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How to come out as gay: Atta recommends telling somebody that you trust first. After you’ve got one ally, “you have your support and I think the rest gets easier from there,” he explains. For him, navigating his identity became easier once he found black, queer communities that he felt he belonged to. Lastly, do not worry about when you come out, he says. “It doesn’t have to be on National Coming Out Day, it could be any day because that will be your national coming out day.” Source
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Often I wonder how to identify with the community without necessarily 'identifying'. 1. Maybe like how do you come out to queers (lgbt, not just lb) without the straights knowing what's going on? 2. What phrases would be ideal on a 'closeted coming out' customised shirt that you decide to wear??
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It Was Hard For My Parents To Accept my Sexuality –Dewy, Charly Boy’s Daughter
FlyJ posted a topic in Friendly Advice
It came as a rude shock to Nigerians when Charly Boy’s daughter, Dewy Oputa, revealed on social media that she is a lesbian. She made this known on Instagram during the week by sharing photos and a video of herself and her girlfriend. While speaking with Sunday Scoop, Dewy said she shared the post because she got tired of hiding and decided it was time to live in her truth. She said, “My mission for creating a lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, queer platform is to provide a safe place for youths in the African community. I strive to create an accepting and welcoming community where everyone is free to express themselves and be loved for who they are. I want a place where individuals such as myself can create authentic friendships and thrive as the person they were born to be. Dewy, however, admitted that it was not easy for her parents when she revealed her sexuality to them. “I can’t pinpoint the exact age I found out about my sexuality, but I was much younger. When I came out to my parents, it took them a while to adjust but my happiness comes first. I don’t feel bad about the negative comments my sexuality post has generated. I knew Nigerians would always have negative things to say and I was mentally prepared for it. I’m not here to sway anybody’s point of view; I’m here to bring awareness,” she said. On whether she nurses any fear about coming to Nigeria considering that there is an anti-gay law in place in the country, the stylist and property management practitioner said, “To be honest, I do not have any fears. I think there are far more critical issues that are yet to be resolved. So, why should my sexual orientation affect the next man? Nigerians that have a problem with the LGBTQ community need to mind their business and focus on the critical life and death situation at hand. Love has never killed the next man.” Meanwhile, Charly Boy has come out to support his daughter, Dewy Oputa, after she shared a cozy photo of herself and her lesbian partner on social media. He told Sunday Scoop that he would always support his daughter irrespective of her choice of a sexual partner. He said, “She is my daughter, why won’t I support her even if she is whatever she is? My father supported me too. We can argue on moral grounds but we all have our rights to life. I fought for the gay community; so, if my daughter turns out to be this way, I should walk my talk.” Admitting that he might not like her sexuality personally, he said there was nothing he could do about it since she is an adult. The Area Father stated, “I have daughters who are married and have children, but she is the only one who has decided to be different. As long as she finds happiness or moves on with her life, I don’t have any problem with it. My father wanted me to be a lawyer and I told him I didn’t want to be a lawyer; I did what made me happy. “People can be talking based on moral grounds, but we are not in the position to judge. Nigeria is like this because of evil people and we should concentrate on those people; not my daughter’s sexuality.” Similarly, Charly Boy rubbished the anti-gay law in Nigeria, which imposed a 14-year jail term on any individual found guilty. “How many people have the law caught? Don’t we have a lot of homosexuals in the Senate or government? We know all these things. They should start with themselves. They shouldn’t be bothered about my child who is enjoying her life. I don’t have problems with anyone’s sexuality as long as they are good human beings. I am not in the same level with most Nigerians; so, my thinking is different,” he said. Source- 1 reply
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Dewy Oputa the Daughter of Charly Boy who's known for her Stand in LGBT, has finally showed us the face of her Girlfriend for the first time, According to US based dewy she was nervous when she wanted to share the photos, but She doesn't care no more. See below
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The Shoremi family in Nigeria have taken a newspaper advertorial to announce they have severed all ties with one of their daughters, Shalom, who recently tried to wed her lesbian partner here in Nigeria. Shalom had applied for marriage license from the Federal Marriage Registry but was denied as same sex marriage is prohibited in Nigeria. Former president Goodluck Jonathan had signed the Anti-gay bill into law in 2007. Source
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Coming out is a hard thing to do most especially in Nigeria. Please feel free to share coming out stories with the community as you deem fit.
