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Former aide to ex president Goodluck Jonathan on Sunday said Christmas is an abomination and a blasphemous festival. Reno Omokri says Christmas is European holiday and a commandment of man not from God. In a series of tweets, he wrote, “Christmas is an abomination and a blasphemous festival and the Bible warned us about it in 1 Timothy 4:1. “The Spirit clearly says that in later times some will abandon the faith and follow deceiving spirits and things taught by demons. “Christmas is a European holiday, not a Christian holiday. It is celebrated in Nigeria and much of the world not because The Bible says so, but for the simple reason that it was Europeans that brought modern day Christianity to Nigeria, Africa and much of the world “The first Christmas was in the year 336 AD when the Roman Emperor, Constantine, converted the celebration of a pagan Mass to mark the winter solstice which glorified European deities. That festival was marked on December 25. Christmas has nothing to do with Christ. “You and I know that Jesus condemned the Pharisees. Now ask yourself why Jesus condemned them? Matthew 15:9 gives us the answer: ‘But in vain they do worship me, teaching for doctrines the commandments of men’. Christmas is a commandment of man “If satan asks true Christians to celebrate a pagan satanic ritual festival, they will never do it. So he just transformed a satanic ritual festival by giving it a new name-Christmas and voila, Christians begin to celebrate what Jesus didn’t command us to celebrate.” Source

Straight pornography actress August Ames was recently called out for being homophobic. Ames took to Twitter to complain about being partnered with a cross-over actor – a man who shoots for both gay and straight studios. She refused to work with him. “Whichever (lady) performer is replacing me tomorrow… you’re shooting with a guy who has shot gay BeHoly, just to let cha know,” she tweeted. “BS is all I can say do agents really not care about who they’re representing?” Many people called her out for her position, but she doubled down on her position that crossover models were “unsafe”. “Since you’re curious @AugustAmesxxx — Most nights (like tonight), I’m playing with p**sy,” gay pornography star Wesley Woods posted, with a picture of himself holding a cat. "Turns out being an uneducated homophobe DIDN’T get you a pat on the head? Maybe think next time before you word vomit for attention,” added Bruce Beckham. Some, arguably, went too far. “The world is awaiting your apology or for you to swallow a cyanide pill. Either or [,] we’ll take it,” Jaxton Wheeler wrote. Ames refused to back down. She tweeted: “NOT homophobic. Most girls don’t shoot with guys who have shot gay pornography, for safety.” A few days later, Ames committed suicide. Her last tweet was “f***k y’all.” It was revealed that she had been dealing with issues of depression, though some people – including her husband and her brother – blamed “online trolls” calling her “homophobic” for her death. “I want my sister’s death to be recognised as a serious issue – bullying is not OK,” her brother, James Grabowski, told The sun. “It cost me my baby sister’s life. I will do what I can be a voice for Mercedes but right now my family and I need to be left alone to grieve. We have lost a loved one.” Woods, who received death threats over his rather simple post, isn’t backing down. He called her death “tragic” but “stands behind” what he said. “This is not about ‘her choice’ in choosing who she worked with,” Woods told Hornet. “It was directly related to the idea we (gay BeHoly actors) were ‘dirty’ or ‘promiscuous.’” “On Monday I called out a homophobic performer for her ignorance and uneducated bias,” Beckham posted in response to the backlash he has received. “She allegedly chose to end her own life when she was exposed to the same vitriol that gay people have been exposed to globally for decades.” He added: “Today, friends, performers and fans are attributing blame to myself and others who weighed in. I’m sorry for her loss of life and whatever personal struggles caused her to choose to end her own life when faced with confrontation, accountability, and education.” Jaxton also posted an update. “My gay community friends please a life is lost and we gain nothing from anything but showing respect and sympathy. Her fans and loved ones are upset, I’m sickened in my out of context comment,” he stated. “As I stated before anyone even made my tweet a thing.”

Gay and lesbian couples are happier than people in straight relationships. Maybe you’ve already suspected it, while looking at your straight friends and their relationships. That hint of sadness in their eyes, compared to the joyous glint in yours and your partner’s. Well, now an extensive study has provided some much-needed evidence. After questioning more than 25,000 people in the UK and over 9,000 in Australia, researchers found that gay and lesbian couples are better off. However, bisexual people suffered from worse relationships, on average, than straight or homosexual people. Francisco Perales and Janeen Baxter from the University of Queensland conducted the study. In their findings, they wrote: “Relationship quality in same-sex couples was as high as in heterosexual couples in the United Kingdom, and higher in Australia. “The lowest relationship quality in both countries was reported by bisexual individuals.” The researchers suggested that gay and lesbian couples might have better relationships because they are less concerned about sticking to stereotypical gender roles. They wrote that “individuals in same-sex couples (particularly lesbian women) generally are more equitable in the ways in which they allocate domestic work, including childcare”. Straight couples often reaffirm their gender roles in relationships, which, the authors state, can lead to an unfair division of labour. “Unequal household burdens are associated with poor relationship outcomes, including marital conflict and divorce,” they explained. “If gender display is not as salient in same-sex couples and these relationships are more egalitarian than heterosexual couples, higher levels of relationship quality might be expected.” The two added that same-sex couples might feel more connected to a community of similar couples, which may increase their happiness. They also suggested that “individuals in same-sex relationships may be more likely than those in different-sex relationships to have high relationship investment.” Perales and Baxter argued that their findings supported giving more rights to same-sex couples, and refuted arguments that children of same-sex parents suffer. “Our results provide robust evidence to combat deep-rooted and erroneous social perceptions of same-sex relationships being conflictual, unhappy, and dysfunctional,” they said. “Our findings support policies that seek to legalise same-sex marriage and parenting rights.” The authors also emphasised that their results “highlight the need to give further attention to bisexual individuals as a distinct group because their outcomes are comparatively poor.” Bisexual people have consistently been found to have the lowest life satisfaction among LGBT people. They also feel less worthwhile and happy – and much more anxious – than other people, according to a study from earlier this year. And just this week, it was revealed that bisexual people sleep worse than everyone else, with bi women being especially affected. Source

