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Entry #1 Please use the like button to vote. Good day sisters, i want to start by saying a big kudos for this wonderful initiative as it will go a long. I cannot say why i deserve this grant but i can only say how much i need it. I'm a student and one who basically funds herself cause i get very little support from home and it's mostly feeding. school fees, accommodation and now project (cause I'm in my final year now) are all on me. Lately, my school Increased it's fees and it's being weighing me down. This grant will go a long way in easing my stress as i can add it to what i already have and pay my fees. I will be so grateful if i get this because honestly, it hasn't been easy for me. I will really appreciate this. Thank you.

I kissed a girl and I liked it, but I don't think she did She's my best friend, and she has a boyfriend. I'm her best friend and I have a girlfriend. Well technically I do... I still remember the first time I saw her. It was right after Law school and I was starting NYSC. We met at a friend's party and it was like we knew each other for longer than that. We talked about growing up, common friends, the sorry state of Nigeria and where we saw ourselves in 10 years. She was witty, a little self deprecating, but quite genuine. We laughed a lot that night. I had a car so i dropped her at home and from then on, we started hanging out often. I was very honest with her about my attraction for girls and she took it in stride. She made jokes about me crushing on her in the future, but that was all there ever was to it. But our friendship picked off and we became thick as thieves. We hung out often after work, at her house and at mine, with her siblings and with mine, with her boyfriend and with other friends. Everything was dandy. But just because the lesbian gods are never satisfied with a good thing, I found myself looking at her with lust one day. So it wasn't like I didn't know she was attractive, I did. I appreciated her good looks and paid her compliments anytime she dressed up. I'm also one of those people who would never put sex ahead of friendship so she had already been put firmly in the friend zone. I had seen her in different stages of undress on several occasions, slept on the same bed with her more times than I can count, and helped her put on and take off clothes plenty times. I had seen her body in all its glory many, many times. But this one time, while gisting and grooving at her brother's wedding reception, the light hit her face a certain way and I suddenly saw her in a different light. Pun intended. It was like I had been punched in the guts by a stranger and all of a sudden, I wanted to kiss her. I wanted to hold her, grab her right there on the dance floor, twirl her around and have her rock me right in front of everyone. I wanted to feel her back pressed against my breast, her bum rubbing against crotch and have my hands guide her movements. At this moment, I was on fire just looking at her with lust and desire. I blinked my eyes a couple of times, shook my head and tried to put it out of my head. Of course she was attractive and this was bound to happen I told myself. I chucked it down to general hornyness and tried to forget it ever happened. Sadly, I didn't succeed. In the next few weeks, I tried many times to get her out of my mind but I never really succeeded. She was the person I started imagining anytime I masturbated, and when I met some cute girl in Jos and kissed her, it was my friend I imagined I was kissing. Oh boy, casala don burst! So I decided there was nothing else to do but tell her. Great idea right? Wrong! I mentioned in passing that I had thought of her while kissing the girl in Jos and she laughed like she had never heard anything funnier. Yup, that was my friend. She laughed, teased me, giggled when I told her everything, and yabbed me for hours. She joked about how hot she was and how she knew that sooner or later, even I wouldn't be able to resist her charms. To be honest, it was a relief for me that she took it this way. We joked about how weird it was that the issue had never come up before for either of us. And then we swept it under the table. She went on with her life like nothing had changed, and I went on with my life hoping everything would change back to the way it was. I was smitten but I was hopeful that it would come to pass without drama. She would catch me staring at her sometimes and just shake her head or wink at me, other times she would laugh and shake her butt in my face if she was anywhere close to me. Every so often, she would compliment how good I looked but nothing over the top. It was a weird but comfortable place to be and I tried to make the best of it. I had started seeing some other girl, (long distance like a proper lesbian) and life was good. And then we played truth or dare. Truth or dare, I hate that game. Hate it! I'm not much of a drinker (by not much, I mean at all) so every single time, I have to spill my guts or do the dare. So unfair. And her boyfriend asked me to kiss her cos he had always been curious about how the 2 of us would handle our chemistry. What chemistry I wondered before she quickly sat on my laps and started kissing me. I could hear the rest of our friends cheering as she held unto my face and kissed me. I could feel my chest pounding as the air we were breathing became hot and heavy. Her lips were against mine, soft, wet and gorgeous, just as I imagined they would be. She grazed her tongue against mine, sucked on my lower lips, bit me playfully and ran her hands down my chest as I gasped for air. I didn't want to think about what was going on, I just gave myself up to feeling everything. I was just a passenger in this amazing activity. Before I could do or say anything more, her weight was off my laps and she was bowing down and curtsying to accept her claps and compliments. I tried to laugh it off and be unaffected but maybe the truth of it was written on my face. She winked at me from across the table where she was now seated by her boyfriend. I blanked through the rest of the night in disbelief until I I looked down later at my phone to see a bbm message from her. 'Stop overthinking it' she said. Followed later by 'It was just a kiss'. I looked down at my phone again and read the words she had written. 'It was just a kiss'. How could something so earth shattering, soul moving and p**sy wetting, be classified as just a kiss? Did she not feel my heart sync with hers the moment her lips touched mine? Did she not feel my world realign when she moved her hands down my chest? I kissed this girl and I liked it. But obviously she didn't feel the same. I applied for a school outside Nigeria a week later. I got admitted and left shortly after. But in the weeks before I left, we spoke less and less. We saw one another even less often. My life had been affected by that kiss and I was devastated she didn't feel a thing. It was just the way it was. Me and long distance girl broke up shortly after as I was no longer committed to her. But when my family and friends dropped me at the airport on my last day in 9ja. She was the last to leave. The last I hugged. I think there might have been a look of longing or regret on her face as I walked away. But maybe it is just wishful thinking. She mouthed 'don't be a stranger' to me as I went past immigration but I think we both knew, strangers was the best we could be from here on out. Truth or dare, I f***king hate that game!!!

