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Hello Ladies, We have a new club! Yaaay! Lol. The path is: 3bars > Browse > Clubs Once there, you will see the colourful cover image and profile photo. Simply click on "Book Club" which is positioned right on the cover image. Next, be sure to click on Overview "What Are You Reading?" to understand the workings of the club. It is a public club which means it is open to everyone. It's all about reading, sharing, rating Looking forward to our intellectual conversations.... muah! 🤗🙄☻

What do you love most about your City?

Eckhart Tolle has been quite instrumental in my journey to maintaining presence and disassociating the "self" from the "ego". A New Earth is a bestseller and while I have not read book, I have watched tons and tons of his teachings. At present, I have been listening to the Podcast series of the book via the Oprah Supersoul Conversations and I would recommend it if this is your thing or if you are looking for a way to connect with your higher self and in so doing, maintain inner peace and calm amidst all the noise. It may be a bit too much for you if you aren't "ready" and if you are ready, you would know. Rating: 10 over 10

I was taking a stroll and overheard bits and pieces of the conversation being had by the couple in front of me. Lol. I honestly wanted to be spared but their voices were quite loud... sighs.. So.. the guy said he "spoke to his spiritual mother yesterday". I was a little confused about it. Familiar with the term? What do these spiritual parents do pliss?

Would you rather have free, unlimited Wi-Fi everywhere you went or be able to eat unlimited at any restaurant?

If you could remove one thing from your daily schedule, what would it be?

Dear son, Please don't be gay -the world hates gays. They would call you faggot. They will strike you with a knife. Darling son, you are only 6 and while I know there is no way of telling, my heart still breaks at the thought of that possibility. I never worried till I noticed you loved wearing bracelets. You enjoy playing with mama's lipsticks and her shoes. I have to admit... they do look good on you. Could this be typical of a little boy I ask myself... The world is now so twisted. It's so full of hate my lovely boy. How would someone ever take a look at those kind eyes and think to hurt him? Why would anyone want to tear down such innocence. Of what spirit could they be made if they shot a bullet through your silky brown skin? Dearest boy, be gay. Be free. Be you. Daddy will have your back. He will fight the world with you. He will keep you safe with his every blood. He will take your place if need be. My sweet sweet boy, if you turn out to be gay, I would be sure that you grow up to be nothing like daddy because you see... papa is gay but wasn't man enough to stand up to the world.

It has come to this o.... lol We need an intervention! The traffic situation seems to be getting worse by the day and I can't seem to understand why. Last night, I didn't head out till about 10.30pm and even when I did, I was still held up in a very slow moving traffic that I imagined only happens during rush hour. Sighs... Could it be that more people are buying cars? (I'm happy for them o... Lol). Could it be that more people have migrated to Lagos State? Or could it just be that it is a certain type of road madness aka curse that cannot be explained? Please help us Lagosians solve this traffic mystery. I sleep fatigued, wake up not feeling so much better. Na wa 😐

Hello girls, Rainy Season (aka Spring 😁) classes begin soon. We are in need of instructors. Suitable candidates please apply. The archbishop will screen all applicants to ensure love making lessons are taught in the most holy way.😇 Classes begin soon... registration dates will be announced accordingly 📿 Stay blessed

Today is the D-day for Michelle to get her Nigerian pass. Wait up girls... this pass is very very essential as it allows for her to legit take a woman from here. Hahahaha. So girls, here is what I'm thinking. Test starts 9pm Nigerian time -which allows her enough time to prepare. She will be asked random Nigerian questions and also asked to interpret some popular Naija slangs. Lol. Each member will take turns with her. Hahahaha. Get your minds out of the septic tank pliss! Let's go easy on her k... *wink* She has the 50/50 option, the call a friend option and the ask the audience option. Any more ideas on how to make this dope please share.

