Hi Ladies...
Here's one question for you:
Do you find yourself trying to act 'less obvious', dress 'less gay' or buy things that have a slimmer chance of outing you? Why?
Don't get me wrong. This has nothing to do with you being ashamed of who you are. But for some other reasons... you choose and prefer to 'blend' with your environment even if it means cutting back on some of the things you actually enjoy.