Hahahahaha. This made me smile. Thanks Hephzy. Truth is love happens unexpectedly. I certainly wasn't looking to find it where and when I did. It started from the usual online banter. Lol. This went on for over 9months before we even decided to start chatting with eachother... we met about a year later and haven't looked back since. The universe heard the yearnings of my heart and led me straight to her even without me knowing... Tip: ask, believe and seek -ye shall surely find. Thanks a lot everyone... means a lot that we have people cheering for us. 😚

I'm so excited but you won't understand. I was 8 and I started to put stories of my experiences together. I discovered this passion of mine and because I lived straight for most of my adult life, I tried to write straight stories but I never could finish anyone. I discovered I was gay. I started to write gay stories and I finished my first story in a long time but it was a very short story. Then I joined Naijalez and on a whim, I started 'Losing Everything to Gain You' and you ladies kept pushing me and driving me until I completed my first full fledged novel. Today, I'm here to announce that I've published my book, and it's live on Amazon and can be ordered on paper back. Just in time for Pride month. Eh God!!! As in someone somewhere can hold a copy of my book, with my name on it and read it. Just like I've read hundred of books. My book is real!!!!! I'm so excited. You won't know what this means for me but I know how good it could feel to accomplish dreams worth years. I want to say a big thank you to all the amazing ladies that read and encouraged me and I'm not even kidding, your names, I mean your names are in the acknowledgement page of my BOOK!!!! Hahahaha. No lies. I also saw it fit to thank Naijalez as a website and it's from my heart. Thanks to @Prisca and all the amazing admins. Without you guys, I wouldn't have met all the people that I've met who pushed me to finish the book. @M2DD Thank you for everything. You've been an amazing friend. To everyone else, I'm super grateful. My book is live on Kindle and if you live abroad, you can get the paper back. I'm grateful to all those that will purchase and review as it's all the encouragement I would need. Please note: Nigerians living in Nigeria cannot purchase my book on Amazon so I'm still working on a plan. Buy, share, tell a friend. Our stories need to be heard. The world needs to know about Nigerian Lesbians. Biko add Author to my name and put small respek there. Hehehehehehe #flys

If you could see through me You'd see a beautiful soul You'd see a merry soul You'd see a kind soul If you could see through me You'd see a witty soul You'd see a soul thirsty for knowledge You'd see a goal-getting soul If you could see through me You'd see beyond the smile You'd see eyes longing for warmth You'd see a heart heavy with grief If you could see through me You'd see a heart burning with love for God You'd see I'm not infallible You'd see I've got my vices and weaknesses Oh! If you could see through me.

Waaaait, what did I just read? *squints eyes* Wowsers! Small sabbatical that I took and this is how low we have stooped? We're now so proud of spewing outdated stereotypes, prejudice, disdain and disregard for women? I know 2020 is bad, but not bad enough that we don't call each other out for reducing women to being worthless to someone else because they can or can't cook. Women are a lot more than that and I hope, and it is our duty as queer women who are trying to live outside heteronormativity to recognise this. Even be champions of this. Women have agency not worthiness due to their ability to cook for you. Kai, I have to say, I am very pained by this post

Dear son, Please don't be gay -the world hates gays. They would call you faggot. They will strike you with a knife. Darling son, you are only 6 and while I know there is no way of telling, my heart still breaks at the thought of that possibility. I never worried till I noticed you loved wearing bracelets. You enjoy playing with mama's lipsticks and her shoes. I have to admit... they do look good on you. Could this be typical of a little boy I ask myself... The world is now so twisted. It's so full of hate my lovely boy. How would someone ever take a look at those kind eyes and think to hurt him? Why would anyone want to tear down such innocence. Of what spirit could they be made if they shot a bullet through your silky brown skin? Dearest boy, be gay. Be free. Be you. Daddy will have your back. He will fight the world with you. He will keep you safe with his every blood. He will take your place if need be. My sweet sweet boy, if you turn out to be gay, I would be sure that you grow up to be nothing like daddy because you see... papa is gay but wasn't man enough to stand up to the world.

