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This right here is a very important subject. There are some couples who practice this i.e. they expect their partners to unfriend, block or disassociate themselves with all their friends (friends they've had prior to the commencement of their relationship). There is something quite disturbing about this but for some reason, there is always a way for them to justify their action/request to their partners. What is your take on this issue and is there any suitable justification for this?
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I'm not sure what generic name they are called but the children you see begging at a traffic light stop and those who give windshields an unsolicited wash are a big security risk. I never used to hold this view until late last year. They multiply by the week it seems and I am afraid that there is this budding aggression waiting to erupt if you happen to find yourself in a vulnerable situation. Each time I look at the young females, I shudder to think of how often they are being defiled by the men around them and by those within their community -especially those they pair themselves with during the day while they beg for alms. It is heartbreaking to say the least. What can be done really? I support the movement for them to be taken off the streets and deported or taken off the streets and kept in an IDP camp of sorts. In such a time where we must be security and health conscious, it would be to their benefit as well to be migrated to a safer space.
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Amazingly, this hasn't been the least nightmarish! "Where is everyone?" I ask myself each time I commute to work. The roads are practically traffic free, the bridge feels like it is a Saturday every morning... Perhaps much more people are working from home? I'm not complaining. Lol. I'm enjoying this new version of Lagos Share your 3rd mainland bridge experience ☻ Eko o ni baajé o.... lol
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It isn't news that the job market is highly discriminatory. By this, I mean that prospective candidates are categorised according to their class of degree, school attended, honours or not, age etc... And so, this sometimes limits your options if you don't fall into the 1st class or 2:1 category for certain sectors. Whatever your situation, all hope is not lost! My first advise to you is this: have a standard and stand by it. Trust me, you don't want just any type of job. Most times, you are better off doing stuff on your own than taking up certain types of jobs. Stories abound. The general practice is for people to start applying to every vacancy they find. The exercise is worth it. Get yourself busy with this as well. As many applications in a day as possible. Ensure you have a great CV and cover letter that matches your online profiles. My next advise because you have already lost some time (especially those who have never gotten a job after graduation) is that you must do things differently. The truth is that there isn't a guaranteed set of steps to follow, but what I would do is to go through a number of cases of people (I know) in this category who have gone on to do well for themselves and they are quite happy with their outcomes. Perhaps taking a hint from these examples may give you some ideas of your own. Case A Top of the class in Uni, got a job right out of school then took a break to do a masters overseas. Got back, was without a job for some 18 months but had a network of friends in the corporate world who were able to make some introductions and schedule her for an interview. She got the job. Case B Never worked and graduated with a 2:2. This didn't stop her, as she went into business for herself. From photography, to branding of corporate gift items to running a travel tour business etc... In so doing, she was able to build her profile and develop competencies that are relevant to the corporate world. Got approached via LinkedIn for a business development manager role, attended the interview and got the job after a myriad of unsuccessful tries. Case C Never worked. Straight out of school although she graduated with a 2:1. Actively searching and applying for jobs while being an agent for corporate brands who gets referral commissions from sales made. She has been able to do this for multiple brands, expanding her influence and reach. She has also now set up her own activation team and because she has proven herself to be credible, she gets called to handle activations by some of these brands for a nice fee. Case D Worked in corporate Nigeria for a while then exited as a result of a toxic work culture. She has attended quite a number of interviews but hasn't quite found her fit. She is now on her own, managing her own professional ushering service which caters to corporate clients only. Case E He worked in the bank for some 7 years then got laid off. He hasn't been interested in going back to the corporate world but now puts together team bonding events for companies and trade shows/exhibitions for the hospitality sector. He was able to transition smoothly into this as a result of his vast network of clients while in the corporate world. In closing, what is important is to ensure that you are doing something to develop your skill set. You need to be seen as growing and building on your professional profile. Being unemployed doesn't mean being passive i.e. "waiting" for some miracle to happen to you. Sometimes, you need to get out there and take matters into your own hands. It most certainly isn't the prettiest of places to be but make it work for you. All the best