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Queen Sugar and True Blood star Rutina Wesley, who plays queer on both series, has been increasingly more open about her relationship with a New Orleans-based chef whose Instagram handle is Chef Shonda. While Wesley has been sharing photos of the pair on her Instagram account for just over a week, this weekend she posted a gallery of the two of them appearing happily in love and engaged. The first photo Wesley posted was of the two of them at a Queen Sugar finale event and then another one a few days later of the duo smiling in a car with the caption, “#FromTheInsideOut You are the sunshine of my life...” This weekend the actress, who’s also appeared on Hannibal and Arrow, posted an affirmational quote followed by a gallery that ends with a picture of an engagement ring presumably on her finger. Despite the lovely photos of the two of them, including one of Wesley gently kissing Chef Shonda’s cheek, it’s the caption Wesley wrote for the gallery that is most telling. She referred to Chef Shonda as “light of my life,” “fire of my loins,” “my sin,” and “my soul.” She added the hashtags “Always more, never less. I said yes,” “I was looking at her and found my joy,” “She feeds my soul,” and “I love you more than words.” Wesley was married to actor Jacob Fishel from 2005 to 2013. Source
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It’s one thing to glo up physically – to go from an awkward teenager to your beautiful, flawless adult self. It’s a whole other glorious miracle to glo up when it comes to your sexuality. And a wonderful new lesbian hashtag is commemorating that transformation. It’s simple: one picture of you with your pre-coming out boyfriend, and one of the much happier you with your current girlfriend. All the denial, struggle and eventual realisations – summed up neatly in two photos. #GayGloUp all came about as a beautiful response to a side-by-side comparison from Caitlin Crowley, who asked her followers: “Freshman to senior year, does this count as a glo up???” Because people are amazing, she didn’t just get confirmation that this was the best glo up ever. She also got beautiful responses from other girls who had grown into their sexualities. Definitely an improvement. I mean, just look how happy she looks in the second photo. Beaming! Looks like the wait was worth it, at least. And it turns out that it wasn’t just the girls in these photos who eventually figured out they were gay. And is that – yep, it’s two halves of one gorgeous lesbian relationship. In 2017, we’ve appreciated the delights of #BiTwitter and #PanTwitter, an outpouring of joy, love and hilarious reminders that pansexual doesn’t mean an attraction to kitchenware. There was also #BlackGaySlay, the beautiful queer celebration of Black History Month. And #LGBTbabes saw photos come in from celebrities and fans alike, with LGBT youth climbing on board with all your favourite out famous people. Let’s also not forget the glorious day of #itsthelgbt, the hashtag which said: “We’re here, we’re proud, and we look amazing, dammit.” And because we can’t just have nice things as a species, June brought us the horror of #HeterosexualPrideDay, a hashtag born from the misplaced idea that cisgender, straight (cishet) people are oppressed. Then there was the brilliant #InternationalLesbianDay. Source
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Pamela Adie discussed Impact of Homophobia on Families with Arit Opko. She share her experience, the support she needed and why such support can help an LGBT persons but also strengthen family relationship. Her discussion with Arit was based on her personal experience which give a good perspective into what LGBT persons experience. -#UntoldFacts Enjoy ladies!
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Jackie Chan's daughter comes out as a Lesbian on Instagram
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Jackie Chan's estranged daughter, Etta Ng, came out as a lesbian last week when she posted a photo on Instagram in front of a rainbow flag, with the simple caption, "#lgbtqai #lgbt #lesbian #androgynous." Then In a follow up post, Etta revealed that not only is she a lesbian, but also she is in a committed relationship with social media influencer Andi Autumn. She wrote, 'I am in awe at the amount of support and love poured my way. I am speechless at how followers went to my Girlfriend @andiautumn and my account to show us both so much positivity. People all over the world have been rooting us on as Hong Kong media continues to mock. I’ve grown up in a world of negativity and close mindedness but I am at that point where I realise that I can use my experience to tell my truths and help others just like me. Thankfully I’ve grown since the days I was powerless and uncertain what the world has for me. Thank you for the enormous outpour of love and acceptance'. Before now, Etta has been out of the spotlight for most of her life. The media was very taken with Etta around the time of her birth in 1999, when they dubbed her "Little Dragon Girl." Jackie had an affair with Elaine Ng, a beauty queen in the late '90s, which ended before Etta's birth. Since then, Etta and her mother have lived fairly private lives in Hong Kong. Source -
Food for thought - "After I came out of the closet, I learned many lessons about life. I’ll share two," She writes The first thing I learned is that I’m on my own. It took me a while to realize this because I kept expecting and waiting on family and friends to show support, give approval, and accept me. Very few did. The others remained silent. And they’re still silent till today because neither has bothered to break the silence. The second lesson is that nobody owes me anything. There’s a tendency to feel entitled to peoples love, acceptance, and financial resources based on their supposed role in our lives...mother, father, brother, sister, uncle, aunt, cousin, niece, bestie, friend, etc. Nothing could be more false. You’re not entitled to anything. You want something, work hard for it. Bear the consequences. The sooner I started to feel less entitled, the happier I became. I engaged with those that wanted to engage, laughed with those that wanted to laugh. If I was in need, I asked. If I got, I appreciated.If I didn’t, no hard feelings. Life continued. That’s how I live my life even now and I’m getting better at it. So, instead of feeling like people owe you anything, work hard on your own and be grateful for life helpers you meet along the way. Good morning. Source
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Former Super Falcons star, Chichi Igbo aka Chified, literally came out as a Lesbian on her IG page today. She shared the lyrics of a coming-out song she composed on her Instastory. The lyrics said it all. Continue to see the lyrics below... Source
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