What happened to you? What ugliness did you encounter? Why are you exhilarated to quench the sun in someone's sky, turn their smile into a scowl and drag them to your ugliness? What happened to you? That made your nails grow long and sharp, like sticks or knives or sticks and knives and you wield them piercing without a care. You tear the flesh and free the blood and you just don't care that my memories are stained with the oozing of blood from episodes you forced me to watch. What happened to you? To make your heart so tender and yes you pretend you've got no heart but we all know that's a lie because the ones with the weakest hearts are the ones who pretend to not have a heart, and when no one watches they cry themselves to sleep until tomorrow when their pain is projected upon another soul. What happened to you?

Is it really a bi thing or just another indecisive woman? Bisexuality is not synonymous with infidelity. I believe it's an individual thing, just like a hetero woman cheating. I know a lot of bi-women who take commitments seriously. Being sexually fluid does not necessarily translate to being a hoe. A hoe will always be a hoe, not minding her or his sexual identity. And stop the bi-phobia, are we not supposed to be a community?

Why is it that most ladies stop participating on the forum when they find the one, the slut, the one-nighter, the time waster and the all-rounder? I think it is worthwhile reiterating the purpose of the forum. The forum was born out of the need to have an online LGBT community in Nigeria where we could freely express ourselves. Meeting someone shouldn’t be the sole purpose of becoming a member; it should spur you on to contribute more and grow the community. Let’s create a safe haven for ourselves where we can talk about anything and be ourselves. Besides, you get not to worry about the 14 years jail term :D :D . I understand everyone is busy but that shouldn’t be an excuse. Thinking about it, I read somewhere that “there is no such thing as busy, you always have time for anything if you make time”. Let’s do this :D :D .

But the funny part is that is not even the best approach. If you just DM, how do people get to know you? When you respond to posts it helps people to know your personality to an extend. I personally will not take any strange name from no way seriously. Most especially after checking your activities and l noticed that you have been here for years and have bearly even made a post. Abaa! People should please stop just sliding into the forum and just remain like that. It's activities that keeps the forum going. Your little contribution means alot. It could help someone. You must not be everywhere or even start a trend but at least once in a while add what you think about a post than just sliding into people's DM. Come to think about it, if those people that you are sliding into their DM's are inactive how will know about them? The year is coming to an end lets work towards making this forum more productive in every levels. So that 2019 will be far better than this.

After reading this the first thing that crossed my mind was to say to you, am sorry you're going through this Pink but you know what I won't say that to you. I won't feel pity for you and you shouldn't expect that from people either. We've all been in this phase you are in right now, in this community it is a common feeling and when I feel that I avoid pity party, it doesn't help so am gonna tell you what helps. Pink dear, is there anything you think you're good at? Writing, drawing, creating things? This is the time to dig into that. Stop looking for instant love, do not beg anyone to love you especially now that you're a mess. Live babe, learn self love and self confidence first. Get a diary and document how you feel on a daily basis, play lots of music and if you have a job, get emmersed in it. When you keep your mind that busy you won't be able to keep track of time, you'll build your self worth and known what you want. Before you know it, outta the blues you'll meet someone who deserves you and who won't meet you as a cry baby. Look up to the sky everyday and smile. Give yourself a sweet motivational name and when you wake up in the morning, look in the mirror and call yourself that name. Life is good and you don't need anyone to be happy in it.

Entry #2 Please use the like button to vote. I'm a corper (stream A, batch B) who recently redeployed from Adamawa to the south, but for the past months, precisely from September to date, I haven't been paid alawee due to an overpayment issue that had occurred. I'd forwarded series of complains to the accountants of both states but still they're yet to resolve the problem, and it's over three months now, they still haven't resolved it. I have been living on the stipends I got from home and money I borrowed from colleagues around. Things have been really difficult for me here in this village. I've borrowed so much from colleagues to a point where I have ran out of options. If I can get this fund from NL, It'll go a long way in helping me to settle my debts here and transport myself back home and still have something to sustain me pending when the issue will be resolve. Thank you.

