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Hi Ladies, What a year it has been! We have spent the last couple of weeks thinking about the best possible way to reach out to various groups including but not limited to orphans, students, the elderly, uniform officers e.t.c. It only recently dawned on us that even within our not so small online community there may be one, two or more people who may be distressed financially. It is to this end that we have decided to launch the #HASI – Help A Sister Initiative. As you would expect, this scheme is only open to registered members. To make an application, all you need to do is follow the steps below. You can be rest assured that confidentiality and anonymity will be guaranteed. To apply: Step 1: Write a note (no more than 100 words) on why you deserve the grant. Step 2: Using your registration email address, send a note in (step 1) along with your username as an email to info@naijalez.com Step 3: Admin will post the notes anonymously in the thread created for members to vote and unanimously agree on who the beneficiary should be. Step 4: The note with the most votes is shortlisted and contacted. Step 5: Admin disburses the funds. You may send in your entries from the date of this post valid through to the 20th of December, 2017 as we hope to make disbursement on or before the 23rd of December, 2017. If you read this and think you will like to donate to this initiative, please contact admin privately as well and thank you in advance. PS – considering this is the pilot project, we are looking at a maximum single disbursement of N30,000. Best wishes, FlyJ for the Admins

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Straight pornography actress August Ames was recently called out for being homophobic. Ames took to Twitter to complain about being partnered with a cross-over actor – a man who shoots for both gay and straight studios. She refused to work with him. “Whichever (lady) performer is replacing me tomorrow… you’re shooting with a guy who has shot gay BeHoly, just to let cha know,” she tweeted. “BS is all I can say do agents really not care about who they’re representing?” Many people called her out for her position, but she doubled down on her position that crossover models were “unsafe”. “Since you’re curious @AugustAmesxxx — Most nights (like tonight), I’m playing with p**sy,” gay pornography star Wesley Woods posted, with a picture of himself holding a cat. "Turns out being an uneducated homophobe DIDN’T get you a pat on the head? Maybe think next time before you word vomit for attention,” added Bruce Beckham. Some, arguably, went too far. “The world is awaiting your apology or for you to swallow a cyanide pill. Either or [,] we’ll take it,” Jaxton Wheeler wrote. Ames refused to back down. She tweeted: “NOT homophobic. Most girls don’t shoot with guys who have shot gay pornography, for safety.” A few days later, Ames committed suicide. Her last tweet was “f***k y’all.” It was revealed that she had been dealing with issues of depression, though some people – including her husband and her brother – blamed “online trolls” calling her “homophobic” for her death. “I want my sister’s death to be recognised as a serious issue – bullying is not OK,” her brother, James Grabowski, told The sun. “It cost me my baby sister’s life. I will do what I can be a voice for Mercedes but right now my family and I need to be left alone to grieve. We have lost a loved one.” Woods, who received death threats over his rather simple post, isn’t backing down. He called her death “tragic” but “stands behind” what he said. “This is not about ‘her choice’ in choosing who she worked with,” Woods told Hornet. “It was directly related to the idea we (gay BeHoly actors) were ‘dirty’ or ‘promiscuous.’” “On Monday I called out a homophobic performer for her ignorance and uneducated bias,” Beckham posted in response to the backlash he has received. “She allegedly chose to end her own life when she was exposed to the same vitriol that gay people have been exposed to globally for decades.” He added: “Today, friends, performers and fans are attributing blame to myself and others who weighed in. I’m sorry for her loss of life and whatever personal struggles caused her to choose to end her own life when faced with confrontation, accountability, and education.” Jaxton also posted an update. “My gay community friends please a life is lost and we gain nothing from anything but showing respect and sympathy. Her fans and loved ones are upset, I’m sickened in my out of context comment,” he stated. “As I stated before anyone even made my tweet a thing.”

This viral video shows a transgender teenager being forced to strip down to his underwear while he's filmed by Homophobic Police officers. It's not clear where it took place but the video has sparked an outrage in the LGBT community. Is this right?

