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An Orthodox Israeli rabbi has claimed the spread of the deadly coronavirus in Israel and around the world is divine retribution for gay pride parades. The remarks by Rabbi Meir Mazuz, reported by the Israel Hayom daily on Sunday, drew condemnation from rights groups, including the Anti-Defamation League, which urged him to apologize. An influential Sephardic rabbi, Mazuz is the former spiritual leader of the defunct ultra-nationalist and homophobic Yachad party, and is head of the Kiseh Rahamim yeshiva in Bnei Brak. On Saturday night he gave a talk at the yeshiva, during which, according to the report, he said a pride parade is “a parade against nature, and when someone goes against nature, the one who created nature takes revenge on him.” Mazuz said that countries all over the world are being called to account because of their gay pride events, “except for the Arab countries that don’t have this evil inclination.” That was why, he claimed — falsely suggesting there has only been one case of infection in the Arab world — they have not seen a spread of coronavirus. The outbreak in Iran, one of the most serious in any country, he explained as being due to the wicked ways of Iranians and “their hatred of Israel.” According to the newspaper, Mazuz had earlier claimed Israel would be protected from the coronavirus. “It is regrettable that in times like these when the whole world comes together to eradicate coronavirus, Rabbi Mazuz finds it appropriate to blame the virus’s outbreak on the LGBTQ community. We harshly condemn his statements and urge him to apologize,” the ADL’s Israel branch said in a statement. The modern Orthodox Ne’emanei Torah Va’Avodah group also condemned Mazuz’s remarks. “Using this time of need to incite against the LGBT community is unacceptable. Trying to get people to return to religion cannot come at the price of harming others,” it said in a statement. Israel has thus far had 39 cases of coronavirus, including 14 new cases announced on Sunday night, but no deaths. Mazuz is no stranger to controversy or hateful rhetoric. In November 2015 he claimed gay pride parades and other forms of “sinful behavior” were the reason terrorists murdered Eitam and Naama Henkin on October 1, 2015. At a memorial event for the Henkins, Mazuz said that their shooting death at the hands of Palestinian terrorists had been a form of divine retribution. In 2016 Mazuz attributed the collapse of a Tel Aviv parking garage that killed six people and an explosion that destroyed the Amos-6 satellite to Shabbat desecration. Israel has two major gay pride parades each year, one in Tel Aviv and another in the capital, Jerusalem, which is billed as promoting tolerance. Source

The Church of England has stated that sex belongs only within heterosexual marriage, and that sex in gay or straight civil partnerships “falls short of God’s purpose for human beings”. Bishops have issued pastoral guidance in response to the recent introduction to mixed-sex civil partnerships, which says: “For Christians, marriage – that is, the lifelong union between a man and a woman, contracted with the making of vows – remains the proper context for sexual activity.” The church “seeks to uphold that standard” in its approach to civil partnerships, and “to affirm the value of committed, sexually abstinent friendships” within such partnerships. It adds: “Sexual relationships outside heterosexual marriage are regarded as falling short of God’s purpose for human beings.” The affirmation of traditional teaching at a time when the church is undergoing a major review of sexuality and marriage will delight conservatives. The Civil Partnership Act came into force in December 2005, allowing same-sex couples to acquire a legal status and rights in relation to property, inheritance and tax entitlement. In 2013, same-sex marriage was legalised. The C of E does not permit same-sex marriage. It allows clergy to be in same-sex civil partnerships as long as they are sexually abstinent. After the supreme court ruled in 2018 that mixed-sex couples should also have the right to a civil partnership, the law was amended. The first mixed-sex civil partnerships were registered last month. The Rev Dr Malcolm Brown, the C of E’s director of mission and public affairs, said: “Civil partnership is not the same as marriage, which is founded on the taking of solemn public vows and is recognised in the church’s teaching as the only proper context for sexual relationships. “So, as with same-sex civil partnerships, there is no formal service or blessing but clergy will, as always, be encouraged to respond pastorally to couples wishing to formalise their relationship in this way.” This week the C of E House of Bishops issued a new pastoral statement on civil partnerships, restating traditional teaching on sex and marriage. The bishops say that, unlike traditional marriage vows, the legislation on civil partnerships “leaves entirely open the nature of the commitment that members of a couple choose to make to each other when forming a civil partnership. In particular, it is not predicated on the intention to engage in a sexual relationship. “Because of the ambiguity about the place of sexual activity within civil partnerships of both sorts, and the church’s teaching that marriage between a man and a woman is the proper context for sexual intercourse, we do not believe it is possible for the church unconditionally to accept civil partnerships as unequivocally reflecting the teaching of the church.” C of E clergy “should not provide services of blessing for those who register a civil partnership”. The church has been racked by divisions for decades on what it says about and how it deals with LGBT issues. It has embarked on a large study of human sexuality, Living in Love and Faith, which is due to be completed this year. Many LGBT people within the church say they have been made to feel unwelcome, and activists have campaigned for the church to allow same-sex marriage and bless same-sex civil partnerships. Many observers have attributed the church’s stark decline among young people to its stance on LGBT issues. Conservatives in the church are likely to be heartened by the bishops’ statement, which concludes: “The church’s teaching on sexual ethics remains unchanged.” While upholding its position that marriage is a lifelong union between a man and woman, the bishops say the church seeks to “minister sensitively and pastorally to those Christians who conscientiously decide to order their lives differently”. Jayne Ozanne, a campaigner for LGBT rights and a member of the C of E’s ruling body, the General Synod, said: “I’m sadly unsurprised by the content of this statement but I’m deeply saddened by its tone. “It will appear far from ‘pastoral’ to those it discusses and shows little evidence of the ‘radical new Christian inclusion’ that we have been promised. I look forward to the day when the C of E sets its house in order, extends a proper welcome to all and makes confused ‘pastoral statements’ like this redundant.” Linda Woodhead, a professor in the department of politics, philosophy and religion at Lancaster University, said: “The C of E is unable to get over its fixation on homosexuality, which is driving the the national church into a position more like a fundamentalist sect and does not speak to the vast majority of younger people today.” Source

