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We are Ebony and Denise, a two-mom family with three kids; Olivia, Jayden & Lucas. Denise and I have been together for 11 years and married for 7 years. We love recording family-friendly videos and sharing our lives with the world. We hope to provide the younger generations of the LGBTQ+ community, who struggle to envision raising a family, the hope, and visibility that it IS possible. Enjoy ladies !

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What’s something you’ve done that you are very proud of?

I was thinking along these lines and decided to perhaps make it public.. the more the merrier :D So here it is... This thread is a catalogue of sorts of the things you do/have done when you miss(ed) her. All you need do is start your sentence with "When I miss you..."

Nigerians come for Flavour for kissing his daughter. Do you see anything wrong with this?

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Pastor Adeboye Creating Business Centers, Not Churches – Femi Falana Mocks Pastor Adeboye Human Rights Lawyer, Femi Falana has state that the General Overseer of the Redeemed Christian Church of God, Enoch Adeboye is creating more business centres, not churches. Copied

A French film about two queer black women falling passionately in love is now available to watch online. Susanne Serres, screenwriter and filmmaker of Zaya, describes it as “a short film promoting love and acceptance”. The protagonist, Zaya, is a contemporary dancer who realises that she’s attracted to Nadege, her dance partner. To be able to face who she is entirely, Zaya feels the need to overcome her internal fear and come out to her mother. Her mother’s unwavering love and immediate acceptance is an emotional thing to watch, and is a much-needed relief from the tragedy so often portrayed in LGBT+ movies. Source

This video below shows how Apostle Johnson Suleman prayed and healed a blind girl who got blind while doing NYSC in Kwara State. According to the girl's mother, she joined in the scheme to serve in Kwara state but came back blind. Her mother brought her to Apostle Suleman and her eyes were opened instantly. Source

Collins Gideon, a Nigerian gospel minister whose naked photos were published online by blackmailers, has spoken out about what truly happened and how the incident affected his life. He was labeled as homosexual, disowned by his family and forced to drop out of university. In November of last year, Gideon’s nude photos were circulated on blogs and gossip websites, which labeled him as gay and ignored his side of the story. Gideon, a gospel singer, spoke to NoStringsNG about what really happened: He was blackmailed and set up by a close friend whom he had known and trusted. He said: “It all came as a shock to me. The person who leaked the pictures online was a very good friend of mine whom I have known for a very long time. I did not know that he was that bad until he did what he did to me.” His then friend, the blackmailer, wanted money and had everything planned together with his friends. “He invited me to his house; it was actually my first time visiting him since we became friends as I have always been busy with school and all. At first, when I arrived, there was no one around except him. After a while, a group of other boys came around and, after a few minutes, they started asking me a lot of personal questions. They asked about my phones and gadgets and why I did not come along with them. It was strange, as I did not know them and I was surprised about how they got to know that I had the things that they were asking for. “One of them closed the door, and they forced me to remove my clothes, I refused and they pulled it off by force. They started taking pictures with their phones and said that they were going to release them online if I do not pay them to have them deleted. I did not have the amount of money that they wanted so they released them.” At first, Gideon said, he was unaware that the pictures had been released online and his family had already seen them. Not until one of his cousins called to notify him did he find out what was going on. “My cousin saw it on my [online] wall and called me. I had been offline because I did not have internet data at the time. But when I subscribed, I went online and saw that it was already posted on my wall and it had already gone viral. The comments broke my heart. “My family called a meeting and disowned me. They said that they do not want to have anything to do with me and withdrew all their support, including from my education. I was in my 200 level at the Delta State University, but now I have dropped out and moved to Lagos, where I am living with a friend.” Gideon said that ever since the incident, things have been very difficult for him. He tried to reach his family several times to apologize, but they have refused to forgive him. “It has now become clear that my family does not want to have anything to do with me anymore. Things have become very difficult for me. I hope to go back to school if I have the support. But right now, to survive, I just started teaching in a private school,” he said. Source