Gay and lesbian couples are happier than people in straight relationships. Maybe you’ve already suspected it, while looking at your straight friends and their relationships. That hint of sadness in their eyes, compared to the joyous glint in yours and your partner’s. Well, now an extensive study has provided some much-needed evidence. After questioning more than 25,000 people in the UK and over 9,000 in Australia, researchers found that gay and lesbian couples are better off. However, bisexual people suffered from worse relationships, on average, than straight or homosexual people. Francisco Perales and Janeen Baxter from the University of Queensland conducted the study. In their findings, they wrote: “Relationship quality in same-sex couples was as high as in heterosexual couples in the United Kingdom, and higher in Australia. “The lowest relationship quality in both countries was reported by bisexual individuals.” The researchers suggested that gay and lesbian couples might have better relationships because they are less concerned about sticking to stereotypical gender roles. They wrote that “individuals in same-sex couples (particularly lesbian women) generally are more equitable in the ways in which they allocate domestic work, including childcare”. Straight couples often reaffirm their gender roles in relationships, which, the authors state, can lead to an unfair division of labour. “Unequal household burdens are associated with poor relationship outcomes, including marital conflict and divorce,” they explained. “If gender display is not as salient in same-sex couples and these relationships are more egalitarian than heterosexual couples, higher levels of relationship quality might be expected.” The two added that same-sex couples might feel more connected to a community of similar couples, which may increase their happiness. They also suggested that “individuals in same-sex relationships may be more likely than those in different-sex relationships to have high relationship investment.” Perales and Baxter argued that their findings supported giving more rights to same-sex couples, and refuted arguments that children of same-sex parents suffer. “Our results provide robust evidence to combat deep-rooted and erroneous social perceptions of same-sex relationships being conflictual, unhappy, and dysfunctional,” they said. “Our findings support policies that seek to legalise same-sex marriage and parenting rights.” The authors also emphasised that their results “highlight the need to give further attention to bisexual individuals as a distinct group because their outcomes are comparatively poor.” Bisexual people have consistently been found to have the lowest life satisfaction among LGBT people. They also feel less worthwhile and happy – and much more anxious – than other people, according to a study from earlier this year. And just this week, it was revealed that bisexual people sleep worse than everyone else, with bi women being especially affected. Source

Detailed analysis of mobile data usage suggests that connectivity rates remain comparatively pricey in Nigeria. Mobile Internet use has been on the rise and has been predicted to account for 26 per cent of global media consumption in 2019, according to a report by Zenith’s Media Consumption Forecasts 2017. According to the Research and Development Unit of Yudala, data has become a critical commodity that must be efficiently be maximised, especially in view of the tiered data plans currently used by service providers. With the growing popularity of social media, we are in an age of information overload; one in which content is not only king but also predominantly ubiquitous. In addition to music streaming, watching videos online and other activities that drain your data, most smartphones are also loaded with tonnes of data-hungry apps. If not checked, you may find your mobile data bills burning a huge hole in your expense sheet on a monthly basis. The following tips from Yudala will come in handy for maximising data usage on your smartphone: Monitor your data usage Most users live in fear of exhausting their mobile data before the expiration date, but with the help of some useful apps, you can now monitor and limit the amount of data used. The best way to save data is to be aware of the activities or applications that drain your cellular data. Most smartphones are equipped with data usage setting that enables you to manage your data. Usually located in the Settings menu, you can set up alerts for when you exceed data usage for your most notoriously data-consuming apps. Exercise caution with online video streaming This is a known fact. But as much as we hate to admit it, the fun things consume most of your mobile data. Excessive streaming of videos, music, high quality images or GIF files, are things you need to avoid if you really want to maximise your Internet usage. While we know these things are not entirely avoidable, there are some other ways to stay entertained responsibly. If you can’t avoid the entertainment your smartphone brings, you can set the quality at lower rates or decrease resolution in the Settings menu of your smartphone. Use Wi-Fi connection for updates or downloading heavy contents Wi-Fi is often regarded as a blessing by most smartphone users. While access to unlimited Wi-Fi connection is still rather limited in Nigeria, there are certain locations you can count on for free Wi-Fi. One of the most sensible ways of maximising your mobile data usage is by setting up your smartphone for automatic updates only when on Wi-Fi connection. This way, you get to save some significant volume of the data drain that comes with auto-updates. Furthermore, downloads of heavy contents such as videos, high-resolution images and music files should also be done when on a secure Wi-Fi connection. Restrict background data Some applications use up a lot of data even when the phone is not in use. This is a brilliant feature of the smartphone: allowing background data to keep the applications on your phone updated. However, not every app needs to stay active at all times. You can stop the constant update by going to your settings option to select the app you want restricted or simply disable background app refresh in your settings. This helps reduce data consumption and also preserves the battery life of your device. Preload and cache Despite the anxiety over cellular data, developers have made things easy and included options that make smartphone apps less demanding. A very good example is a cache, a hardware or software component that stores data so future requests for that data can be served faster. Source

