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IMO, majority of our unhappiness in life comes from covert contracts. Especially in Nigeria, we write such contracts on almost every issue in life. A covert contract is when you decide, on your own, that you’ll do certain things, and automatically expect the other person to reciprocate or respond. The funny part is that you get pissed when they do not hold up their end of the contract you drew up in your head. The line between covert contracts and etiquettes is fat. Very fat, there is nothing thin about it. 1. You decide to hold a door open for someone and get offended when they don't run up to pass through. 2. You buy stuff for a lady you like and pick offence when she says "we are just friends". 3. You are existing your parking lot at the mall and instead of just driving on, you gestured for somebody to park in the space you just created (they would have still gotten to that anyway) and you are annoyed that they didn't wave a "thank you". 4. A stranger is seated directly in front of you in church, you spot a thread in her hair and pull it out but she doesn't as much as turn around to acknowledge, you wonder how ill-brought up someone can be. The list goes on. You get annoyed because people do not conform to your ideas, script and plans. How to cut that headache you are giving yourself? Do your act of kindness from your heart. Let go of expecting anything in return. Trust me, it's a blissful feeling.
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