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TWISTED: It was a pretty decent evening. We're at a bar enjoying good music and drinks. I tried to avoid her gaze as I kept asking myself what I was doing here with her. I'd broken up with her earlier that day. I told her it was for the best; she was getting married and moving to Port Harcourt. I could feel her gaze on me. I busied myself with the drops of water from my bottle of drink. I began to draw silly patterns on the table. "Would you like another bottle?" she asked. I looked at my bottle, I'd barely touched it. I shook my head and said no. She finished up her drink and signaled for a waiter. She ordered for more drinks for both of us. I started to protest but it fell on deaf ears. She shot me a look that made me squirm in my seat. My phone rang, it was a girl I had planned to meet that day. She grabbed my phone before I could. She looked at the caller ID. I couldn't tell what was going on in her head. "So who is this one calling?" "she's just a friend. I was supposed to see her today." "Are you f***king her?" I was. But there was no way I was going to tell her that. Not right now at least. "I'm talking to you. Look at me." I obeyed. I looked at her. She was either hurt or annoyed or both and I couldn't bear to look at her face. My gaze rested on her breasts; they were one of my favorite things about her. Today they looked bigger, they looked like they were about to break free from her t-shirt. I found myself wondering if she was wearing a bra. "I guess you keeping quiet means you are f***king her. Right?" I'm not a snitch. Let her do her worst. She signaled for the waiter and asked for our bill. She paid. "Let's go." she got up and I followed. We walked to her car and got in. The drive was painfully quiet. I wanted to turn the radio on, anything to break the silence. I decided to enjoy the scenery... it was too dark to see much. I heard her sigh. She turned the music on. Usher's "how do I say" began to play. I rolled my eyes. Perfect! I sat up and turned to her when I realized that she had passed my route home. She gave me a look that said "don't even say a word" and returned her focus to the road. I looked down at her laps. She was putting on a cute brown shorts. I had a nice view of her lovely thighs. She has this habit of running her hand through her hair when she's pissed. It was cute. She leaned into her seat as she raised her left leg and rested it on the door. That was when I saw it. She was soaking wet. I couldn't look away. Like moth to flame I was drawn to the wetness. My hands itched to feel it. I looked at her breasts and saw her nipples looking perky. I wondered how she'd react if I touched them. I didn't wait for my brain to provide an answer when I reached out and touched her wet crotch. She gasped lightly. She didn't look away from the road. I waited for her to react, but the gasp was all I got. I began to caress her p**sy through her shorts. I undid the button and unzipped her shorts, then I slid my hand inside. I felt my head spin slightly at how wet and warm her p**sy felt. Her grip tightened on the steering wheel. I slid a finger in her p**sy and then another. She gasped and moaned a little. She hit the accelerator and the car sped. I stopped stroking her p**sy and wanted to take out my hand. She quickly held my hand with her thigh. She began to move her hips urging me to continue. I picked up where I stopped and continued to slowly stroke her p**sy. I could tell she loved my fingers inside her. As she drove towards her estate, I quickened my pace, she began to shudder. I pulled my hand out and she looked at me, hurt. I smiled as I put my hand in my mouth and licked off the juices on my fingers. The car came to a halt as we had reached our destination. She turned off the engine and turned to me. She pulled me close and ground her lips against mine. She kissed me like her life depended on it. She bit my lips and broke the kiss...
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So I saw a poll on twitter awhile ago and thought to share here lol. So assuming you only had a choice of picking 1 of the following 3 options, which one will you pick. A. Woman with body odour B. Woman with mouth odour C. Woman with vagina odour Let’s also assume you find all 3 of these women attractive and they check all of the boxes except this flaw.