Vaginal discharge raises common questions for women, including what’s normal and what’s not. Justine Burris, CNM, MSN, UnityPoint Health, talks in-depth about female vaginal discharge, from healthy discharge colors, to what concerns might require a trip to see a provider. What Does Vaginal Discharge Mean? Burris describes vaginal discharge as fluid released by glands in the vagina and cervix. The fluid carries dead cells and bacteria out of the body, and vaginal discharge helps keep the vagina clean and prevent infection. Burris also says normal vaginal discharge varies in amount and ranges in color from clear to milky, white discharge. Discharge may have a slight odor as well, although a foul, fishy odor is a sign of an infection. “There are times when discharge amounts can change,” Burris says. “Immediately after a period, there is almost no discharge. Two to three days after the period ends, there is a thick, white discharge. A few days later, the consistency changes to appear more like mucous. Before ovulation, the discharge becomes clear and sticky, and before the next period, discharge is thick and white in consistency.” Vaginal discharge during pregnancy is thin, white, milky and mild smelling. The amount of discharge also increases during pregnancy. However, during perimenopause and menopause, discharge decreases due to low levels of estrogen. The following can cause estrogen levels to drop, leading to little to no vaginal discharge: Medicines or hormones used in the treatment of breast cancer, endometriosis, fibroids or infertility Surgery to remove the ovaries Radiation treatment to the pelvic area Chemotherapy Severe stress, depression or intense exercise Vaginal Discharge Color Meaning Thick, White Discharge If thick, white discharge goes along with other symptoms, such as itching, burning and irritation, it is probably due to a yeast infection. If not, it is normal discharge. Yellow Discharge Yellow discharge is abnormal discharge, as this is a sign of a bacterial infection or sexually transmitted infection. Brown Discharge Brown discharge may be caused by irregular period cycles. If brown discharge keeps appearing, a patient should schedule an appointment with a provider to be evaluated. This could be a sign of uterine or cervical cancer. Additionally, during menopause, a woman should not have any type of vaginal bleeding, which is also a sign of uterine cancer. Green Discharge Having green discharge is not normal. This is a sign of bacterial infection or a sexually transmitted infection. Anyone experiencing green discharge should see her provider. Yeast Infection Discharge Yeast infection discharge is caused by an overgrowth of fungus in the vagina. Symptoms of yeast infection discharge include a thick, white, cottage cheese-like discharge, along with itching, redness, irritation and burning. Roughly 90 percent of women will have a yeast infection at some point in their life. Yeast infections are not contagious, and over-the-counter antifungal creams are available for a patient to use. But, if symptoms don’t improve with treatment or she has more than four yeast infections in a year, she should see her provider. “Stay aware of normal and abnormal changes in vaginal discharge. This allows patients to identify infection and other problems. If you have any questions about the type of vaginal discharge you’re experiencing, contact your provider,” Burris says. Source

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Media personality, Daddy Freeze has in his usual routine, come for Nigerian pastors – this time around, he says most pastors are into the work of God just because of the money involved. Freeze says Nigerian pastors left their professions because they can’t earn as much unlike in the ministry. In a video shared on Youtube, he said, “There are many fake pastors because of monetization; that pastor who cursed me is an architect, the one at BankyW’s wedding is a doctor. “Many of them are leaving profitable field because ministry is a more profitable field. “Monetization has made fake pastors come into two fold, it has made real pastors preach false messages. “Every doctrine in Nigeria has been monetized, you hear pastors say this year you will find your ‘apollos’ “Apollos in the Bible was increase in word of God not referring to sowing, Matthew 13;7 this verse speaks of seed of faith not money; those that twist this to you are thieves. There’s nothing spiritual about those criticizing me, the only spirituality in them is the ability to twist your brain. OAP Freeze also countered speaking in tongues in Nigerian Pentecostal churches, describing it as fake. He added, “Speaking in tongues in Nigeria Pentecostal churches is fake but speaking in tongues is not fake. “When speaking in tongues, you should speak in languages not in tongues that no one can understand. 1Cor 14:26-28; someone must interpret tongues…There is no speaking in tongues without an interpreter “Interpretation of tongues is missing in today’s pentecostal churches , if anyone speaks in tongues one or two should speak in tongues one at a time not multitude.That is falsehood 1Cor 14:23 is what pastors used to confuse you, they tell you tongues is an unknown language which carnal mind cannot understand. Everyone speaking in tongues in the church is false because it is a gift that everyone does not receive. “I’m a preacher that speaks from history and bible not sentiments like others; that’s why I can’t say God told me to pay titheS like they say. “I would tell you what God kept in bible not what God told me.” Do you think speaking in tongues is fake?

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A 45-year-old Ghanaian lesbian, Janet Ofori, has proudly come to boast about sleeping with more than 10 women a day, in an interview with Adom TV. The woman, who claimed she became a pro in the lesbian act from Senior High School, said has been able to satisfy lots of rich single women in her country. According to her, some of her clients are ministers in government and MPs including some radio presenters. In the interview, Janet who hid her identity while speaking in her dialect, also revealed that she has been able to convert more than 3,000 women and still counting to reach her target. Ofori also rebuked the claims that lesbianism is an evil practice, saying it was never stated in the bible. She said, “Were you there, when God created Adam and Eve and you will come and tell me that, God made Adam and Eve to marry? And who says being a lesbian is wrong, show me where it is stated in the bible.” The 45-year-old woman was also accompanied by a gay man, Kwame Mensah, who disclosed that, with the help of creams, his anus has widened enough to receive any size of a man’s penis. “I take care of my family and am not working too, so I don’t think, I can take care of a woman.” “I don’t want broken heart and woman can’t satisfy me either. I go to church and I pay my tithe alright, so who is he to judge me.” “I choose the kind of men I want, and my anus can take any size, no matter how huge the person may be.” Source