Sometimes lesbians want to find a wife with whom to run a small sheep farm in Wales; sometimes what we want is a hard wet fuck from a beautiful woman we barely know in the bathroom of a gay bar. We contain multitudes. But how do you make the latter happen? I bring to you cruising tips and casual sex advice built off the years of skanky queer life experience that have solidified me as one of the leading minds in the highly un-scientific field of “Lez Slut-ology.” The Basics What’s cruising? Cruising is going out into the world with the specific intention of finding someone with whom to have casual sex. If you message or approach someone just wanting to hook up, you are cruising. It’s a time-honored gay tradition and a rich part of our cultural history that forgoes respectability politics and homonormative assimilation in favor of radical expressions of queer sexuality. Cruising is knowing what you want and actively pursuing it. The term is thought to have come from queer folks walking or driving around town searching for a casual encounter. Though cruising has gained prominence as practiced by men who have sex with men, it isn’t theirs alone; dyke communities have also engaged in cruising and casual sex for years. Where do you cruise? I would recommend any events or settings where you know lady-loving lady hotties abound as a great place to cruise. This includes: + Dyke nights at your local gay bar + Pride + Dance parties + Brunch + A-Camp + A Hayley Kiyoko/Tegan & Sara/Mirah/Melissa Etheridge concert + BDSM play parties + A gay picnic + A book fair + NaijaLez So my golden rule is: “If there’s a hot gay around and you aren’t at like, a trauma center or a funeral, you can cruise there.” An elegant golden rule, I know. How do you cruise? Feel good about it! We live in a society that indoctrinates us into believing that having desires is predatory and shameful, and that women who desire women are even more so. I think another big part of it is that many of us have experienced predatory behavior and are very scared to replicate it. It’s not predatory to want someone and let them know it. It’s not predatory to desire another woman in a purely sexual manner. It’s only predatory if you are being disrespectful of someone’s boundaries, body, and personhood. So don’t do that. As for fears about being desirable or confident enough, remember that queer desire is complex and multifaceted and lots of types of people are attracted to lots of types of people and bodies; why not you! I suggest wearing something you feel really confident and hot in, that outfit that just makes you feel like the baddest bitch. And when all else fails, fake the confidence because we honestly all do that. Flirting Flirting is the first step of cruising and something I know many queers struggle with. I know many queer folx, especially women, feel frozen by this deep fear of rejection and getting over that is the first step to being a more confident cruiser. Being rejected doesn’t say anything bad about you or them and it doesn’t invalidate your gayness. I fear rejection too, but learning to accept it as a likely possibility has helped me become my best flirt and built my confidence in other aspects of my life. What is important is to not be objectifying in how you interact with them. If they aren’t into it, respect the no, move on, and don’t make it weird. If you’re approached by someone you aren’t into, try to handle it the way you would want to be rejected, say thank you and politely decline. My favorite ways to flirt with or be flirted with by women are to be complimented — find something you think is beautiful, stylish, or attractive about this person and let them know — and then having them get down to it — ask for what you’re interested in, whether it’s a number, a date, or getting fucked in the bathroom. Having Casual Sex How do you actually initiate casual sex? In practice: you’re out and about and have spotted a hottie, and have been flirting by complimenting them and chatting. Maybe this doesn’t go well; either they aren’t into it or upon closer interaction you aren’t as into them as you thought you were. That’s fine; chalk it up to the mysteries of life and move on. If they do seem equally interested in you, you can take the initiative! If it’s a setting like a bar, party or social gathering where you could feasibly say “Do you want to go to my place/the bathroom/my car/anywhere else we can have sex?” you can ask that! If you’re in the middle of a protest or drag queen story hour for kids at 10 am at the public library, maybe you want to ask for their number so you can make a similar suggestion at a more appropriate time — like getting someone’s info to ask them on a date, but focusing more on asking them “I think you’re really hot, do you want to come over Saturday night?” If you are trying to get fisted in your car in the parking lot of the bar — congrats! — maybe wear something you can slip in and out of easily. Once you get to actually having sex, you of course are aware it’s good to communicate basic stuff about boundaries and consent, even if it is casual. There’s no set list of things to discuss before sleeping with a stranger, but if it’s something like a medical condition, a boundary, or testing status, then definitely bring it up. Examples: “Hey just so you know, I have a latex allergy, so finger me with nitrile gloves.” “Please make sure you don’t touch my neck. It’s a trigger for me.” “How recently have you been tested?” “My partner and I have a rule about getting no marks from hookups.” “I don’t like gentle sex.” “I have been tested recently and my results came back positive for gonorrhea.” Source

Hey Girls, Successful relationships are a function of a number of things including sex/sexual compatibility etc... In the case of couples who have almost opposite sex drives, that is, the one doesn't love sex all that much while the other can't get enough of it. What would you recommend they do?

A. What do you girls think about doing the things you hate (or are terrible at) for love? Are you of the opinion that one must stomach it and just do it for love? B. Is it fair to conclude that a partner who doesn't want to be stressed doesn't love enough? C. How would you handle this with your significant other if faced with a situation of being asked to do things you don't particularly enjoy?

If you could select a day in the week in which a public holiday should be declared, what would it be. What is your favourite day of the week to have a holiday?

