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A First ! Another 'community' outing. This is the first conference hosted by UNILAG that has or allows subject around sexuality. So, it will be great for the community too. Especially that session, which TIERs is hosting. Many members of the academia will be presenting papers around the subject. Read details below - C *** The Initiative for Equal Rights is proud to partner with and invite you to the first ever conference on Diversity, Inclusivity and Equality in Nigeria, organized by the University of Lagos. The conference, which is free to register for and attend will be held at the UNILAG main campus in Akoka. The two-day conference will bring together academics, policymakers and social activists to share knowledge on broadening inclusion and diversity within education and more broadly, in Nigeria. The conference is taking place from the 12th – 13th September, at the prestigious Afe Babalola Hall, University of Lagos, Akoka. The conference is based on the broad concept of inclusion in the context of commitment to education for all and equitable access to healthcare irrespective of disability, gender, socio-economic class, sexuality or factors that reinforce marginalization, with a view to influencing Nigeria’s attainment of five of the United Nation’s Sustainable Development Goals. The conference will present new knowledge from across various academic disciplines within Nigeria, as well as presentations from civil society organizations, and business. As part of the conference, TIERs will be hosting a breakout session addressing issues of minorities and the Social Environment, chair by Arit Okpo, (Host, Untold Facts). The session will present new research on attitudes to sexual minorities, as well as new research on the experiences of sexual minorities in Nigeria from a variety of practitioners across academic as well as policy institutions. The session will be followed by a roundtable discussion chaired by Arit Okpo. The panel discussion will aim to draw out a conversation around the impact of discrimination on sexual minorities and the wider society, and consider what needs to be achieved to widen acceptance of sexual minorities in Nigeria in the context of broadening knowledge and understanding.

Portia not only surprised her wife with an unexpected appearance on the show, she also gave her one of the most incredible birthday gifts Ellen has ever received.

Olamide finally drops the science student video. Was it worth the wait?

It’s been five years since the R&B singer released her critically-acclaimed Electric Lady album, and we’ve been gagging for new music ever since – thankfully, she’s blessed us with not just one, but two comeback singles. Django Jane is a slick, confident track which sees Janelle rap about race and female empowerment amid scenes of her sitting on a throne (where she belongs, duh) surrounded by a female army in matching suits. While Django Jane shows off her versatility as an artist, it’s Make Me Feel that’s really caught the world’s attention. With an infectious beat and an androgynous performance style that pays homage to Prince, it’s sure to become a classic in Janelle’s back catalogue – even better, It’s laced with imagery that alludes to bisexuality. Throughout the video, Janelle flicks back and forth between the different genders, while one very literal scene sees her run frantically between her male and female love interests, dancing seductively on each one. Lyrically, Janelle sings of being a “emotional sexual bender” as she makes her way through a nightclub ripped straight of Black Mirror episode San Junipero. While Janelle has refused to define her sexuality, she did describe herself as “sexually liberated” in a recent interview with The Guardian, where she also spoke more about the meaning behind Make Me Feel. “It’s a celebratory song,” she said. “I hope that comes across. That people feel more free, no matter where they are in their lives, that they feel celebrated. “Because I’m about women’s empowerment. I’m about agency. I’m about being in control of your narrative and your body. “That was personal for me to even talk about: to let people know you don’t own or control me and you will not use my image to defame or denounce other women.” Janelle also announced the release of her fourth studio album, Dirty Computer, which is due out 27 April. Source