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Vaginal discharge raises common questions for women, including what’s normal and what’s not. Justine Burris, CNM, MSN, UnityPoint Health, talks in-depth about female vaginal discharge, from healthy discharge colors, to what concerns might require a trip to see a provider. What Does Vaginal Discharge Mean? Burris describes vaginal discharge as fluid released by glands in the vagina and cervix. The fluid carries dead cells and bacteria out of the body, and vaginal discharge helps keep the vagina clean and prevent infection. Burris also says normal vaginal discharge varies in amount and ranges in color from clear to milky, white discharge. Discharge may have a slight odor as well, although a foul, fishy odor is a sign of an infection. “There are times when discharge amounts can change,” Burris says. “Immediately after a period, there is almost no discharge. Two to three days after the period ends, there is a thick, white discharge. A few days later, the consistency changes to appear more like mucous. Before ovulation, the discharge becomes clear and sticky, and before the next period, discharge is thick and white in consistency.” Vaginal discharge during pregnancy is thin, white, milky and mild smelling. The amount of discharge also increases during pregnancy. However, during perimenopause and menopause, discharge decreases due to low levels of estrogen. The following can cause estrogen levels to drop, leading to little to no vaginal discharge: Medicines or hormones used in the treatment of breast cancer, endometriosis, fibroids or infertility Surgery to remove the ovaries Radiation treatment to the pelvic area Chemotherapy Severe stress, depression or intense exercise Vaginal Discharge Color Meaning Thick, White Discharge If thick, white discharge goes along with other symptoms, such as itching, burning and irritation, it is probably due to a yeast infection. If not, it is normal discharge. Yellow Discharge Yellow discharge is abnormal discharge, as this is a sign of a bacterial infection or sexually transmitted infection. Brown Discharge Brown discharge may be caused by irregular period cycles. If brown discharge keeps appearing, a patient should schedule an appointment with a provider to be evaluated. This could be a sign of uterine or cervical cancer. Additionally, during menopause, a woman should not have any type of vaginal bleeding, which is also a sign of uterine cancer. Green Discharge Having green discharge is not normal. This is a sign of bacterial infection or a sexually transmitted infection. Anyone experiencing green discharge should see her provider. Yeast Infection Discharge Yeast infection discharge is caused by an overgrowth of fungus in the vagina. Symptoms of yeast infection discharge include a thick, white, cottage cheese-like discharge, along with itching, redness, irritation and burning. Roughly 90 percent of women will have a yeast infection at some point in their life. Yeast infections are not contagious, and over-the-counter antifungal creams are available for a patient to use. But, if symptoms don’t improve with treatment or she has more than four yeast infections in a year, she should see her provider. “Stay aware of normal and abnormal changes in vaginal discharge. This allows patients to identify infection and other problems. If you have any questions about the type of vaginal discharge you’re experiencing, contact your provider,” Burris says. Source

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This viral video shows a transgender teenager being forced to strip down to his underwear while he's filmed by Homophobic Police officers. It's not clear where it took place but the video has sparked an outrage in the LGBT community. Is this right?

