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The Emir of Gwandu and the Chairman Kebbi Council of Chiefs, Alhaji Muhammadu Bashar, has attributed the current security challenges in the country to the way in which Nigerians have been ignoring God’s commands and adopting satanic behaviours. The Emir said such satanic behaviours include rampant homosexuality, rape and lesbianism, which were causative factors of insecurity in the country. The monarch made the observation while addressing his subjects after Eid-el-Kabir prayer in Birnin Kebbi on Sunday. “The society today is bedevilled by cases of rape, homosexuality, lesbianism, kidnapping and rampant killings which resulted into the present insecurity Nigeria is faced with,” he said. He charged the general public, especially parents to instill discipline and respect in their children by giving them sound education. “I give glory to God for giving us the opportunity to witness another Sallah. “The present ills in our society is also due to indiscipline and too much love for material wealth,” he said. Bashar warned that unless the people fear to sin against God and parents remain committed to imbibing good family values, the country would continue to face instability. The Emir also called on the people to be compassionate and supportive to the needy, saying that those who were able to sacrifice animals during the Eid should endeavour to share the meet with the poor and other needy persons. He prayed to Allah to continue to bless the country and give leaders the wisdom to better the lives of people. In his Sallah message, Gov. Atiku Bagudu of Kebbi, prayed for peaceful return of pilgrims from Saudi Arabia. Bagudu appealed to communities living along flood prone areas across the state to relocate to upper areas in order to avoid being affected by flood. He thanked President Muhammadu Buhari for assenting to the bill converting College of Agriculture, Zuru to the status of a University. (NAN). Source

If you knew that your friend's fiance is gay, would you tell her? If yes, how would you go about it?

Hi Ladies, Personally, I don't like to advise married people. Lol. Or those in committed heterosexual relationships. Largely because I have a zero tolerance for BS and my perspective isn't always popular. From experience, some women do take a lot and "shrink" themselves for the men in the relationship. To each her own. Now, a good friend of mine confided in me. She is clearly hurting -this broke my heart. As a disclaimer I told her that I'm in no position to give her any advice (she laughed.lol) and so I will simply lend a listening ear and point out to her the actions that I consider unfair on both sides. How willing are you to advise those in committed heterosexual relationships?

The Omu of Anioma, Martha Dunkwu, is a revered traditional ruler of Anioma land, which covers nine local government areas in Delta State. Anioma people are the Igbo located in Delta, who are separated from the Igbo in the South-East by the River Niger. Dunkwu tells OCHEI MATTHEW about the historical background of the Omu, its spirituality and others What has been the most interesting part of being the monarch? The most interesting part is the fact that the throne is indigenous to Anioma people. The two titles of Omu: Omu queen mother and Eze Nwayi (queen). Our forefathers’ intention was for the Omu to be a queen in charge of women. So, you find out that when I go all over the country, people look at me as if I’m a TV screen or movie star because they had not seen such before. Our former governor, Chief James Ibori, wrote me a goodwill message when I celebrated my 50th birthday, 14 years ago. He said I brought feasibility to this ancient institution. As a media person, I brought that to this institution. So, it has been interesting going all over the world because they didn’t know there is a part of Africa where their forefathers had decided 700 years ago that a woman must occupy this throne and play her part for the community to move forward. So sometimes at events, I’m the only female at a setting dominated by men. What were you doing before you became the Omu? I was a media practitioner. I studied in England, the United States of America and returned 35 years ago. I was a media consultant for the late Oba of Benin, His Royal Majesty, Omo n’Oba n’Edo Uku Akpolokpolo Erediauwa, of blessed memory and the late Orodje of Okpe. At some point, I consulted for the Asagba of Asaba and about seven traditional rulers. I was in the consultancy business but when I became the Deputy Omu, I decided that the best thing was to start working for traditional rulers. I was Deputy Omu for three years and became substantive Omu for 17 years, so I have done the work of Omu for 20 years now. How much do you miss your old life? No, I don’t miss my old life at all. I must confess that what I am doing is the physical manifestation of spiritual conclusion. So, once God has decided on a matter, you cannot miss anything because that’s the intention of God. How did you feel when you got to know that you would become the traditional ruler? Well, initially I was apprehensive because in the past, Omus were women in their early 80s and 90s and as you are aware, Omu doesn’t get married. And if you are married, once you become Omu, you must leave your marital home. However, I was not married so I didn’t have any issue with having to leave my husband. I wasn’t quite sure of how I would handle it but when I was convinced that it was the intention of God, I took it upon myself to do the right thing and I will continue to do to the right thing. How has your life as a female monarch been? Rosy…(laughs). Well, it’s challenging when you cannot marry, go into a relationship or attend a burial. There are so many things you cannot do as Omu. However, the work of Omu is 70 per cent spiritual, so I have to keep praying. I also have chiefs attached to my palace. There are spiritual and executive chiefs in the palace. What experience do you think you have had that you think came as a result of your being a queen? I am grateful to God and I remain grateful to the late Oba of Benin Kingdom. I learnt a lot from him. The Omu institution is very conservative and ancient. It is a dictatorship in the sense that no woman was consulted when few old wise men instituted the Omu institution. When many people see me and find out about the institution, they marvel. The challenges I have are even from our people. So what have been your biggest challenges since you became the monarch? One, I have tried to fuse the good of the old times with the good of the new period to have something brand new. I don’t have any challenge from the people of the North, West, South-East or Deltans. If there are any challenges I am facing, they are from my people and not necessarily from Anioma people. They are from my own home – Okpanam – and of course, it is understandable because even the best among us are despised in their homes. Anioma people own this institution; it is not a personal institution. So, one would not call what I experience as challenges in that sense. Even in Okpanam, the institution is for our forefathers and not for any individual. That’s why it is said that the Omu cannot abdicate the throne and people cannot put all manner of things in place to remove the Omu. So, in 700 years, no Omu has abdicated the throne and no Omu has been removed. Source

