dequeen Posted December 11, 2015 Share Posted December 11, 2015 We all pretty much know what the "Open relationship" thing stands for, that is one or both parties of the relationship being allowed to have other sexual partners (strictly sex of course) for whatever reasons ranging from distance between the two of you, temporary impotency (Lol, can ladies be impotent?), etc. So is it a Yay or a Nay for you and please give your reasons to back up your decision. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Hawken Posted December 11, 2015 Share Posted December 11, 2015 No because selfish and stingy. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Moderators kimi Posted December 11, 2015 Moderators Share Posted December 11, 2015 Hmmmm... interesting question. Here's my view: I have come to understand that we each operate on varying levels sexually. I also know that for some, the 'physical' element of a relationship is the more important. We each are unique. No one way is right or wrong. In line with this, I subscribe to an open relationship. Why? I would rather not set her up to fail. It hurts like shit just typing it but considering the nature of our circumstance, I would rather not love from a 'selfish' place. Extremely excruciating decision to make. The clause is: don't let me know when or with whom. If you do, then it's because you mean to hurt me. That will then be the beginning of the end for sure... 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
dreamgal Posted December 11, 2015 Share Posted December 11, 2015 nah... I'm too old for that Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lala1990 Posted December 11, 2015 Share Posted December 11, 2015 I don't think it has anything to do with age. Being exclusive in a relationship is a step forward and both parties have to be in total harmony towards it. One person can't be exclusive and her partner is still testing waters, it won't work. I think at the end of the day it boils down to how important individuals value sex. Let me put it this way, to some its a sport. To some its a blood oath. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Hawken Posted December 11, 2015 Share Posted December 11, 2015 Yeah.. I agree with Lala, but i think it also boils down to how much you value your partner. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Moderators kimi Posted December 11, 2015 Moderators Share Posted December 11, 2015 As in... somewhere deep down, I would hope she'll be strong enough to just wait. To hang in there for me. But I wont make that decision for her and because I understand that it can get really tough, I will allow her do as her heart leads... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lala1990 Posted December 12, 2015 Share Posted December 12, 2015 Why does everybody think of cheating and feel its just sex. I actually believe that with the rate of infidelity in this country most marriages/relationships are open. We can debate it, but most people have a fairly strong idea of their spouse' infidelity and we rarely hear them crying blue murder till its getting embarrassing. I think what people should be quite worried about is when you are in a relationship and are still freaking lonely. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
dequeen Posted December 12, 2015 Author Share Posted December 12, 2015 Exclusivity to me is asking too much in certain circumstances. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Princesa Posted December 12, 2015 Share Posted December 12, 2015 Nay... the fact u decide to go into a relationship wit sum1 shud close the window to evry oda person, ion rili blive in open relationship cos it neva rili ends well Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Suavity Posted December 13, 2015 Share Posted December 13, 2015 Yay for me, since is just sex. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Moderators kimi Posted December 13, 2015 Moderators Share Posted December 13, 2015 It just occurred to me that I had answered the question in reverse *laughs at self* Okay, I won't need it when the passion is hot and fiery. When I do, we'll have that discussion and i'd be hoping for a favourable and unselfish :D :P response. Hahahaha Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Moderators kimi Posted December 13, 2015 Moderators Share Posted December 13, 2015 Truth is, I believe it can be just 'sex'. If I'm really going to engage in an open relationship and it's been agreed from the get go, the rule would be that we'll each pick the 'fling' for our partner! Left to me, she ain't gonna be hot and would probably have a slight body odour too! Hahahahaha Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Iris Posted December 13, 2015 Share Posted December 13, 2015 Exclusive or nothing. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Calllaris Posted December 13, 2015 Share Posted December 13, 2015 Exclusive or nothing. Monogamy. The practice of having a single mate during a period of time. - Carmen Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Abystacy Posted December 18, 2015 Share Posted December 18, 2015 No room for an open relationship no matter how twisted it is. . I'm one woman kinda person. Like @Iris said Exclusive or Nothing! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TeeJay Posted January 9, 2016 Share Posted January 9, 2016 Hmmmm... interesting question. Here's my view: I have come to understand that we each operate on varying levels sexually. I also know that for some, the 'physical' element of a relationship is the more important. We each are unique. No one way is right or wrong. In line with this, I subscribe to an open relationship. Why? I would rather not set her up to fail. It hurts like shit just typing it but considering the nature of our circumstance, I would rather not love from a 'selfish' place. Extremely excruciating decision to make. The clause is: don't let me know when or with whom. If you do, then it's because you mean to hurt me. That will then be the beginning of the end for sure... Nice. That clause is so divine Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Althena Posted January 9, 2016 Share Posted January 9, 2016 YES Although right now I am a one woman girl, I am willing to see if it changes... I find that the older I get, the more open I am to experimenting and finding what works for me. And I have seen a lot of working open and polyamourous relationships in the past two years to just discount it. Instead of cheating or being emotionally unavailable, the key is having honest, open conversations about your needs and your partner(s) needs Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
relangel Posted January 9, 2016 Share Posted January 9, 2016 Chei I no fit o. Even if I go into any relationship I don't think it will be open to avoid risky business. Can't stand my partner frolicking that's not love Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Michelle Posted April 21, 2020 Share Posted April 21, 2020 Nah, not my cup of tea. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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