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If you knew that your friend's fiance is gay, would you tell her? If yes, how would you go about it?

Hi Ladies, I'm sure you're wondering what NL has got to do with the topic... I follow the kito diaries on social and I find rather alarming the rate in which the guys (gays) are out to blackmail their fellow guys for money. It's so rampant that the gay community has its 'Kito Alert' which seeks to expose culprits by putting up photos and social media names of the 'kito scum'. It then made me wonder if there are lesbians/community members who partake in these sort of horrendous schemes and if it is just as rampant? To protect our own, perhaps we should also start sharing details and experiences to protect other unsuspecting community members.

Minna Salami has got to be my favourite woman crush. Lol. She was first before Elvina 🙄 lol. I love Minna's writings and I enjoy reading her blog posts. I thought I should create a section for her work here where I would from time to time post some of her articles here for some intelligent discuss. I enjoy her perspective so much so that I often wish the write-ups never come to an end. I think she's a community member too. Lol.

Simone Biles made history more than once this weekend during the US Gymnastics Championships in Kansas City, Missouri. The five-time Olympic medalist and 14-time world champion became the first woman to ever land a triple-double in competition during her floor routine Sunday night. She also snagged her sixth national all-around title with a score of 118.500, nearly five points ahead of second place finisher Sunisa Lee. Biles' stunning floor routine Sunday included several astounding flips and jumps but it was her insane triple-double -- two backflips and three twists while in the air -- that wowed judges and fans alike. And that wasn't the reigning Olympic and world all-around champion's only history-making moment of the competition. On Friday, the 22-year old became the first gymnast to attempt and land a double-double dismount off of a high beam. The move involves two twists and two somersaults while dismounting. Biles had attempted the triple-double the same day she landed her double-double but just missed the landing. Now, she's nailed the landing, made history twice, and won her sixth national title all in one weekend. Next, it's onto the 2020 Tokyo Olympics which, Biles said, will be her last. Source

Illinois Gov. J.B. Pritzker signed into law on Friday a bill that ensures the contributions of LGBTQ people are taught in public schools. House Bill 246 was introduced by Rep. Anna Moeller to amend the school code to add a more inclusive history curriculum. "In public schools only, the teaching of history shall include a study of the roles and contributions of lesbian, gay, bisexual, and transgender people in the history of this country and this State," the bill states. Equality Illinois, the state's largest LGBTQ civil rights advocacy organization, supported the bill and said the curriculum can have a "positive effect on students' self-image and make their peers more accepting." The organization said some topics that will be added to the new curriculum include the nation's first gay rights organization, the Society for Human Rights, being formed in 1924 in Chicago, and Sally Ride, the first US woman in space, who was a lesbian. "One of the best ways to overcome intolerance is through education and exposure to different people and viewpoints," State Sen. Heather Steans, who also sponsored the bill, said in a statement on her website earlier this year. "An inclusive curriculum will not only teach an accurate version of history but also promote acceptance of the LGBTQ community." The bill passed the Senate and House earlier this year and is scheduled to go into effect in July 2020. The bill also states that all textbooks "authorized to be purchased must include the roles and contributions of all people protected under the Illinois Human Rights Act and must be non-discriminatory as to any of the characteristics under the Act." "It is my hope that teaching students about the valuable contributions LGBTQ individuals have made throughout history will create a safer environment with fewer incidents of harassment," Steans said. "LGBTQ children and teenagers will also be able to gain new role models who share life experiences with them." Source

Simone Biles made history more than once this weekend during the US Gymnastics Championships in Kansas City, Missouri. The five-time Olympic medalist and 14-time world champion became the first woman to ever land a triple-double in competition during her floor routine Sunday night. She also snagged her sixth national all-around title with a score of 118.500, nearly five points ahead of second place finisher Sunisa Lee. Biles' stunning floor routine Sunday included several astounding flips and jumps but it was her insane triple-double -- two backflips and three twists while in the air -- that wowed judges and fans alike. And that wasn't the reigning Olympic and world all-around champion's only history-making moment of the competition. On Friday, the 22-year old became the first gymnast to attempt and land a double-double dismount off of a high beam. The move involves two twists and two somersaults while dismounting. Biles had attempted the triple-double the same day she landed her double-double but just missed the landing. Now, she's nailed the landing, made history twice, and won her sixth national title all in one weekend. Next, it's onto the 2020 Tokyo Olympics which, Biles said, will be her last. Source