The Emir of Gwandu and the Chairman Kebbi Council of Chiefs, Alhaji Muhammadu Bashar, has attributed the current security challenges in the country to the way in which Nigerians have been ignoring God’s commands and adopting satanic behaviours. The Emir said such satanic behaviours include rampant homosexuality, rape and lesbianism, which were causative factors of insecurity in the country. The monarch made the observation while addressing his subjects after Eid-el-Kabir prayer in Birnin Kebbi on Sunday. “The society today is bedevilled by cases of rape, homosexuality, lesbianism, kidnapping and rampant killings which resulted into the present insecurity Nigeria is faced with,” he said. He charged the general public, especially parents to instill discipline and respect in their children by giving them sound education. “I give glory to God for giving us the opportunity to witness another Sallah. “The present ills in our society is also due to indiscipline and too much love for material wealth,” he said. Bashar warned that unless the people fear to sin against God and parents remain committed to imbibing good family values, the country would continue to face instability. The Emir also called on the people to be compassionate and supportive to the needy, saying that those who were able to sacrifice animals during the Eid should endeavour to share the meet with the poor and other needy persons. He prayed to Allah to continue to bless the country and give leaders the wisdom to better the lives of people. In his Sallah message, Gov. Atiku Bagudu of Kebbi, prayed for peaceful return of pilgrims from Saudi Arabia. Bagudu appealed to communities living along flood prone areas across the state to relocate to upper areas in order to avoid being affected by flood. He thanked President Muhammadu Buhari for assenting to the bill converting College of Agriculture, Zuru to the status of a University. (NAN). Source

So I have seen a lot of couples coordinate their outfits for pictures or for parties and stuff. I have seen lesbian couples sew outfits from Ankara and it's always cute but is it something you would do? Have you tried it before? What are your general thoughts on wearing the same color of things as boo?