I kissed a girl and I liked it, but I don't think she did She's my best friend, and she has a boyfriend. I'm her best friend and I have a girlfriend. Well technically I do... I still remember the first time I saw her. It was right after Law school and I was starting NYSC. We met at a friend's party and it was like we knew each other for longer than that. We talked about growing up, common friends, the sorry state of Nigeria and where we saw ourselves in 10 years. She was witty, a little self deprecating, but quite genuine. We laughed a lot that night. I had a car so i dropped her at home and from then on, we started hanging out often. I was very honest with her about my attraction for girls and she took it in stride. She made jokes about me crushing on her in the future, but that was all there ever was to it. But our friendship picked off and we became thick as thieves. We hung out often after work, at her house and at mine, with her siblings and with mine, with her boyfriend and with other friends. Everything was dandy. But just because the lesbian gods are never satisfied with a good thing, I found myself looking at her with lust one day. So it wasn't like I didn't know she was attractive, I did. I appreciated her good looks and paid her compliments anytime she dressed up. I'm also one of those people who would never put sex ahead of friendship so she had already been put firmly in the friend zone. I had seen her in different stages of undress on several occasions, slept on the same bed with her more times than I can count, and helped her put on and take off clothes plenty times. I had seen her body in all its glory many, many times. But this one time, while gisting and grooving at her brother's wedding reception, the light hit her face a certain way and I suddenly saw her in a different light. Pun intended. It was like I had been punched in the guts by a stranger and all of a sudden, I wanted to kiss her. I wanted to hold her, grab her right there on the dance floor, twirl her around and have her rock me right in front of everyone. I wanted to feel her back pressed against my breast, her bum rubbing against crotch and have my hands guide her movements. At this moment, I was on fire just looking at her with lust and desire. I blinked my eyes a couple of times, shook my head and tried to put it out of my head. Of course she was attractive and this was bound to happen I told myself. I chucked it down to general hornyness and tried to forget it ever happened. Sadly, I didn't succeed. In the next few weeks, I tried many times to get her out of my mind but I never really succeeded. She was the person I started imagining anytime I masturbated, and when I met some cute girl in Jos and kissed her, it was my friend I imagined I was kissing. Oh boy, casala don burst! So I decided there was nothing else to do but tell her. Great idea right? Wrong! I mentioned in passing that I had thought of her while kissing the girl in Jos and she laughed like she had never heard anything funnier. Yup, that was my friend. She laughed, teased me, giggled when I told her everything, and yabbed me for hours. She joked about how hot she was and how she knew that sooner or later, even I wouldn't be able to resist her charms. To be honest, it was a relief for me that she took it this way. We joked about how weird it was that the issue had never come up before for either of us. And then we swept it under the table. She went on with her life like nothing had changed, and I went on with my life hoping everything would change back to the way it was. I was smitten but I was hopeful that it would come to pass without drama. She would catch me staring at her sometimes and just shake her head or wink at me, other times she would laugh and shake her butt in my face if she was anywhere close to me. Every so often, she would compliment how good I looked but nothing over the top. It was a weird but comfortable place to be and I tried to make the best of it. I had started seeing some other girl, (long distance like a proper lesbian) and life was good. And then we played truth or dare. Truth or dare, I hate that game. Hate it! I'm not much of a drinker (by not much, I mean at all) so every single time, I have to spill my guts or do the dare. So unfair. And her boyfriend asked me to kiss her cos he had always been curious about how the 2 of us would handle our chemistry. What chemistry I wondered before she quickly sat on my laps and started kissing me. I could hear the rest of our friends cheering as she held unto my face and kissed me. I could feel my chest pounding as the air we were breathing became hot and heavy. Her lips were against mine, soft, wet and gorgeous, just as I imagined they would be. She grazed her tongue against mine, sucked on my lower lips, bit me playfully and ran her hands down my chest as I gasped for air. I didn't want to think about what was going on, I just gave myself up to feeling everything. I was just a passenger in this amazing activity. Before I could do or say anything more, her weight was off my laps and she was bowing down and curtsying to accept her claps and compliments. I tried to laugh it off and be unaffected but maybe the truth of it was written on my face. She winked at me from across the table where she was now seated by her boyfriend. I blanked through the rest of the night in disbelief until I I looked down later at my phone to see a bbm message from her. 'Stop overthinking it' she said. Followed later by 'It was just a kiss'. I looked down at my phone again and read the words she had written. 'It was just a kiss'. How could something so earth shattering, soul moving and p**sy wetting, be classified as just a kiss? Did she not feel my heart sync with hers the moment her lips touched mine? Did she not feel my world realign when she moved her hands down my chest? I kissed this girl and I liked it. But obviously she didn't feel the same. I applied for a school outside Nigeria a week later. I got admitted and left shortly after. But in the weeks before I left, we spoke less and less. We saw one another even less often. My life had been affected by that kiss and I was devastated she didn't feel a thing. It was just the way it was. Me and long distance girl broke up shortly after as I was no longer committed to her. But when my family and friends dropped me at the airport on my last day in 9ja. She was the last to leave. The last I hugged. I think there might have been a look of longing or regret on her face as I walked away. But maybe it is just wishful thinking. She mouthed 'don't be a stranger' to me as I went past immigration but I think we both knew, strangers was the best we could be from here on out. Truth or dare, I f***king hate that game!!!