Beyonce blowing up the internet again with this powerful song! Lyrics Brown skin girl Your skin just like pearls The best thing in the world Never trade you for anybody else Singin' brown skin girl Your skin just like pearls The best thing in the world I never trade you for anybody else, singin' She said she really grew up poor like me Don't believe in nothin' but the Almighty Just a likkle jeans and a pure white tee She never did forever be nobody wifey, yeah So while I may not pretty boy, your heart is amiss Play it like a villain 'cause she caught in a wave Tonight I am walkin' away Lined up my mind, on the grind, yeah, yeah Tonight I might fall in love, dependin' on how you hold me I'm glad that I'm calmin' down, can't let no one come control me Keep dancin' and call it love, she fightin' but fallin' slowly If ever you are in doubt, remember what mama told me Brown skin girl, ya skin just like pearls Your back against the world I never trade you for anybody else, say Brown skin girl, ya skin just like pearls The best thing inna di world I never trade you for anybody else, say Pose like a trophy when Naomis walk in She need an Oscar for that pretty dark skin Pretty like Lupita when the cameras close in Drip broke the levee when my Kellys roll in I think tonight she might braid her braids Melanin too dark to throw her shade She minds her business and whines her waist Gold like 24k, okay Tonight I might fall in love, dependin' on how you hold me I'm glad that I'm calmin' down, can't let no one come control me Keep dancin' and call it love, she fightin' but fallin' slowly If ever you are in doubt, remember what mama told me Brown skin girl, ya skin just like pearls Your back against the world I never trade you for anybody else, say Brown skin girl, ya skin just like pearls The best thing inna di (about the) world I never trade you for anybody else, say Oh, have you looked in the mirror lately? (Lately) Wish you could trade eyes with me ('cause) There's complexities in complexion But your skin, it glow like diamonds Dig me like the earth, you be giving birth Took everything in life, baby, know your worth I love everything about you, from your nappy curls To every single curve, your body natural Same skin that was broken be the same skin takin' over Most things out of focus, view But when you're in the room, they notice you (notice you) 'Cause you're beautiful Yeah, you're beautiful The men dem gon' fall in love With you and all of your glory Your skin is not only dark, it shines and it tells your story Keep dancin', they can't control you They watchin', they all adore you If ever you are in doubt, remember what mama told you Brown skin girl (brown skin girl), ya skin just like pearls (brown skin girl) Your back against the world (oh) I never trade you for anybody else, say (no, no) Brown skin girl (brown skin girl), ya skin just like pearls (brown skin) The best thing in all the world I never trade you for anybody else, say Brown skin girl Your skin just like pearls The best thing in the world I never trade you for anybody else, singin'