I was born and bred in Zimbabwe. After a turn of very unfortunate events, I am back in the country after having spent seven years in South Africa. I am grateful for the time I spent in South Africa. Being exposed to other cultures opened up my mind and I must say, I am more tolerant, open-minded and less judgemental person now than I was before I left my mother country. Best of all perhaps, is how I have been able to accept my sexuality through being in a place where queerness isn’t as demonized as it is in Zimbabwe. This is not to say South Africa is free from its own spat of homophobia. No! There have actually been several queer folks (most of them women) who have been raped and/or murdered by people who decided they could punish them for being ‘an abomination’ to society. Ever since I have been more open about my sexuality, I have not failed to receive my fair share of awkward questions from some heterosexual folks. It seems people expect me to have a biological explanation for my sexuality and this is usually so they can, at least, tolerate my veering off what is considered to be or what we have been socially conditioned to believe as the norm or the only acceptable way of expressing our love. I do not have a logical explanation for why I have such a strong affinity for women. Quite frankly, if logic had anything to do with whom we develop a romantic attraction for; I believe I’d be asexual. But it doesn’t! The heart wants what it wants. And on top of that, I staunchly believe that people should be free to love whoever they want to love. ‘Biology’ or socialization shouldn’t have to restrict how we express our love or lust or with who. Live. Let live. Let love! It is already taxing enough that the heterosexual community expects us to ‘prove’ that we were born ‘gay’ or convince them (usually to no avail, sadly) that transgender folks are not the gender they were assigned at birth. We also have to deal with the same cynicism and intolerance within the LGBT+ community. I am baffled and disappointed at how some queer folks seem to think one can either be heterosexual or homosexual. This reeks of hypocrisy. Society: How do you get attracted to someone of the same gender? How do you even have sex? And procreation? Homosexual folks: We are here; we are queer. Live. Let live! Other queer folks: ‘I am bisexual’. ‘I am transgender’. Homosexual folks: *screams* confusion We are that which we hate. We want the rest of society to acknowledge our existence and accept us as we are but we won’t even accept members of our community. Surely, the judged have become the judges. The oppressed have become the oppressors. Source

