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GOVERNOR Akinwumin Ambode of Lagos State, yesterday accused religious leaders of pushing political leaders to steal by the way they patronized the politicians and other influential individuals in the society who now do anything possible to meet up with the expectation. Ambode who spoke at the annual public lecture organized by Christian Conscience, claimed religious leaders made higher demand from people in government without thinking about what they would meet such demand. Represented Commissioner for Home Affairs, Dr. Abdul-hakeem Abdul-Lateef, the governor lamented that the common man who served God diligently got no recognition while religious leaders were busy patronising political leaders. According to him: “When church and mosque want to do fund raising they will not look for people that are committed to the work of God but rather politicians and people in power whose salary is not up to N500,000 to come and launch N50 million project. This same politicians and people in power, when they came to church late, Pastor will ask congregation to stand up and clap for them whereas the poor person that came early to church nobody recognizes him or her.” Speaking on the theme, “Religion and Corruption: Strategic Direction in Fighting Corruption in Nigeria” said he had reduced the number of time he went to office as people usually besieged his office in hundreds seeking personal assistance. He said: “In my office as commissioner I see about 100 to 200 people daily that came to my office for personal assistant not something that will benefit the larger society, that is why my going to office is strategic because am tired of explaining to people that I don’t have. Corroborating him, a former Minister for Education and Convener of Bring Back Our Girls, BBOG, campaign, Dr. Oby Ezekwesili, said corruption remained the greatest obstacle to Nigeria’s development and that until the problem was tackled from the source, Nigeria would not move forward. According to her: “The church which is meant to be the salt of healing has failed and this is worrisome. We are all comfortable with corruption. There is need to consider reducing opportunities for corruption because battling corruption goes beyond Christian belief. We should enforce prosecution and sanction of bad behaviours to serve as deterrent for other evil doers.” The Special guest lecturer at the Occasion, Prof. Dapo Asaju, said some of the religious leaders had commercialized religion at the detriment of the people. Asaju who is the Bishop Theologian, Church of Nigeria and Vice Chancellor, Ajayi Crowther University, said it was regrettable to see religious leaders riding N30 million car when church members had not eat a day meal. He said: “They have even go a step further to employed the service of bodyguard in the church of God. That is why when they prayed miracle doesn’t happen any longer because they are not in connection with God.” The Chief Host and Chairman, Christian Conscience Group, Mr. Enock Ajiboso, however encouraged faithful religious leaders to join political arena and make difference. Source

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As shared on Instagram - 'I will be 38 in just over a month and a half, and while I would LOVE to be married (to my God-chosen companion, and best friend) and have child(ren), I am very comfortable with the knowledge that my life is just as valid, and beautiful, and happy, and successful, if for some reason that never comes to pass. 'Marriage and kids is not my "crowning glory"... It's another BEAUTIFUL step in life I would love to take. I'd also love to make (and keep) a billion dollars in my lifetime, but I won't be any less of a woman or Kemi Adetiba if that didn't come to pass either. 'No... I'm not comparing the two. I'm just highlighting it doesn't diminish a (Wo)man's -Kemi Adetiba's - worth if it never happens. Hello... Good morning ?? Have a great Tuesday.' Ladies, what do you think?

Lol. I found this very funny. Source

When is the right time to come out the closet? When is it right to open up and accept who you really are Especially because Nigerians right now are hostile to queer people, and the police are having fun arresting homosexuals instead of enforcing law and order. When is the right time to tell that friend, brother, sister ,parents etc and stop being in silky relationships that u r not meant to be? I hope the house would kindly help shed more light on this