Legendary singer Patti Labelle has outed late R&B legend, Luther Vandrose. See what she said below “We talked about [his being in the closet]. Basically, he did not want his mother to be...although she might have known, but he wasn’t going to come out and say this to the world. And he had a lot of lady fans and he told me he just didn’t want to upset the world.” Source

President Akufo-Addo’s quest to see Africa taken beyond aid was once again on full display, after his latest speech sent a strong word to the Western world. Akufo-Ado hosted France President Emmanuel Macron last week, with the pair meeting to discuss matters ranging from unity, investment and partnership building. However, the part that caught the eyes of many was when the Ghanaian President made a bold statement concerning Africa’s continuous reliance on European countries for support. Right in the presence of President Macron, Akufo-Addo insisted that Africa “can no longer continue to make policies for ourselves, our regions and our continents on the basis of whatever the Western world or France or the European Union can give us. It will not work. It has not worked and it will not work”. He added: “Our responsibility is to charter a path which is about how we can develop our nations ourselves. It is not right for country like Ghana – 60 years after independence – to still have its health and education budgets being financed on the basis of the generosity of European tax-payers.” His comments visibly made the France President uncomfortable, with his demeanor clearly depicting a man sitting on tenterhooks. The video has since gone viral, having become a hot topic for debate on various social media platforms. Watch the full video below: Source