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So why is it that people cheat ?, how can you make sure that you aren’t dating or with a cheater, and how do you deal with your own cheating? There are three main reasons why people cheat: * They are in a relationship with someone who cannot fulfill a specific sexual desire (gender, activities, etc.) * They aren’t actually monogamous. * It is a coping mechanism they use to deal with difficulties in a relationship, or to end a relationship. You may meet a woman who is, for instance, married to a man and isn’t willing to disclose that, but careful assessment will raise red flags (she never invites you to her home, she inconsistently contacts you, she’s choosing places to meet far from her home, etc.) These are red flags you should not ignore. As to the second reason, the truth is, many (most?) human beings are not inherently monogamous. This may be more true for men than women (and that may be socialized, rather than inherent.) Our closest primate relatives, Bonobo Chimpanzees, are pansexual and polyamorous. In fact, monogamy is frequent in some animals (mostly birds,) but relatively rare in primates, our own order of mammals. Our culture assumes monogamy, and looks down quite strongly on polyamory, so it might be difficult for someone to really come around to understanding that they aren’t actually the monogamous type. The third reason is probably the most common. Some people, when faced either with difficulties, conflicts and tension in a relationship, or with a dearth of physical intimacy, turn to having affairs when this happens. Some people do this serially (in other words, they do it in every relationship, and/or many times in a relationship,) and for some people, this is their way of ending relationships. So how do you approach this? First, be really clear and honest with yourself and people you might date, or your partner, about your own orientation toward monogamy. And make a clear agreement with your partner about it. Some couples want to make clear agreements to be monogamous. Some couples are fully polyamorous, and some are “monogamish” – open to other arrangements if or when they arise. Get in touch with your own feelings about jealousy, and also notice if you tend to project onto your girlfriend or partner. When dating, if someone confides in you that they have had affairs in previous relationships, how they speak of it will tell you if it is a red, yellow, or green flag. If they say they have learned from it, understand what was underneath it, and they have worked through it, then it’s not so red anymore. But if they act as if it isn’t important to talk about, or isn’t a big deal, or they feel bad about it but haven’t delved into why it happened, then it’s still a red flag. If you are someone who has cheated, get in touch with why you cheated. Understand that this is in your hands – you can make choices about it. Perhaps the choice is to find someone with whom you can be polyamorous. Or perhaps it’s learning how to cope with difficulties in relationships without using cheating as a mechanism to cope or end the relationship. Learning key relationship skills can make a big difference in how you can approach conflict or difficulties in a relationship. Cheating is not necessary. You can have a happy, fulfilling relationship without significant conflict or tension, with the physical and emotional intimacy you want, and be completely honest with each other about your desires.
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What turns you on more as a lesbian? Three things are it for me: 1. Back hugs. I can't describe that feeling of being loved and wanted. It's very comforting. 2. Boobs with very dark areola. Let's just say I like my toast brown 😏 3. Watching my spouse masturbate. 4. Nude pictures (from someone I'm attracted to and I have to ask otherwise it's a trashable nuisance.
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When you meet someone (however y'all meet. Lol. Be it online, whatsapp group, in person etc...). How long would you wait before letting them know that it isn't going to work or that you can't continue with the getting to know process? OR Do you simply go cold turkey/bail and cut all forms of communication? Have you ever experienced this, How did you handle it? Alternatively, how were you let down if you have ever been at the receiving end of such situations.
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What would you do if your girlfriend doesn’t like or isn’t comfortable with you being friends with one or more of your friends? Stop talking to them? Keep your distance? Or talk it through? (Open to other scenarios)
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I feel this is unacceptable, what do you think about a mother and daughter lesbian relationship?
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This topic was inspired by one in the anonymous section. Have you ever had an issue developing a sexual connection with anyone? I have also heard a few stories of this happening from friends and how all effort to force a connection was to no avail. Sex wasn't just happening for them. Why do you think this could occur?
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If you had magical powers to make someone fall in love with you, would you? Why?
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I find these questions coming up quite often in discussions with older lesbians. 1. Would you date someone who has never had sex with a woman before? 2. Would you be with someone who has never dated a woman before? Please give reasons if it's a 'NO' to either or both.
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The biggest signs that somebody is toxic in your relationship are: If you become the root of all evil. If anything that goes wrong is always your fault. They could never admit to being wrong. You always got to beware of someone who cannot say “sorry.” Someone who can’t say “sorry” you know that as soon as it hits the fan and it gets difficult you’re going to be in a bad time with that person. Anybody who looks to do damage. Psychologists call it “scorpion behaviour.” If you get close to a scorpion and a scorpion gets scared, then that stings you. A bad, toxic partner, when they are afraid, won’t tell you they’re afraid. Instead, they’ll just sting you. They’ll try to do damage. Toxic partners won’t actually talk through things or be vulnerable with you. Instead, they hide. Toxic partners will lie about anything. They’ll find any way to make you the crazy one. Such a person will erode your confidence over time in a very powerful way. Source
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One of the benefits of being single is closer relationship with God – Chidinma
FlyJ posted a topic in Chit Chat
The “Kedike” singer explained that while there is nothing wrong with wanting to get married, one also needs to wait on the Lord while worshiping him and ministering to him. Some of you do not understand the benefits of being single, while you’re not married, you ought to be involved with God. At 5am you can lie in bed and pray in the spirit, you can lie on the floor and worship, you can lie in the bath, praising and worshipping for as long as you want. The Lord wants you to come home at the end of the day and say ‘Lord, I went through so much today, I couldn’t wait to get home to worship you, I’m glad you’re here’. There’s nothing wrong with wanting to be married, just take care of the Lord while you’re waiting, minister to Him and worship Him. You’re in a position and posture of prayer. The Lord has become your necessary food. There is a special relationship between God and the single believer. God has a special anointing for the woman who is free to seek Him. Her prayer life should explode in miracles. Do you agree ladies?
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