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  1. kimi

    Last Names

    Hello Ladies... I've always wondered "what's in a surname?" So my question is this: which is your preference and why? A. Take hers B. Keep yours (she takes yours) C. No surname transfers or indifferent D. Adopt a neutral surname that isn't tied to either of you.
  2. henybenson

    TWISTED

    TWISTED: It was a pretty decent evening. We're at a bar enjoying good music and drinks. I tried to avoid her gaze as I kept asking myself what I was doing here with her. I'd broken up with her earlier that day. I told her it was for the best; she was getting married and moving to Port Harcourt. I could feel her gaze on me. I busied myself with the drops of water from my bottle of drink. I began to draw silly patterns on the table. "Would you like another bottle?" she asked. I looked at my bottle, I'd barely touched it. I shook my head and said no. She finished up her drink and signaled for a waiter. She ordered for more drinks for both of us. I started to protest but it fell on deaf ears. She shot me a look that made me squirm in my seat. My phone rang, it was a girl I had planned to meet that day. She grabbed my phone before I could. She looked at the caller ID. I couldn't tell what was going on in her head. "So who is this one calling?" "she's just a friend. I was supposed to see her today." "Are you f***king her?" I was. But there was no way I was going to tell her that. Not right now at least. "I'm talking to you. Look at me." I obeyed. I looked at her. She was either hurt or annoyed or both and I couldn't bear to look at her face. My gaze rested on her breasts; they were one of my favorite things about her. Today they looked bigger, they looked like they were about to break free from her t-shirt. I found myself wondering if she was wearing a bra. "I guess you keeping quiet means you are f***king her. Right?" I'm not a snitch. Let her do her worst. She signaled for the waiter and asked for our bill. She paid. "Let's go." she got up and I followed. We walked to her car and got in. The drive was painfully quiet. I wanted to turn the radio on, anything to break the silence. I decided to enjoy the scenery... it was too dark to see much. I heard her sigh. She turned the music on. Usher's "how do I say" began to play. I rolled my eyes. Perfect! I sat up and turned to her when I realized that she had passed my route home. She gave me a look that said "don't even say a word" and returned her focus to the road. I looked down at her laps. She was putting on a cute brown shorts. I had a nice view of her lovely thighs. She has this habit of running her hand through her hair when she's pissed. It was cute. She leaned into her seat as she raised her left leg and rested it on the door. That was when I saw it. She was soaking wet. I couldn't look away. Like moth to flame I was drawn to the wetness. My hands itched to feel it. I looked at her breasts and saw her nipples looking perky. I wondered how she'd react if I touched them. I didn't wait for my brain to provide an answer when I reached out and touched her wet crotch. She gasped lightly. She didn't look away from the road. I waited for her to react, but the gasp was all I got. I began to caress her p**sy through her shorts. I undid the button and unzipped her shorts, then I slid my hand inside. I felt my head spin slightly at how wet and warm her p**sy felt. Her grip tightened on the steering wheel. I slid a finger in her p**sy and then another. She gasped and moaned a little. She hit the accelerator and the car sped. I stopped stroking her p**sy and wanted to take out my hand. She quickly held my hand with her thigh. She began to move her hips urging me to continue. I picked up where I stopped and continued to slowly stroke her p**sy. I could tell she loved my fingers inside her. As she drove towards her estate, I quickened my pace, she began to shudder. I pulled my hand out and she looked at me, hurt. I smiled as I put my hand in my mouth and licked off the juices on my fingers. The car came to a halt as we had reached our destination. She turned off the engine and turned to me. She pulled me close and ground her lips against mine. She kissed me like her life depended on it. She bit my lips and broke the kiss...