Cooked almost every weekend for her and her hungry friends,when i say cook i mean, varieties ranging from rice to yam to soup and sauce etc. i was doing house chores like I'm her housemaid and loved it, stupid love, I tell you! Even arrange her wardrobe, do dishes. idiat girl. may thunder fire ur left nyash wherever you are now. mtcheew

I've been experiencing Cognitive dissonance. Leaving religion and realizing my sexuality left me crazy. Yes I'm an Agnostic Atheist. Pacifism led me to Atheism. It was a nightmare but I wasn't dreaming. You know the worst things happen and somehow you're still alive. Masa da miyan taushe is my favorite dish. Olive green my favorite color. I'm 24. I am a masters student in Forensic Investigations. Running my second degree at the same time. I'm opinionated. I'd like to think I'm lovable. I'm an aspiring Lecturer. I want to be with someone but i want my peace and sanity. That said, I'm an extroverted introvert. I'm a drama free person i promise you. I'm happy to find a community to belong to. And yes to Alcohol🙌🏿 My favorite quote would be: Death is not the greatest loss in life. The greatest loss is what dies inside of us while we live~~ Norman Cousins

I’m really terrible at this but here goes... hey heyyyy... I’ve been itching to get approved and finally *hair flip* 💃🏽 we’re hiaaaaaa 🤪 Tainqu tainqu tainqu admin you’re far too kind *this is where I pinch myself to behave before I get kicked out* 🤫😶 I’m lagos based, 30+ and I think I play a tad bit much 😂 I absolutely believe my Princess is out there though these glass slippers are beginning to really hurt 😢 please you people should epp me give her transport if u see her abeg 🙏 What else?! I’m happy to be here (lmao that just sounded like one those cliche office speeches) This is such a mess... I’m dying 🤣 As I was saying... I AM HAPPY TO BE HERE (bite me) 😝 Looking forward (another office lingo 🤦🏾‍♀️ It’s all this working from home o 😔) to knowing everyone 😁 It’s absolutely reassuring to know there’s a whole family out here who totally get you. XO **Damn...the amount of “type and deletes” I’ve done in my head and on this keypad ehn *sweats*😰 O and there was this whole bit where I had typed the “good morrrrrrrning Aunty” primary school chant...No, please don’t ask 🤦🏾‍♀️ Biko lemme coman be going before I reduce my N20 bride price even further 😔 🚶🏽‍♀️ 🚶🏽‍♀️🚶🏽‍♀️ Ndewo Nu

@Michelle, this no be envy or jealousy matter. You misyarn, big time. Acknowledging that won't take away anything from you.

While hunting for that good girlfriend let's ensure we aren't horrible. Those good girls we seek too desire good girlfriends.

Well Hello!!! It's the era of online businesses and I have found myself patronizing strangers for things I need, hair, make up, etc and something just got delivered to me some weeks back and I thought that, what if there was someone in my lgtb family that offered this same services? So the idea of this came up. We rise by lifting others!!! We rise by lifting others!!! Before you take that money else where Biko check this thread for someone who offers that service here. Don't underestimate NL o, rich people are here o, some are even ordering private jets.. You might need a domestic staff, a personal assistant, etc, at your work place. Put it out. There is a vacancy you know about? Put the word out. Something you want to buy? Someone might be selling here. Something you want to sell? Someone might want to buy. Career advice? We can give you! Confused about a course to read? We have professionals here. Online business? We will buy. It's not so Rosy for everyone. That flimsy opportunity might be someone's hope for daily bread. I presume by now you know what this is about. I'll try to update with vacancies as I see them and other opportunities. Thank you!

@Michelle please next time watch these videos and summarize them, internet access is not user friendly over here.

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Hahahaha. Now this is a real dilemma. I've never been in that situation before. I'll suggest that you ask them in a subtle manner what their thoughts are about polygamy. Paint your situation to them as a scenario and take it from there. If you had to let go of one... let your heart decide and not that part between your legs. Your heart never lies. However, if your heart is unclear, the one who better aligns with your journey/life's purpose should take precedence.