Hi Ladies, What a year it has been! We have spent the last couple of weeks thinking about the best possible way to reach out to various groups including but not limited to orphans, students, the elderly, uniform officers e.t.c. It only recently dawned on us that even within our not so small online community there may be one, two or more people who may be distressed financially. It is to this end that we have decided to launch the #HASI – Help A Sister Initiative. As you would expect, this scheme is only open to registered members. To make an application, all you need to do is follow the steps below. You can be rest assured that confidentiality and anonymity will be guaranteed. To apply: Step 1: Write a note (no more than 100 words) on why you deserve the grant. Step 2: Using your registration email address, send a note in (step 1) along with your username as an email to info@naijalez.com Step 3: Admin will post the notes anonymously in the thread created for members to vote and unanimously agree on who the beneficiary should be. Step 4: The note with the most votes is shortlisted and contacted. Step 5: Admin disburses the funds. You may send in your entries from the date of this post valid through to the 20th of December, 2017 as we hope to make disbursement on or before the 23rd of December, 2017. If you read this and think you will like to donate to this initiative, please contact admin privately as well and thank you in advance. PS – considering this is the pilot project, we are looking at a maximum single disbursement of N30,000. Best wishes, FlyJ for the Admins

Media personality, Daddy Freeze has in his usual routine, come for Nigerian pastors – this time around, he says most pastors are into the work of God just because of the money involved. Freeze says Nigerian pastors left their professions because they can’t earn as much unlike in the ministry. In a video shared on Youtube, he said, “There are many fake pastors because of monetization; that pastor who cursed me is an architect, the one at BankyW’s wedding is a doctor. “Many of them are leaving profitable field because ministry is a more profitable field. “Monetization has made fake pastors come into two fold, it has made real pastors preach false messages. “Every doctrine in Nigeria has been monetized, you hear pastors say this year you will find your ‘apollos’ “Apollos in the Bible was increase in word of God not referring to sowing, Matthew 13;7 this verse speaks of seed of faith not money; those that twist this to you are thieves. There’s nothing spiritual about those criticizing me, the only spirituality in them is the ability to twist your brain. OAP Freeze also countered speaking in tongues in Nigerian Pentecostal churches, describing it as fake. He added, “Speaking in tongues in Nigeria Pentecostal churches is fake but speaking in tongues is not fake. “When speaking in tongues, you should speak in languages not in tongues that no one can understand. 1Cor 14:26-28; someone must interpret tongues…There is no speaking in tongues without an interpreter “Interpretation of tongues is missing in today’s pentecostal churches , if anyone speaks in tongues one or two should speak in tongues one at a time not multitude.That is falsehood 1Cor 14:23 is what pastors used to confuse you, they tell you tongues is an unknown language which carnal mind cannot understand. Everyone speaking in tongues in the church is false because it is a gift that everyone does not receive. “I’m a preacher that speaks from history and bible not sentiments like others; that’s why I can’t say God told me to pay titheS like they say. “I would tell you what God kept in bible not what God told me.” Do you think speaking in tongues is fake?

In his open letter to comedian I Go Dye which was published yesterday, Atiku Abubakar disclosed the difference between Nigeria and Naija. He wrote Ladies, do you agree with his definition? Source

A friend of mine just came to town of late for few days. She put up with her elder sister for the period of her stay in town. So l was meeting her elder sister for the first time . During my friend's stay, we where hanging out almost every other day still one day we had l little clash. So l went my way. But some how, during does meeting, her elder sister and l always had this special moments together and l was crushing on her, and she too was into me. When things went rough between me and my friend, l didnt go see her again before she left town. So l didnt have the chance to get the sister's number and still l didnt feel right to go to her house even after my friend had returned to her base. But surprisingly yesterday, the elder sister called me, and she said she likes me and she wants to hang out with me and we agreed to meet next week. But l have this mix feelings about the whole thing: 1. One she is my friend's elder sister 2. My friend's sister said is between me and her, that it has nothing to do with her sister 3. l dont feel like have anything to do with my friend till further notice, even if l am liking her elder sister because l feel very much offended with my friend. 4. l just feel like calling off the date. Hi, girls l just gave the details so that you can have an understanding. Please l need honest responses, can you date your friend's elder sister? If you where in my shoes what will you do?

Legendary singer Patti Labelle has outed late R&B legend, Luther Vandrose. See what she said below “We talked about [his being in the closet]. Basically, he did not want his mother to be...although she might have known, but he wasn’t going to come out and say this to the world. And he had a lot of lady fans and he told me he just didn’t want to upset the world.” Source

A 45-year-old Ghanaian lesbian, Janet Ofori, has proudly come to boast about sleeping with more than 10 women a day, in an interview with Adom TV. The woman, who claimed she became a pro in the lesbian act from Senior High School, said has been able to satisfy lots of rich single women in her country. According to her, some of her clients are ministers in government and MPs including some radio presenters. In the interview, Janet who hid her identity while speaking in her dialect, also revealed that she has been able to convert more than 3,000 women and still counting to reach her target. Ofori also rebuked the claims that lesbianism is an evil practice, saying it was never stated in the bible. She said, “Were you there, when God created Adam and Eve and you will come and tell me that, God made Adam and Eve to marry? And who says being a lesbian is wrong, show me where it is stated in the bible.” The 45-year-old woman was also accompanied by a gay man, Kwame Mensah, who disclosed that, with the help of creams, his anus has widened enough to receive any size of a man’s penis. “I take care of my family and am not working too, so I don’t think, I can take care of a woman.” “I don’t want broken heart and woman can’t satisfy me either. I go to church and I pay my tithe alright, so who is he to judge me.” “I choose the kind of men I want, and my anus can take any size, no matter how huge the person may be.” Source