I knew that something was wrong the first time I tried to use a tampon. I was about twelve and my mom gave me a box of slender fit Tampax and told me to read the instructions and “just stick it in there.” I tried for about an hour, working to thrust the slim pink applicators inside me, nearly going through the whole box, and with each attempt feeling a stinging pain through my entire body. The smooth plastic had become like knives when it touched my vagina and I couldn’t force it more than a centimeter into myself. “What is wrong with me?” I asked aloud and started weeping. I had already suspected that I was different in some innate and incurable way. While other girls my age had begun kissing boys and casually talked about their breasts as they changed in the locker room, I resented the way my body was starting to soften and hoped that I would never have to even touch a boy. “Buck up!” my mom said when she found me crying. It was her favorite phrase, something that she shared with Katharine Hepburn, another tough woman who took freezing showers well into her 80s and believed in doing what had to be done no matter the pain or occasional rumors of communism. So I kept silent about my discomfort and used pads even though I was a gymnast practicing up to six days a week in only the most minimal of costumes. It wasn’t until I was in college that I was forced to address this particular and shameful pain again. I had been diagnosed with severe anemia after passing out at a friend’s birthday party and rushed to the local Baptist hospital for tests. Nurses there thought that I either had cancer or was anorexic. They also blamed my veganism. “You’re going to have to start eating meat,” one of them told me with a face that made it clear that he blamed me for my illness. However, the doctor they referred me to was a kind, patient woman who thought my low iron levels might be caused by my ever-fruitful and painful period rather than my avoidance of animal products. But she would have to give me a pap smear — my first one. I cried when she told me, my tears flowing embarrassingly down my face and into my lap as I begged, “No, please, I can’t do it. It’s impossible.” She told me that she was gentle and would use the smallest speculum she could find. We scheduled it for two weeks from that day and I wept every day until the appointment. In so many moments in life, the thing you fear turns out to be so much less frightening than you imagine and you feel silly and stupid for being so frightened in the first place. This was not the case. A pap smear can take less than a minute and many women complain only of minor discomfort. I’ve heard so many women tell girls and women undergoing their first examine that it’s “no big deal” and that it will “be over before they know it.” One of my friends told me that all I needed was cute socks to keep my feet warm and comfortable during the examination. This is what happened for me: I started crying as soon as I put my legs into the stirrups. The nurse held my hand and whispered kindly that everything would be okay and just to breath and think about something that made me happy. “Maybe puppies?” she suggested. I saw my doctor look thoughtfully at the nurse and then tell me that she was going to start. Then I felt a blinding pain I had never known was possible. My hips thrust upwards like a girl possessed by demons in some cheap porny horror film. I felt at once like someone was taking a sword and twisting it further and further up inside my vagina and like I was being run over by a car or large animal or being held down by some invisible force while someone pounded my body. I am not prone to exaggeration or fantasy, but there is no better way for me to describe these things. After it was over, I couldn’t speak. The doctor left to find me some juice and crackers and then sat down with the saddest and most compassionate eyes I’ve ever seen a doctor wear. “I’m so sorry,” she said. “I know I’ve traumatized you.” Later she would ask if I had ever been raped or sexually abused. When I told her no, she kept asking at each appointment. She eventually gave me a vaginismus diagnosis, a condition that makes any sort of vaginal penetration painful and causes one’s vaginal muscles to spasm or tighten as something penetrates it. There are many possible causes for vaginismus including sexual or physical trauma and can make things so commonly expected of women like childbirth and vaginal intercourse incredibly painful or impossible. There is no definite test used to diagnose vaginismus, but one’s doctor may make a diagnosis after reviewing one’s medical history, asking several questions about one’s symptoms, and possibly conducting a vaginal exam to rule out other issues such as injuries and infections. The prevalence of vaginismus is unknown but has been reported in five to seventeen percent of patients in clinical settings. I was thankful for a name to describe the pain I had been unable to voice for so long. And I was grateful that I was a lesbian and didn’t have to experience penetrative sex if I didn’t want to (what was a stone butch again, I thought). Only of course, it wasn’t so easy. As a lesbian who is incredibly proud of my identity and has had to struggle against those who still find my sexuality shameful (I have never lived outside of a conservative area), I tend to romanticize queer and particularly queer women relationships. I thought that my first real girlfriend, who I had only recently started dating, would understand. She was not particularly empathetic. Rather, she saw it as a challenge that we could overcome or she could fix. I told her not to penetrate me during sex, but she would sometimes attempt to force herself inside me. “I put two fingers inside you just now,” she said once. “You didn’t even notice.” She was trying to show me that my condition was all in my head and that if I worried less and simply let myself be penetrated, I might even enjoy it. Instead I felt betrayed, and I was ashamed of my problem as I had been as a scared 12-year-old, too confused and embarrassed to voice my pain. During the (way too many) years my girlfriend and I dated, I felt closed off during sex and disconnected from by body. I mentioned this to no one and when my doctor asked me about my feelings and fears around sex I would reassure her that everything was fine. I had been taught by almost everyone that this pain was merely in my head and I just needed to “buck up” to overcome it. Around the time that I finally got the courage to end my relationship, I started talking more about the pain that is so intertwined with my understandings of being a woman, of sex, and even of queerness. When I try to research vaginismus online or read other women’s stories, most of it is framed within the concept of heterosexual relationships and how women with this ailment can enjoy sex with their male partners. There is very little about queer women’s experiences and the particular kind of shame that exists when one’s female partner is engaging in harmful sexual behavior. I’m dating a woman now who is the kindest, gentlest person I have ever met. She cares for me in ways that I never expected and never thought I deserved. One day early in our relationship, I tried to casually mention my vaginismus to her by telling her how much I hate getting pap smears. She was driving and I was smiling as if it were just a quirky fact about me — no big deal. However, she didn’t absorb this information casually and was immediately concerned, asking me what I needed during sex and outside of it and how she could care for me and support me. I told her that the cause of my problem may be emotional (one of the ways I try to invalidate my own experience) and she told me that emotional causes are just as important as physical ones and that she would always take my pain and my fears seriously. I felt seen by her in a way that I had never experienced, and when we had sex, she asked permission before touching me in each new place, asking me if I was okay, if I felt good, if I was happy. I don’t know if my vaginismus will ever go away or if I will feel more comfortable with penetration now that I have such a loving partner (as some people claim). But I also think that’s not the point. Rather, I think all of us in this queer community and world must continue expanding the conversation about queerness, sex, and pain as to make such expressions not courageous but expected. Source