The Emir of Gwandu and the Chairman Kebbi Council of Chiefs, Alhaji Muhammadu Bashar, has attributed the current security challenges in the country to the way in which Nigerians have been ignoring God’s commands and adopting satanic behaviours. The Emir said such satanic behaviours include rampant homosexuality, rape and lesbianism, which were causative factors of insecurity in the country. The monarch made the observation while addressing his subjects after Eid-el-Kabir prayer in Birnin Kebbi on Sunday. “The society today is bedevilled by cases of rape, homosexuality, lesbianism, kidnapping and rampant killings which resulted into the present insecurity Nigeria is faced with,” he said. He charged the general public, especially parents to instill discipline and respect in their children by giving them sound education. “I give glory to God for giving us the opportunity to witness another Sallah. “The present ills in our society is also due to indiscipline and too much love for material wealth,” he said. Bashar warned that unless the people fear to sin against God and parents remain committed to imbibing good family values, the country would continue to face instability. The Emir also called on the people to be compassionate and supportive to the needy, saying that those who were able to sacrifice animals during the Eid should endeavour to share the meet with the poor and other needy persons. He prayed to Allah to continue to bless the country and give leaders the wisdom to better the lives of people. In his Sallah message, Gov. Atiku Bagudu of Kebbi, prayed for peaceful return of pilgrims from Saudi Arabia. Bagudu appealed to communities living along flood prone areas across the state to relocate to upper areas in order to avoid being affected by flood. He thanked President Muhammadu Buhari for assenting to the bill converting College of Agriculture, Zuru to the status of a University. (NAN). Source

The Premier League is back: Rivals ready for another thrilling season. Who will get their hands on the Premier League trophy this season?

Hi Ladies, Personally, I don't like to advise married people. Lol. Or those in committed heterosexual relationships. Largely because I have a zero tolerance for BS and my perspective isn't always popular. From experience, some women do take a lot and "shrink" themselves for the men in the relationship. To each her own. Now, a good friend of mine confided in me. She is clearly hurting -this broke my heart. As a disclaimer I told her that I'm in no position to give her any advice (she laughed.lol) and so I will simply lend a listening ear and point out to her the actions that I consider unfair on both sides. How willing are you to advise those in committed heterosexual relationships?

The Omu of Anioma, Martha Dunkwu, is a revered traditional ruler of Anioma land, which covers nine local government areas in Delta State. Anioma people are the Igbo located in Delta, who are separated from the Igbo in the South-East by the River Niger. Dunkwu tells OCHEI MATTHEW about the historical background of the Omu, its spirituality and others What has been the most interesting part of being the monarch? The most interesting part is the fact that the throne is indigenous to Anioma people. The two titles of Omu: Omu queen mother and Eze Nwayi (queen). Our forefathers’ intention was for the Omu to be a queen in charge of women. So, you find out that when I go all over the country, people look at me as if I’m a TV screen or movie star because they had not seen such before. Our former governor, Chief James Ibori, wrote me a goodwill message when I celebrated my 50th birthday, 14 years ago. He said I brought feasibility to this ancient institution. As a media person, I brought that to this institution. So, it has been interesting going all over the world because they didn’t know there is a part of Africa where their forefathers had decided 700 years ago that a woman must occupy this throne and play her part for the community to move forward. So sometimes at events, I’m the only female at a setting dominated by men. What were you doing before you became the Omu? I was a media practitioner. I studied in England, the United States of America and returned 35 years ago. I was a media consultant for the late Oba of Benin, His Royal Majesty, Omo n’Oba n’Edo Uku Akpolokpolo Erediauwa, of blessed memory and the late Orodje of Okpe. At some point, I consulted for the Asagba of Asaba and about seven traditional rulers. I was in the consultancy business but when I became the Deputy Omu, I decided that the best thing was to start working for traditional rulers. I was Deputy Omu for three years and became substantive Omu for 17 years, so I have done the work of Omu for 20 years now. How much do you miss your old life? No, I don’t miss my old life at all. I must confess that what I am doing is the physical manifestation of spiritual conclusion. So, once God has decided on a matter, you cannot miss anything because that’s the intention of God. How did you feel when you got to know that you would become the traditional ruler? Well, initially I was apprehensive because in the past, Omus were women in their early 80s and 90s and as you are aware, Omu doesn’t get married. And if you are married, once you become Omu, you must leave your marital home. However, I was not married so I didn’t have any issue with having to leave my husband. I wasn’t quite sure of how I would handle it but when I was convinced that it was the intention of God, I took it upon myself to do the right thing and I will continue to do to the right thing. How has your life as a female monarch been? Rosy…(laughs). Well, it’s challenging when you cannot marry, go into a relationship or attend a burial. There are so many things you cannot do as Omu. However, the work of Omu is 70 per cent spiritual, so I have to keep praying. I also have chiefs attached to my palace. There are spiritual and executive chiefs in the palace. What experience do you think you have had that you think came as a result of your being a queen? I am grateful to God and I remain grateful to the late Oba of Benin Kingdom. I learnt a lot from him. The Omu institution is very conservative and ancient. It is a dictatorship in the sense that no woman was consulted when few old wise men instituted the Omu institution. When many people see me and find out about the institution, they marvel. The challenges I have are even from our people. So what have been your biggest challenges since you became the monarch? One, I have tried to fuse the good of the old times with the good of the new period to have something brand new. I don’t have any challenge from the people of the North, West, South-East or Deltans. If there are any challenges I am facing, they are from my people and not necessarily from Anioma people. They are from my own home – Okpanam – and of course, it is understandable because even the best among us are despised in their homes. Anioma people own this institution; it is not a personal institution. So, one would not call what I experience as challenges in that sense. Even in Okpanam, the institution is for our forefathers and not for any individual. That’s why it is said that the Omu cannot abdicate the throne and people cannot put all manner of things in place to remove the Omu. So, in 700 years, no Omu has abdicated the throne and no Omu has been removed. Source

