Search the Community
Showing results for tags 'africanlesbians'.
-
-
Do you practice this and do you agree?
-
Would you rather be stuck with Toke or Tacha for a month for N2m?
-
Question Does age matter to you when dating? What do you consider too young or too old?
-
Kehlani, who has long identified as queer and bisexual, proclaimed herself a lesbian via a TikTok post today (April 22). In her video, the singer and songwriter said, “I am gay, gay, gay. … I finally know I’m a lesbian.” The Oakland-born artist joked about coming out to her family as a lesbian. “We know, duh,” she says was her family’s reaction. The news won’t come as much of a surprise to fans either. As a member and advocate of the LGBTQ community, Kehlani who goes by she/they pronouns, had comments about their sexuality previously, writing in a now-deleted tweet: “I felt gay always insisted there was still a line drawn as to which ‘label’ of human I was attracted when I really just be walking around thinking ERRYBODY FINE.” However, she hadn’t come out to her family at that point. But she had also posted a video where she said, “Never have I identified as a lesbian.” Eagle-eyed fans had noticed Kehlani drop the news earlier this month via a short Instagram live video where she confessed, “You wanna know what’s new about me? I finally know I’m a lesbian!” In that same video, she adds, “I just wanted y’all to know that everyone knew but me.” The 25-year-old has a two-year-old daughter, Adeya, and just last year released her second album, “It Was Good Until It Wasn’t,” via Atlantic Records. The album featured guest appearances by Tory Lanez, Jhené Aiko, Lucky Daye and James Blake, among others. Watch the video (via PopCrave) below Source
-
I was born gay, and in even in death, I'll be gay - Bisi Alimi
FlyJ posted a topic in Debates - Express and Discuss
Do you agree with him? -
"I don't play, I slay" -Bisi Alimi says
-
Welcome to For fags sake! Here, you have a safe space to be a faggot in Nigeria. All members of the LGBTQ community are welcome. I make videos on queer issues while being fabulous. Don't bother being homophobic, I've heard all you have to say and honestly, I don't care! In this video, I and Matthew react to a video of a man claiming to have gone through gay deliverance. It was important to debunk this myth pushed by Christians and reiterate that being a homosexual isn’t something to be delivered of.
-
The couple who agreed there's no way to know if someone is the right one, revealed that they met on Tinder and started dating in February 2021. They said that they decided to go public with their relationship to encourage other gay men not to hide theirs. According to him, no one tells straight people to hide their relationship. Doyin’s son said he asked Mfaome out first and also disclosed that they are same age. He further revealed that Mfaome makes him a better person and also compliments him.
-
He pointed out that such people have no problems with a Chinese man speaking English with a Chinese accent. But when an Igbo man speaks English with an Igbo accent, he's laughed at and called Igbotic. Source
-
Read the story below ''A Christian brother travelled to the UK, he disembarked from the plane to discover his international passport with 5 years visa had been stolen or missing. He complained to the officials, they tried everything they could for him. The document was not found. He was returned to Nigeria. People started shouting “Village people”. About six pastors and even the ones he knew in the UK before traveling to Nigeria all saw the hand of the enemy. This brother started moving from one pastor to the other seeking a solution to the “village people” after him. His younger sister brought him to one of our programmes He told me everything I asked him if he was a born again Christian He said yes What do you do in the UK He said he was a barber and he had a thriving practice Where do you live? He mentioned the location, he said he was sharing Accommodation with about 20 other people They all troop out to work during the day and come in late at night to sleep and troop out again Some of the guys living with him are into drug, some into fraud et. I started laughing I asked him if he had called any of those guys since he got deported He said no I asked why? He said he didn’t want everybody to know he was in a jam I said please call one of them This was in 2018 June! He had been in the UK since 1998 and only came to Nigeria in 2018 to celebrate his mother’s 70th Birthday. He placed the call, the Person that picked filled him in about a police raid that happened in their house three days after the day he was supposed to have returned to the UK The police and other agencies went to raid their house in the middle of the night and everyone was in jail. The brother couldn’t Close his mouth He was just stammering Many so called pastors are wired to pronounce negative stuff and project fear and evil If indeed God is your father, he could subject you to a minor inconvenience in order to preserve you from a huge mess! The brother’s passport was found and mailed to him in Nigeria by an air hostess He eventually married the lady last year and they are both living in the USA now. None of those “village people announcers” saw that coming! When you’re in Christ, you either walk in the light or you walk in denial of the light!''