The founder of Jesus Intervention Household Ministry, Ejigbo, Lagos, Chizemdere Ezuma has been arrested for allegedly sodomising, prostituting and infecting underage boys with HIV virus. According to The Nation, he was arrested at his residence after an informant notified the police he had resurfaced, three months after he was declared wanted. It was gathered that the suspect climbed his ceiling where he hid for over two hours to evade arrest when detectives stormed his home few days ago. The suspect was declared wanted after an alleged male prostitute, Prince Chinecherem, was arrested and charged to court after a 16-year-old victim, Anthony Ikem, made revelations that implicated them. Ikem, who was found sneaking out of the suspect’s home with a polythene bag containing used condoms and other items, was accosted by neighbours and he confessed he was one of several sex partners of the pastor. Ikem also confirmed that the Ezuma usually gave them to service some of his male clients including VIPs. The teenager was taken to the hospital for checks and it was discovered he was HIV+. It was gathered that some residents of the community were worried he was corrupting their male children and initiating them into the club, hence, their keen interest to see that he was arrested and prosecuted. Findings revealed that Ezuma was moved to the Gender Section at the Police Command Ikeja, yesterday afternoon, following pressure from certain quarters in the division to release him. In his confessional statement to the police, Ezuma claimed he usually paid the boys N2,000 for sex. Investigation showed that he brought about 15 boys into his apartment where he forcefully penetrated them all through the anus. “The reverend confirmed he is HIV+ and has been receiving treatment for over three years. So, he knew he was HIV positive and still infected his victims and clients with it,” said a source. Source

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Here's another one... lol. So! Here are two very similar questions for you: If you were struggling with temptation (i.e. having a major crush on someone else), would you let your partner know? How would you handle this? If someone you found attractive were flirting with you with the intention of getting you in bed with her, would you share this information with your partner? How would you handle this?

Hello Ladies, What are your thoughts about telling your girlfriend about your previous relationships. Do you think it is something that should be shared or would you rather leave it in the past?

Last night, I was having a conversation with the girlfriend. I was sulking. Lol. and she was trying to cheer me up. Lol. I was being a big baby at some point I must confess. Lol. I then tell her that it isn't her responsibility to make me happy or to manage my emotions for me. That I alone hold the power to choose whether or not I want to stay happy or dwell because after all, happiness is a choice. What are your thoughts about this girls?

Hello Girls, I imagine that this would be a very interesting one. What is your thought about saying "I Love You" 2days or 1month into a relationship? Does it count as love? Is there really a one-size fit all for what the recommended time frame should be before the 3 words may be uttered? Do share your thoughts.

Learning to trust to some comes naturally. To others, not so much. Learning to trust involves really listening to our hearts and trusting it as an internal compass. Where do you think you fall? Do you find it easy believing people (in general) or is your first response that of suspicion.

Hey girls, I have discovered an effective but tricky way of keeping your pubic area well groomed. Below are the steps to take. Remember, practice makes perfect. Best to try it on another before trying it on yourself. Only carry this out on yourself when you have attained mastery with others. First, you must ensure you have some pubic hair. If you do not have any, consider growing it first before proceeding on this expedition Once pubic hair is grown and mature --preferably not shorter than 0.5cm, you may then proceed to do some vaginal tests. Vagina tests are essential for the other party considering you would be practicing this on others a whole lot! Now, take off her pant. Don't allow her do this herself. At all times, your model must be relaxed and kept at ease. Once pants are off. Pat the area slightly to ensure you are working with real private parts Confirmation is gotten if she flinches. If she doesn't at least moan, please abort mission and go scouting for another candidate. Next, you must pick a strand close to her clits and measure up that one. Please proceed delicately. Once the strand meets the required length, tell her she is the real deal. Remember to compliment your model at every turn with statements such as: wow baby! Your private is butifu. Or geez babe, my private loves your private -can they be play mates? Or if you would rather keep it simple, tell her she looks nice down there. Now, put some form of spirit in your mouth Then light up your match Have your damp cloth in hand as well. As you move the lit-up match close to the area, blow some air from your mouth to give an explosion effect to be administered evenly around the area. Be attentive. Be sure that every strand has been set ablaze. Then with your other hand, dab the whole area quickly with the damp cloth. Allow the coolness of the cloth soothe the area. Gently move the cloth in a circular motion to give more relief to the model Now, give her a wrapper as she would be unable to wear pants for quite a while Thank her profusely for being very cooperative. Put her pant in a safe bag Give her transport fare back home Thanks ladies! I'll love to read your success stories so please and pleaae share!

This is a bit overdue but as always, better late than never. LUTH Support Group Helplines: The numbers to call are: 09 0 8 0 217555, 09034400009, 08111909909 and 07013811143 Nigeria Suicide Prevention Initiative: 0 8 0 62106493, 0 8 0 92106493 There's no shame in this... please speak to someone.

Ladies Ladies... TGIF!! A wet one 😐 Lol. So what are your plans for the rest of the evening? Any parties or hang-outs planned? Spill.... Where is it happening folks? Sign in and tag your location here! ✌🏽😁

When on the look out for a girlfriend/ partner, are you more likely to go for someone just like you (lol. For people like me who can't get enough of themselves. *jokes*) or do you tend to be drawn to the more opposites? For those currently in relationships and for those who have once loved, What was that defining attribute that made it crystal clear that she is/was the one?