Problem #1 – Committing Too Fast (a.k.a. The U-Haul) When women get attracted to each other, we go into limerence, a brain-chemistry high that feels like being in love. (All couples are affected by limerence, but it’s strongest for lesbians! There’s a reason why no one jokes about straight couples or gay men bringing a U-haul on the second date…but some version of that is one of the most common lesbian relationship problems.) Limerence can fool you into thinking you’re perfect for each other – and set you up for a huge let-down 3-12 months later when the brain chemical high wears off. Solution: Don’t move in together or make other big plans within the first six months, no matter how tempted you are. If it’s real, it will last. Don’t believe the fantasy that your problems or incompatibilities will “get better with time;” most often they’ll actually get worse. Love does not conquer all – you also need to have compatibility! Problem #2 – She’s Not Right For You She could be cute, hot and a great person. You could have a magical, heartfelt connection and amazing chemistry. And she could still be totally wrong for you. Why? Because great as those are, none of those things mean that you and her are compatible for the long haul. Solution: Learn the truth about compatibility (and bust the myths!) The key element is knowing what your relationship vision is, seeking someone with a similar vision, and making sure you both have the skills to manifest that vision. None of us are born knowing how to have a happy, healthy, lasting relationship, and most of us didn’t learn it from our parents, either!. Problem #3 – Giving Yourself up Women are socialized to put other peoples’ needs first. You may think it’s selfish to assert your own preferences or feel like you have to go along with hers in order to be loved. Many women have a deeply ingrained belief that intimate relationships require them to give themselves up. Friends? Work? Hobbies? Alone time? Who needs any of that when you’re in a good relationship, right? Wrong! Sacrificing yourself or changing your life for your girlfriend creates all kinds of lesbian relationship problems. Solution: No two people can share everything, and in fact, the relationship will be richer and more exciting if you honor your different wants and needs, nurture your separate lives and selves, and then come back together again for intimate time. Done right, this movement between togetherness and separateness is a thrilling dance – yet for many of us, it can also bring up fears and push buttons. If that’s happening for you or your gf, get help ASAP before the damage sets in. Problem #4 – Assumptions and Stories “If she cared about me, she wouldn’t have done that.” “She disrespected me when she did that.” We hear women say things like this all the time, and it’s almost never true – but these kinds of assumptions are the source of many lesbian relationship problems. Often, both members of a couple feel alone and mistreated, trapped in their own version of events, rather than really seeing and hearing each other. Someone wise said, “Assumptions make an ASS of you and me.” They were right! Solution: Learn how to recognize and dismantle your habitual stories and assumptions, and ask questions instead. Each woman is a separate universe, and loving someone means getting curious about how things are on her planet. You can’t know why someone does what she does, or how things feel to her until you’re able to ask her – and then listen open-heartedly. Problem #5 – The “Fix-It” Girlfriend Many empathic, loving women have a Florence Nightingale complex: if you meet someone who’s had a hard life, doesn’t trust love, and doesn’t love herself, you just know you can heal all that, right? Wrong! If her life is a mess, that’s okay, you can fix it, right? Wrong again! You can’t have a relationship with her potential – you can only have a relationship with who she is right now. And if she can’t meet you as an equal, the relationship won’t be a happy one. Solution: If you find yourself wanting to help her, you should be her social worker or therapist, not her partner! Seriously, a relationship with this dynamic will be bad for both of you. Either get some help changing it, or end it for both of your sakes. And if you find yourself continually drawn to female fix-it projects, try shifting your attraction patterns. Problem #6 – Treacherous Triggers we’ve all got emotional triggers – hot buttons that get set off by little things, especially when we’re in love. It’s a brain thing called “fight or flight,” and when we’re in it, we’re emotionally volatile. This leads us to relationship-messing-up behaviors like blowing up, yelling, blaming or trying to change our girlfriends. Or shutting down and blaming ourselves. Or getting lost in endless, painful processing loops that never really solve the problem – all common (and completely avoidable) lesbian relationship problems. Solution: Trying to train your girlfriend not to trigger you is an exercise in frustration, like trying to cover the world in leather rather than putting on shoes. Find out how to “put your shoes on” emotionally by learning the skill to de-escalate your own triggers, dismantle the habitual stories you tell yourself, and communicate skillfully. Problem #7 – Criticizing Her Often women criticize their partners without even realizing it. You may think you’re just being helpful, or just telling the truth. But if it comes out as a criticism, you’re essentially pouring battery acid on your relationship. (The #1 cause of relationship failure is “feeling criticized.”) If you’re tempted to criticize, it’s usually because you want something to be different – but criticizing is not an effective way to get what you want. It’ll more likely get you the opposite. Solution: Learn how to communicate skilfully about your feelings and needs, and make requests using intimacy-building language instead of criticizing. Problem #8 – Lesbian Bed Death Yeah, we know you were waiting for this one – but we listed it last because it’s almost always just a side effect of everything else we talked about above! Yes, “lesbian bed death” is a common lesbian relationship problem, but some lesbian couples keep their sexual mojo forever. For those who don’t, the underlying cause is usually unhealthy emotional dynamics (see problems #2, 3, 4, 5, 6 and 7, above.) Now, if you never really had sparks, you may not be sexually compatible. But if you had a strong sexual connection initially, sexual problems are almost always caused by what’s happening outside the bedroom – and that’s where they need to be solved. Solution: If sex is important to you, make sure you find a partner with whom you’re sexually compatible and have strong chemistry. Then make sure you learn the tools to keep your communication strong, heal your conflicts, and balance your intimate time with plenty of autonomy. Source: Conscious lesbian blog

I don't mean to be disrespectful but just leave the poor gurl alone already.. She had her reasons, whatever they are, please respect that. She is aggressive because you weren't so empathic anyway. You are taking it so personal, did she hit you?😕 Be kind jaree and let her be.