The Galaxy S8 and S8+ are great phones, but no device is perfect and there’s a chance you may be having some issues with yours over time. Lower than expected battery life, performance issues, running out of storage, problems with radios and more can affect the Galaxy S8 just as they do any other phone, but all of these issues have potential fixes. Bad battery life No matter how good battery life is on a phone, people will always want more. Here are a handful of tips for making the most of the 3000 or 3500mAh battery you have to work with. Use power saving mode. Turning it on from the notification shade quick settings or the device maintenance settings, the “mid” power saving mode will reduce your screen resolution, lower brightness and stop apps from waking up in the background. You shouldn’t use this mode all the time, but it can be a life saver if you’re low on charge. You can find battery-intensive apps by going to ‘Device maintenance’ and tapping on ‘Battery usage’ to see what’s taken up the most power over the course of the day. If something’s out of the ordinary, keep an eye on it and see if it continues to cause problems. Uninstall unused apps, as they may be waking up in the background and using battery without your knowledge. If you haven’t used an app in a while, there’s no need to keep it around when it could be using up your battery. It may look really cool, but you can save lots of battery by turning off ‘Always on display’. Go to settings, lock screen and security and tap the toggle next to ‘Always on display’. A compromise can be to limit the hours it runs (via these settings), rather than having it on the whole day. Running out of storage Samsung made a great move in putting 64GB of internal storage in the Galaxy S8 and S8+, meaning you have even more runway for using the phone without worrying about storage. Still, some people are going to hit that limit sooner or later. Here are some tips for cleaning up your internal storage: Offload photos to a cloud management service like Google Photos. The service offers unlimited backup of slightly compressed high-quality uploads, plus 15GB of free full-quality backups. After the photos are uploaded, you can save space by removing them from your phone. Use the Galaxy S8’s built-in device maintenance feature, found in the settings. Tap on ‘Storage’ and see what it can offer to clean out — just be aware that it may clear some cached images and temporary files that will just have to be downloaded again when you use some apps. Delete unused apps! You may have gone on a download spree when you first bought your phone, only to end up using 20 of the 200 apps you installed. Scroll through your apps and find a few that you don’t use — long press the app icon and tap ‘Uninstall’ to remove it from your phone. You can always download it again later. Get an SD card, and start to store non-critical data like music, movies, photos and videos on the card. You can move some apps, but the best way to save on storage space is to move big media files first. Problems unlocking the phone One of the most contested changes about the Galaxy S8 and S8+ was moving the fingerprint sensor to the back of the phone next to the camera, and the cascading effect it created in making the phones difficult to reliably unlock. Here are a few tips for keeping your Galaxy S8 secure while also letting you quickly access it. Re-train the fingerprint model. Chances are you hastily set up your Galaxy S8 at first, and maybe didn’t spend enough time setting your finger on the sensor to get a proper read. Go into the fingerprint sensor settings and tap ‘Edit’ to remove them, then tap ‘Add fingerprint’ to start over. Put a case on your phone. As weird as it sounds, putting a case on your Galaxy S8 gives definition and physical separation to the fingerprint sensor, making it easier to locate and more accurately place your finger on the sensor. Turn on ‘Iris scanning’ in the Lock screen and security settings. After registering your irises, be sure to turn on the ‘Iris unlock when screen turns on’ setting to make sure the phone starts looking for your irises as soon as your screen is active. This can dramatically speed up the unlocking process. Use ‘Smart lock’, also found in the Lock screen and security settings. Smart lock can keep your phone unlocked through a variety of methods, including when it detects you’re at a trusted place or connected to a certain Bluetooth device (like a smartwatch). With these methods, so long as you unlock your phone every four hours, it can stay unlocked via these methods. Home screen launcher isn’t right for you Samsung’s launcher has really improved in the past few generations, but still may not be right for you. But fear not — you can change it, and there are many great launchers out there that are simpler, more feature-packed, or just offer some customisation options you can’t get in the default launcher. We have a list of the best Android launchers, but there are dozens out there that fill all sorts of needs. Start with our list, then head to the ‘Play store’ to search for ‘launcher’ and find one you like. You can always switch launchers or go back to Samsung’s at any time. Wi-Fi, Bluetooth and GPS problems Dealing with wireless problems can be extremely frustrating, whether you’re talking about Wi-Fi, Bluetooth or GPS. There are so many variables involved that it can be tough to tell whether the issue is on the phone’s end or somewhere else. The basics of troubleshooting these issues are as follows: Make sure you turn off Wi-Fi or Bluetooth, wait a few seconds and turn it back on. If that doesn’t fix the problem, head to the next step. Restart your phone. Sometimes all that’s needed is a quick kick to the reset button and you’re good to go. If Wi-Fi problems persist, try forgetting the network by long pressing on the network name and tapping ‘Forget network’. Then tap the network again to re-enter the password and re-connect. If Bluetooth problems persist, try unpairing the device from your phone and re-pairing. To do that, tap on the cog icon next to the product’s name and hit ‘Unpair’. Put the device you’re connecting to in pairing mode and connect again. If you’re worried you may have tweaked settings inadvertently and want to start over, go to ‘General management’, ‘Reset’ and then tap ‘Reset network settings’. If the problems persist at this point, chances are they are related to something else in the chain, like the wireless router or Bluetooth accessory you’re trying to use. Follow troubleshooting steps for those devices and start fresh. #Takeaway Troubleshooting Troubleshooting is a systematic approach to problem solving that is often used to find and correct issues with complex machines, electronics, computers and software systems. According to techtarget.com, the first step in troubleshooting is gathering information on the issue, such as an undesired behaviour or a lack of expected functionality. Other important information includes related symptoms and special circumstances that may be required to reproduce the issue. Once the issue and how to reproduce it are understood, the next step might be to eliminate unnecessary components in the system and verify that the issue persists, to rule out incompatibility and third-party causes. Continuing, assuming the issue remains, one might next check common causes. Depending on the particular issue and the troubleshooter’s experience, they may have some ideas. They may also check product documentation and/or conduct research on a support database or through a search engine. After common causes are ruled out, the troubleshooter may resort to the more systematic and logical process of verifying the expected function of parts of a system. One common method is the split-half troubleshooting approach: With a problem resulting from a number of possible parts in series, one tests half-way down the line of components. If the middle component works, one goes to the middle of the remaining parts, approaching the end. If the test finds a problem at the mid-point, one does a split towards the start of the line until the problem part is found. Source

Acclaimed writer, Chimamanda Adichie's niece, Chisom Eduputa has denied being gay. However, she said she won't stop standing for the LGBTQ community. See previous report here In a post shared on her Instagram, Ms Eduputa said she has been receiving hate messages and comments because of her stand. Source

Lol! She killed it, but what do you think ladies?