  3. Let's assume it was up to you to propose, based on your personality, how do you think you would go about it? Would you just whip out a ring and ask or would you put in more thoughts and do something romantic? Let's hear all the juicy deets.
  4. Hello Ladies, It's a very wet independence day morning. Nigeria does need all the cleansing it can get. 🙄 As the title suggests, my question is this: How long do you need to have known or dated someone for before you feel certain enough to marry them?
  5. Nigerian lesbian and LGBT rights campaigner, Biwom Pamela Adie has fixed the date of her wedding to sweetheart and partner. According to an update she announced on her social media page, the date is 23rd of June, 2018. In 2011 Pamela Adie left her family and friends shocked, when she came out to declare openly that she’s a lesbian. She used to be married to a man. Pamela’s sexual orientation had been hidden from her family for years, she hadn’t discussed it with either her family or fiancé—even before she walked down the aisle with him. She thought: “It would be nice to keep mum about it, forget about my sexual orientation as lesbian and move on with marriage”: to seek change. But it didn’t turn out as planned for Pamela. For 24 months, Pamela says she was living in pain but with grit and courage, she realized straight relationships (and marriage) were not meant for her and the best way to salvage the situation was to wipe the slate clean. “My pain became more than my fear. I came out because I needed to be free from pain, from telling my loved ones lies, from living a double life (as lesbian and a married woman). The burden was just too heavy to bear,” she said with a serious look that mirrors nothing but sincerity. “When I came out, I came out to free myself. I didn’t come out because I wanted to be an activist or because I wanted to prove a point. It was really about me.” Pamela Adie was born in a Christian home; raised by staunch Catholic parents in the serene city of Calabar, Nigeria. She’s from Obudu in Cross River state. When she was seventeen year old, she left for the United States where she earned a Bachelor of Business Administration, with a Minor in Personal and Professional Communication. She says she had her first same-sex relationship even before she travelled abroad and having been in a same-sex relationship for years—she thought her marriage would save her from being lesbian. It never did. “Even before I came out, I was already in a same-sex relationship but I never saw myself as lesbian. I hadn’t come out to myself and I always thought that when I get married it will somehow go away. That’s one of the reasons I eventually got married.'' “At the end of the day, it didn’t go away because it’s not something that goes away. Your sexual orientation is part of who you are and it’s not a choice”. After struggling to fit in for two years she couldn’t continue acting straight, she couldn’t put her sexual orientation behind her despite her marriage to a wonderful man. “My ex-husband is a great guy. He didn’t deserve to be lied to. I felt really bad. For me coming out, and leaving the marriage was really for him so that he can move on and find someone that can give him what he really wants,” she said. “My parents didn’t like that I am lesbian. They were angry. My mum was more vocal than my dad, though. My dad was more loving but the tension between my mum and I was thick. She was of the opinion that I was possessed and that there was something wrong with me. So it created a tension in the house,” she told YNaija in a past interview earlier this year. “I don’t have that issue with my father. It’s still the same till today. He’s still the one I talk to the most. My mum hasn’t come to a place of acceptance as of this point. She’s still struggling with my sexual orientation.” Source: http://www.lailasblog.com/2017/07/nigerian-lesbian-pamela-adie-sets-wedding-date-marry-partner-photos.html
  6. kimi