-
What are your thoughts about this video?
-
The man invited a lady out and she came with a committee. He just paid his own bill and abandoned them. What will you do if it were you?
-
What an interesting perspective on relationship and friendship from Silverline. Enjoy!
-
Copied Is there anyone in a lesbian polygamous relationship or experience BDSM? This is a judgement free zone.
-
Bishop Oyedepo: If You Don’t Pay Your Tithe You Are Under A Financial Curse
FlyJ posted a topic in Latest News and Gist
Presiding Bishop of Living Faith Church Worldwide popularly known as Winners’ Chapel International, David Oyedepo, via his Twitter account has stated that people who don’t pay tithe are “under a financial curse” and can never prosper. -
You are about to eat this food and receive a break-up message from your partner. What will you do? Will you eat or walk away?
-
-
Vanity Fair Cover Is By A Black Photographer For The First Time
FlyJ posted a topic in Latest News and Gist
Vanity Fair has commissioned a Black photographer to shoot its cover for the first time, an overdue step for a magazine that has long weathered criticism for a lack of diverse racial representation in its pages. The cover of the magazine’s July/August issue, featuring actor Viola Davis, was shot by photographer Dario Calmese, whose photo of Davis aims to reimagine her as “as both the Black Madonna — associated with empowerment, transformation and change — as well as the Greek Goddess Athena — who represents justice, triumph and wisdom.” “This image reclaims that narrative, transmuting the white gaze on Black suffering into the Black gaze of grace, elegance, and beauty,” he said in the magazine. The image was inspired by an 1863 photograph of Peter Gordon, a runaway Black enslaved person, featured in a special issue of Harper’s Weekly during the Civil War. In the accompanying cover story, Davis herself pointed out the long-standing lack of Black representation on the iconic magazine’s covers. “They’ve had a problem in the past with putting Black women on the covers,” Davis said. “But that’s a lot of magazines, that’s a lot of beauty campaigns. There’s a real absence of dark-skinned Black women. When you couple that with what’s going on in our culture, and how they treat Black women, you have a double whammy. You are putting us in a complete cloak of invisibility.” “Davis is right, about Black women — and men (and, for that matter, other people of color as well as LGBTQ+ subjects),” Vanity Fair editor-in-chief Radhika Jones wrote in an editor’s letter introducing the new issue. “For most of the magazine’s history, a Black artist, athlete, or politician appearing on a regular monthly issue of Vanity Fair was a rare occurrence. In our archives, excluding groups and special issues, we count 17 Black people on the cover of Vanity Fair in the 35 years between 1983 and 2017.” The magazine has had several iterations dating back to 1913. Jones wrote that “to the best of our knowledge, it is the first Vanity Fair cover made by a Black photographer.” The long overdue step was sparked by the reckoning over racial inequity currently happening across many industries, including media — and at Condé Nast, Vanity Fair’s parent company, in particular. Last month, Bon Appétit editor Adam Rapoport resigned after freelance food journalist Tammie Teclemariam resurfaced a racist photo of him. His resignation opened deeper conversations on the ways the magazine has underpaid and undervalued staffers of color. The outlet has also exoticized or co-opted dishes, ingredients and culinary practices that originated in communities of color, including by featuring white chefs or food writers as supposed experts. Days later, Vogue editor-in-chief Anna Wintour acknowledged to the magazine’s staff that “Vogue has not found enough ways to elevate and give space to Black editors, writers, photographers, designers and other creators,” she wrote in an internal email. “We have made mistakes too, publishing images or stories that have been hurtful or intolerant. I take full responsibility for those mistakes.” In 2018, after 126 years, Vogue’s cover was shot by a Black photographer for the first time. The cover star was Beyoncé, who was given complete control and pushed for a Black photographer, selecting Tyler Mitchell to photograph her for the cover. Last week, Vogue released its newest cover, which features gymnast Simone Biles, shot by legendary photographer Annie Leibovitz. But observers quickly pointed out that the magazine could have commissioned a Black photographer instead. For her part, Jones, who became Vanity Fair’s top editor at the end of 2017, has pushed for a wider range of stars to be featured on its cover and its pages. That began with actor and writer Lena Waithe, who was photographed by Leibovitz for the cover of Jones’ first issue at the helm, in April 2018 — marking a new direction for the magazine. “No amount of praise or censure affects me, in my current role, so much as the hope that our choices might inspire a young person — a future actor, director, photographer, writer — to pursue their own creative vision or imagine themself in our pages,” Jones wrote Tuesday. “Iconography carries influence.” Source -
