dequeen Posted July 5, 2017 Share Posted July 5, 2017 Okay. My question goes to the "tops" in relationships and every other person really. Do you think it's okay for a "bottom" to ask a "top" out? Please give your answers with reasons to back. Thankyou. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Teewhy Posted July 5, 2017 Share Posted July 5, 2017 Anybody can ask anybody out now. Who cares who asks who out, so far the asking out was done by someone to someone and the person accepts, case closed...... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
VINA Posted July 5, 2017 Share Posted July 5, 2017 Lol. Anybody can ask out. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Administrators FlyJ Posted July 6, 2017 Administrators Share Posted July 6, 2017 I only recently found out the meaning of tops and bottoms. Never knew such existed in the Lesbian community. I agree with the other ladies anyone can ask anyone out. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Moderators kimi Posted July 6, 2017 Moderators Share Posted July 6, 2017 I am a recent convert of the "no labels" crew. I stopped living in boxes a while back as I evolved as a person. Honestly, living in boxes stiffles and puts undue pressure on individuals and relationships. Like others have stated, It absolutely doesn't matter who does the asking out or proposing. These things shouldn't matter. What must at the end of the day is that you both allow yourselves to 'feel' and be 'free' to express that feeling however it comes to you in the moment -rather than allow certain societal role-based parameters set the tone or dictaTe the workings/dynamics of your relationship. 1 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jenny1403 Posted July 6, 2017 Share Posted July 6, 2017 This thread is particularly interesting to me cos just recently I had a rather annoying discussion with sum gal , and along d line she was like. ...re u stud or femme...more like re u top or bottom, my response was : Gal I am Jenny...I am lesbian...I am me. And den in her words,she said - "Our community has got stereotypes and classifications, u must fall sumwhere" Well....to this blabbing of hers I gave no response ,but deep in my heart I was like - look it's peepol like u that make this shit of ours look unreal and untrue. Jst lik kimi said - life is too short to place unnecessary boundaries and boxes around our lives, wat matters here is the ability to "FEEL" and the freedom to EXPRESS real feelings. Al dat thrashy talk abt who's top and who's bottom. ... has never really made any sense to me. I love women and that is it ...and this isn't sumtin dat suddenly just dawned on me, av known am into women since I was 4 / 5 years old. A woman is a woman. ...I don't care abt top / bottom, and any woman can be the one to make the first move. I therefore implore us; not to allow societal role based classifications / stereotypes to dictate the tone of our relationships and put us in unnecessary life boxes. U don't need no boxes....break out of dem and be YOU. Be real...Be free....Live free love who u wannn love...no stereotypes. Life is too short my sista! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
scarlet Posted July 6, 2017 Share Posted July 6, 2017 Should it matter who takes who out? Your sexual position has nothing to do with how/what role to play. I guess its high time we lose that hetero- stereotype. And this right here is the beauty of same sex Union. There are no gender- roles whatsoever, no guided set of rules to follow, it all falls on whoever is expressive enough to take that step. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Calllaris Posted July 6, 2017 Share Posted July 6, 2017 Where are the 'tops'? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Administrators FlyJ Posted July 6, 2017 Administrators Share Posted July 6, 2017 Should it matter who takes who out? Your sexual position has nothing to do with how/what role to play. I guess its high time we lose that hetero- stereotype. And this right here is the beauty of same sex Union. There are no gender- roles whatsoever, no guided set of rules to follow, it all falls on whoever is expressive enough to take that step. Preach!!! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lala1990 Posted July 7, 2017 Share Posted July 7, 2017 Oddly I can understand why she would ask. Some 'Tops' are (for lack of a better word) too Patriarch. Like their way always has to come first, the types that won't do any domestic chores and yet be angry that the house is a mess. Let's not deny we don't know women who feel they should be treated as Sugar Daddies. (And who has ever heard of a Baby girl asking a sugar daddy out ) Babe if you feel the person is soo much of a 'Top' and you are into that, then work on your green lights. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lala1990 Posted July 7, 2017 Share Posted July 7, 2017 Oddly I can understand why she would ask. Some 'Tops' are (for lack of a better word) too Patriarch. Like their way always to come first, the types that won't do any domestic chores and yet be angry that the house is a mess. Let's not deny we don't know women who feel they should be treated as Sugar Daddies. (And who has ever heard of a Baby girl asking a sugar daddy out Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Hawken Posted July 10, 2017 Share Posted July 10, 2017 Labels keep everything nice and tidy. Having said that, i think its okay for a bottom to ask a top out. I am a top and i enjoy been chased. EDITED - 23/12/2018 Why did i even say i was a top please? I'm versatile jor. Plus aren't top, bottom and versatile gay men lingo? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Moderators kimi Posted July 10, 2017 Moderators Share Posted July 10, 2017 Hahahaha. Yeye girl. You are a top? That's news to me boo. Confused face 1 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Michelle Posted December 23, 2018 Share Posted December 23, 2018 On 7/5/2017 at 11:16 AM, dequeen said: Okay. My question goes to the "tops" in relationships and every other person really. Do you think it's okay for a "bottom" to ask a "top" out? Please give your answers with reasons to back. Thankyou. Absolutely. I would love the show of confidence...total turn on. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Hawken Posted December 23, 2018 Share Posted December 23, 2018 Lmao why did my heart skip when i saw this post? I was like "what have we done again?? Its been a while since studs caught any heat on this forum. The bisexuals have been taking several for the team. What have we done??" Then i opened it and saw it was an old post and all was well with the world again 😁😁 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Moderators kimi Posted December 23, 2018 Moderators Share Posted December 23, 2018 42 minutes ago, Hawken said: Lmao why did my heart skip when i saw this post? I was like "what have we done again?? Its been a while since studs caught any heat on this forum. The bisexuals have been taking several for the team. What have we done??" Then i opened it and saw it was an old post and all was well with the world again 😁😁 Hahahahaha. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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