Sony is crowdfunding a wearable that could be an absolute game-changer for future heatwaves. The device, called Reon Pocket, is essentially a wearable air conditioning unit that blasts cold air down your neck. Sony explained: “Reduce the discomfort due to various temperatures such as hot summer outings, crowded train heat, cold winter outings, etc., and get comfortable in summer and winter.” Around the size of a credit card, the device sits in a special undershirt with a pocket at the base of your neck. The device connects to an accompanying app via Bluetooth, where users can set the temperature they’d like. According to Sony, during testing, the Reon Pocket was able to reduce users’ body temperature by 13°C, or increase it by 8.3°C. While this all might sound too good to be true, sadly as always, there’s a catch. At the moment, it appears that the device will only launch in Japan, so it’s bad news for us Brits. Prices range from 12,760 yen to 19,030 yen (£95 to £141). We’ll just have to keep our fingers crossed they’re ready before next year's heatwave! Source

Nicole Chilaka-Ukpo, a German woman married to a Nigerian man, apologized to black women for the injustice done against them and for being made to feel like they were inferior to women of other races. She said women of other races try everything to look like black women, yet black women have been taught to dislike the way they are She wrote: dear black queeni know we have done you wrong, done you wrong so many times, on so many levels, abused and oppressed, then and now, in shackles then, in mental bondage now, we have done you wrong, we have failed you. failed to protect you, failed to honour you, failed to give you credit, failed to praise you for who you are. but instead we glorify every copy but you. we glorify big lips, curvy bodys, curly/kinky hair and your braiding arts, the way you talk and walk, we glorify all that on everybody else BUT YOU. but no more.we see you.your hair that defines gravity,your skin that absorbs the sunlight and glows from within, your features that often leave other women jealous running from the tanning bed to the next available plastic surgeon, to get just a tiny bit of what you are naturally blessed with. we see you, you carry the dna of humanity, you were the first woman to walk earth, and we all arose fromyou. you have been humilated for everything you are, but you will eventually be celebrated again, for everything you have become.dear black queen,no matter how light, no matter how dark your skin is, you are perfectly made. rise black queen, rise ?? and with you, the black nation will arise again ??#NoJusticeNoPeace Thoughts?

Hi Ladies, Bullshit means different things to different people. What do you have a zero tolerance for?

Imagine you are a Sugar baby and you've just found out that your Sugar mummy has a Sugar mummy. What would you do? 😁🙄

Happy Sunday ladies, I do hope it's been restful so far. As the title suggests, how would you deal with sexual harassment or bullying if you were faced with it in the workplace. Would you fight it or start planning an exit?

Hello ladies, I heard on the news this morning that some batches of the Eva bottled water are being recalled. Please stay safe. Although the contaminated batch numbers are known, who checks such things when buying water? My advise? If you must buy bottled water, buy another brand till it all clears. https://punchng.com/nafdac-probe-halts-eva-water-production/ https://www.thecable.ng/nbc-apologises-over-recall-of-contaminated-eva-bottled-water/amp

Hello Girls... As the header reads, how would you take it if your girl left you for a guy. No signs, you thought you were both building something serious and then she sits you down and breaks the news to you. What would you do?

I'm peckish and I'm having to pick between buying a pack of fruits or small chops. The both go for the same price. If you were in my shoes, which would you choose and why?

Hello Girls, So.... I just got back from the watch shop where I fit my watches to size. The owner of the shop is a man and his business partner is also a man. Today, I get there and I meet the attendant who is female. I hand her the watch and then she goes into the back office (workshop) and never came back. Lol. In previous times, she would go in there, hand my watch over to the man and come right out. So from the window, I asked if she was the one fitting it to which she replied with a yes. "Haaa!" (In my mind of course). My mind went into a bit of an overdrive. I tried to recall if I had mentioned to her that the watch was brand new. I started to think up the worst and how I would not walk away without compensation if the watch got damaged. On and on my thoughts went till I took a step back and reprimanded myself and allowed myself have more confidence in her ability -after all, she has been working there long enough. What could possibly go wrong with such a simple task? This makes me wonder if we still unconsciously hold certain stereotypes about traditional male jobs being performed by women and vice versa. Do share your stories.