-
-
Two men who were jailed for having sex in the privacy of a hotel room in Zambia have been released as part of an amnesty to celebrate Africa Day. Japhet Chataba, 39, and Steven Sambo, 31, were among more than 2,900 prisoners pardoned by President Edgar Lungu last Friday to mark the founding of the Organisation of African Unity, now known as the African Union, on 25 May 1963. Chataba and Sambo were arrested in October 2017 at a lodge in after an employee, who saw them having sex through a window, called the police. They were reportedly forced to undergo an anal examination, a practice internationally recognised as a form of torture, which was conducted 10 days after they had sex. The men were convicted of having sex “against the order of nature” in 2018 and their 15-year sentence was upheld in the Lusaka High Court in 2019. The sentencing caused a diplomatic row when US Ambassador Daniel Foote publicly criticised the Zambian government for allowing the two men to be jailed. “Decisions like this oppressive sentencing do untold damage to Zambia’s international reputation by demonstrating that human rights in Zambia [are] not a universal guarantee,” Foote wrote in a statement. Zambia’s government was infuriated by the ambassador speaking out, with President Lungu claiming that he’d been disrespectful towards Zambian culture and values. Lungu went on to fiercely defend the country’s criminalisation of homosexuality in an interview with Sky News, “We know that there could be people who are homosexual in Zambia but we don’t want to promote it,” Lungu said. “We frown on it… the practice… most of us think it’s wrong… it’s unbiblical and unchristian… and we don’t want it.” Washington was forced to pull Foote from the country because his position was “no longer tenable” as the Zambiam government had refused to continue to work with him. Source
-
This is his story (with modest editing and a few typographical errors corrected): The 19th of May 2020 was the luckiest day of my life. It was a sweet-bitter experience. It started at about 5:45 pm. I got a phone call from an acquaintance of mine who happened to have visited my house once sometime last month, saying that “he was in the area and wanted to come and say hi”. I admitted that I was home and that he was welcome to come. Lo and behold, at 5:58 pm my doorbell rang, and, when I opened up, I saw a team of six police officers from SARS [the Special Anti-Robbery Squad], all geared up and the said acquaintance was standing in front of them, cuffed. I was dumbfounded and, at the same time, surprised to see this person in handcuffs in the company of police officers because of how responsible and smart this individual was. Before I could ask any questions, the officers asked if I knew their suspect and I replied yes. That was when all hell broke loose. They barged into my home and began to enter into all the rooms and compartments, ransacking my house and roughly searching my personal belongings. While I was busy asking the officers their reasons for this invasion, they were busy handcuffing me while turning my bedroom upside down. Upon further inquiring about their station and the warrant for this arrest, one of the officers gave me a slap that rang bells in my ears. At this point, I just needed to calm down and follow the situation as it unfolded. I asked that I may wear my clothes because I had only boxers. While in cuffs, I put on my pants and hung my shirt on my shoulder as they took my phones, wallet, and house keys and ordered me out of the house. I managed to lock the front door. They dragged me down the stairs. Bear in mind, they not yet told me what my crime was. When we got to the gate, I saw their Sienna car and recognized their station,` which happened to be the dreaded Safe Delta Squad. The police command in Delta state had set up a special operational squad named “Safe Delta” to fight against kidnapping, cultism, and other criminal activities throughout the three senatorial districts of the state. This squad is the most dreaded and toughest among the Delta State Police Force. To give you a clear picture of how they operate: If you happen to be a victim, your phones will be confiscated and nobody will know your whereabouts until they are done with their investigations. Their station is located along the Asaba-Benin expressway before Isselle-Asagba, which is two villages after the Asaba metropolitan. Only a few know exactly where this station is located and mostly those who have in one way or the other became their victims, particularly, young men that look good and drive good cars. Well, that is a story for another day. They dragged me inside their car and zoomed off in the presence of onlookers. While we were on our way, I kept asking the acquaintance what led to the situation. I kept asking the officers what his crime was while equally letting them know that I am a Human Rights Defender and have worked with the police in the State to combat crimes. I stated how I knew their former commander and my organization’s contributions