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It came as a rude shock to Nigerians when Charly Boy’s daughter, Dewy Oputa, revealed on social media that she is a lesbian. She made this known on Instagram during the week by sharing photos and a video of herself and her girlfriend. While speaking with Sunday Scoop, Dewy said she shared the post because she got tired of hiding and decided it was time to live in her truth. She said, “My mission for creating a lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, queer platform is to provide a safe place for youths in the African community. I strive to create an accepting and welcoming community where everyone is free to express themselves and be loved for who they are. I want a place where individuals such as myself can create authentic friendships and thrive as the person they were born to be. Dewy, however, admitted that it was not easy for her parents when she revealed her sexuality to them. “I can’t pinpoint the exact age I found out about my sexuality, but I was much younger. When I came out to my parents, it took them a while to adjust but my happiness comes first. I don’t feel bad about the negative comments my sexuality post has generated. I knew Nigerians would always have negative things to say and I was mentally prepared for it. I’m not here to sway anybody’s point of view; I’m here to bring awareness,” she said. On whether she nurses any fear about coming to Nigeria considering that there is an anti-gay law in place in the country, the stylist and property management practitioner said, “To be honest, I do not have any fears. I think there are far more critical issues that are yet to be resolved. So, why should my sexual orientation affect the next man? Nigerians that have a problem with the LGBTQ community need to mind their business and focus on the critical life and death situation at hand. Love has never killed the next man.” Meanwhile, Charly Boy has come out to support his daughter, Dewy Oputa, after she shared a cozy photo of herself and her lesbian partner on social media. He told Sunday Scoop that he would always support his daughter irrespective of her choice of a sexual partner. He said, “She is my daughter, why won’t I support her even if she is whatever she is? My father supported me too. We can argue on moral grounds but we all have our rights to life. I fought for the gay community; so, if my daughter turns out to be this way, I should walk my talk.” Admitting that he might not like her sexuality personally, he said there was nothing he could do about it since she is an adult. The Area Father stated, “I have daughters who are married and have children, but she is the only one who has decided to be different. As long as she finds happiness or moves on with her life, I don’t have any problem with it. My father wanted me to be a lawyer and I told him I didn’t want to be a lawyer; I did what made me happy. “People can be talking based on moral grounds, but we are not in the position to judge. Nigeria is like this because of evil people and we should concentrate on those people; not my daughter’s sexuality.” Similarly, Charly Boy rubbished the anti-gay law in Nigeria, which imposed a 14-year jail term on any individual found guilty. “How many people have the law caught? Don’t we have a lot of homosexuals in the Senate or government? We know all these things. They should start with themselves. They shouldn’t be bothered about my child who is enjoying her life. I don’t have problems with anyone’s sexuality as long as they are good human beings. I am not in the same level with most Nigerians; so, my thinking is different,” he said. Source

The Federal Government on Wednesday unveiled the branding and livery for the new national carrier, Nigeria Air, and stated that the airline would be inaugurated at the end of this year. According to a statement issued by the Ministry of Aviation in Abuja, the Minister of State for Aviation, Senator Hadi Sirika, unveiled the carrier at a press conference during the Farnborough Air Show in London. Sirika was quoted as saying, “I am very pleased to tell you that we are finally on track to launching a new national flag carrier for our country, Nigeria Air. We are all fully committed to fulfilling the campaign promise made by our President, Muhammadu Buhari, in 2015. We are aiming to launch Nigeria Air by the end of this year. “We obtained the Certificate of Compliance from the Nigerian Infrastructure Concession Regulatory Commission two weeks ago and can now go into the investor search. I am confident that we will have a well-run national flag carrier that is a global player, compliant with international safety standards and one which has the customer at its heart. “We hope to establish an airline that communicates the essence of our beautiful country; an airline we can all be proud of.” The ministry said the branding and naming of the new national carrier came after a social media campaign that was undertaken by the Ministry of Transportation (Aviation). It said invited Nigerian youths were asked for their input in order to come up with a name for the new flag carrier, adding that the ministry’s Facebook page and website engaged over 400,000 people. The ministry said extensive market research was carried out, which involved focus groups across the country, and over 100 interviews with aviation stakeholders and professionals, politicians as well as business owners. It also stated that it was currently running an aviation road map that includes airport concession, aerotropolis, an aircraft Maintenance, Repair and Overhaul centre, agro allied terminals, the national carrier and an aircraft leasing company. Source