In the midst of the uproar over revelations that Libyan nationals are buying and selling migrants as slaves in Libya, Saturday PUNCH has learnt that Nigerians based in the country also sell their fellow countrymen. This emerged as more Nigerians are repatriated by the International Organisation for Migration with the backing of the European Union in an ongoing exercise that has seen 1,295 retrieved from Libya in November alone. Since the beginning of 2017, IOM-facilitated repatriation has brought back 5,578 Nigerian migrants, who were trapped in and outside prisons across Libya. On Thursday night, 150 migrants from mostly Edo and Delta states arrived the country aboard a Buraq Airplane at the cargo terminal of the Murtala International Airport, Lagos. It was two days after 239 migrants had also been brought into the country. Many of the returnees, who were thankful for being back, confirmed to Saturday PUNCHthat they were sold by their fellow countrymen, who were getting rich in Libya. One of them, 26-year-old Odion Saliu, a hairdresser from Edo State, said she was kidnapped and handed over to a Nigerian, who forced her to call her mother. According to her, her mother in Benin paid N200, 000 but she was again sold by the same Nigerian for 3,000 dinars (about N794, 000). Saliu explained that the Nigerians spoke Pidgin English and some Nigerian languages. She said, “When I was kidnapped with others and held for some weeks, the Arabs asked if I wanted to be taken to a Nigerian and I readily said yes. I was very happy that I was going to someone from my country. But it was a lie. “The Nigerian they took me to locked me in a cell and told me to call my mother and ask for N60, 000. The man said he would sell me to a connection house if my family did not get the money. I called to inform my mother and the trafficker who facilitated my journey from Nigeria. “But the trafficker spoke with them on the phone and told them the amount they demanded was too small. They increased it to N200, 000. My mother paid into an account after they provided her with the account number over the phone. “The Nigerian said if I wanted to cross the sea, I had to pay him again. But when we got to the seaside, he sold me again.” Another Edo State indigene, Sunday Anyaegbunam, left Nigeria along with his wife in April. He said during their nine-day journey through the desert, they were sold twice by Nigerians. According to him, when their Nigerian “burger” (trafficker) sold them to another set of Libyan traffickers at Agadez, Niger, the traffickers sold him and his wife to a Nigerian who took them to Sabha, Libya, where they were separated in different cells. “We were made to contact our families on the phone and I had to ensure the payment of N400, 000 for my release and N300, 000 for my wife,” Anyaegbunam said. Like others, he could only identify the Nigerians trading in their countrymen in Libya through the Nigerian languages they spoke and their accent. He said, “The Nigerians selling people in Libya are more wicked than many of the Arabs. I have never seen people so heartless as the Nigerians who bought and sold me. “There are many of them in Agadez and Sabha, who are making so much money from selling their own people. But there are other West Africans doing the business too. “When you approach them and say, ‘Please, my brother, help me.’ They would tell you, “No brother in the jungle.” A 25-year-old woman, Esosa Osas, who was in Libya for six months, said she also met many Nigerians selling their countrymen. “You dare not talk to them, else they would beat you and lock you up. They sell women for 5,000 dinars and men for N4, 000 dinars. I noticed that the connection houses were also controlled by Nigerian women.” All these accounts were corroborated by 35-year-old Harrison Okotie who lived in Libya for three years until his repatriation. “Nigerians and Libyans are doing the business like they are one big happy family,” he said. Most of the migrants who arrived Nigeria on Thursday were from Edo State. Officials of the state’s task force on illegal migration were on hand with luxurious buses to transport their people back home. A member of the task force, Mr. Okoduwa Solomon, told Saturday PUNCH that his team had made six such journeys to the airport within the last one month to take their indigenes repatriated from Libya back home. He said, “The first process is to take them through counselling, then we profile them. “After that, we put them in a home that the state government has provided for the returnees. The Edo State Government is paying each of the returnees from the state a stipend. They are going to undergo a training in agriculture, poultry, fishery and others to make them useful to themselves and the system.” Officials of the National Emergency Management Agency coordinate the reception of the returnees at the airport.South West Zonal Coordinator of the agency, Mr. Yakubu Sulaiman, said the returnees would be lodged in a hotel where they would have the chance to clean up before their journey back home. Meanwhile, President, Women Arise and Centre for Change, Dr. Joe Okei-Odumakin, has called on the Federal Government to use all diplomatic channels to prevail on the Libyan authorities to ensure the dignity of our people. She said in a statement on Friday that it was an embarrassment that Nigerians who were treated like royalty in the past were being dehumanised in a foreign land. “We must build a country where our people have opportunities to prosper and lead useful and productive lives and will only travel on leisure and business and not as illegal migrants desperate to live anywhere other than Nigeria,” she said. Over 400,000 Nigerians, others still stranded in Libya –AU Commission Meanwhile, Head, African Union Commission, Moussa Faki Mahamat, has said that over 400,000 Nigerians and others remain stranded in Libya. Hundreds of thousands more — “400,000 to 700, 000,” according to Mahamat — remain stranded. European and African leaders have set themselves a tall order to stamp out horrific abuse of African migrants, some of them are Nigerians in Libya, where thousands are suffering in a vast, lawless territory. On Thursday, a summit of the African Union and the European Union set a goal of immediately repatriating 3,800 migrants languishing in a camp near Tripoli. But experts pointed to a daunting array of hurdles, from extracting migrants in perilous situations to giving them incentives to stay put when they return home. Even so, the summit’s commitment, initiated by outrage over a CNN television report on black Africans being sold as slaves in Libya, is being welcomed. “It is a step in the right direction,” International Organisation for Migration Europe Director, Eugenio Ambrosi, told Agence France Presse by phone from Brussels. “It is a little bit too much to think it will solve the slavery issue, but it would definitely mitigate (it) to some extent,” Ambrosi said. He said the summit also showed there was now “international watchdog pressure” that could be brought to bear on the criminal gangs, but it must be “sustained.” The drive was announced at a meeting on the summit sidelines organised by French President, Emmanuel Macron. It brought together eight other EU and African countries as well as the AU, EU and United Nations representatives. Macron said the UN-backed Libyan government of Prime Minister Fayez al-Sarraj had identified and granted access to the worst camps to enable the returns of people who want to go home. The Macron group also decided to work with a task force, involving the sharing of police and intelligence services, to “dismantle the networks and their financing and detain traffickers,” he said. They pledged to freeze the assets of identified traffickers. The AU is expected to set up an investigative panel and the UN could take cases before the International Court of Justice. Libya calls for campaign against human trafficking The Libyan government has condemned the reported auction of West Africans in its capital Tripoli, noting that the criminal practice was not part of the culture of the Libyan people. It called for an international campaign against illegal migration and demanded an end to “exploitation, the suffering of the ambitious African man looking for better life in Europe and human trafficking right from the country of source.” Speaking on the alleged auction of West Africans in his country at a press conference on Friday in Abuja, the Charge d’Affairs and ambassador-designate, Libyan embassy in Nigeria, Dr. Attia Alkhoder, explained that his government had ordered the relevant agency to carry out a comprehensive investigation into the incident. He said the government was concerned about illegal migration and human trafficking, adding that Libya needed technical and logistical support to control its southern border, which is the major route for illegal migration across the Mediterranean Sea. The diplomat criticised the media for attacking and holding his country responsible for the slaves’ auction, noting that human trafficking and the reported slaves’ auction were done by individuals and not the Libyan authorities. Alkhoder said, “Libya renews its call to put an end to exploitation, the suffering of the ambitious African man looking for better life in Europe and human trafficking. “Libya calls for an international campaign to put an end to this phenomenon by providing security and border control to end the Libyan crisis, unify its government institutions and end the transition system that contributed a lot in the weakening control of territory.” The envoy noted that solving illegal migration was a collective responsibility involving countries of origin, transit and destination. He added that Libya spent a lot of money accommodating immigrants and facilitating their voluntary return to their countries, insisting that curbing illegal migration needed serious coordination of international efforts. Returnees get N100m, 150 hectares of land for farming Governor Godwin Obaseki of Edo State has approved a seed capital of N100m and 150 hectares of land for 150 victims of human trafficking, who recently completed skills acquisition training in the state. Obaseki announced this on Friday during the graduation of the participants of the programme, which was organised by the Edo Agricultural Development Programme in Benin City, the state capital. He also directed the Ministry of Agriculture and Natural Resources to immediately liaise with the relevant authorities towards securing the land for the returnees to commence their agricultural businesses. According to the governor, the beneficiaries would be put under the supervision of the Benin-Owena River Basin Authority and the EADP. Obaseki stressed the need for coordinated efforts to end modern slavery. He stated that the International Day for the Abolition of Slavery, marked on December 2 annually by the United Nations, should be seen as a day for deep reflection on how to bring the illicit trade to an end. Obaseki said, “We ordinarily should not be talking about the menace of slavery given the experience we have had. But it is a reality today and we have no choice but to tackle it. “However, it is pertinent to point out the fact that modern-day slavery, in its various forms, such as forced labour, debt bondage, and human trafficking, has no place among us. To effectively abolish slave trade as we have it today, it takes a coordinated, deep-reaching, international coalition that will take into cognisance the various forms of modern-day slavery and compel perpetrators to back down.” He, however, commended the returnees, comprising 51 trained on crop production, 15 on agro-processing, 68 on livestock farming and 52 on fish farming, for participating in the programme. He also urged them to be ambassadors in the state-wide campaign against human trafficking and illegal migration. Earlier, the Programme Manager of the EADP, Mr. Peter Aikhuomobhogbe, commended the state government for initiating the training and expressed optimism that the trainees would put the skills acquired to good use. Source