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Research confirms that more than half of women who consume same-sex male pornography are watching it because they feel it is more authentic than other genres, according to a new study by London's Middlesex University. "Male gays in the female gaze: Women who watch m/m pornography," by researcher Lucy Neville, drew research from a recent survey from adult film site PornHub. Women appear at a physiological level to find gay male sex just as arousing as heterosexual sex, according to Neville's research. The study detailed in the book investigated why exactly women are aroused by watching male-on-male sex by surveying 275 self-identified women who watch gay male porn. The sample included straight, bisexual, lesbian, queer, asexual, pansexual, and demisexual women; 68 percent of participants also watched heterosexual pornography, and 53 percent also watched lesbian pornography. However, 82 percent of participants preferred gay male pornography over other genres. The overwhelming reason the women watched gay male porn was that they felt it was more authentic than other genres. "Respondents were more able to believe that both actors were enjoying the experience and that the sexual desire and pleasure between them, therefore, felt more ‘authentic,’" according to the research. Participants felt that because men on screen had very visual cues that indicated sexual desire such as erections and ejaculation, the actors "weren't faking it." They also felt male adult film stars as opposed to female performers were "enjoying each other more rather than simply playing to the camera." The women also said that they felt they shared a more common gaze with the target audience as opposed to heterosexual and lesbian porn, which is predominantly made for heterosexual men, and they felt gay men's point of view was more in line with their personal preferences and desires. By watching same-sex male porn, women also enjoyed that they could avoid seeing female bodies used as powerless sexual objects under the control of men. They perceived the rough sex in gay porn as more tasteful than behaviors displayed in heterosexual and lesbian porn, without it feeling "non-consensual." Some also appreciated that they were not presented with a female porn star they would "be jealous of" or "subconsciously compare themselves to "causing them to feel "uncomfortable about their own bodies." Other participants simply enjoyed the taboo of gay sex and the idea they would never experience what was happening on their laptops. Source

I decided to compare lesbian relationships rather than homosexual relationships since I am not very familiar with how gay relationships work. Basically, I noticed that in a lot of heterosexual relationships, forgiving offenses even as serious as cheating is normal. 'Water under the bridge' people say. It's normal to meet a couple who have been together for decades tell you of a time when either one of them had been physically manhandled by the other but 'he/ she has changed' comes the triumphant smile at the end. Lesbian relationships however seem to have a different story to tell. A minute argument could end a relationship. An unfounded, unconfirmed feeling of distrust could spell doom for a couple. Sometimes it seems like lesbians are looking to date angels while the heterosexuals are okay dating mortals with all their faults and all. In several heterosexual relationships, exes getting back together and eventually getting married is normal, while lesbians scream 'my vomit?! Me lick my vomit!?' The statistics also make me wonder, considering that finding 6-8year old lesbian relationships in Nigeria has become as tedious as searching for a black goat in the night with no light. What are your thoughts on this? Do we lesbians expect too much from our partners and our relationships?

So I saw the preview to the movie on NL first but then I forgot about it. I finally got my hands on it this weekend and phew, very hot things in this movie. The movie is a typical queer girl meets 'straight girl' in a relationship but still pursues her. Chaos ensues and bla-bla-bla. Just imagine Jenny and Marina in season 1 of Lword. SOME SMALL SPOILERS: I didn’t appreciate when Dallas didn’t stand up to the sexist men when they were catcalling, and the way she treated Joselyn was annoying. Almost like she was trying to hard to be Shane. But following that their initial conversation at the bar was nice and their first kiss was just the right amount of want, teasing, and asking the reluctant partner to take control. I can totally see how that will happen in real life and the ensuing freaking out with her friend. The sexuality, curiosity and discovery was handled with a lot of honesty. The scene in the bathroom where Jasmine masturbated to her working was just that: indulging in a fantasy you can't have, yet you want so desperately. That is something I can even see myself doing. Thumbs up to the sound engineer. Their scene behind the dumpster was HOT. The foreplay on the car was sizzling. When Dallas asked Jasmine about the strap-on, and all she got was a leg raised, I almost came in my pants. That is enthusiastic consent handled with class. Then leading her hands to control how deep she wanted it to go, just phew! The face sitting was electric. The tribbing was realistic. Basically, the sex was tasteful not not as performative as Blue Is The Warmest Color. Their post-sex talks about their wants, needs, desires were unraveled like poetry. Layer by layer, exposed one after the other. They were reckless, electric, playful, wild, hot. And did they burn hot. One of the things I love about the movie is the fact that a strap-on was visible in many scenes. I think too many people shy away from displaying or discussing the simple fact that many queer women (lesbians, bisexuals, GNCs, pansexuals) enjoy and participate in penetrative sex. The butches, the femmes, the masculine-off-center, many people enjoy toys and I am glad it was so effortlessly introduced. MAJOR SPOILERS: DO NOT PROCEED IF YOU HAVEN'T SEEN THE MOVIE When the fiancee caught them and she said "she is a woman," that broke my heart. Too many times people say that like it doesn’t make a difference. Like women can't be in relationships and be in love, and f***k each other. Like it is half a relationship. It really hurt coming from another queer. In fact, he was the one who countered her. All in all, I am conflicted in how the movie ended. I am glad that they got a happy ending, but I am unhappy that two people who cheated got away with it. Urgh! For those of you who have seen it, what do you think?