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Hello Ladies, A lot of people go through school like everyone else failing to realise that the times are stiffer, the labour market is fiercer and more competitive and the best jobs go to those who have been deliberate and consistent in setting themselves apart. I know what you are thinking and it isn't true. "The best jobs are already given out to those with influential backgrounds". Not true. They may get a leg up and they may most certainly get into your government agencies with ease but the top roles (in notable or career worthy companies), are by merit and reserved for the best. What a lot of fresh out of school graduates fail to realise is that those from these sort of influential backgrounds have been set up to succeed a lot of the time. They've gone to the right schools, they've done internships in fortune 500 countries across the globe (a different company every year). Upon graduation, most often than not, they have a very solid CV. So what can you do if you aren't from an influential background? There's a whole lot you can do! Once you decide that the corporate life is for you (the earlier you do this the better), then you must start to look out for opportunities to stand out. Every opportunity to stand out! The easiest route is to be the top of your class. Or at least in the range of CPGA that qualifies you to be approached in your final year by recruiters. Yup. This happens but it isn't open to everyone. Usually they go for the best 5 in each class. Some restrict it to the top 2 or only first class etc... This is by far the easiest route (but of course, it takes work and dedication). It is doable! I may need to delve into that in another post.. But even before all of these, you need to be more resourceful with your holidays. Don't waste them! Intern for free. A lot of companies in corporate Nigeria would have you! Use your links, church, family friends, lecturers etc... (lecturers do have a network of past students who are successful that they can link you up with. The thing is that, you must show yourself worthy of such access). The last thing you want to be is to be an unsociable geek and so what the experience does for you is to acquaint you with the work environment while building the foundation for your work ethic. Another route is to write! There are so many problems out there looking for a solution! It is that simple. Simply put your thesis writing skills to use and put together a proposal for how to solve a problem that interests an organisation. This works like magic. Send it to the leaders of your chosen organizations. You will be contacted. Everyone loves initiative. Are you wondering how to get their email addresses? Lol. Easy! I won't solve this puzzle for you. Use your graduate brains for this... *wink* Okay okay.... all you need do is to know the email address pattern of the company and simply use it. Better still, if you know someone who works there, ask. I would have suggested LinkedIn but it's been so abused that people would rarely respond to you on there. Good luck with that. After all said and done, you need to be prepared. You can't escape GMATS so the earlier you start to master the questions the better for you. Buy at least 2 editions and make it your new devotional. Because, it's one thing to get yourself an email to attend an assessment and it is quite another to ace it and make it to the interview stage. The same goes for interviews. Rehearse, rehearse rehearse. You need to have an example of how you accomplished every behavioural achievement or skill you've put on your CV. You also need to do your homework about the company wrt what to expect in interviews. Speak to current employees who will always be willing to give you tips. Be unique. Be confident. Be exceptional. The above list isn't exhaustive but if you can put those into action, you'll be alright. I would put together another post to cater to those who have missed the above opportunity and those who have gaps on their CV (i.e. haven't been in corporate Nigeria for many years). Rememeber, corporate Nigeria isn't the be all and end all -as a matter of fact, being on payroll has its own limitations. There are numerous paths to being successful.
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Hello Ladies... This topic came to mind and I thought to share (as always. Lol). As imperfect beings, it is inevitable that we would be called out by our partners and vice versa on ocassion. As a matter of fact, it is healthy and crucial for the growth process in every relationships for each individual to feel free enough to correct the other. We all know, some don't do too well being corrected etc... So, imagine you had a partner who displays embarrassing or repulsive behaviour but who isn't willing to take correction. How would you handle it? What would you advise? Who knows, someone who needs this may be reading. Help save a relationship. ☻
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I'm not sure what's going on with my face these days... I thought I was done with puberty and having to deal with acne. Grrrr... the bad part is that this time around, they leave black spots behind. *sad face* What's up with my hormones! 😶😕 Any tip would be greatly appreciated. PS - I don't feel stressed and I don't do dairy or even eggs. Sighs...