Hi everyone i am Anna, 24 and its good to be part of you on here ,i hope as time goes on i will be able learn more from you all and maybe meet new friends on here.....Thanks

5. Gay girls thinks you're being nice when you're actually flirting with them. 6. Straight girls think you're flirting with them when you're actually being nice. 7. Guys won't let you be because to them you're gay 'cos you still haven't tasted a good d**ck. 8. when you miraculously find a girlfriend who is also gay, she's thousand miles away from you. Too much f***kery mehn

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I want to sing for Mama I want to sing of her face, the kindest face I have ever seen I want to sing of her eyes, beautiful big brown eyes I want to sing for mama I want to sing of her heart, Large ,forgiving, and accomodating I want to sing of her embrace, encompassing and comforting I want to sing for mama I want to sing of her smile, the sweetest I have ever seen. I want to sing of her dimples, deeper than the ocean, alluring I want to sing for mama I want to sing of her hair, dark, long and luscious I want to sing of her skin, the fairest of them all I want to sing for mama You see, mama was a goddess, but now she is with God The song is over, but the melody lingers I want to sing for mama.. (To my mum)

Hi Ladies, What a year it has been! We have spent the last couple of weeks thinking about the best possible way to reach out to various groups including but not limited to orphans, students, the elderly, uniform officers e.t.c. It only recently dawned on us that even within our not so small online community there may be one, two or more people who may be distressed financially. It is to this end that we have decided to launch the #HASI – Help A Sister Initiative. As you would expect, this scheme is only open to registered members. To make an application, all you need to do is follow the steps below. You can be rest assured that confidentiality and anonymity will be guaranteed. To apply: Step 1: Write a note (no more than 100 words) on why you deserve the grant. Step 2: Using your registration email address, send a note in (step 1) along with your username as an email to info@naijalez.com Step 3: Admin will post the notes anonymously in the thread created for members to vote and unanimously agree on who the beneficiary should be. Step 4: The note with the most votes is shortlisted and contacted. Step 5: Admin disburses the funds. You may send in your entries from the date of this post valid through to the 20th of December, 2017 as we hope to make disbursement on or before the 23rd of December, 2017. If you read this and think you will like to donate to this initiative, please contact admin privately as well and thank you in advance. PS – considering this is the pilot project, we are looking at a maximum single disbursement of N30,000. Best wishes, FlyJ for the Admins

So inside my head right now. I don't like girls much. Lol. Even though I'm a lesbian, I really don't like the way of girls. Lol. Girls can be mean. Hahahaha. I'm not even going to go into all the things i have experienced concerning girls and how low they can go. I'm just going to drop one. Lol. So how come when girls wanna beef or argue, they never fail to diss each other based on 1) looks 2) material stuffs and how expensive the other is. This is where girls fail and men win. So I recently travelled to Abuja and I went into town to run some stuffs, while I was waiting, two girls started to argue. Apparently one stepped on the others shoes or something like that and the next thing I started hearing was. "You cheap slut, my hair is worth your entire life" The other one says "Oh Mami, you wearing A 2k wig" "Its better than you wearing your natural hair, I'm sure u lack money to make it. You ain't even beautiful, ugly hoe with 200 naira eye lashes" "Honey tuck in your stomach, and baby these lashes cost 5k, why not wash off your make up let's see who's prettier" These girls went on and on and the guys kept howling with laughter. As usual, plain old Vina had to step in. Lol. Usually I would mind my business but these kids were really disturbing my peace. I just shook my head in disbelief at the low level they were fighting. I shouted on them to stop it and I persisted till they finally stopped. Pheww. I don't like bimbos, but I don't even have the right to call anyone a bimbo. Can't us girls argue and disagree without talking about who is using an iPhone X and who uses a techno? Who wears givenchy and who picks okrika? Must we reduce disagreements to that low level? I detest bimbos, people who think they are better than everyone else because they are pretty or privileged. If you argue this way then it shows you are materialistic, dumb and you obviously see people for the outside and biko, drop that attitude in 2017, let it not cross with you. Biko I am begging, drop the attitude, don't let it cross over with you. And if you are one of the girls I just wrote about, the next time this happens and I'm around the vicinity, Nne I will flog you with banana leave.. #flys fence

This thread is beginning to stink.

You pulled this out of my mouth. I decided to keep silent till this morning when I saw your comment. Nobody is a reservoir of knowledge, even the most knowledgeable human on earth doesn't know it all. Calling someone ignorant on a forum like this is uncalled for, and it's an height of insolence. If you do not agree to an opinion or a view, simply state yours and state it intelligently instead of condescending to call somebody ignorant. Give a lil respect, we ain't kids abeg.

