Administrators FlyJ Posted October 4, 2015 Administrators Share Posted October 4, 2015 How to travel together—A guide for new lesbian couples Planning your first trip together as a couple is exciting. Travel can be romantic, adventurous and lots of fun. It can bring you closer together as a couple and can start the many memories and traditions you build upon in your relationship. Or, conversely, travel can really shine a light on her annoying traits, her need to control or inability to make a decision. It can show your impatience when flights get cancelled, your temper when luggage is lost or your grouchiness when you get overly hungry. How can you make your first trip together a fun and romantic success? Follow these tips and you’re sure to return home with a relationship that is stronger than ever. 1. Keep it Short Like a first date, a first trip together should be short and simple. Try a weekend away wine-tasting or quick trip to the beach or skiing in the mountains nearby. No need to backpack across Asia or take a lesbian cruise together on your very first vacation. 2. Keep it Cheap The purpose of your trip is to get away, have a good time and get to know one another. There is no need to impress her with a fancy hotel that is out of your budget. Instead, get creative and rent a cabin at the beach or short term-rental in a nearby city. Go camping. Enjoy walking around and exploring like a local. Eat at homey cafes and rent bikes to explore. Taking on something you can't afford will just add to the stress, so be mindful of your pocketbook and only do what you can afford. ***. Talk about Money Beforehand And while we're talking about money, make sure you know who is paying for what and how you’re going to split expenses before you go away. Especially if you have differing incomes, this is an important conversation to have. She might want to go out for champagne and caviar, but if your budget is more beer and hamburgers, make sure you discuss beforehand how you’re going to handle what things cost. If one of you makes more than the other, maybe she will pick up the hotel and you pay for meals. Talking about money can be awkward when you’re in a new relationship, but if you don’t talk about it, resentments can build. 4. Plan How You’re going to Spend Your Time Do you want to sit by the pool and read and she wants to rent motorcycles and explore the countryside? Make sure you plan a few things that the two of you want to do together, but also plan some alone time, if that’s something you know you will need. It’s not unreasonable to want different things on vacation, but discussing it beforehand is crucial. Each of you might need to compromise a little. If she has her heart set on canoeing around the lake, go with her. But if you absolutely do not want to ride the donkey, let her do that adventure by herself. You can cheer her on from the safely of corral. 5. Talk about Expectations Do you want to rise early each morning to run 5 miles before the sun comes up and she wants to snuggle in bed and order in room service? Is she into shopping, but you want to check out local museums? What about PDA? (Public Displays of Affection?) If you are heading out of town to a place that is less gay-friendly than your hometown, you should have a discussion before you leave about how you want to handle things like hand-holding and kissing in public. Will you feel safe? Will you feel spurned if she doesn't reciprocate your affection? Talk about it before you leave to make sure neither of you is disappointed. 6. Don’t over plan One of the beauties of travel is the unexpected. The wrong turn you make takes you down an alley with a wonderful bistro or a surprise bookstore. Make sure you leave some time in your schedules to just be together, to talk, explore and get to know one another on a deeper level. 7. Let go of the Little Things Things happen when you travel. Flat tires, missed turns, dirty hotel rooms. This trip is a chance for you to show your ability to focus on what's really important--the opportunity to spend time together. When something goes wrong, and most likely it will, have a chuckle and put your heads together to talk about how you're going to handle it. Most importantly--Have Fun! Source 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Abystacy Posted October 4, 2015 Share Posted October 4, 2015 Hmmm, interesting. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
dequeen Posted October 4, 2015 Share Posted October 4, 2015 Who wants to go for a cross country round Nigeria?? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Moderators kimi Posted October 4, 2015 Moderators Share Posted October 4, 2015 Cross country would be so much fun! Stressful but def fun if one is with great company ;) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
dequeen Posted October 4, 2015 Share Posted October 4, 2015 Cross country would be so much fun! Stressful but def fun if one is with great company ;)/> Anyone who is adventurous enough to do that would def be great company and fun. I know already... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Althena Posted June 2, 2017 Share Posted June 2, 2017 *Takes notes* Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Teewhy Posted June 2, 2017 Share Posted June 2, 2017 #Following. Ama keep this in mind, might come in handy soon. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Suavity Posted June 4, 2017 Share Posted June 4, 2017 Noted Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Michelle Posted May 7, 2020 Share Posted May 7, 2020 On 10/3/2015 at 5:18 PM, FlyJ said: 2. Keep it Cheap Not a safe choice. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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