Assistant Commissioner of Police and Head of the Public Complaint Rapid Response Unit (PCRRU) at the Force headquarters, Abuja - Abayomi Shogunle shared tweets this morning advising Nigerian men not to marry women whose mothers were the sole decision-maker of their home. He also adviced Women not to marry men whose fathers were irresponsible. Ladies, do you agree? Source

Nigerian police have arrested Ralph Duro, the president of an all-male group at the University of Ado Ekiti, who apparently faces homosexuality charges stemming from an anti-gay police undercover operation. Earlier in the anti-gay police operation, in May 2016 in the Adebayo area of Ado Ekiti, police arrested two young men [Salami O. and Olu Deji] suspected to be gay. They were identified as members of an exclusive men’s group at the University of Ado Ekiti. At first, they denied accusations of homosexuality that were leveled against them, saying that it was a setup. Allegedly they both were tortured by police to force them to confess. They were also confronted with evidence from an undercover officer (name withheld) who had joined the group, pretending to be gay. At that point, the pair stopped denying the allegations. In their confessions, they admitted having belonged to an all-male secret group through which they met men who gave them money in exchange for sex. They also named a sponsor of the group, Victor Osanyintuyi, who is now at large, and at least six group members, including Ralph Duro. He was arrested on the 21st of October at his home off campus. He was allegedly forced to provide further details of the group’s sponsors, activities and membership, including Akin Olushola, Bashir Apkon, Victor Sunday, Femi Ola and Prof. Segun Benson. Nigerian law provides prison sentences of up to 10 years for a “public show of same-sex amorous relationship” and for belonging to any “gay organization.” Source

Queen Sugar and True Blood star Rutina Wesley, who plays queer on both series, has been increasingly more open about her relationship with a New Orleans-based chef whose Instagram handle is Chef Shonda. While Wesley has been sharing photos of the pair on her Instagram account for just over a week, this weekend she posted a gallery of the two of them appearing happily in love and engaged. The first photo Wesley posted was of the two of them at a Queen Sugar finale event and then another one a few days later of the duo smiling in a car with the caption, “#FromTheInsideOut You are the sunshine of my life...” This weekend the actress, who’s also appeared on Hannibal and Arrow, posted an affirmational quote followed by a gallery that ends with a picture of an engagement ring presumably on her finger. Despite the lovely photos of the two of them, including one of Wesley gently kissing Chef Shonda’s cheek, it’s the caption Wesley wrote for the gallery that is most telling. She referred to Chef Shonda as “light of my life,” “fire of my loins,” “my sin,” and “my soul.” She added the hashtags “Always more, never less. I said yes,” “I was looking at her and found my joy,” “She feeds my soul,” and “I love you more than words.” Wesley was married to actor Jacob Fishel from 2005 to 2013. Source

I have been having this experience in the new church l just started attending. There is this particular female ursher that always say to me you look beautiful like every other Sunday. Even when she is not in my path when entering the church, some where in between the service, she comes to me at my sit, and say softly in my ears that you look beautiful today even during service yesterday. So yesterday really got my attention on that act. what does that suppose to mean? Is she at something?