Research confirms that more than half of women who consume same-sex male pornography are watching it because they feel it is more authentic than other genres, according to a new study by London's Middlesex University. "Male gays in the female gaze: Women who watch m/m pornography," by researcher Lucy Neville, drew research from a recent survey from adult film site PornHub. Women appear at a physiological level to find gay male sex just as arousing as heterosexual sex, according to Neville's research. The study detailed in the book investigated why exactly women are aroused by watching male-on-male sex by surveying 275 self-identified women who watch gay male porn. The sample included straight, bisexual, lesbian, queer, asexual, pansexual, and demisexual women; 68 percent of participants also watched heterosexual pornography, and 53 percent also watched lesbian pornography. However, 82 percent of participants preferred gay male pornography over other genres. The overwhelming reason the women watched gay male porn was that they felt it was more authentic than other genres. "Respondents were more able to believe that both actors were enjoying the experience and that the sexual desire and pleasure between them, therefore, felt more ‘authentic,’" according to the research. Participants felt that because men on screen had very visual cues that indicated sexual desire such as erections and ejaculation, the actors "weren't faking it." They also felt male adult film stars as opposed to female performers were "enjoying each other more rather than simply playing to the camera." The women also said that they felt they shared a more common gaze with the target audience as opposed to heterosexual and lesbian porn, which is predominantly made for heterosexual men, and they felt gay men's point of view was more in line with their personal preferences and desires. By watching same-sex male porn, women also enjoyed that they could avoid seeing female bodies used as powerless sexual objects under the control of men. They perceived the rough sex in gay porn as more tasteful than behaviors displayed in heterosexual and lesbian porn, without it feeling "non-consensual." Some also appreciated that they were not presented with a female porn star they would "be jealous of" or "subconsciously compare themselves to "causing them to feel "uncomfortable about their own bodies." Other participants simply enjoyed the taboo of gay sex and the idea they would never experience what was happening on their laptops. Source

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The almost 40-minute video which is titled ‘Make Nigeria Gay Again’ was produced by DedHed Media, a Lagos-based digital media group. The illustration of the video is done with so much humor, yet maintains a genuine tone while highlighting and explaining the many human implications of the country’s anti-gay law, citing several cases of human rights violations against LGBT persons who have suffered violent attacks as a result of their real or perceived sexual orientation. Even though the overall approach of the video presentation seems weird and could be perceived as having a stint of dark-humor, it does a very good job of breaking every inch of the law into bits, therefore bringing clarity to serious issues which are generally affecting the Nigerian LGBT community. In overall, the video is brilliantly done, and does serve its true purpose of exposing Nigeria’s homophobia whilst educating people about the true nature of the Anti-Same Sex Prohibition Act [SSMPA] which was signed into law in 2014 by former Nigerian president Goodluck Ebele Jonathan. Source

A small screen adaptation of Batwoman is in development with an openly gay lead. The show will launch on the CW, adding to the network’s slate of shows based on DC Comics, which includes Arrow, The Flash, Supergirl, Legends of Tomorrow and Black Lightning. The new Batwoman will be executive-produced by Greg Berlanti, who recently inked a four-year, $400m extension with Warner Brothers and currently helms a record 14 different scripted series, six of which air on the CW. It will be written and co-executive-produced by Caroline Dries, best known as the executive producer of The Vampire Diaries. Dries has also worked with the network on shows such as Melrose Place and Smallville, another DC Comics property. The lead character, who will be introduced this December at the CW’s annual DC Comics crossover event, is described as a woman “armed with a passion for social justice and flair for speaking her mind”. Kate Kane is an out lesbian who has arrived in Gotham to handle a citywide resurgence in crime. “But don’t call her a hero yet,” reads the show’s synopsis. “In a city desperate for a savior, Kate must overcome her own demons before embracing the call to be Gotham’s symbol of hope.” Source

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The Shoremi family in Nigeria have taken a newspaper advertorial to announce they have severed all ties with one of their daughters, Shalom, who recently tried to wed her lesbian partner here in Nigeria. Shalom had applied for marriage license from the Federal Marriage Registry but was denied as same sex marriage is prohibited in Nigeria. Former president Goodluck Jonathan had signed the Anti-gay bill into law in 2007. Source