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Nigeria have been drawn in Group D of the Russia 2018 World Cup along with South American giants Argentina, Europeans Iceland and Croatia. At a star-studded Final Draw ceremony at the State Kremlin Palace in Russia on Friday, the Super Eagles, who were in Pot 4 of the draws, drew the Argentines, who were seeded in Pot 1, and Croatia and Iceland, who were in Pots 2 and 3. Source

“Hello, Grammo, first let me start by appreciating the kind of work you and your delivery of good music. I just checked in to ask for advice from since you are a LGBT activist and ambassador. On matters relationships, i have an issue that has really been eating me up. I am a very straight guy and never judgemental on peoples sexuality. To the main issue, I have been in a very steamy relationship with my girlfriend for five month now. Thing were very okay the first up to the third month where she started exhibiting signs of withdrawal. I was very concerned but she assured me everything was ok but still the distance between us kept growing. I began feeling lonely as much as i was in a relationship. When i raised a concern it mostly ended into an argument. In the fourth month, it came to my discovery that the love of my life was cheating on me with a woman. I ddntjudge her but i was just so heartbroken since cheating is cheating regardless with whom. I also learnt that the chic that my gal was cheating on me with also had a boyfriend and they were to keep their rship very discrete. The two ladies in question are Bi’s. My love for my woman is still intact since she really apologised and said she wont repeat or rather she would change. As much as i was deeply hurt, i gave my woman a chance and forgave her but things on our end are more bad. The flame and the connection is not there. Mostly am the one putting in more effort to make it work. I feel she doesn't love me anymore as much as she ended things with the girl. My question is can these Bis stay faithful to one relationship ?? I love my girl so much but i feel like giving up on her. She still says she loves me but she doesn't show it. Advise me on what i can do plz. If it is possible post my story on your wall so that i can read what people think but kindly hide my Identity. Thank you so much” A straight anonymous man has written privately to Grammo Suspect, an openly Lesbian Kenyan rapper, concerning his relationship troubles. He claims his girlfriend of over 5 months, is secretly having an affair with another woman. He is asking for advice. Source

The Nigerian women's two-person bobsleigh team made history on Wednesday, by becoming the first African team ever to qualify for a Winter Olympics in the sport. Driver, Seun Adigun including Breakmen Ngozi Onwumere and Akuoma Omeoga, completed the fifth of their required five qualifying races in Calgary on Wednesday. Their qualification, make them the first Winter Olympians to represent the West African nation. They will be representing Nigeria at the 2018 Winter Olympics in Pyeongchang, South Korea. The three beautiful ladies are the first ever Nigeria Women's Bobsled Team. Congrats to the ladies!! Bobsleigh is a winter sport in which teams of two or four teammates make timed runs down narrow, twisting, banked, iced tracks in a gravity-powered sled. Source