For me what l have come to understand over the years, is that you are just who you are. Is either you stop acting on your feelings but does not make you straight bcos within you, you know you are still very much attracted to girls. like my story, l fell in love with a woman who could pass for a mother to me. We lived together for like 10yrs, the first six years we were fully dating and the other four years the relationship was just mutual. The reason why,families and church pressure. so she pleased that we should stop and we have to pray about it to over our feelings for each. lt was a very tough struggle but somehow we did over came it. So at a time l thought, l was straight but still l couldn't date a guy. So what l did, was to have a long distance relationship bcos l couldn't stand a guy being on my neck. Then came the family and church pressure to get married being the first daughter of my mom, who had just two girls. My younger sister was already married. So after so pressure from my woman, bcos she always felt like people are feeling is her that is keeping me from settling down and l was over due. So l decided to settle and l got married to a child hood friend who has always been on my case and he's based abroad. The only reason why l decided to marry him, was because he is based abroad and we had this understanding that l will not relocate, within me, l needed my space. So the marriage was done glamorously, it was like a carnival. My woman sponsored it all to make me happy and escorted me with a fourteen sitter bus filled with all sort of gifts that will make a woman comfortable in marriage and my family was well pleased. Then three months passed and the marriage ended. The guy was a torn in my flesh , he makes trouble over every pin and the mother will not let me be. We got separated. As God will have, l took in the first month. when my child was old enough, l gifted every single thing l had out that has to do with that marriage. SO l relocated to get away from unnecessarily family issues. l have nothing for now for a start but l discovered this genuine peace of mind and am very happy even though l don't have much for now. And l also discovered l genuinely LOVE GIRLS , there is no other way to it, is just who you are. People are surprised at the easy l took the break up, but the truth is, bcos l just love girls. ls true Nigeria is homophobia , but the thing is that you don't have to front your relationships in public. Even the straight people don't go kissing in public in Nigeria , so why should l? This Nigeria!

Took the words right out of my chest baby I also have to add that if you are really searching, you have to get out there. Engage with other women, both on here and in real life(carefully here). Don't be bothered about been thought of as thirsty. So long as your manner of approach isn't tacky or disrespectful, you'll be just fine. And all bae'd up soon enough.

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Can the two of you get a room? Please And no, I'm not jealous

I suppose it all depends on what your expectations are. I personally don't mind whatever her past is as long as the past doesn't dictate our present. This community is still smaller than the average heterosexual community in any state so it is expected that you have a past and you have dated a few people who will also be on this safe space. Whilst some people are serial daters for the heck of it, some actually unfortunately have not been lucky in relationships and are not giving up. To answer the questions, I personally don't have a limit or choose to be bothered about her exes if we are both on the same boat moving forward.

you look like a troubling calm, and even though I barely have the time for everything I'd love to say, you're beautiful unlike an onion, cos there'll be no teary undressing to really see you. the way your eyes are alive with a brand of fire, your dreamy dimples each time your face gets too busy with a smile. the fatal irony that we'd part ways at the bus stop with no hint of what? I hope you look my way though at least I could start with a smile.

This is going to be a long read. I champion reproductive Rights as provided for by Article 14 of the Protocol to the African charter on human right on the rights of women (Maputo protocol) which has long been ratified in Nigeria and is enforceable in our Courts. The Article provides for the sexual and reproductive Rights of women in Africa; including the right to decide whether or not to have children, their spacing and the number of children. I am for women having the liberty and being supported to decide what do with their bodies and not being shamed or criticized for not wanting kids at all or for not wanting more than a certain number. People on the other side tend to argue that every woman in Nigeria wants kids, and so this right is irrelevant and not reflective of cultural realities of our time. I don't think that is the case. What's your take on this? Are there women in Nigeria who would be grateful for this provision? I believe that majority of decisions taken by individuals in Nigeria are influenced by our communal culture. The community is greater than the individual. Being a "free spirit" is frowned upon. I believe there are lots of women who would rather not have kids (at least biologically) for different reasons ranging from fear of childbirth pains, not wanting to risk some health challenges to just not wanting to be bothered. This doesn't make them horrible or selfish people. It just makes them people who have made a choice different from the expected trajectory. The reason why it seems like there isn't much of such women in Nigeria is because they rather conform than face the criticisms that follow such decisions. People doubt your sanity, tell you that you can never love an adopted child as much as you would love a biological child, or tell you that you will grow out of such decisions by "45". We hope one day for a country where there is a balance between collective needs and individual needs, where individuals are not crucified for wanting to be different. That is the only way rights like sexual and reproductive rights can be respected.

I don't believe they would take offense to a non-Muslim's dating preference, but I could be wrong. We are all respectful individuals and I don't believe anyone on this forum would make comments intended to offend them.