Maisy Harper is not the kind of girl who hangs around in bars at home or on the road. Everyone knows she’s totally closed off, earning the figure skater the title of Canada’s Ice Princess. And yet, it’s the beginning of the Snow and Ice Games and she’s sitting at the bar in the athletes’ village because if luck is with her, she’ll run into Blaze Bellamy, the bad girl of the US short track speed skating team. Four years prior at the last SIGs, Maisy and Blaze burned up the sheets and Maisy is more than ready for a do-over. Blaze is delighted to see Maisy at the bar because she’s equally as interested in that do-over. And while Blaze has never been one for monogamy, with her adventures in the bedroom including both women and men, she’s more than happy to accept Maisy’s rule that for the three weeks of the SIGs, they’ll be each other’s only sexual partners. Blaze has been dreaming about their fling at the last SIGs too, so three weeks of as much Maisy as she can handle? Total no-brainer. Especially since Maisy is more passionate than anyone would ever guess. Their renewed affair is hotter than either woman could have hoped, with the mild and modest Maisy topping Blaze much of the time they spend together. And while both women have competitions to prep for, they gravitate towards each other as often as they’re able. Maisy wants to stay out of the spotlight and let her hard work speak for itself, while any publicity is good publicity to Blaze. Can Blaze’s desire to be in the public eye stop the good thing they get going? Fire on the Ice is one of the most scorching erotic romances out there featuring women who love other women, and so much of it is because of the two leads. Maisy is as polite as Canadians get, and she keeps her head down while working hard for a medal she’s never received before. Everyone thinks of her as an ice queen because no one gets to see the real Maisy—her vulnerabilities, her fears, her passion—and Blaze is the only person who takes the time to truly see her. In total contrast to Maisy, Blaze thrives on attention, living by the motto “If I can’t be victorious, I’d like to be notorious.” She’s every roller derby fantasy girl rolled into one, and is constantly seeking the next thrill whether it’s in the bedroom or doing something that will land her in a tabloid (or even occasionally an overlap of the two). In a move that’s refreshing, neither woman’s arc is about becoming more or less than who she is, as much as it’s about determining if they can each fit into each other’s lives just as they are, knowing that change will come naturally from that. For example, we get to see the real woman behind Maisy’s ice queen persona, rather than watch her thaw. Parker lets us understand why Maisy is guarded and we’re given the same gift that Blaze receives because we get to see who she really is. Any change Maisy experiences might be a result of having Blaze in her life, but all of Maisy’s growth benefits her as an individual and isn’t about reshaping her to suit their relationship. Maisy and Blaze’s chemistry crackles from their first meeting in the bar, and it only gets better and better. Although Blaze’s larger than life personality would make her an obvious choice as the dominant in the bedroom, it’s actually Maisy who controls many of their encounters, garnering compliance from Blaze that it’s hard to imagine her giving to anyone other than Maisy. And while Maisy has dated or slept with far fewer people than Blaze, she also never judges Blaze for her sexual history or for being polyamorous. Between Blaze’s polyamory and bisexuality, and Maisy’s ice queen persona—which can be, and is by some in the story, interpreted as prudishness—there were plenty of opportunities for sex negativity or shaming. Thankfully they never happened, and it was clear that Tamsen Parker set out to deliver a romance between women that celebrates sex—and does it ever! Also, because Blaze and Maisy are always true to themselves while still honoring each other, their happily ever after is just perfect for them, even if it may not be what regular romance readers are used to seeing. While there’s some excellent lesbian erotic romance available, it can be difficult to know how to find it. Fire on the Ice is hands down one of the best because it has it all—main characters who are as interesting and compelling as they are sexy, excellent pacing, gripping scenes as Maisy and Blaze compete for their medals, and a number of sex scenes that are beyond hot and all of which drive the romance along. If you’ve been looking for your next great erotic read, you won’t want to miss out on this one. Source

Would you drink coffee made from this coffee maker?

I feel this is unacceptable, what do you think about a mother and daughter lesbian relationship?

A gay couple have been arrested and charged for forcing their three children to eat dog feces as punishment. Amanda Wright, 29, and Besline Joseph, 25, are accused of repeatedly beating the children aged 8,9, and 10. The children were reportedly beaten with extension cords, belts, sticks and other objects, and they had bloody noses, bruises, and cuts as a result of these beatings. Police believe that the innocent children were also locked in closets and a basement, and fed only bread, water and oatmeal. Amanda and Besline are also accused of forcing the children to eat dog feces and threatened to kill them if they told anyone about what was happening. Both women were each charged with three counts each of first-degree child abuse, second-degree child abuse, first-degree assault, second-degree assault, reckless endangerment, neglect of a minor, stalking, use of a dangerous weapon with intent to injure, false imprisonment, and one count each of causing ingestion of a bodily fluid, preventing/interfering with report of suspected child abuse or neglect, and conspiracy to commit first-degree child abuse. The two women were arrested at their Wicomico County home Wednesday after an investigation by Maryland State Police. Source

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Veso Golden Oke, a Nigerian-born Ghanaian transgender woman currently working in Ghana, says her goal is to continue to look more beautiful despite hateful comments from transphobic people. In a chat, the gorgeous 24-year-old model and professional make-up artist describes herself as “unique and beautiful.” The negative comments she receives from people do not bring her down at all, she says. Instead, they motivate her. “What keeps me going is the negative utterances from people, because they help build me up. I fight every day to look more feminine, they don’t even recognize that I am trans.” Most people think effeminate men are gay, but Oke says she has never considered herself gay despite the fact that she is very feminine; instead, she has always known that she is a woman and that’s why she is currently transitioning. “I consider myself a Trans because am on hormone pills already,” she says. Unlike most African parents who object to their children embracing their true nature as LGBTQ, Oke’s parents support her fully, she says. They know that she lives openly as a trans woman. Oke lives in Accra, Ghana, where she mentors young female models. With her guidance, some of them have won beauty pageants. Source