    Going Through With It

    I read an old thread a few minutes ago and it was a reminder of how much I enjoyed conversations about Nigerian lesbians and whether or not they will go through with it against all odds. Ten or Twenty years from now (picture it if you haven't), could you honestly say that you see yourself ending up with a woman or staying unmarried?
  7. I always look forward to the day freedom of association and existence will be recognized for same sex couples and bisexual couples in Nigeria. If I decide to spend the rest of my life with a man as a bisexual, let it be a matter of choice, and not because having it the other way would attract an indictment. However, one thing I am sure I would not want for a recognized LGBT community in Nigeria is the struggle to be allowed to have "marriages" and use the "husband and wife" term. Really? I'd never understand that struggle. But then, we all have different ways of seeing things. For those who really think it should be, it is valid I guess. The struggle for our Union to be called marriage to me is just like seeking validation of our existence from the word; you can imagine how so, especially when those who are stuck up on that word are homophobes who think marriage is the beginning and end of everyone's existence. I'd prefer a domestic Union or partnership so long as I would not be denied whatever "married" people are entitled to by Law. One may be tempted to argue that domestic partnerships are a short term solution whereas marriage is long-lasting. Oh yeah? Don't get me started on the skyrocketing divorce rates even in African countries where divorce was at some point in the recent past considered a huge shame to the family, kindred, clan...
  8. As shared on Instagram - 'I will be 38 in just over a month and a half, and while I would LOVE to be married (to my God-chosen companion, and best friend) and have child(ren), I am very comfortable with the knowledge that my life is just as valid, and beautiful, and happy, and successful, if for some reason that never comes to pass. 'Marriage and kids is not my "crowning glory"... It's another BEAUTIFUL step in life I would love to take. I'd also love to make (and keep) a billion dollars in my lifetime, but I won't be any less of a woman or Kemi Adetiba if that didn't come to pass either. 'No... I'm not comparing the two. I'm just highlighting it doesn't diminish a (Wo)man's -Kemi Adetiba's - worth if it never happens. Hello... Good morning ?? Have a great Tuesday.' Ladies, what do you think?
  9. Rita who spoke to NoString said that she was arrested after her ex-husband found her in bed with a female friend and reported her to the police. The police then invaded her house, arrested her and jailed her. The incident reportedly happened a few weeks ago at the victim’s house in Lagos. Rita told NoString that she had divorced her husband a few years ago after the death of her father, who had pressured her to get married. “I knew I was a lesbian, but my father pressured me into getting married,” she said. “I did not have the energy to fight him by refusing, so I obliged. But when he died, I felt that there was no need for me to continue with the marriage since I did not love the man I was married to.” Rita said that her ex-husband, Afolabi (not his real name), was shocked and could not understand why she wanted a divorce. He tried to fight it but lost. The marriage was officially dissolved in court. “After the divorce, I moved away from him and got my own apartment. He swore to deal with me, and never took it well. He kept on sending me threatening text messages and kept on stalking me. I reported him to his family, but nothing changed,” Rita said. On the day of the incident, Rita said that one of her relatives, a young boy who lives with her, left the front door unlocked. Then Afolabi barged into the house, walked straight to the bedroom, and found her and her girlfriend undressed, lying on the bed. Rita stated: “He came right into my bedroom and started shouting and taking pictures. We were not doing anything. We were just gisting [chatting]. My girlfriend had just a towel on her. I quickly asked her to get up and leave. He came outside and shouted that he now had evidence to ruin me. The neighbors gathered to watch what was going on. “He left a few minutes later and then came back with the police, who arrested me and took me to the station. At the station, I was abused by the police officers. Then they locked me in a room along with other girls. I slept on the cold tiled floor for four days. It was a weekend and they said that I could not get bail on weekends.” Rita said that she was eventually released after paying police what to her was a huge sum. “I paid N62,000 [about $172] before I was bailed out. I have been asked to come back to the station at a set date to deal with the matter. I am so afraid right now and I cannot take up the case against my ex-husband. because He is a crazy person and well-connected too. He knows where I live and where I work. I do not know what he might do to me. He said that he can even kill me and nothing will happen to him in Nigeria.” Source
  10. Ooni of Ife, Oba Adeyeye Enitan Ogunwusi Ojaja II and Queen Wuraola-Zynab Ogunwusi’s marriage has allegedly crashed. Thecapital.ng reports that Olori Wuraola was accused of many unpublishable things and lack of commitment to her marital vows. “*Why Olori Wuraola Ran To Obasanjo For Quick Intervention. Alas, one year down the line, the marriage has crashed irretrievably. The well-celebrated marriage has run its full course. While it lasted, they had no child. Inside sources described the marriage as a sham, plagued by suspicion, hatred and devoid of love; they accused Olori of many unpublishable things and lack of commitment to her marital vows. Even as you read she is not on talking terms with her in-laws. The allegations are as wide as they are wild. Back then when Olori Wuraola held sway, she had the world at her feet; she got her wishes at the snap of a finger and she literally ruled the royal household. Wherever he went, she was constantly by his side. She basked in the stratospheric adulation that came with being the apple of the Ooni’s eyes. Pray, who wouldn’t? Unfortunately, things have changed and many within the palace now snigger and sneer at her for losing her position as the queen to one of the most powerful Monarchs in Africa. Curiously, however, on arrival from a trip recently, Olori Wuraola scurried to the home of former President Olusegun Obasanjo to intervene and probably advise her husband not to be influenced to dump her like a bad habit and get another wife. Both have since gone their separate ways perhaps ruing what was and what could have been.” Source
  11. In a display of love and deep affection, a South African lesbian Cassi, went down on her knees leaving the audience in awe and then proposed to her lover Raylin at a dance training session which took place at the New World Dance Theatre (NWDT) in Cape Town. The engagement ended with friends of the beautiful couple cheering and celebrating their happiness with them and as well leaving them with good wishes. Love when found should be celebrated, we celebrate with the couple. Congratulations Cassi and Raylin!
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