GOVERNOR Akinwumin Ambode of Lagos State, yesterday accused religious leaders of pushing political leaders to steal by the way they patronized the politicians and other influential individuals in the society who now do anything possible to meet up with the expectation. Ambode who spoke at the annual public lecture organized by Christian Conscience, claimed religious leaders made higher demand from people in government without thinking about what they would meet such demand. Represented Commissioner for Home Affairs, Dr. Abdul-hakeem Abdul-Lateef, the governor lamented that the common man who served God diligently got no recognition while religious leaders were busy patronising political leaders. According to him: “When church and mosque want to do fund raising they will not look for people that are committed to the work of God but rather politicians and people in power whose salary is not up to N500,000 to come and launch N50 million project. This same politicians and people in power, when they came to church late, Pastor will ask congregation to stand up and clap for them whereas the poor person that came early to church nobody recognizes him or her.” Speaking on the theme, “Religion and Corruption: Strategic Direction in Fighting Corruption in Nigeria” said he had reduced the number of time he went to office as people usually besieged his office in hundreds seeking personal assistance. He said: “In my office as commissioner I see about 100 to 200 people daily that came to my office for personal assistant not something that will benefit the larger society, that is why my going to office is strategic because am tired of explaining to people that I don’t have. Corroborating him, a former Minister for Education and Convener of Bring Back Our Girls, BBOG, campaign, Dr. Oby Ezekwesili, said corruption remained the greatest obstacle to Nigeria’s development and that until the problem was tackled from the source, Nigeria would not move forward. According to her: “The church which is meant to be the salt of healing has failed and this is worrisome. We are all comfortable with corruption. There is need to consider reducing opportunities for corruption because battling corruption goes beyond Christian belief. We should enforce prosecution and sanction of bad behaviours to serve as deterrent for other evil doers.” The Special guest lecturer at the Occasion, Prof. Dapo Asaju, said some of the religious leaders had commercialized religion at the detriment of the people. Asaju who is the Bishop Theologian, Church of Nigeria and Vice Chancellor, Ajayi Crowther University, said it was regrettable to see religious leaders riding N30 million car when church members had not eat a day meal. He said: “They have even go a step further to employed the service of bodyguard in the church of God. That is why when they prayed miracle doesn’t happen any longer because they are not in connection with God.” The Chief Host and Chairman, Christian Conscience Group, Mr. Enock Ajiboso, however encouraged faithful religious leaders to join political arena and make difference. Source

As shared on Instagram - 'I will be 38 in just over a month and a half, and while I would LOVE to be married (to my God-chosen companion, and best friend) and have child(ren), I am very comfortable with the knowledge that my life is just as valid, and beautiful, and happy, and successful, if for some reason that never comes to pass. 'Marriage and kids is not my "crowning glory"... It's another BEAUTIFUL step in life I would love to take. I'd also love to make (and keep) a billion dollars in my lifetime, but I won't be any less of a woman or Kemi Adetiba if that didn't come to pass either. 'No... I'm not comparing the two. I'm just highlighting it doesn't diminish a (Wo)man's -Kemi Adetiba's - worth if it never happens. Hello... Good morning ?? Have a great Tuesday.' Ladies, what do you think?

When is the right time to come out the closet? When is it right to open up and accept who you really are Especially because Nigerians right now are hostile to queer people, and the police are having fun arresting homosexuals instead of enforcing law and order. When is the right time to tell that friend, brother, sister ,parents etc and stop being in silky relationships that u r not meant to be? I hope the house would kindly help shed more light on this