President Akufo-Addo’s quest to see Africa taken beyond aid was once again on full display, after his latest speech sent a strong word to the Western world. Akufo-Ado hosted France President Emmanuel Macron last week, with the pair meeting to discuss matters ranging from unity, investment and partnership building. However, the part that caught the eyes of many was when the Ghanaian President made a bold statement concerning Africa’s continuous reliance on European countries for support. Right in the presence of President Macron, Akufo-Addo insisted that Africa “can no longer continue to make policies for ourselves, our regions and our continents on the basis of whatever the Western world or France or the European Union can give us. It will not work. It has not worked and it will not work”. He added: “Our responsibility is to charter a path which is about how we can develop our nations ourselves. It is not right for country like Ghana – 60 years after independence – to still have its health and education budgets being financed on the basis of the generosity of European tax-payers.” His comments visibly made the France President uncomfortable, with his demeanor clearly depicting a man sitting on tenterhooks. The video has since gone viral, having become a hot topic for debate on various social media platforms. Watch the full video below: Source

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A lesbian twin and her straight sister have been studied by scientists who are searching for answers about human sexuality. Researchers hoping to identify genetic and environmental factors associated with sexuality hit the jackpot when they discovered identical twins Sarah Nunn, who is attracted to men, and Rosie Albewhite, who is attracted to women. The 29-year-old sisters were investigated by scientists as part of a study aiming to learn more about how sexuality develops in childhood. The sisters were among 55 other twins studied by researchers at the University of Essex in England. Sarah recalled Rosie’s tomboy tendencies as they were growing up, telling The Times her boyfriends “instantly felt more at home” with her sister. “She liked [soccer], talked about boy things, played video games,” she said. “They’d be like, ‘Sarah, you’re really boring. I’m going to go and play with Rosie.'” “I’d get jealous that they liked her better.” But Sarah was quick to understand that her twin wasn’t interested in boys romantically. “When they tried to get romantic with Rosie she’d say, ‘That’s not me.’ Then they came back,” she explained. The new research will build on previous scientific studies that searched for signs of how sexuality, such as gender-atypical mannerisms of behavior, manifests before puberty. Academics have struggled to produce concrete results in the past due to difficulties determining whether reported behavior patterns were remembered accurately. But the new research using dozens of twins and photographs from their childhoods could shed light on the subject. University of Essex psychology academic Gerulf Rieger and his colleague Tuesday Watts asked Sarah, Rosie and other twins with “discordant sexual orientations” to send them childhood pictures so they could be shown to strangers who were unaware of the purpose of the experiment. The strangers were then asked to try and spot how the signs of the twins’ behavior, clothing, and play diverged and pinpoint how and when it happened. The study is somewhat controversial, as suggesting firm links exist between sexuality and gender could be seen as reinforcing stereotypes about male and female behavior, which some say is harmful. But pictures provided by the twins make this issue difficult to avoid and show Sarah styling herself as female characters like Barbie, while Rosie suited up as Batman. As the years passed, Rosie said she remembered wondering why she was less interested in boys than her sister. “I questioned it for so long,” she said. “Sarah was really boy crazy.” Rosie even rejected her own boyfriend’s advances at one point, realizing she did not want to kiss him. But Sarah stepped in and said: “I’m the same … I will kiss you.” Rieger said the research into differences pre-puberty unlocked valuable insights about sexual identity. He believes the most likely explanation for the divergence in behavior is something that happens before birth. “Paternal hormones are the number one candidate,” he said. “Our theory is that even though twins are identical what happens in the womb is quite different.” “They can have different nutrition, different levels of hormones.” Source

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Nigeria have been drawn in Group D of the Russia 2018 World Cup along with South American giants Argentina, Europeans Iceland and Croatia. At a star-studded Final Draw ceremony at the State Kremlin Palace in Russia on Friday, the Super Eagles, who were in Pot 4 of the draws, drew the Argentines, who were seeded in Pot 1, and Croatia and Iceland, who were in Pots 2 and 3. Source