The events reportedly unfolded on Jan. 7 in Lagos when *Kingsley [not his real name], a budding actor, went to have his hair cut. At the barber shop, he met a man who recognized him from Facebook and, after a brief conversation, they exchanged phone numbers. Kingsley said the stranger started calling him, saying that he was interested in acting and asking that they meet and talk. When Kingsley visited the man at his residence at Igando-Ikotun in the Lagos area, the man quickly locked the door and requested that they have sex, but Kingsley declined. The stranger said that he knew Kingsley was gay because he had been following him on Facebook. The two men argued and fought. The man, who was older and stronger than Kingsley, overpowered him, forcefully pulled his clothes off and started taking pictures of him while he was naked. He then said that if Kingsley did not have sex with him, he would alert friends who he said were already waiting outside and tell them to enter the home, rape Kingsley and publicly disgrace him for being gay. If Kingsley did not give him N50,000 the stranger said, Kingsley would be outed publicly as gay and the photographs would be circulated online and sent to his family and police. Afraid, Kingsley called a friend and convinced him to pay the money. Once he received the money, the stranger stole Kingley’s phone and set him free. Under Nigerian law, blackmail and extortion are punishable by up to 14 years in prison. Nigerian LGBT rights activist Noble Charles Samuel said such cases are common in several parts of the country. No one has been able to rein in the gangs of blackmailers and extortionists who operate in Nigeria, he said. “We have similar gangs in Ibusa, in Delta state and in Aba, Abia state,” the activist said. Source

What type of rat is this o?

A lesbian horror film has been submitted for Best Foreign Film at the Oscars 2018. Thelma, which will be released this week, has been submitted by Norwegian film bosses and could become the first film of its type to win the accolade. Directed by Joachim Trier, it tells the story of a college-aged girl who leaves her overprotective parents to go to university in Oslo. As well as dealing with supernatural unexplained seizures, the film explores Thelma’s coming to terms with her attraction to women while trying to please her conservative Christian parents. Thelma will be the first lesbian horror film to be nominated for an Oscar if Norway’s submission is successful. It has already received praise from a number of critics, including Newsweek, which likened the film to the critically acclaimed It Follows. The film has also been applauded for Trier’s efforts to create a film whose hero isn’t the same “white, straight man”. The film has been described as a coming of age story, with The Verge going so far as to say it is a story about the “terror of growing up”. Thelma’s conservative parents want to suppress her supernatural powers and fix her seizures, but when she feels attraction toward a fellow female student, her powers begin to grow stronger, with The Verge describing the film as having a “powerful sensuality”. Source

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Slay or Nayy?

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This video is making the rounds on black twitter. What do you make of this video? Is he gay or is he acting gay? I have always suspected Diddy ever since 50 leaked a picture of him and Lee Daniels.

Morning all and a very happy Sunday to all! Happy New Year's Eve Yo! -lol. If there is ever such a greeting. Lol What do you reckon is your favourite thing about being a lesbian or bisexual or trans?

Activists from Nigeria, Uganda, and Kenya records new song to promote LGBT Equality. The name of the video is "love Is Love” This group of Nigerian, Kenyan, and Ugandan human rights activists came together to record the powerful and non-apologetic song championing LGBT equality in Africa. Scene from “Love Is Love” video The song, was released on Dec. 25 on YouTube as a video filled with photos showing moments in which the activists support LGBT equality and work to achieve it.. “Love Is Love” features Odi Agev Noel, Peter Okeugo, TaaMic, Jane Ikpe, Jarkie ‘Jaybird’ & Charlie. According to one of the lead singers, Odi Agev, the recording of the song was done at a human rights training held in Nairobi, Kenya, for select African activists seeking “to promote all forms of love.” “It’s a song recorded by human rights activists from Nigeria, Uganda, and Kenya to promote love/marriage equality and celebrate all forms of love. We recorded in Nairobi at the human rights training organized by Action Aid Global Platforms and All Out,” he said. Watch the video below or click on any of the photos.