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A lot of young Nigerians seem to be leaving the country in droves. They say Nigeria has nothing to offer them or that it's only going to get worse Before you join the band wagon, do your homework. I'm certainly not against it when people are struggling to make ends meet etc... But my observation is that a lot of Nigerians tend to base their decisions on hearsay.... and sadly, most aren't sold the full picture. It isn't enough to be carried away by the thought of earning "thousands" of $$ a month. To a Nigerian based in Nigeria, it usually sounds like a lot of money but in actual sense, it isn't when you look at it in terms of levels of comfort and purchasing power it affords. The economies are completely different. E.g, if you enjoy the "luxury" of a maid, a driver, a cook etc... in Nigeria (which isn't luxury at all). and you have a steady source of income that allows you a comfortable lifestyle, how long would you need to work "there" to enjoy that same level of comfort (credit cards aside)? Most never achieve this. I often ponder this with friends. It would be interesting to read your thoughts.
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So.... I had this revelation a while back when I was watching some old videos of certain celebs. And I could see that while they are so graceful in their old age, they had lost that youthful look we all have when we are younger. And so, this post is to remind you to not be careless with your bodies. And also to remind you to care for it and to really enjoy it and flaunt it now that it is at it's best. You've still got some 20 - 30 years to rock it depending on how old you are now. Stay hydrated, eat right, sleep well, moisturise and of course, tell your girlfriend to go easy on certain parts in bed 🤭 (this is why it's also advisable that both parties render their bodies for foreplay instead of overworking one partner's body all day long). We've got just this one face/body, honour it. There's always plastic surgery I know. Lol. Shalom! 📿
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Other networks don't count. Lol 😶☻🙃 I've just realized that when I buy data, the bonus data is utilized first on MTN but the reverse is the case with Airtel. I used to be a die-hard Airtel fan untill my discovery some minutes ago... wow Airtel. Smh! Sadly, I'm still on 3G on the MTN which makes me the only young person alive still living on outdated technology. lol. Despite it all, I still love and vote Airtel.... there's just something chic about that network ☻ plus the bonus validity goes on for a month which balances out MTN's 2-week validity. This wasn't meant to be a topic, it was too long for the what's on your mind. Lol
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Yups, some things just don't change. Lol. I'll get to it in a sec. Lol So... typically or better still, stereotypically, girls who work at perfume stores, cosmetic shops and the likes tend to put up a sort of attitude I consider very unnecessary. Lol. Perhaps, working in those sort of (usually) high-end stores confers upon them a certain air of superiority. In my opinion, it only compensates for a deep seated insecurity. It never ceases to amaze me why some store attendants tend to put up an attitude when a bottle of perfume is probably even more than their salary. Smh Being small minded is such a disease. You just never know who the next customer is -a recruiter, a potential business partner, potential girlfriend. Lol etc...
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It's complicated. Lol Have you ever had to deal with a situation where you just feel negative vibes each time you talk to or are around certain people? In my csse it is the feeling of them being in constant competition with you or always trying to counter or argue with you, or sometimes, it gets so intense that you feel they are somehow trying so hard to bring you down to their level mentally. The complicated part is that they really want to be friends so much so that they brag about your friendship to others. Avoidance hasn't worked either. Lol. How would you deal with this?
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How have you all really been? Is life back to normal or are you having to adapt to a new normal? Hang in there...
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To all our muslim friends, happy Eid! And thank you for the holidays. Lol. I needed that 2-day break off Lagos roads. Lol. Quick perfume and gift shopping today and I'm back in my abode. I'm aware that a number of you won't be hosting the usual crowd due to the restrictions placed on gathering. All the same, here's wishing you all the love, peace and joy that the season brings.
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Loool. These are interesting times if you have reason to commute daily to the island from the mainland. Share your experiences here.
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Hello Ladies! 🥳☻ lol It's been a minute!. So, the other day, on radio, I heard the OAP go on and on about women being their own problem i.e. standing in eachother's way and I was so upset by her argument because I do not support her point of view. Now I'm curious. What are your own thoughts about this?
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Bishop Oyedepo: If You Don’t Pay Your Tithe You Are Under A Financial Curse
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Presiding Bishop of Living Faith Church Worldwide popularly known as Winners’ Chapel International, David Oyedepo, via his Twitter account has stated that people who don’t pay tithe are “under a financial curse” and can never prosper. -
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You are about to eat this food and receive a break-up message from your partner. What will you do? Will you eat or walk away?
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The man invited a lady out and she came with a committee. He just paid his own bill and abandoned them. What will you do if it were you?