Nicole Chilaka-Ukpo, a German woman married to a Nigerian man, apologized to black women for the injustice done against them and for being made to feel like they were inferior to women of other races. She said women of other races try everything to look like black women, yet black women have been taught to dislike the way they are She wrote: dear black queeni know we have done you wrong, done you wrong so many times, on so many levels, abused and oppressed, then and now, in shackles then, in mental bondage now, we have done you wrong, we have failed you. failed to protect you, failed to honour you, failed to give you credit, failed to praise you for who you are. but instead we glorify every copy but you. we glorify big lips, curvy bodys, curly/kinky hair and your braiding arts, the way you talk and walk, we glorify all that on everybody else BUT YOU. but no more.we see you.your hair that defines gravity,your skin that absorbs the sunlight and glows from within, your features that often leave other women jealous running from the tanning bed to the next available plastic surgeon, to get just a tiny bit of what you are naturally blessed with. we see you, you carry the dna of humanity, you were the first woman to walk earth, and we all arose fromyou. you have been humilated for everything you are, but you will eventually be celebrated again, for everything you have become.dear black queen,no matter how light, no matter how dark your skin is, you are perfectly made. rise black queen, rise ?? and with you, the black nation will arise again ??#NoJusticeNoPeace Thoughts?

Imagine you are a Sugar baby and you've just found out that your Sugar mummy has a Sugar mummy. What would you do? 😁🙄

Hi Ladies, Bullshit means different things to different people. What do you have a zero tolerance for?

Sony is crowdfunding a wearable that could be an absolute game-changer for future heatwaves. The device, called Reon Pocket, is essentially a wearable air conditioning unit that blasts cold air down your neck. Sony explained: “Reduce the discomfort due to various temperatures such as hot summer outings, crowded train heat, cold winter outings, etc., and get comfortable in summer and winter.” Around the size of a credit card, the device sits in a special undershirt with a pocket at the base of your neck. The device connects to an accompanying app via Bluetooth, where users can set the temperature they’d like. According to Sony, during testing, the Reon Pocket was able to reduce users’ body temperature by 13°C, or increase it by 8.3°C. While this all might sound too good to be true, sadly as always, there’s a catch. At the moment, it appears that the device will only launch in Japan, so it’s bad news for us Brits. Prices range from 12,760 yen to 19,030 yen (£95 to £141). We’ll just have to keep our fingers crossed they’re ready before next year's heatwave! Source

Happy Sunday ladies, I do hope it's been restful so far. As the title suggests, how would you deal with sexual harassment or bullying if you were faced with it in the workplace. Would you fight it or start planning an exit?