A Republican lawmaker from Ohio, known for his strong anti-LGBT views, has resigned after he was allegedly caught having unnatural sex with a man inside his office. Wesley Goodman, who is married to a woman, Bethany, has been constantly identifying himself as a “conservative Christian and has stated multiple times that he believes in a “natural marriage” between a man and a woman. Goodman gave in his resignation on Wednesday. Republican House Speaker Clifford Rosenberger in a statement said that he has learnt that Goodman was involved in “inappropriate behaviour related to his state office.” “I met with him later in the day where he acknowledged and confirmed the allegations,” Rosenberger’s statement added. Goodman’s Twitter profile has now been made private, his Facebook page deactivated and his official campaign website, that read “Healthy, vibrant, thriving, values-driven families are the source of Ohio's proud history and the key to Ohio's future greatness” has been taken down. A journalist on Twitter has on Saturday claimed that Goodman “begged him to have sex with him and/or his wife on several occasions while I went to school in Ohio.” Goodman has been a part of the Conservative Action Project, an organization made up of economic, social and national security conservatives.

It has long been the subject of speculation but in this interview with Dele Momodu, former Cross Rivers state governor, Donald Duke has definitively expressed his desire to run for president on the platform of the PDP. He is of the opinion that zoning should be discarded. He also stated that PDP has a good chance to unseat APC in the next election if they put their house in order and get their strategy right. Read excerpts below. DELE: Will you run the Presidential race? DUKE: "Dele, do you want to hear the truth? I seriously want to run but my party, PDP, would have to decide on many things… Our party is well-positioned to win the next election if we can change our style a bit and beat APC at its own game. We must take advantage and benefit from our experience since 1999. Despite our apparent mistakes, Nigerians can now compare and contrast us with APC. What do we need to win the next elections? We must go to the field with our best candidates. We must learn from how we select our footballers. No one cares where you come from. Can you play well? Pronto. We must show clearly that we are more democratic. Zoning is good, but it has not worked well in Nigeria. The time has come to unleash the best brains from every part of Nigeria. We must galvanise our youths. They will never follow or support us if we can’t show how we are different and far better than APC." The ex-governor promises a permanent turn around in the country's fortunes and a new era if elected. He said: "If I can get the ticket of my Party, I’m certain that with the support of our members and the youths of Nigeria yearning for urgent restoration of hope, we shall defeat APC. I’m certain Nigerians are anxiously waiting for a leader with proven record of vigour and excellence. They will come out en masse to vote if they see such a candidate. And I promise to join hands with my Party to free Nigeria permanently from recession, oppression and depression. We know what to do to unlock the potentials of our vibrant youths and we possess the most important gift of all, the trust in our ability to take development to every part of our great country and attract our most fertile minds back home from all over the world. Our international friends are also waiting to support the right leadership when they see one. It would be the dawn of a new era in Nigeria." Source

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Kenny Badmus shares story of the Nigerian man he met at the gym yesterday. I saw a Nigerian man at the fitness center tonight. I knew he was Nigerian and a Yoruba man because he pronounced 'eat' as 'heat,' and 'walk' as 'work.' Just the way I speak. His body stretched out of a trunk of pure muscles rooted in black power. When he walked, he carried himself with measured chaos as though he was holding a basketball between his thighs. I saw a Nigerian man at the fitness center tonight. Though I never spoke to him, I eavesdropped on his phone call and heard he called someone my baby girl. "Baby girl," he said, "Tell Junior, daddy loves him. I'm still at the office, and I doubt I will come home tonight." When he got off the call, his brows broke a sweat as he balanced his shoulders under the squat bar. He scanned me with his large brown eyes; I clutched a dumbbell with a fist of disbelief and awe. I saw a Nigerian man at the fitness center tonight. He tied a white towel around his tapered waist as he shuffled around in the locker room looking for something. I looked around, and there's only one other person at the gym. The other person smiled and walked away from the Nigerian man and me. I saw a Nigerian man at the fitness center tonight. He was biting his nails as he approached the shower. When he turned and saw me looking at him, he widened his eyes, straightened his lips and stared at me longer than I could bear. I saw a Nigerian man at my fitness center tonight. He lingered on in the shower stall and scrubbed his body endlessly. By 11:25 PM, I dried my body, poured some cocoa butter on my skin, laced my Adidas and walked away as fast as I could. I saw a Nigerian man at the fitness center tonight. I couldn't walk away from him. On my way out, the detective in me took over my dark soul and ordered me to go back. I climbed back the stairs and tiptoed to the shower holding my breath. I saw a married Nigerian man at the fitness center tonight. He knelt down in the shower stall sucking another man's dick. If you are his baby girl, quit trying to change him into a man you want him to be. This man has taken a knee, and the game is over. I saw a Nigerian man at the fitness center tonight. Lord, I'm on my knees right now praying that he has the courage to tell his baby girl what keeps him back at work this late. I pray dear Lord that he quits filling his emptiness with sex and that he embraces who he is because I used to be that guy who told my wife I was working late tonight.