Lol. I found this very funny. Source

I knew that something was wrong the first time I tried to use a tampon. I was about twelve and my mom gave me a box of slender fit Tampax and told me to read the instructions and “just stick it in there.” I tried for about an hour, working to thrust the slim pink applicators inside me, nearly going through the whole box, and with each attempt feeling a stinging pain through my entire body. The smooth plastic had become like knives when it touched my vagina and I couldn’t force it more than a centimeter into myself. “What is wrong with me?” I asked aloud and started weeping. I had already suspected that I was different in some innate and incurable way. While other girls my age had begun kissing boys and casually talked about their breasts as they changed in the locker room, I resented the way my body was starting to soften and hoped that I would never have to even touch a boy. “Buck up!” my mom said when she found me crying. It was her favorite phrase, something that she shared with Katharine Hepburn, another tough woman who took freezing showers well into her 80s and believed in doing what had to be done no matter the pain or occasional rumors of communism. So I kept silent about my discomfort and used pads even though I was a gymnast practicing up to six days a week in only the most minimal of costumes. It wasn’t until I was in college that I was forced to address this particular and shameful pain again. I had been diagnosed with severe anemia after passing out at a friend’s birthday party and rushed to the local Baptist hospital for tests. Nurses there thought that I either had cancer or was anorexic. They also blamed my veganism. “You’re going to have to start eating meat,” one of them told me with a face that made it clear that he blamed me for my illness. However, the doctor they referred me to was a kind, patient woman who thought my low iron levels might be caused by my ever-fruitful and painful period rather than my avoidance of animal products. But she would have to give me a pap smear — my first one. I cried when she told me, my tears flowing embarrassingly down my face and into my lap as I begged, “No, please, I can’t do it. It’s impossible.” She told me that she was gentle and would use the smallest speculum she could find. We scheduled it for two weeks from that day and I wept every day until the appointment. In so many moments in life, the thing you fear turns out to be so much less frightening than you imagine and you feel silly and stupid for being so frightened in the first place. This was not the case. A pap smear can take less than a minute and many women complain only of minor discomfort. I’ve heard so many women tell girls and women undergoing their first examine that it’s “no big deal” and that it will “be over before they know it.” One of my friends told me that all I needed was cute socks to keep my feet warm and comfortable during the examination. This is what happened for me: I started crying as soon as I put my legs into the stirrups. The nurse held my hand and whispered kindly that everything would be okay and just to breath and think about something that made me happy. “Maybe puppies?” she suggested. I saw my doctor look thoughtfully at the nurse and then tell me that she was going to start. Then I felt a blinding pain I had never known was possible. My hips thrust upwards like a girl possessed by demons in some cheap porny horror film. I felt at once like someone was taking a sword and twisting it further and further up inside my vagina and like I was being run over by a car or large animal or being held down by some invisible force while someone pounded my body. I am not prone to exaggeration or fantasy, but there is no better way for me to describe these things. After it was over, I couldn’t speak. The doctor left to find me some juice and crackers and then sat down with the saddest and most compassionate eyes I’ve ever seen a doctor wear. “I’m so sorry,” she said. “I know I’ve traumatized you.” Later she would ask if I had ever been raped or sexually abused. When I told her no, she kept asking at each appointment. She eventually gave me a vaginismus diagnosis, a condition that makes any sort of vaginal penetration painful and causes one’s vaginal muscles to spasm or tighten as something penetrates it. There are many possible causes for vaginismus including sexual or physical trauma and can make things so commonly expected of women like childbirth and vaginal intercourse incredibly painful or impossible. There is no definite test used to diagnose vaginismus, but one’s doctor may make a diagnosis after reviewing one’s medical history, asking several questions about one’s symptoms, and possibly conducting a vaginal exam to rule out other issues such as injuries and infections. The prevalence of vaginismus is unknown but has been reported in five to seventeen percent of patients in clinical settings. I was thankful for a name to describe the pain I had been unable to voice for so long. And I was grateful that I was a lesbian and didn’t have to experience penetrative sex if I didn’t want to (what was a stone butch again, I thought). Only of course, it wasn’t so easy. As a lesbian who is incredibly proud of my identity and has had to struggle against those who still find my sexuality shameful (I have never lived outside of a conservative area), I tend to romanticize queer and particularly queer women relationships. I thought that my first real girlfriend, who I had only recently started dating, would understand. She was not particularly empathetic. Rather, she saw it as a challenge that we could overcome or she could fix. I told her not to penetrate me during sex, but she would sometimes attempt to force herself inside me. “I put two fingers inside you just now,” she said once. “You didn’t even notice.” She was trying to show me that my condition was all in my head and that if I worried less and simply let myself be penetrated, I might even enjoy it. Instead I felt betrayed, and I was ashamed of my problem as I had been as a scared 12-year-old, too confused and embarrassed to voice my pain. During the (way too many) years my girlfriend and I dated, I felt closed off during sex and disconnected from by body. I mentioned this to no one and when my doctor asked me about my feelings and fears around sex I would reassure her that everything was fine. I had been taught by almost everyone that this pain was merely in my head and I just needed to “buck up” to overcome it. Around the time that I finally got the courage to end my relationship, I started talking more about the pain that is so intertwined with my understandings of being a woman, of sex, and even of queerness. When I try to research vaginismus online or read other women’s stories, most of it is framed within the concept of heterosexual relationships and how women with this ailment can enjoy sex with their male partners. There is very little about queer women’s experiences and the particular kind of shame that exists when one’s female partner is engaging in harmful sexual behavior. I’m dating a woman now who is the kindest, gentlest person I have ever met. She cares for me in ways that I never expected and never thought I deserved. One day early in our relationship, I tried to casually mention my vaginismus to her by telling her how much I hate getting pap smears. She was driving and I was smiling as if it were just a quirky fact about me — no big deal. However, she didn’t absorb this information casually and was immediately concerned, asking me what I needed during sex and outside of it and how she could care for me and support me. I told her that the cause of my problem may be emotional (one of the ways I try to invalidate my own experience) and she told me that emotional causes are just as important as physical ones and that she would always take my pain and my fears seriously. I felt seen by her in a way that I had never experienced, and when we had sex, she asked permission before touching me in each new place, asking me if I was okay, if I felt good, if I was happy. I don’t know if my vaginismus will ever go away or if I will feel more comfortable with penetration now that I have such a loving partner (as some people claim). But I also think that’s not the point. Rather, I think all of us in this queer community and world must continue expanding the conversation about queerness, sex, and pain as to make such expressions not courageous but expected. Source