was sent without permission. “There is no activity or instruction to district coordinators to create a database for the LGBTI group,” said Mtima. “The alleged email purporting to be coming from the head office has not been sanctioned by those concerned and the SPU office.” Mtima added that the department had “started an internal investigation and is working hard to get the source of this email, which distorted the activities and objectives of the department’s programmes.” In August, a South African private Christian boarding school in Durban, in the southeast province of KwaZulu-Natal, expelled two girls after seminary officials said they were caught kissing for 20 minutes. Source

Two married lesbians have both carried the same baby before birth, in what appears to be the first IVF pregnancy of this kind. Ashleigh and Bliss Coulter, who live in Dallas, Texas, used a revolutionary new procedure which involved Bliss, 36, taking the embryo for five days while it fertilised, before Ashleigh, 28, was impregnated with the embryo and carried it to term. Their son, Stetson Coulter, was born, happy and healthy, in June. Speaking to PinkNews, she explained that the INVOcell is a container “the size of a champagne cork, made of polystyrene” that can be filled with sperm and an egg, and inserted into the vagina, which has the perfect conditions for fertilisation. “A laboratory provides a static set temperature and atmosphere, with the right PH and carbon dioxide levels,” said Doody, who has been practising for 29 years. “But humans do that all the time, naturally, every day, with livers, kidneys and lungs! Turns out the vagina provides a great environment. “The concept is not novel, but the difference is that the eggs usually go into a Petri dish. In this case, the magic happens in a body.” Compared to a traditional IVF, there is a risk of device expulsion—though no-one has reported losing it so far, Doody said—and may be an increased risk of an ‘abnormal embryo’ being transferred to the uterus. But Doody said that her process was “more natural,” as it allows both partners to actively participate and bond with their potential child. “Normally what happens is donor insemination, or they would both try to get pregnant with the same donor sperm, but this allows them to both be part of it. This is something a heterosexual couple can’t share. “I do think this is special. I’m excited.” Source

Ellen Degeneres and her wife Portia de Rossi have kicked off the National Coming Out Day with a kiss. The Talkshow host took to her Instagram page to share this photo of herself locking lips with her partner Portia as they take part in the annual LGBT awareness day observed on October 11 and 12 in some parts of the world. She wrote: 'It’s the greatest gift you could give yourself. #NationalComingOutDay.' Source

Chude Jideonwo, a Nigerian television host, has called out Donald Duke who is the president candidate for the Social Democratic Party. The media personality expressed his disappointment at Duke's stand on anti-gay law. Recently, Chude had an interview with LITV host, Hero Daniels where he stated that he is in support of gayrights and would repeal the anti-gay law if he is elected president. Chude is a respected member of the Daystar Christian Center, Lagos whose senior pastor is Sam Adeyemi. He goes on to say - ''I am very disappointed in the fact that Donald Duke went on the couch with Falz and spoke courageously about gay rights and then went on to change his mouth after. I am fully in support of gayrights. If I am president, I would overrule the antigay law'' he said Reacting to Chude's comment, Chris said Chude who is supposed to be a Christian should not be supporting gays. He said anyday Chude is allowed to come on the pulpit in the church again to teach, he would leave with his family. ''And @chudeity you supposed to be a Christian and comes to @daystarng and you are gay or supporting gay right, any other day @daystarng allows you come up to the pulpit to teach on anything that day I and family are done with daystar church, chude I'm highly dissapointed, I hope @thesamadeyemi hears and take note. #Nigeria #nigerians #nigerianchurch#daystarng'' he wrote. See video below Source

Openly gay and newly married Nigerian man, Kenny Badmus, says the hypocrisy about homosexuality in Nigeria is alarming as the people who condemn it openly are into it secretly. In an interview with The Punch, Kenny who got married to his American partner in July, revealed that he has had flings with some clergymen as well as a senator in Nigeria When asked to speak on popular Nigerian cross dresser, Bobrisky, Kenny who came out of the closet via his Facebook page some years ago, said

A gay couple recently tied the knot in Paris and one of them wore a unique outfit for the occasion. So pretty! Thoughts? Source

“The Bachelor Vietnam” went from conventional reality TV to big-time drama this week when two of the female contestants decided to reject the idea of competing for the eligible guy and instead go home together. Bachelor Nguyen Quoc Trung was unexpectedly left holding the rose when contestants Minh Thu and Truc Nhu turned their attentions away from him… and onto each other, according to the Asian news site Next Shark. “I went into this competition to find love and I’ve found that love for myself, but it isn’t with you,” Thu told Trung. “It’s with someone else.” Thu began to cry, ran up to fellow female contestant Nhu and threw her arms around her. “Come home with me. Come home with me,” she cried. Nhu approached Trung, who had given her a rose just moments earlier. “I’m sorry,” she said. “I really want to get to know you because you’re someone who made me feel special and I haven’t felt that way in a long time.” He tried his darnedest to talk her out of leaving, saying, “I want you to know that if you do this, you’ll feel regretful. This won’t change my decision. I’m not going to give this rose to anyone else.” But she gave him back the rose, having already had made up her mind to leave. Source