The Nigerian women's two-person bobsleigh team made history on Wednesday, by becoming the first African team ever to qualify for a Winter Olympics in the sport. Driver, Seun Adigun including Breakmen Ngozi Onwumere and Akuoma Omeoga, completed the fifth of their required five qualifying races in Calgary on Wednesday. Their qualification, make them the first Winter Olympians to represent the West African nation. They will be representing Nigeria at the 2018 Winter Olympics in Pyeongchang, South Korea. The three beautiful ladies are the first ever Nigeria Women's Bobsled Team. Congrats to the ladies!! Bobsleigh is a winter sport in which teams of two or four teammates make timed runs down narrow, twisting, banked, iced tracks in a gravity-powered sled. Source

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Although Nigeria prohibits same-sex marriage and threatens same-gender-loving people with 14 years in prison, two courageous Nigerian queer women have launched “Pride Diaries,” a new podcast exploring issues that affect the lives of LGBT Nigerians. The two anonymous Nigerians launched the podcast this past June during LGBT Pride month. In an online chat, one of them told NoString that the idea for the podcast was inspired by their own personal experiences as they talked casually about queer issues: “I was sitting with a few queer friends one afternoon and we were talking about our relationships. Somehow the conversation went to how we discovered our queerness. Everyone had an interesting story and I just thought how could we share these stories. That’s how the podcast idea came. We wanted to tell people our stories, to let them know we are human too, with normal lives.” The first episode, titled “Love is Love,” made its debut on June 27. Episodes of the podcast are put together using recorded voice-notes from participants who share their personal experiences on issues ranging from homophobia to coming out and from religion to sexuality. This is another opportunity for people to learn about what it truly means to be gay, countering the lies and sensationalism about homosexuality that often appears in mainstream media. To listen to previous episodes of the “Pride Diaries” podcasts, visit https://soundcloud.com/thepridediaries or find them on Twitter at https://twitter.com/thepridediaries. Source