The new film ‘We Don’t Live Here Anymore’ is directed by Tope Oshin, an award-winning Nigerian film director and producer notable for working on some of the highest box office breaking Nigerian films such as ‘Fifty’ ‘Shuga’ ‘The Wedding Party2’ ‘Journey to Self’ and ‘Tinsel’ (TV Series). Writing credits for the film goes to Noni Salma, a Nigerian U.S-based transgender filmmaker. Salma also wrote the film ‘Hell or High Water’ and ‘Veil of Silence’ a documentary film about LGBT struggle in Nigeria, all in collaboration with TIERs. ‘We Don’t Live Here Anymore’ is about two teenage boys Tolu Bajulaiye(Francis Sule) and Chidi Egwuonwu(Temidayo Akinboro) in the fictional Prominence high school who both find themselves embroiled in a high stake scandal that could alter the course of their future. With an impending expulsion at bay, Tolu’s mother Nike (Funlola Aofiyebi Raimi) who is a powerful matriarch pulls all the strings within her palm and resets the tone into what would become a battle of class, blackballing and a triggering society ready to punish anything besides the status-quo. Source

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In an interview with Christiane Amanpour, President Uhuru Kenyatta claims that homosexuality is not an issue of human rights, but rather of "our own base as a culture." Thoughts ladies?

If you have the opportunity to be part of a team to plan a meet with the president of Nigeria concerning the LGBT Nigerian community, and this opportunity is presenting itself after years of bureaucracy in securing a date for an appointment with the first office. Your agenda and application is finally accepted and come June 2018, you will sit with the President for some hours to discuss issues centering around our home community. It could be questions, past events, suggestions, ideas or complaints. But its about us. What will you sound offs be? Uzodinma Iweala, a Nigerian - American award-winning author, and doctor is set to meet with Nigerian President Muhammad Buhari to discuss issues affecting LGBT people in Nigeria. Iweala is the author of two very successful books, ‘Beast of No Nation’, which was adapted as a Hollywood film in 2015 and ‘Speak No Evil’ his recent book which details the life of a brilliant young Nigerian gay man living abroad, and whose conservative Christian parents tries to cure of homosexuality. Recently, Iweala, made public that he will be meeting with the Nigerian president, Muhammad Buhari in late June to discuss issues affecting LGBT Nigerians and wants people to suggest to him, the possible questions he could ask the president. This is an opportunity - C

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Coming out is a hard thing to do most especially in Nigeria. Please feel free to share coming out stories with the community as you deem fit.

Nollywood comic actor John Okafor well known for playing Mr. Ibu is one of the stars in a new romantic movie that tackles homophobia. John Okafor AKA: Mr.Ibu in the film ‘The Eve’ The movie titled 'The Eve' is An initiative of Cut24 Productions, directed by rapper-turned-director Tosin Igho, is about preparations for a supposedly happy couple’s wedding day. The young couple, Funsho and Yewande, have shockingly different personalities Just before their wedding, Funsho and his three childhood friends set out on a pre-wedding getaway and a bachelor’s night. Things quickly go awry, as events and revelations raise more questions than answers for the couple. Nollywood is yet shy of any authentic representations of LGBTIQ characters in its films. The industry is often touted for its seeming bias and stereotypical approach to telling stories with LGBTIQ characters. The producers say 'The Eve' is the first Nollywood movie of the modern era to tackle homophobia as a subplot Therefore, if the film lives up to its promise, it will be a positive step for mainstream media toward the recognition of LGBTIQ people’s struggles. The film stars John Okafor, Beverly Naya, Meg Otanwa, Kunle Remi, Adeolu Adefarasin, Mawuli Gavor, Ronke Oshodi, Ronke Odusanya and Uche Nwaefuna Okafor on his part has spoken against homosexuality in the past. In 2012, he called gay actors a ' virus' in Nollywood. In 2016, he was quoted saying that homosexuals were taking over the Nigerian movie industry and "they are killing the industry". Okafor has appeared in more than 200 movies and is known as one of Nigeria’s most talented comic actors. His movies have included Mr. Ibu (2004), Mr. Ibu in London (2004), and Ibu in Prison(2006). “The Eve,” is scheduled to be screened in Lagos on March 24 at the Day Dream Pool Club, Landmark Towers, Victoria Island. It will premiere nationwide just before Easter weekend (on Thursday, March 29). The film, which lasts under two hours, explores many other themes, including homosexuality. “The movie is an engaging love story that explores the themes of weddings, marriage, sex, friendship, dating, cheating, celibacy, partying, and homosexuality in a refreshing, comical and thrilling manner. It’s definitely a must-see for everyone,” said executive producer Femi Odugbemi. -Premiumtimesng