A lesbian twin and her straight sister have been studied by scientists who are searching for answers about human sexuality. Researchers hoping to identify genetic and environmental factors associated with sexuality hit the jackpot when they discovered identical twins Sarah Nunn, who is attracted to men, and Rosie Albewhite, who is attracted to women. The 29-year-old sisters were investigated by scientists as part of a study aiming to learn more about how sexuality develops in childhood. The sisters were among 55 other twins studied by researchers at the University of Essex in England. Sarah recalled Rosie’s tomboy tendencies as they were growing up, telling The Times her boyfriends “instantly felt more at home” with her sister. “She liked [soccer], talked about boy things, played video games,” she said. “They’d be like, ‘Sarah, you’re really boring. I’m going to go and play with Rosie.'” “I’d get jealous that they liked her better.” But Sarah was quick to understand that her twin wasn’t interested in boys romantically. “When they tried to get romantic with Rosie she’d say, ‘That’s not me.’ Then they came back,” she explained. The new research will build on previous scientific studies that searched for signs of how sexuality, such as gender-atypical mannerisms of behavior, manifests before puberty. Academics have struggled to produce concrete results in the past due to difficulties determining whether reported behavior patterns were remembered accurately. But the new research using dozens of twins and photographs from their childhoods could shed light on the subject. University of Essex psychology academic Gerulf Rieger and his colleague Tuesday Watts asked Sarah, Rosie and other twins with “discordant sexual orientations” to send them childhood pictures so they could be shown to strangers who were unaware of the purpose of the experiment. The strangers were then asked to try and spot how the signs of the twins’ behavior, clothing, and play diverged and pinpoint how and when it happened. The study is somewhat controversial, as suggesting firm links exist between sexuality and gender could be seen as reinforcing stereotypes about male and female behavior, which some say is harmful. But pictures provided by the twins make this issue difficult to avoid and show Sarah styling herself as female characters like Barbie, while Rosie suited up as Batman. As the years passed, Rosie said she remembered wondering why she was less interested in boys than her sister. “I questioned it for so long,” she said. “Sarah was really boy crazy.” Rosie even rejected her own boyfriend’s advances at one point, realizing she did not want to kiss him. But Sarah stepped in and said: “I’m the same … I will kiss you.” Rieger said the research into differences pre-puberty unlocked valuable insights about sexual identity. He believes the most likely explanation for the divergence in behavior is something that happens before birth. “Paternal hormones are the number one candidate,” he said. “Our theory is that even though twins are identical what happens in the womb is quite different.” “They can have different nutrition, different levels of hormones.” Source

It’s one thing to glo up physically – to go from an awkward teenager to your beautiful, flawless adult self. It’s a whole other glorious miracle to glo up when it comes to your sexuality. And a wonderful new lesbian hashtag is commemorating that transformation. It’s simple: one picture of you with your pre-coming out boyfriend, and one of the much happier you with your current girlfriend. All the denial, struggle and eventual realisations – summed up neatly in two photos. #GayGloUp all came about as a beautiful response to a side-by-side comparison from Caitlin Crowley, who asked her followers: “Freshman to senior year, does this count as a glo up???” Because people are amazing, she didn’t just get confirmation that this was the best glo up ever. She also got beautiful responses from other girls who had grown into their sexualities. Definitely an improvement. I mean, just look how happy she looks in the second photo. Beaming! Looks like the wait was worth it, at least. And it turns out that it wasn’t just the girls in these photos who eventually figured out they were gay. And is that – yep, it’s two halves of one gorgeous lesbian relationship. In 2017, we’ve appreciated the delights of #BiTwitter and #PanTwitter, an outpouring of joy, love and hilarious reminders that pansexual doesn’t mean an attraction to kitchenware. There was also #BlackGaySlay, the beautiful queer celebration of Black History Month. And #LGBTbabes saw photos come in from celebrities and fans alike, with LGBT youth climbing on board with all your favourite out famous people. Let’s also not forget the glorious day of #itsthelgbt, the hashtag which said: “We’re here, we’re proud, and we look amazing, dammit.” And because we can’t just have nice things as a species, June brought us the horror of #HeterosexualPrideDay, a hashtag born from the misplaced idea that cisgender, straight (cishet) people are oppressed. Then there was the brilliant #InternationalLesbianDay. Source