Versatile, simple, and almost everyone has one: bullet vibrators are essentially the little black dress of the sex toy world. I understand the temptation to just use them as you think you should: pressed right up against your clit until you orgasm, before popping out to the kitchen to make yourself a coffee, but there’s the potential to do so much more. Here are some tips on how to have sex using a bullet vibrator, that’'ll hopefully show you that this unassuming sex toy can be the gateway to a new world of possibilities. Test out the different areas of your clit Sure, it’s small on the surface, but you’d be surprised just how much variation there is in your clit, and in what happens where. If you’re used to manual masturbation, you might not be familiar with the level of precision you can achieve with a good bullet vibrator. A great bullet vibrator allows you to pinpoint exactly where you want the vibrations to be. Some people report that a particular side of their clit is more sensitive, while others prefer to stimulate somewhere just above or below it. If you’re especially sensitive, or you’re packing a bullet vibe that has a lot of power – you can also try using it outside the labia; by covering the clit, the vibrations are dulled slightly, which gives you a slower build up to orgasm. As an added bonus, the more you experiment with your technique, the better you’ll be at directing someone else if you want to use your bullet while shagging. Which is handy, and means you get to play the sexy teacher giving them a crash-course in how best to make you come. You don’t always have to go straight to orgasm I’ve heard of ‘edging’ mentioned far more frequently in relation to guys having a wank than girls, and I think that’s a shame. Edging is the practice of bringing yourself close to the ‘edge’ of orgasm, but not quite tipping yourself over it. Then you have a brief break, get back to it, reach the edge again, and keep doing this until you build to a state of super-heightened arousal, where literally any time you touch yourself you think you’re going to explode. Fun, right? Obviously. Edging can be one of the most delightful ways to kill an hour or so, and a bullet vibrator makes this so much easier, because you’re not having to worry that you’ll get hand-cramp halfway through and have to give the whole thing up and go sit on a washing machine or something. Use your bullet vibrator to bring yourself to the edge, then repeat and repeat until you can’t repeat any more. Especially useful when you’ve got a night in lined up and you’ve got no decent box sets to watch on Netflix. Examine the bullet vibrator pulse settings Back in the day most vibrators came with a selection of speeds from ‘rubbish and weak’ to ‘buzzes like a horde of angry bees’. These days the tech has moved on, and a decent bullet vibrator will come with a selection of different pulse settings. Like your phone when it rings on silent, but in a whole variety of different patterns. I was initially sceptical of these settings, because why on Earth would I want something to go‘on/off/on/off’ when instead it could be permanently jammed against my clit, and shoved ‘on’ to the highest setting? It turns out they’re bloody excellent, though. Like a meal which comes with salad so you appreciate the chips more, pulse settings give you a bit of a contrast. It’s essentially a clitoral massage, and exploring these massage settings means even more excuses to lock yourself in your bedroom with some loud music and a hard-drive full of porn. Use a bullet vibrator during sex I shouldn’t need to mention this, should I? OK, I should, and I will. Because after Nicki Minaj’s fierce and righteous proclamation that she demands orgasms from sex, we need to mention the fact that most people with clits find it easier to come clitorally than they do from penetrative sex. Given this, if you love your bullet vibrator and you struggle to come during penetrative sex, then for God’s sake please say so – it’ll help us challenge the myth that everyone wants exactly the same kind of sex, and introduce more people to the range of sexual variety that exists within different human bodies. By this point you should have a good idea of exactly the kind of setting you like, and know exactly the right place to put it. Show your partner, lie back, and enjoy a clitoral orgasm that both of you get to take part in. If your other half is reluctant, let them know that when you come, the muscles in your vagina are likely to twitch and spasm in a way that feels like a top-class milking machine. There are plenty of other ways to use a bullet vibrator during sex, of course – if you’d rather be in control, then placing it between you and your partner when you’re on top means you can do that fun tribbin thing. Use a bullet vibrator on things other than your clit Obviously, the clit is the place it’s most likely to give you an orgasm. Feel free to ease your partner into it by using the bullet on their sensitive bits: nipples, clit, labia minora, labia majoria, and the vagina. Basically, anywhere with nerve endings can be stimulated, and as long as it’s somewhere on the outside of your body (never ever stick a bullet vibe up your arse), it’s perfectly safe. Final tip: if you’ve got a bullet vibrator and you want to explore some of the best ways to use it, make sure you’ve got it fully charged (or with fresh batteries) before you begin. It’s fun, and time flies, and nothing’s worse than having a sex toy die on you when you’re a bare three seconds from climax. Source

Surrounded by symbols, donning his signature cap and spectacles, Chinua Achebe is pictured in front of a green banner decorated with icons of his most famous literary works in Thursday’s Google Doodle. The illustration honors the legacy of the renowned Nigerian writer on what would be his 87th birthday. Widely regarded as the father of modern African literature, Achebe was an illustrious author whose work sought to reclaim Africa’s literary voice from Western control. Achebe rose to international prominence when he published Things Fall Apart at 28 years-old. Based on his own family heritage and upbringing, the story recounts the demise of an Ibo man in southeastern Nigeria under the oppression of 19th century British colonial rule. The book is now a classic and required reading for students, selling more than 20 million copies and translated into 57 different languages. “In the end, I began to understand,” Achebe once wrote. “There is such a thing as absolute power over narrative. Those who secure this privilege for themselves can arrange stories about others pretty much where, and as, they like.” Achebe went on to publish several more works — ultimately winning the Man Booker Prize in 2007 — and then later became a professor at Bard College and Brown University. In 1990, a car accident in Nigeria paralyzed Achebe from the waist down. The writer passed away from illness nearly five years ago. Source

