Administrators FlyJ Posted March 8, 2015 Administrators Share Posted March 8, 2015 Using verbal assault, fear or humiliation to undermine your partner’s self-esteem and self-worth, can cause psychological damage. Difficult to manage, the following tips can help: Set limits An easy way to handle any case of emotional abuse is to develop some level of confidence. Psychologists often suggest that you let your partner know that you are open to hearing her concerns about your actions and how they impact her, but will no longer engage in conversations that attack who you are as a person. Set limits and inform your partner in a subtle tone, which will not infuriate her the more. Consider your partner’s concerns While this may sound like an odd thing to do at first, it is important that you ask your partner the reason why she verbally abuses you. Also, find out what you are willing to do for her to change whilst making sure you align these requests with your personal well-being and integrity. At the same time, do not agree to do things in order to keep the peace or save the relationship, especially if deep down you know it isn’t right for you. Reflect on your life goals Consider your values, goals and needs. Make sure your decisions are in alignment with your needs. Let her know what you can and can’t do for her. Whatever you do, do not be intimidated. Be assertive and make her understand your wishes and utmost desires at all times. Study the abuser Find positive ways to interact with the abuser – if you can handle the abuser in a neutral way, you may be able to see the positive in the abuser and find new ways to interact with her that is positive. While it can seem counter-intuitive to have compassion for the abuser, sometimes changing the way you view the abuser can give you insight into coping with the abuse. Make healthy friends Find ways to reconnect with the people or friends that will appreciate you for who you are at all times. Engage and connect with other people that support your dreams and are willing to help you achieve it. Join a support group and connect with others in the same situation like you. Take a walk At the end of the day, only you can decide if her controlling behaviour is something you are willing to live with or not. Relationships should be something that develop and not diminish you. Because love celebrates who you are and you deserve to have a powerful and loving relationship, you can take a walk if it is beyond repair. Love yourself enough to take a walk especially if your life and sanity is at stake. Source Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Skills Posted March 13, 2015 Share Posted March 13, 2015 hmmmm....great ideas though...the best way I know how to deal with verbal abuse is disappearing from the from the person's life no matter the level of attraction... this verbal abuse for me changes love to dislike ....detest... disgust..;) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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