Former aide to ex president Goodluck Jonathan on Sunday said Christmas is an abomination and a blasphemous festival. Reno Omokri says Christmas is European holiday and a commandment of man not from God. In a series of tweets, he wrote, “Christmas is an abomination and a blasphemous festival and the Bible warned us about it in 1 Timothy 4:1. “The Spirit clearly says that in later times some will abandon the faith and follow deceiving spirits and things taught by demons. “Christmas is a European holiday, not a Christian holiday. It is celebrated in Nigeria and much of the world not because The Bible says so, but for the simple reason that it was Europeans that brought modern day Christianity to Nigeria, Africa and much of the world “The first Christmas was in the year 336 AD when the Roman Emperor, Constantine, converted the celebration of a pagan Mass to mark the winter solstice which glorified European deities. That festival was marked on December 25. Christmas has nothing to do with Christ. “You and I know that Jesus condemned the Pharisees. Now ask yourself why Jesus condemned them? Matthew 15:9 gives us the answer: ‘But in vain they do worship me, teaching for doctrines the commandments of men’. Christmas is a commandment of man “If satan asks true Christians to celebrate a pagan satanic ritual festival, they will never do it. So he just transformed a satanic ritual festival by giving it a new name-Christmas and voila, Christians begin to celebrate what Jesus didn’t command us to celebrate.” Source

In his open letter to comedian I Go Dye which was published yesterday, Atiku Abubakar disclosed the difference between Nigeria and Naija. He wrote Ladies, do you agree with his definition? Source

I kissed a girl and I liked it, but I don't think she did She's my best friend, and she has a boyfriend. I'm her best friend and I have a girlfriend. Well technically I do... I still remember the first time I saw her. It was right after Law school and I was starting NYSC. We met at a friend's party and it was like we knew each other for longer than that. We talked about growing up, common friends, the sorry state of Nigeria and where we saw ourselves in 10 years. She was witty, a little self deprecating, but quite genuine. We laughed a lot that night. I had a car so i dropped her at home and from then on, we started hanging out often. I was very honest with her about my attraction for girls and she took it in stride. She made jokes about me crushing on her in the future, but that was all there ever was to it. But our friendship picked off and we became thick as thieves. We hung out often after work, at her house and at mine, with her siblings and with mine, with her boyfriend and with other friends. Everything was dandy. But just because the lesbian gods are never satisfied with a good thing, I found myself looking at her with lust one day. So it wasn't like I didn't know she was attractive, I did. I appreciated her good looks and paid her compliments anytime she dressed up. I'm also one of those people who would never put sex ahead of friendship so she had already been put firmly in the friend zone. I had seen her in different stages of undress on several occasions, slept on the same bed with her more times than I can count, and helped her put on and take off clothes plenty times. I had seen her body in all its glory many, many times. But this one time, while gisting and grooving at her brother's wedding reception, the light hit her face a certain way and I suddenly saw her in a different light. Pun intended. It was like I had been punched in the guts by a stranger and all of a sudden, I wanted to kiss her. I wanted to hold her, grab her right there on the dance floor, twirl her around and have her rock me right in front of everyone. I wanted to feel her back pressed against my breast, her bum rubbing against crotch and have my hands guide her movements. At this moment, I was on fire just looking at her with lust and desire. I blinked my eyes a couple of times, shook my head and tried to put it out of my head. Of course she was attractive and this was bound to happen I told myself. I chucked it down to general hornyness and tried to forget it ever happened. Sadly, I didn't succeed. In the next few weeks, I tried many times to get her out of my mind but I never really succeeded. She was the person I started imagining anytime I masturbated, and when I met some cute girl in Jos and kissed her, it was my friend I imagined I was kissing. Oh boy, casala don burst! So I decided there was nothing else to do but tell her. Great idea right? Wrong! I mentioned in passing that I had thought of her while kissing the girl in Jos and she laughed like she had never heard anything funnier. Yup, that was my friend. She laughed, teased me, giggled when I told her everything, and yabbed me for hours. She joked about how hot she was and how she knew that sooner or later, even I wouldn't be able to resist her charms. To be honest, it was a relief for me that she took it this way. We joked about how weird it was that the issue had never come up before for either of us. And then we swept it under the table. She went on with her life like nothing had changed, and I went on with my life hoping everything would change back to the way it was. I was smitten but I was hopeful that it would come to pass without drama. She would catch me staring at her sometimes and just shake her head or wink at me, other times she would laugh and shake her butt in my face if she was anywhere close to me. Every so often, she would compliment how good I looked but nothing over the top. It was a weird but comfortable place to be and I tried to make the best of it. I had started seeing some other girl, (long distance like a proper lesbian) and life was good. And then we played truth or dare. Truth or dare, I hate that game. Hate it! I'm not much of a drinker (by not much, I mean at all) so every single time, I have to spill my guts or do the dare. So unfair. And her boyfriend asked me to kiss her cos he had always been curious about how the 2 of us would handle our chemistry. What chemistry I wondered before she quickly sat on my laps and started kissing me. I could hear the rest of our friends cheering as she held unto my face and kissed me. I could feel my chest pounding as the air we were breathing became hot and heavy. Her lips were against mine, soft, wet and gorgeous, just as I imagined they would be. She grazed her tongue against mine, sucked on my lower lips, bit me playfully and ran her hands down my chest as I gasped for air. I didn't want to think about what was going on, I just gave myself up to feeling everything. I was just a passenger in this amazing activity. Before I could do or say anything more, her weight was off my laps and she was bowing down and curtsying to accept her claps and compliments. I tried to laugh it off and be unaffected but maybe the truth of it was written on my face. She winked at me from across the table where she was now seated by her boyfriend. I blanked through the rest of the night in disbelief until I I looked down later at my phone to see a bbm message from her. 'Stop overthinking it' she said. Followed later by 'It was just a kiss'. I looked down at my phone again and read the words she had written. 'It was just a kiss'. How could something so earth shattering, soul moving and p**sy wetting, be classified as just a kiss? Did she not feel my heart sync with hers the moment her lips touched mine? Did she not feel my world realign when she moved her hands down my chest? I kissed this girl and I liked it. But obviously she didn't feel the same. I applied for a school outside Nigeria a week later. I got admitted and left shortly after. But in the weeks before I left, we spoke less and less. We saw one another even less often. My life had been affected by that kiss and I was devastated she didn't feel a thing. It was just the way it was. Me and long distance girl broke up shortly after as I was no longer committed to her. But when my family and friends dropped me at the airport on my last day in 9ja. She was the last to leave. The last I hugged. I think there might have been a look of longing or regret on her face as I walked away. But maybe it is just wishful thinking. She mouthed 'don't be a stranger' to me as I went past immigration but I think we both knew, strangers was the best we could be from here on out. Truth or dare, I f***king hate that game!!!