I have just 1 goal. Making her happy. Everyday. I feel like every other thing is tied to this 😊

Thanks for that... They both need to have a honest conversation about your friend's realities and certain concerns need to be addressed. Ultimately, after your friend has had this somewhat difficult conversation, all that is left to do is to allow her decide and to respect her decision. That is; to either accept her for who she is which includes her present circumstances or exit the relationship and not cause further damage... your friend needs to be firm and strong (I understand that this may be very emotionally crippling). She needs to love herself enough and risk losing someone who perhaps doesn't feel the same way about her because the truth is, actions speak louder than words. Personally, I am of the opinion that people who look down on others do so because of their own insecuirities of being inadequate.

I am not so great with introductions/bios. As a matter of fact, I was going to leave it but a certain somebody kept pushing. She said, "Do it, do it, introduce yourself, don't be like THOSE other girls..." So, here I am. Y'all can call me Union. I am 26 years old and I am bisexual. During the week, I treat minor ailments, give medications and medication advice, etc. In summary, I am a Legal Drug Lord (please don't ask me for coke or codeine. I am not at home LOL). On weekends, I am your girl next door, trying out new vices. I have been reading this site since God knows when but as a guest. I know everybody already. I mean the oldbies. Kimi, I love you so much, you're an amazing person. Vina, you write so beautifully. Your story had me smiling and also shedding tears last night. Gambiyaa (I hope I get it right. If not, please forgive me), I love how you stand for what you believe in and how you present your argument. So, late last year, the universe brought 2 strong beautiful women into my life, one bisexual and the other gay. Fam, for the first time in my life, I could sit with my friends and freely check out other women. We could share hook up stories too. We knew what we were and we weren't ashamed. 3 whole weeks of that awesome experience. Fam, I lived! I decided to join the site in the spirit of trying out new things. I have been doing that since my girlfriend broke up with me. There's a whole world of possibility out there. Tired of hiding in safety. I am ready to make friends and have deep connections with people in the community. See, I am not perfect. I just want to be happy. PS: If you have any health issues, questions, etc. I am your girl. Hit me up!

@Jenny1403 I'm sorry if my comments came across as insensitive. It wasn't my intention. I respect your reasons for wanting to state what happened. I mentioned in my first comment that I was rooting for you both, needless to say I wasn't happy that the love went sour. I may not have expressed it in the best way, and I guess that's why you came at me, but my comment had no ill backing to it. I'm apologizing cos I don't want any war of words over something as little as this. Armies are rising, and even though I am equal to the task, I don't think this post or even this site as a whole is the right place to have a war of words. I do hope you accept my apology, and let's move on from this. Thank you.

Achia m final🤣🤣🤣🤣 ROFL The gentleman with punk hair even killed it with "I will attend MY own".. Chineke!

I met a girl. Tall, royal even regal and Nubian. I met a girl and she was African. I looked into her eyes and saw the world. Who has eyes this deep? Why do I see myself in you? I saw a girl, and I saw myself in her. When she caught me looking she smiled and my heart melted. How can I fall in love with someone I just met and haven't even spoken to? I love myself and I saw myself in her. Strong African Queen. Head up, shoulders high. I love her, I love her. I want to scream it but I look around me and think better of it. My eyes stray to her hands and they look strong, and long and beautiful. She works hard and I love her. I breathe in out and start to make my way to her, this strong beautiful black woman. I almost get to her when a man comes out of nowhere and lays a claim to her. It's logical that she's taken, it's logical. Yet again I lose but I'm not sad.

This description is not vivid biko. How about the bazuka and headlight?

This right here is some unnecessary, undeserved bullshit comment. Very bullshit. I would expect from the level of intelligence that you seem to exude, that you would know better than to call anybody ignorant because of their POV. We are all f***king ignorant. Not a single human knows why we are here nor why we do the things we do. Matter of fact, I'd like to meet somebody, anybody that has the answer to any of life's pressing questions. So for you to come online and call somebody ignorant on a topic that has no MASTER is not only a let down, f***king rude but also smacks of unmerited arrogance.

Hahaha... i laughed just as i titled my topic. Well, it's my turn at introduction. Lol what did you think i meant? I am quiet excited at been here. I was convinced even before i was approved that this forum would be different just as my friend mentioned, the procedure was stringent. Shout out to the Lady who called me on the phone for verification. Thank my world she hung up quick enough, i was beginning to take in her voice hehehe. This days i find myself flirting with almost every girl who catches my fancy but here; is serious business to find a soulmate. Okay, i can be very playful but serious minded. I am light skinned, petite, gemini, igbo, introvertedextrovert, a femme and live in Lagos. I don't want much except that it's important that i like a fine face and lips,good smell,well bred,fashion sense,soft spoken and someone who will carry my matter on her head lol. You know what i mean yeh? A clingy kinda tomchick, Stud or butch as the case maybe. I also need friends. I have only been to a gay party once, hoping to make few acquaintances on here who are sociable and outgoing so we could enjoy the awesomeness of been surrounded by people of same sexual preferences at a party. I wish to wild out sometime soon and i also wish to meet my hearthrob on here. Thank you for having me...