Hello Girls, If your girl (out of the blue) says that she's pregnant, what would you do? 🙄☻

Hello ladies... I've been quite pensive since I woke from a nap and for some reason, today, the focus seems to be Nigeria. First, I was tempted to think along the lines of how Nigeria has failed its youths most especially as the brightest and smartest roam the streets in search of opportunity. A country where everyday seems like a struggle and a hustle to just get by. Then I thought to myself: "what would she look like if Nigeria were an actual human being?" I dared to conjure up the image of a child who grew up in prosperity, wild and free but suddenly had her childhood cut-short when she was bereaved of her parents and had to go live with foster parents. I imagined that child growing up under some form of oppression that often arises when one isn't fully embraced or welcomed into a family. In her teens, she is able to set herself free from foster care and then once again, she begins to make a name for herself with the help of mentors and teachers who wanted nothing but for her to succeed. This upward progression was also truncated when she meets a man who claimed to have loved her but who had other self-gratifying plans. From then on, man after man, experience after experience, her wealth and earnings were plundered. She was made redundant. Now, she is 58. Looking back at her life and the decades of abuse and damage, we can only begin to understand how deeply ingrained the hurt is and perhaps why patience is required to nurse her back to soundness. My question now is this, as a people, what part can we play? What can be done individually or collectively to make her great again?

It's been a while we played any games here. Any game ideas ladies?

Hey ladies... I was trying to decide if I had one favourite type of kiss but it's been tough deciding because the truth is, the style applied is dependent on one's emotional state at the time, the reason for the kiss, the person being kissed etc... I'm curious about other styles out there that I may be missing out on. Lol. As you all know, I don't get out of the temple much 😇

Hey girls, Happy May 29th. Lol. aka Inauguration day. So... would you ask your girl to get tested? If yes, at what point in your relationship would this be? If your asked you to go get tested, how would you feel about it. Is it something you appreciate or would you rather continue on in good faith?

Hey girls, I'm hoping you are all having a restful one? Mehn.... so, what would you think of a Nigerian girl who says she loves watching The Ellen Degeneres Show. Would you give her a knowing look/smile? Lol. Is it something folks watch these days ? Emphasis on Nigerian o....

If you absolutely had to go, how would you go about using a public toilet? By 'public', I mean: The good -that is; banks, restaurants etc... The bad - that is; malls, plazas or markets The ugly - that Is; those temporary mounted units. Lol. Share your experiences.

Nollywood actress, Nse Ikpe-Etim has revealed she won't be able to have a child for the rest of her life because she has no womb (uterus). While speaking at an event tagged “Conversation With Nse” in Lekki, the actress told her audience that three- years ago she was diagnosed with Adenomyosis, a condition whereby the inner lining of the uterus breaks through the muscle wall of the uterus. She said, “I was told I couldn’t have kids. And so, I had to have a hysterectomy (removal of the uterus) to make me have a life again and to stop going through what I was going through. And I’m literarily telling women and men, it really doesn’t matter if you can’t bear children. What really matters is what you would do for the world, for the universe.” Recounting when she was first told by the doctor that she would have to remove her uterus to live a normal life, she said, “Tears dropped and then my husband squeezed my hand. It was reassuring there was someone there and it was telling me that this is reality, my reality.” Speaking further, she revealed the ordeal made her fall into depression. “I didn’t think there was any point anymore because my society taught me that I have to be a mother to be appreciated and every time I went online, I would have one troll or two say ‘you never born? But I’m thankful that that didn’t break me. I’m thankful for Nollywood.” Source

Source Quite common! Anyone else surprised?

A friend of mine said : "Most Nigerian girls are boring in bed, and they have no imagination. All they do is lay down or finger. They can't kiss, eat pussy, or fuck properly. They are allergic to foreplay, and sexual playfulness. Fucking with them is an exercise in patience." What are your thoughts?

When you ask another this question. Do you really ask with the intention to listen for how they really are or is it just another way of saying "Hello"? When asked this question, do you respond sincerely or do you simply give a convenient reply? "How are you?" Is one of the most used and abused statements. Do share your honest thoughts about it.