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Vanity Fair Cover Is By A Black Photographer For The First Time
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Vanity Fair has commissioned a Black photographer to shoot its cover for the first time, an overdue step for a magazine that has long weathered criticism for a lack of diverse racial representation in its pages. The cover of the magazine’s July/August issue, featuring actor Viola Davis, was shot by photographer Dario Calmese, whose photo of Davis aims to reimagine her as “as both the Black Madonna — associated with empowerment, transformation and change — as well as the Greek Goddess Athena — who represents justice, triumph and wisdom.” “This image reclaims that narrative, transmuting the white gaze on Black suffering into the Black gaze of grace, elegance, and beauty,” he said in the magazine. The image was inspired by an 1863 photograph of Peter Gordon, a runaway Black enslaved person, featured in a special issue of Harper’s Weekly during the Civil War. In the accompanying cover story, Davis herself pointed out the long-standing lack of Black representation on the iconic magazine’s covers. “They’ve had a problem in the past with putting Black women on the covers,” Davis said. “But that’s a lot of magazines, that’s a lot of beauty campaigns. There’s a real absence of dark-skinned Black women. When you couple that with what’s going on in our culture, and how they treat Black women, you have a double whammy. You are putting us in a complete cloak of invisibility.” “Davis is right, about Black women — and men (and, for that matter, other people of color as well as LGBTQ+ subjects),” Vanity Fair editor-in-chief Radhika Jones wrote in an editor’s letter introducing the new issue. “For most of the magazine’s history, a Black artist, athlete, or politician appearing on a regular monthly issue of Vanity Fair was a rare occurrence. In our archives, excluding groups and special issues, we count 17 Black people on the cover of Vanity Fair in the 35 years between 1983 and 2017.” The magazine has had several iterations dating back to 1913. Jones wrote that “to the best of our knowledge, it is the first Vanity Fair cover made by a Black photographer.” The long overdue step was sparked by the reckoning over racial inequity currently happening across many industries, including media — and at Condé Nast, Vanity Fair’s parent company, in particular. Last month, Bon Appétit editor Adam Rapoport resigned after freelance food journalist Tammie Teclemariam resurfaced a racist photo of him. His resignation opened deeper conversations on the ways the magazine has underpaid and undervalued staffers of color. The outlet has also exoticized or co-opted dishes, ingredients and culinary practices that originated in communities of color, including by featuring white chefs or food writers as supposed experts. Days later, Vogue editor-in-chief Anna Wintour acknowledged to the magazine’s staff that “Vogue has not found enough ways to elevate and give space to Black editors, writers, photographers, designers and other creators,” she wrote in an internal email. “We have made mistakes too, publishing images or stories that have been hurtful or intolerant. I take full responsibility for those mistakes.” In 2018, after 126 years, Vogue’s cover was shot by a Black photographer for the first time. The cover star was Beyoncé, who was given complete control and pushed for a Black photographer, selecting Tyler Mitchell to photograph her for the cover. Last week, Vogue released its newest cover, which features gymnast Simone Biles, shot by legendary photographer Annie Leibovitz. But observers quickly pointed out that the magazine could have commissioned a Black photographer instead. For her part, Jones, who became Vanity Fair’s top editor at the end of 2017, has pushed for a wider range of stars to be featured on its cover and its pages. That began with actor and writer Lena Waithe, who was photographed by Leibovitz for the cover of Jones’ first issue at the helm, in April 2018 — marking a new direction for the magazine. “No amount of praise or censure affects me, in my current role, so much as the hope that our choices might inspire a young person — a future actor, director, photographer, writer — to pursue their own creative vision or imagine themself in our pages,” Jones wrote Tuesday. “Iconography carries influence.” Source -
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WhatsApp has gone down, leaving its millions of users without the ability to send or receive messages. Tracing website Down Detector showed what appeared to be a global outage on Tuesday evening, as the messaging app appeared to have broken. Chats did appear to load, but new messages would refuse to send within those chats. Some previous WhatsApp outages have been followed by problems at Facebook and Instagram, presumably because they share infrastructure. But those services appeared to continue working as normal. Unlike those other Facebook-owned apps, WhatsApp does not operate a status page to update users and developers on any problems with its service, meaning there is no easy way to know whether the company is aware of the outage of how widespread it might be. The company does have a devoted Twitter account – under the name of WhatsApp Status – but it has not been used since 2014. Source