A lesbian twin and her straight sister have been studied by scientists who are searching for answers about human sexuality. Researchers hoping to identify genetic and environmental factors associated with sexuality hit the jackpot when they discovered identical twins Sarah Nunn, who is attracted to men, and Rosie Albewhite, who is attracted to women. The 29-year-old sisters were investigated by scientists as part of a study aiming to learn more about how sexuality develops in childhood. The sisters were among 55 other twins studied by researchers at the University of Essex in England. Sarah recalled Rosie’s tomboy tendencies as they were growing up, telling The Times her boyfriends “instantly felt more at home” with her sister. “She liked [soccer], talked about boy things, played video games,” she said. “They’d be like, ‘Sarah, you’re really boring. I’m going to go and play with Rosie.'” “I’d get jealous that they liked her better.” But Sarah was quick to understand that her twin wasn’t interested in boys romantically. “When they tried to get romantic with Rosie she’d say, ‘That’s not me.’ Then they came back,” she explained. The new research will build on previous scientific studies that searched for signs of how sexuality, such as gender-atypical mannerisms of behavior, manifests before puberty. Academics have struggled to produce concrete results in the past due to difficulties determining whether reported behavior patterns were remembered accurately. But the new research using dozens of twins and photographs from their childhoods could shed light on the subject. University of Essex psychology academic Gerulf Rieger and his colleague Tuesday Watts asked Sarah, Rosie and other twins with “discordant sexual orientations” to send them childhood pictures so they could be shown to strangers who were unaware of the purpose of the experiment. The strangers were then asked to try and spot how the signs of the twins’ behavior, clothing, and play diverged and pinpoint how and when it happened. The study is somewhat controversial, as suggesting firm links exist between sexuality and gender could be seen as reinforcing stereotypes about male and female behavior, which some say is harmful. But pictures provided by the twins make this issue difficult to avoid and show Sarah styling herself as female characters like Barbie, while Rosie suited up as Batman. As the years passed, Rosie said she remembered wondering why she was less interested in boys than her sister. “I questioned it for so long,” she said. “Sarah was really boy crazy.” Rosie even rejected her own boyfriend’s advances at one point, realizing she did not want to kiss him. But Sarah stepped in and said: “I’m the same … I will kiss you.” Rieger said the research into differences pre-puberty unlocked valuable insights about sexual identity. He believes the most likely explanation for the divergence in behavior is something that happens before birth. “Paternal hormones are the number one candidate,” he said. “Our theory is that even though twins are identical what happens in the womb is quite different.” “They can have different nutrition, different levels of hormones.” Source