In the midst of the uproar over revelations that Libyan nationals are buying and selling migrants as slaves in Libya, Saturday PUNCH has learnt that Nigerians based in the country also sell their fellow countrymen. This emerged as more Nigerians are repatriated by the International Organisation for Migration with the backing of the European Union in an ongoing exercise that has seen 1,295 retrieved from Libya in November alone. Since the beginning of 2017, IOM-facilitated repatriation has brought back 5,578 Nigerian migrants, who were trapped in and outside prisons across Libya. On Thursday night, 150 migrants from mostly Edo and Delta states arrived the country aboard a Buraq Airplane at the cargo terminal of the Murtala International Airport, Lagos. It was two days after 239 migrants had also been brought into the country. Many of the returnees, who were thankful for being back, confirmed to Saturday PUNCHthat they were sold by their fellow countrymen, who were getting rich in Libya. One of them, 26-year-old Odion Saliu, a hairdresser from Edo State, said she was kidnapped and handed over to a Nigerian, who forced her to call her mother. According to her, her mother in Benin paid N200, 000 but she was again sold by the same Nigerian for 3,000 dinars (about N794, 000). Saliu explained that the Nigerians spoke Pidgin English and some Nigerian languages. She said, “When I was kidnapped with others and held for some weeks, the Arabs asked if I wanted to be taken to a Nigerian and I readily said yes. I was very happy that I was going to someone from my country. But it was a lie. “The Nigerian they took me to locked me in a cell and told me to call my mother and ask for N60, 000. The man said he would sell me to a connection house if my family did not get the money. I called to inform my mother and the trafficker who facilitated my journey from Nigeria. “But the trafficker spoke with them on the phone and told them the amount they demanded was too small. They increased it to N200, 000. My mother paid into an account after they provided her with the account number over the phone. “The Nigerian said if I wanted to cross the sea, I had to pay him again. But when we got to the seaside, he sold me again.” Another Edo State indigene, Sunday Anyaegbunam, left Nigeria along with his wife in April. He said during their nine-day journey through the desert, they were sold twice by Nigerians. According to him, when their Nigerian “burger” (trafficker) sold them to another set of Libyan traffickers at Agadez, Niger, the traffickers sold him and his wife to a Nigerian who took them to Sabha, Libya, where they were separated in different cells. “We were made to contact our families on the phone and I had to ensure the payment of N400, 000 for my release and N300, 000 for my wife,” Anyaegbunam said. Like others, he could only identify the Nigerians trading in their countrymen in Libya through the Nigerian languages they spoke and their accent. He said, “The Nigerians selling people in Libya are more wicked than many of the Arabs. I have never seen people so heartless as the Nigerians who bought and sold me. “There are many of them in Agadez and Sabha, who are making so much money from selling their own people. But there are other West Africans doing the business too. “When you approach them and say, ‘Please, my brother, help me.’ They would tell you, “No brother in the jungle.” A 25-year-old woman, Esosa Osas, who was in Libya for six months, said she also met many Nigerians selling their countrymen. “You dare not talk to them, else they would beat you and lock you up. They sell women for 5,000 dinars and men for N4, 000 dinars. I noticed that the connection houses were also controlled by Nigerian women.” All these accounts were corroborated by 35-year-old Harrison Okotie who lived in Libya for three years until his repatriation. “Nigerians and Libyans are doing the business like they are one big happy family,” he said. Most of the migrants who arrived Nigeria on Thursday were from Edo State. Officials of the state’s task force on illegal migration were on hand with luxurious buses to transport their people back home. A member of the task force, Mr. Okoduwa Solomon, told Saturday PUNCH that his team had made six such journeys to the airport within the last one month to take their indigenes repatriated from Libya back home. He said, “The first process is to take them through counselling, then we profile them. “After that, we put them in a home that the state government has provided for the returnees. The Edo State Government is paying each of the returnees from the state a stipend. They are going to undergo a training in agriculture, poultry, fishery and others to make them useful to themselves and the system.” Officials of the National Emergency Management Agency coordinate the reception of the returnees at the airport.South West Zonal Coordinator of the agency, Mr. Yakubu Sulaiman, said the returnees would be lodged in a hotel where they would have the chance to clean up before their journey back home. Meanwhile, President, Women Arise and Centre for Change, Dr. Joe Okei-Odumakin, has called on the Federal Government to use all diplomatic channels to prevail on the Libyan authorities to ensure the dignity of our people. She said in a statement on Friday that it was an embarrassment that Nigerians who were treated like royalty in the past were being dehumanised in a foreign land. “We must build a country where our people have opportunities to prosper and lead useful and productive lives and will only travel on leisure and business and not as illegal migrants desperate to live anywhere other than Nigeria,” she said. Over 400,000 Nigerians, others still stranded in Libya –AU Commission Meanwhile, Head, African Union Commission, Moussa Faki Mahamat, has said that over 400,000 Nigerians and others remain stranded in Libya. Hundreds of thousands more — “400,000 to 700, 000,” according to Mahamat — remain stranded. European and African leaders have set themselves a tall order to stamp out horrific abuse of African migrants, some of them are Nigerians in Libya, where thousands are suffering in a vast, lawless territory. On Thursday, a summit of the African Union and the European Union set a goal of immediately repatriating 3,800 migrants languishing in a camp near Tripoli. But experts pointed to a daunting array of hurdles, from extracting migrants in perilous situations to giving them incentives to stay put when they return home. Even so, the summit’s commitment, initiated by outrage over a CNN television report on black Africans being sold as slaves in Libya, is being welcomed. “It is a step in the right direction,” International Organisation for Migration Europe Director, Eugenio Ambrosi, told Agence France Presse by phone from Brussels. “It is a little bit too much to think it will solve the slavery issue, but it would definitely mitigate (it) to some extent,” Ambrosi said. He said the summit also showed there was now “international watchdog pressure” that could be brought to bear on the criminal gangs, but it must be “sustained.” The drive was announced at a meeting on the summit sidelines organised by French President, Emmanuel Macron. It brought together eight other EU and African countries as well as the AU, EU and United Nations representatives. Macron said the UN-backed Libyan government of Prime Minister Fayez al-Sarraj had identified and granted access to the worst camps to enable the returns of people who want to go home. The Macron group also decided to work with a task force, involving the sharing of police and intelligence services, to “dismantle the networks and their financing and detain traffickers,” he said. They pledged to freeze the assets of identified traffickers. The AU is expected to set up an investigative panel and the UN could take cases before the International Court of Justice. Libya calls for campaign against human trafficking The Libyan government has condemned the reported auction of West Africans in its capital Tripoli, noting that the criminal practice was not part of the culture of the Libyan people. It called for an international campaign against illegal migration and demanded an end to “exploitation, the suffering of the ambitious African man looking for better life in Europe and human trafficking right from the country of source.” Speaking on the alleged auction of West Africans in his country at a press conference on Friday in Abuja, the Charge d’Affairs and ambassador-designate, Libyan embassy in Nigeria, Dr. Attia Alkhoder, explained that his government had ordered the relevant agency to carry out a comprehensive investigation into the incident. He said the government was concerned about illegal migration and human trafficking, adding that Libya needed technical and logistical support to control its southern border, which is the major route for illegal migration across the Mediterranean Sea. The diplomat criticised the media for attacking and holding his country responsible for the slaves’ auction, noting that human trafficking and the reported slaves’ auction were done by individuals and not the Libyan authorities. Alkhoder said, “Libya renews its call to put an end to exploitation, the suffering of the ambitious African man looking for better life in Europe and human trafficking. “Libya calls for an international campaign to put an end to this phenomenon by providing security and border control to end the Libyan crisis, unify its government institutions and end the transition system that contributed a lot in the weakening control of territory.” The envoy noted that solving illegal migration was a collective responsibility involving countries of origin, transit and destination. He added that Libya spent a lot of money accommodating immigrants and facilitating their voluntary return to their countries, insisting that curbing illegal migration needed serious coordination of international efforts. Returnees get N100m, 150 hectares of land for farming Governor Godwin Obaseki of Edo State has approved a seed capital of N100m and 150 hectares of land for 150 victims of human trafficking, who recently completed skills acquisition training in the state. Obaseki announced this on Friday during the graduation of the participants of the programme, which was organised by the Edo Agricultural Development Programme in Benin City, the state capital. He also directed the Ministry of Agriculture and Natural Resources to immediately liaise with the relevant authorities towards securing the land for the returnees to commence their agricultural businesses. According to the governor, the beneficiaries would be put under the supervision of the Benin-Owena River Basin Authority and the EADP. Obaseki stressed the need for coordinated efforts to end modern slavery. He stated that the International Day for the Abolition of Slavery, marked on December 2 annually by the United Nations, should be seen as a day for deep reflection on how to bring the illicit trade to an end. Obaseki said, “We ordinarily should not be talking about the menace of slavery given the experience we have had. But it is a reality today and we have no choice but to tackle it. “However, it is pertinent to point out the fact that modern-day slavery, in its various forms, such as forced labour, debt bondage, and human trafficking, has no place among us. To effectively abolish slave trade as we have it today, it takes a coordinated, deep-reaching, international coalition that will take into cognisance the various forms of modern-day slavery and compel perpetrators to back down.” He, however, commended the returnees, comprising 51 trained on crop production, 15 on agro-processing, 68 on livestock farming and 52 on fish farming, for participating in the programme. He also urged them to be ambassadors in the state-wide campaign against human trafficking and illegal migration. Earlier, the Programme Manager of the EADP, Mr. Peter Aikhuomobhogbe, commended the state government for initiating the training and expressed optimism that the trainees would put the skills acquired to good use. Source