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Rigid sexual orientations have defined the preference of men and women for decades; however, a new study is attempting to do away with strict definitions of sexuality. The study, published in the Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, argues that there’s no such thing as a “straight” man or woman. Rather, people operate on a spectrum. Researchers showed men and women different kinds of pornographic material. Rather than relying on self-reporting, the study looked at physiological responses to the sexual material. Namely pupil dilation, which is a sign of sexual arousal. The study found that women’s eyes dilated when they viewed a man and a woman being sexuality intimate, and when two women were sexually intimate. Lesbian are more aroused to their preferred sex than the other sex, a pattern normally seen in men. A similar phenomenon was seen in men. Talking to Broadly, study author Ritch C Savin-Williams, who is also the Director of Developmental Psychology at Cornell University, said: We show straight men a picture of a woman masturbating and they respond just like a straight guy, but then you also show them a guy masturbating and their eyes dilate a little bit. So we're actually able to show physiologically that all guys are not either gay, straight, or bi. He argues that though the idea of bisexuality as the norm is becoming more accepted when it comes to women, men are still struggling with patriarchal stigma. Savin-Williams has a point. There have been multiple studies done that conclude women are naturally bisexual, like this one by Dr Gerulf Rieger at the University of Essex. He did an identical study where he looked at pupil dilation in women who were shown videos of attractive men and women. Source

Uchenna Ude, an award-winning Nigerian human rights activist and writer has launched a campaign tagged #HowIResist, which is aimed at promoting LGBT visibility in Nigeria and affirming that LGBT persons are resilient in the face of oppression and prejudice. The aim of the campaign, he said, is to reject the widespread lies that LGBT people “are living a lifestyle or that they are demon-possessed or in need of spiritual guidance.” LGBT people show resilience in many ways, Ude said: “They resist the unjust laws that seek to shut them in as prisoners or shut them out in the shadows. “They resist the fellow countrymen and women who seek to invalidate them. “They resist the lies that they do not matter. “They resist by daring to live authentically and to love without fear. “They resist from a place of shadows, but they resist all the same. In their everyday lives, they tell you: ‘I am here.’ “ He said that, over the next few days, he will share photos from the campaign, which will serve as “a response to prejudice, a determination of survival, and a statement of the fact that there are people among us who just want to live and let live.” Photos in the campaign were submitted by “a number of LGBT young Nigerians who came together to lend their voices to provide visibility to the Nigerian LGBT community,” he said. Below are some photos and quotations from the campaign. Source

It’s been five years since the R&B singer released her critically-acclaimed Electric Lady album, and we’ve been gagging for new music ever since – thankfully, she’s blessed us with not just one, but two comeback singles. Django Jane is a slick, confident track which sees Janelle rap about race and female empowerment amid scenes of her sitting on a throne (where she belongs, duh) surrounded by a female army in matching suits. While Django Jane shows off her versatility as an artist, it’s Make Me Feel that’s really caught the world’s attention. With an infectious beat and an androgynous performance style that pays homage to Prince, it’s sure to become a classic in Janelle’s back catalogue – even better, It’s laced with imagery that alludes to bisexuality. Throughout the video, Janelle flicks back and forth between the different genders, while one very literal scene sees her run frantically between her male and female love interests, dancing seductively on each one. Lyrically, Janelle sings of being a “emotional sexual bender” as she makes her way through a nightclub ripped straight of Black Mirror episode San Junipero. While Janelle has refused to define her sexuality, she did describe herself as “sexually liberated” in a recent interview with The Guardian, where she also spoke more about the meaning behind Make Me Feel. “It’s a celebratory song,” she said. “I hope that comes across. That people feel more free, no matter where they are in their lives, that they feel celebrated. “Because I’m about women’s empowerment. I’m about agency. I’m about being in control of your narrative and your body. “That was personal for me to even talk about: to let people know you don’t own or control me and you will not use my image to defame or denounce other women.” Janelle also announced the release of her fourth studio album, Dirty Computer, which is due out 27 April. Source