A 45-year-old businessman, Garbar Pakachi, on Thursday approached a Nyanya Customary Court, Abuja, to dissolve his 22-year marriage over his wife’s inability to cook on a daily basis. Pakachi in his divorce petition alleged that since he married Martha Ahmed, he has never known peace. “Since I got married to my wife, we have never had peace in our marriage; she has the habit of disobeying me. “Worst of all, is that she cooks only once a week,” he said. The petitioner also said that the wife hardly spends time at home with the family. “She returns late at night from her business, sometimes she does not return at all till the following day,” he said Other allegations were that the wife attended night clubs without his permission. “One night around 3:30am, I went to my wife’s room and discovered that she left our last child all alone in the room, and she was nowhere to be found. “Immediately I called her phone to know her whereabouts; to my greatest surprise she told me that she was in a night club, and she did not return until 4:00am,” he said. He told the court that all efforts he had made over the years to correct his wife’s behaviour proved abortive, and that he was tired of the marriage. The petitioner begged the court to dissolve the marriage and give him custody of the four children of the marriage. The respondent, Martha Ahmed, a businesswoman who was present in court, also said she was tired of the marriage. She begged the court to give her custody of the last child of the marriage. The judge, Jemilu Jega, admonished the couple, adding that 22 years of marriage was not a joke. “Twenty years of marriage is not a joke; you should not allow this problem to destroy what you have built in the past 22 years.’’ He advised the couple to reconcile and adjourned the case until Nov. 21 for judgement. Source

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Telenovela sitcom, Jane the Virgin, is making waves for its casual inclusion of a bisexual character. In the recent episode, entitled ‘Jane the Heteronormative,’ Jane discovers that her new partner Adam has dated men in the past. Jane, played by Gina Rodriguez, spends a lot of the episode coming to terms with Adam’s sexuality. Rodriguez recently said that she is 'more bisexual' than the character she plays, saying that she loves people for their hearts. Jane the Virgin showrunner, Jennie Snyder Urman spoke to Variety about including a bisexual character: “I feel like you see a lot of bisexual women on TV because men think it’s sexy when women make out. We felt like we hadn’t had a romantic hero who’s also bisexual.” She continued: “[Jane] had to confront what that meant and ask questions — and feel safe enough to ask questions because sometimes you feel like your questions are silly and you should know better, but ask them!” Adam is played by former Teen Wolf star Tyler Posey, who made headlines last year for pretending to come out as gay on snapchat Fans of the show took to Twitter to express their excitement at the bisexual representation. Many people have said that bisexual representation and visibility is one of the most important struggles that the LGBT+ community faces in the 21st century. Watch the moment Jane realises Adam is bisexual below:

A lesbian horror film has been submitted for Best Foreign Film at the Oscars 2018. Thelma, which will be released this week, has been submitted by Norwegian film bosses and could become the first film of its type to win the accolade. Directed by Joachim Trier, it tells the story of a college-aged girl who leaves her overprotective parents to go to university in Oslo. As well as dealing with supernatural unexplained seizures, the film explores Thelma’s coming to terms with her attraction to women while trying to please her conservative Christian parents. Thelma will be the first lesbian horror film to be nominated for an Oscar if Norway’s submission is successful. It has already received praise from a number of critics, including Newsweek, which likened the film to the critically acclaimed It Follows. The film has also been applauded for Trier’s efforts to create a film whose hero isn’t the same “white, straight man”. The film has been described as a coming of age story, with The Verge going so far as to say it is a story about the “terror of growing up”. Thelma’s conservative parents want to suppress her supernatural powers and fix her seizures, but when she feels attraction toward a fellow female student, her powers begin to grow stronger, with The Verge describing the film as having a “powerful sensuality”. Source

ONE statistic that has surprised many Australians in the same-sex marriage vote is that New South Wales had the most marginal Yes vote of any state. Just 57.8 per cent (2,374,362 people) voted Yes, with a significant 42.2 per cent (1,736,838 people) voting No. Every other state was above 60 per cent Yes, with the Australian Capital Territory top at 74 per cent, and Victoria close behind, on 64.9 per cent. The ACT has a small voting population, with 175,459 ticking Yes and 61,520 No, but you might have expected NSW and Victoria to be comparably progressive. In fact, NSW’s metropolitan electorates were some of the highest Yes voting seats in the country, with Sydney tying with Melbourne for the nation’s most strongly in favour, at 83.7 per cent. Even rural seats in western NSW were relatively strongly skewed to Yes. It was seats in south-west Sydney, many of which have large socially conservative immigrant populations, that were most likely to vote No. Out of 150 Federal Electoral Divisions, 133 recorded a majority Yes response, and just 17 divisions recorded a majority No response. Congrats Aussies, Read more here

In our country that is steeped in homophobia, do you ladies ever wish to be straight and do you think that your lives would be happier, easier, more fufilling and generally better if you were straight?