“Hello, Grammo, first let me start by appreciating the kind of work you and your delivery of good music. I just checked in to ask for advice from since you are a LGBT activist and ambassador. On matters relationships, i have an issue that has really been eating me up. I am a very straight guy and never judgemental on peoples sexuality. To the main issue, I have been in a very steamy relationship with my girlfriend for five month now. Thing were very okay the first up to the third month where she started exhibiting signs of withdrawal. I was very concerned but she assured me everything was ok but still the distance between us kept growing. I began feeling lonely as much as i was in a relationship. When i raised a concern it mostly ended into an argument. In the fourth month, it came to my discovery that the love of my life was cheating on me with a woman. I ddntjudge her but i was just so heartbroken since cheating is cheating regardless with whom. I also learnt that the chic that my gal was cheating on me with also had a boyfriend and they were to keep their rship very discrete. The two ladies in question are Bi’s. My love for my woman is still intact since she really apologised and said she wont repeat or rather she would change. As much as i was deeply hurt, i gave my woman a chance and forgave her but things on our end are more bad. The flame and the connection is not there. Mostly am the one putting in more effort to make it work. I feel she doesn't love me anymore as much as she ended things with the girl. My question is can these Bis stay faithful to one relationship ?? I love my girl so much but i feel like giving up on her. She still says she loves me but she doesn't show it. Advise me on what i can do plz. If it is possible post my story on your wall so that i can read what people think but kindly hide my Identity. Thank you so much” A straight anonymous man has written privately to Grammo Suspect, an openly Lesbian Kenyan rapper, concerning his relationship troubles. He claims his girlfriend of over 5 months, is secretly having an affair with another woman. He is asking for advice. Source