1) It’s a sexual orientation and not a lifestyle. It’s neither fashion nor culture. Being gay isn’t in how you dress or eat, the type of house you live in OR the colours you adore. Being gay is just who you are – your being in all of its own uniqueness and faults. In a nutshell, homosexuality is nature just as heterosexuality. 2) Homosexuality has no switch or time frame. I’ve heard people say, “I’m only gay for the time being. Once I get older and ready to settle down, I’ll definitely get married to a lady and be done with this life.”No! It’s not a race with a destination in sight. It is not a phase! This is no PS2 or chess game. You can’t turn off your gay (just as you can’t pray it away. Ask Bobby of the movie, Prayers for Bobby, he’d have more to say on this). Sure, you can decide to succumb to societal pressure, to familial expectations, you can decide to bend to the whims of heteronormativity and get married to a woman (if you’re a gay man) and vice-versa, but bare one thing in mind: exchanging those vows on that altar doesn’t mean you won’t be silently crushing on that well-dressed man seated at one of the front pews. You’re gay mister, and even a Catholic Priest can’t change that! 3) Homosexuality isn’t the cause of the economic problems we have in this country. It’s definitely not responsible for the deaths in the middle belt region of Nigeria and has nothing to do with the present bad government. It’s only an orientation and not an epidemic. It’s got no powers to affect the growth and development of the nation. Go tackle the issues facing the country and leave gay men and women alone. Their sexual orientation has nothing to do with your ardent corrupt practices. In essence, what’s the need for the law? 4) Mummy and Daddy, watching movies with homosexual content cannot, will not, and has never turned anyone gay. We very well know heterosexual content dominates the film industry. It’s mostly Ryan Reynolds and Shailyne Woolley banging on the creaking bed or Ramsey Noah and Genevieve getting our insides squishy with their believable love tales. We also know this is what a lot of us grew up watching. Now, if truly, movies have such magical powers, where are the gay ones sprouting out from? Saturn? Please, let’s not allow sentiments turn us into brain-dead vultures. It’s not cute. 5) Homosexuality is totally independent of physical disposition, gender and what have you. Yes, you can be male and feminine and still not gay. Not all the Chris Colfers in the world are gay. You can be female and masculine and still not lesbian. Not all the Ellen DeGeneres’ are lesbians. Let’s stop being quick to throw someone into a sexuality box all because of the way he/she is. When you do that, you have summed up a whole being on account of his/her perceived sexual orientation. Any other thing they represent doesn’t count. It’s stereotypical. It’s preposterous and in such modern era, unacceptable. 6) Homosexuality, just like heterosexuality, is only a part of a person. It doesn’t sum a whole being up. Your sexuality should not be confused with your personality. So yes, you can be gay and Christian, you can be gay and a paedophile, you can be gay and a thief, a corrupt politician, a rapist and so on. Do not cast the person away on the grounds that he is gay but because he is a murderer! You know why? Because we have all these people as heterosexuals too. They aren’t special. They aren’t in any way better. The same way a straight man can lie, a gay man can also. What makes the lie of a gay man any worse? What am I trying to say? GAY PEOPLE ARE ALSO HUMAN BEINGS. There’s nothing extraordinary (insert weird, abnormal). There’s no more to it than the fact that they are sexually attracted to people of the same sex. 7) There’s nothing like a gay job. Please, a girl can decide to be a conductor just like a guy can decide to be a cook or a hairdresser. These are services rendered and have nothing to do with genitals not to talk of who you are attracted to. 8) The whole world cannot, I repeat, CANNOT be homosexual. Just like the whole world can’t be black, Igbo, stupid or short. There would always be variations, its part of our existence. So when Homophobes throw shit like, “If everyone is gay, what becomes of the world?” do not be surprised when I burst their bubble with my word pins and consequently show them the level of daftness they’ve managed to attain. 9) The last and probably not the least on this episode of Things You Probably Didn’t Know; Homosexuality is going nowhere. There would always be gay ones amongst a lot. Those ones who have found refuge in the Rainbow community. Take it or leave it, pray against it or fight it with violence, homosexuality is here and it’s going nowhere. Source

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Portia not only surprised her wife with an unexpected appearance on the show, she also gave her one of the most incredible birthday gifts Ellen has ever received.