to the police force in Asaba. I was doing all these so I could get them to at least tell me what’s going on. But unfortunately, they were calling my bluff. In all these, I refrained from exposing my identity cards until I was sure of the crime in question. On getting to the station, they kept me behind the counter while they were busy facilitating the bail of this suspect that brought them to my house. After about 10 minutes, they called me into one of the offices, unlocked the cuffs, and showed me my Whatsapp chat with this said acquaintance. I asked the officer reading the chat, the essence of repeating conversations I already know I had with the said person. That was when he told me that the said individual admitted that he was a homosexual and claimed that I have been his enabler. At this point I got a clear picture of the situation and geared myself for the drama that followed. As all these were going on, I remembered that #IDAHOBIT2020 just happened two days before and the theme #BreakingTheSilence informed my decision to out myself to the police officers by fearlessly and courageously admitting before the officers that I am a gay man and that I work with an organisation that offers services, particularly sexual health care, HIV prevention, treatment and care for gay men in the State. And that the said person was a client at LIFFE’s facility, of which I happen to be the programs director and no other strings attached. That was when the Investigating Police Officer (IPO) said that I am a criminal and that my work was contrary the Same-Sex Marriage Prohibition Act (SSMPA) and that I was arrested in connection to a crime of planned bank robbery which involved homosexual men who the said acquaintance was chatting with on Whatsapp. I was quick to recite the language of the SSMPA and reminded them that being gay as an identity is not yet a crime in Nigeria. One particular officer kept asking me if God was happy with me and if I know the implications of what I was saying. It became like a tussle of words because I never gave in to their intimidating and derogatory words. I responded with real facts and stood my ground. At this point, at about 7:50 pm the said suspect was bailed and he left with his surety while I was handed a police statement sheet to write my statement based on questions the IPO asked me. I kept on demanding that I needed my phones to make calls but the officer was busy perusing through my chats and photo gallery and wowing at the erotic photos of men on my phone. To cut this long episode short, I wrote my statement and my detention order was prepared. At about 8:35 pm, I was detained inside the police cell without the option of contacting anybody. At the early hours of 20th May 2020, LIFFE’s Project Manager (PM) Obinna Obiasulu Samuel was able to locate the police station where I was, after many efforts in visiting all the police stations in town the previous night when the news of my arrests came to light. The arrogant IPO asked him to leave and come back at 4 pm without granting audience or even allowing him to meet with me. Through all of this, I kept my wits and maintained my boldness to the awe of the cell inmates who I engaged in a conversation about human sexuality conversation, after which they admitted to having learned new things. Even though some of their homophobia was glaring, we had a good conversation, shared experiences, and learned from each other to the surprise of the rogue officers who thought they would have beaten me up. Finally, the PM was able to get the Delta State Police Headquarters to call the station’s Commander and demanded that my immediate release be effected. This came as a surprise and shock to them and my bail was immediately facilitated at the return of the PM without the presence of the IPO. They demanded 150,000 naira [about U.S. $385] for my bail and the PM who had already corroborated my statements made them understand that bail is free. At about 5:45 pm, I returned safely to my house but I will go back to the station to recover my phones as it was in the possession of the IPO who was absent at the time of my bail. Although I longer feel safe in my house and stand the risk of police arbitrary arrest anytime, I was fulfilled that I had borne true witness of my identity even in the toughest situation and before law enforcement officers without fear or shame. I was fulfilled and glad that I was able to break the silence and shame associated with homosexuality before policemen who are so quick to extort gay men by threatening to charge them in court if they refuse to admit to the crime of homosexuality. In this case, I admitted my homosexuality but made sure to erase any foreseen crime. Even though they pressured me to admit to gay sex by asking who my partner was and how I practice the said homosexuality but part of my statement read thus “I have been aware of my innate and natural attractions to same-sex but I have never acted on it all my life”. Wisdom, they say, is profitable to the wise. Source
-
Social Media Tales Have you ever been on a date with someone & you plan to friend zone them after the 1st date?