Tips on how to be a good lesbian girlfriend Everyone wants to know the secret to making relationships last. Here’s one: make your girlfriend happy. As they say, “A happy wife means a happy life.” How? By working on YOU first. In this case, be a good lesbian girlfriend first. What you need to do to be a good lesbian girlfriend Your partner has very basic expectations from you that you need to meet. Often than not, these are the things we take for granted, especially if we’ve been with our partner for so long, and end up arguing about. Meet these expectations and you’ll be surprised at how contented your partner will be. Here are some steps and tips you can do that will make your relationship a healthy and happy one: 1. Be kind and respectful Kindness and respect are often overlooked and feels like almost rarely practiced these days. Yet if we ask those who have been together for years or even decades, they will always mention kindness and respect, among other things, that really made their relationship last. Tip: A good lesbian girlfriend finds countless creative ways to be kind and respectful. Give compliments and mean them. Verbalize your appreciation. Give corrections in private and always with your partner’s well-being in mind. Avoid cruel or cutting remarks, even as a joke. Watch your words when you are angry. Remember, what you say in passing can have a lasting effect. Do nice things just because. Do the chores they hate. Occasionally give them a little gift on the way home. Say “please” and “thank you.” 2. Be open Experts unanimously stress the benefits of open and effective communication on relationships. Being both a good listener and communicator will help you strengthen your relationship. This means, among other things, telling your partner what you need from them and asking them what they need from you. Tip: A good lesbian girlfriend provides a safe space where her partner can speak without fear of rejection or dismissal. This will help manage both your expectations – in daily life, in the bedroom, in sticky situations, and in moments where how your partner responds really matters to you. 3. Be playful and have a sense of humor Everyone loves a good laugh and boredom can quickly set in if you keep doing the same things. Budding relationships are exciting because of the novelty of the experience and the person. Tip: A good lesbian girlfriend injects exciting newness into the relationship by doing things differently from time to time. Try out a new restaurant. Travel to new places together. Find a new hobby. Change up your morning routine. Or even pull a harmless prank on your partner (one that’s not too upsetting). 4. Prioritize the relationship Relationships can be likened to plants. When they get enough sun, water, nutrients, and TLC, they thrive. When they are neglected, they wither and die. Tip: A good lesbian girlfriend finds time to nurture the bond with her partner. Spend time with your partner. Focus solely on each other when together on a date. Share interests, hobbies, sports, etc. 5. Accept and forgive People in relationships often make mistakes, say hurtful words or let their partner down. Tip: A good lesbian girlfriend accepts that her partner is an imperfect human being, who nonetheless tries her best. In the same way, a good lesbian girlfriend knows that she herself is also an imperfect human being who will make mistakes. Own up when you mess up. Forgive and love your partner when they mess up. 6. Be faithful This one hardly needs saying. When a person is in a committed relationship, she is duty-bound to be faithful to her partner. Tip: A good lesbian girlfriend doesn’t give her partner cause to doubt her or lose trust in her. Trust can take a lifetime to build and only moments to destroy. Be faithful. Show them you have their back, always. You chose them, after all. Source

FIRST dates are all about people getting to know each other. People are nervous enough and are already trying to put their best foot forward to either secure a second date or decide what the next step would be without having to worry about a food- related incident. It’s not a matter of forming or not being authentic but it’s the first date and the food you know how to eat very well could end up embarrassing you( even simple common ice cream/ pop corn). All our finesse and efforts could be wasted if we tried any of these meals: A) Spaghetti : No matter how appetizing the spaghetti is, slurping and chewing while trying to get to know each other is a no-no. It’s either you trying to cut the spaghetti strands into smaller pieces or attempting to suck on the spaghetti. B)Eba and Soup: This is the first date we are talking about. Leafy leafs could get stuck in your teeth while okra/ ogbonno needs no explanation, the drawing nature of the soup explains it all. C)Beans: The more you eat, the more you whoops. Be classy and not gassy- just forget the beans. Apart from beans causing you to fart, you’d be full quickly and ruin your plans for dessert if you made any. D)Salads: Salads take long to chew and it getting between your teeth is never a good look. E)Anything with Onions: Onion breath is terrible, it could end the date. F)Spicy Foods: If you can handle the heat, good for you but don’t risk it. Running nose and sweating is not a good look. No one is forcing you to appear macho by eating spicy meals. G)Vanilla Ice-cream/ Junk: Except you want to appear childish don't take junk meal or the vanilla flavour of ice-cream H)Bad table manners: Bad table manners should obviously be avoided at all costs. DO NOT chew with your mouth open and speak with a mouthful of food. Basic manners and a little common sense would go a long way. Source