Hello ladies, I heard on the news this morning that some batches of the Eva bottled water are being recalled. Please stay safe. Although the contaminated batch numbers are known, who checks such things when buying water? My advise? If you must buy bottled water, buy another brand till it all clears. https://punchng.com/nafdac-probe-halts-eva-water-production/ https://www.thecable.ng/nbc-apologises-over-recall-of-contaminated-eva-bottled-water/amp

Hello Girls, If your girl (out of the blue) says that she's pregnant, what would you do? 🙄☻

Popular Nigerian television reality show, Big Brother Naija premieres on Sunday, January 28, 2018 at 7p.m. The premiere of the third edition of the highly anticipated show came after the housemates of the second edition gathered for a special reunion show to the excitement of their fans. The General Manager, Sales and Marketing for MultiChoice Nigeria, Martin Mabutho, speaking on the return, said: “Without a doubt, this promises to be the most exciting edition of the Big Brother franchise on the African continent. The last edition of Big Brother Naija was incredibly successful and we see just how much the show continues to resonate with fans in Nigeria and around the continent. “We can hardly wait for Sunday, and we guarantee not only that our viewers will enjoy the premiere show, but that they will stay tuned for three months until the show’s finale when the winner is revealed,” he said. Viewers on DStv can watch the show on channel 198, while GOtv viewers can tune in to channel 29 to watch all of the excitement as contestants battle for the grand prizes of an SUV and N45 million. Source

Hello Girls, So.... I just got back from the watch shop where I fit my watches to size. The owner of the shop is a man and his business partner is also a man. Today, I get there and I meet the attendant who is female. I hand her the watch and then she goes into the back office (workshop) and never came back. Lol. In previous times, she would go in there, hand my watch over to the man and come right out. So from the window, I asked if she was the one fitting it to which she replied with a yes. "Haaa!" (In my mind of course). My mind went into a bit of an overdrive. I tried to recall if I had mentioned to her that the watch was brand new. I started to think up the worst and how I would not walk away without compensation if the watch got damaged. On and on my thoughts went till I took a step back and reprimanded myself and allowed myself have more confidence in her ability -after all, she has been working there long enough. What could possibly go wrong with such a simple task? This makes me wonder if we still unconsciously hold certain stereotypes about traditional male jobs being performed by women and vice versa. Do share your stories.

Ex BBN housemate, Debbie-Rise has revealed that her parents who were against her going into the Big Brother House tried to deliver and cast out demons from her when she returned from the competition. Speaking to Channels TV, Debbie-Rise said she had to convince her dad to let her go into the competition by promising him that at the end of the competition people will congratulate him for being a good dad. She revealed that her parents tried to deliver her and cast out demons when she got back from the competition. Source

Hello Girls... As the header reads, how would you take it if your girl left you for a guy. No signs, you thought you were both building something serious and then she sits you down and breaks the news to you. What would you do?

I'm peckish and I'm having to pick between buying a pack of fruits or small chops. The both go for the same price. If you were in my shoes, which would you choose and why?

It's been a while we played any games here. Any game ideas ladies?

Hello ladies... I've been quite pensive since I woke from a nap and for some reason, today, the focus seems to be Nigeria. First, I was tempted to think along the lines of how Nigeria has failed its youths most especially as the brightest and smartest roam the streets in search of opportunity. A country where everyday seems like a struggle and a hustle to just get by. Then I thought to myself: "what would she look like if Nigeria were an actual human being?" I dared to conjure up the image of a child who grew up in prosperity, wild and free but suddenly had her childhood cut-short when she was bereaved of her parents and had to go live with foster parents. I imagined that child growing up under some form of oppression that often arises when one isn't fully embraced or welcomed into a family. In her teens, she is able to set herself free from foster care and then once again, she begins to make a name for herself with the help of mentors and teachers who wanted nothing but for her to succeed. This upward progression was also truncated when she meets a man who claimed to have loved her but who had other self-gratifying plans. From then on, man after man, experience after experience, her wealth and earnings were plundered. She was made redundant. Now, she is 58. Looking back at her life and the decades of abuse and damage, we can only begin to understand how deeply ingrained the hurt is and perhaps why patience is required to nurse her back to soundness. My question now is this, as a people, what part can we play? What can be done individually or collectively to make her great again?

Would you rather be without Internet or a phone for a week ☺?