Research released this week shows support for the theory of sexual fluidity, that a person’s sexual orientation can fluctuate and change throughout their lifetime. A report presented at the annual meeting of the North American Menopause Society last week wanted to increase awareness of sexual fluidity, particularly in regard to healthcare. Arguing that sexual fluidity is more common in women than men, the presenters wanted to reach out to women feeling first-time same-gender attraction later in life and tell them not alone. They also wanted to help doctors understand, so they wouldn’t assume women had only had partners of the same gender in their lives. “We know of a number of women who have been in perfectly happy marriages with men, they raised a family, and at some point—in their 40s or so—they find themselves unexpectedly falling in love with a woman, without ever having thought that was possible,” said Kingsberg. Kingsberg argues there’s evolutionary evidence for this – that when women go through menopause they no longer have a biological imperative to mate with a male, and so their body becomes attuned to same-sex attraction. Dr Lisa Diamond, one of the study’s researchers, also believes her theory has scientific support. Over time, sexual fluidity can be influenced by “a complicated dynamic between hormonal changes, physical experiences, and sexual desires,” she told the Daily Mail. In 2008, Diamond released a study in which she had followed 79 lesbian, bisexual and ‘unlabelled’ women for a decade and found that two-thirds of them changed the label they identified with during that time period. They particularly wanted to emphasise awareness of sexual fluidity for doctors, so that they could support “later-in-life-lesbians.” “Women should always be encouraged to have an open dialogue with their healthcare providers about a wide array of health concerns and also feel comfortable in discussing any lifestyle changes,” Dr JoAnn Pinkerton, NAMS executive director, said. “This presentation should remind us that we need to ask questions and not assume a patient’s sexual orientation when discussing their concerns.” “Don’t be so presumptive that the woman you’ve been caring for for 20 years is automatically always going to have the same partner or the same gender of partner,” Kinsberg told healthcare professionals. They also want women to be aware that fluidity is common, and “not feel like they’re alone or that they’re an outlier.” “If they discover, heading toward midlife, that they have shifted their love interest and are falling in love with a woman, they should know that it’s not unusual,” Kinsberg said. However, some call into question the way this research interacts with research on bisexuality. Diamond herself suggests that bisexuality may be “a heightened capacity for sexual fluidity,” and many agree that the two identities have overlap. However, although they don’t deny that sexual fluidity exists, some bisexual activists point out that much of the debate in favour of it has tendencies towards biphobia, for example, this study’s claims that sexual fluidity has gained media attention because celebrities are “making it fashionable to change sides.” Some worry that, although studies into sexual fluidity could open up the LGBT umbrella, it could also deny agency to gay people and demonise bisexuals, ultimately undermining the community that identity and labels bring. Source

Pamela Adie discussed Impact of Homophobia on Families with Arit Opko. She share her experience, the support she needed and why such support can help an LGBT persons but also strengthen family relationship. Her discussion with Arit was based on her personal experience which give a good perspective into what LGBT persons experience. -#UntoldFacts Enjoy ladies!

Jackie Chan's estranged daughter, Etta Ng, came out as a lesbian last week when she posted a photo on Instagram in front of a rainbow flag, with the simple caption, "#lgbtqai #lgbt #lesbian #androgynous." Then In a follow up post, Etta revealed that not only is she a lesbian, but also she is in a committed relationship with social media influencer Andi Autumn. She wrote, 'I am in awe at the amount of support and love poured my way. I am speechless at how followers went to my Girlfriend @andiautumn and my account to show us both so much positivity. People all over the world have been rooting us on as Hong Kong media continues to mock. I’ve grown up in a world of negativity and close mindedness but I am at that point where I realise that I can use my experience to tell my truths and help others just like me. Thankfully I’ve grown since the days I was powerless and uncertain what the world has for me. Thank you for the enormous outpour of love and acceptance'. Before now, Etta has been out of the spotlight for most of her life. The media was very taken with Etta around the time of her birth in 1999, when they dubbed her "Little Dragon Girl." Jackie had an affair with Elaine Ng, a beauty queen in the late '90s, which ended before Etta's birth. Since then, Etta and her mother have lived fairly private lives in Hong Kong. Source

There’s a video currently trending on social media and it has caused quite the reaction from a lot of people. In the video, an overweight woman lies on the floor while some pastors are gathered around her, praying for “that spirit that reduces weight” to help the woman lose weight. Makeup artist turned fitness instructor Segun Gele posted the video on Instagram and wrote that “This right here is mockery in a place of worship and I think these pastors are pushing it too far”. On-Air personality Freeze also adds his two cents. He says: What a league of morons!!!–Only in Nigeria would these world class cretins pray for what healthy living, gym registration and dieting can solve.–Although God is very real, religion is nothing but an illusion, created by the oppressed to subdue the harshness of their reality!–To call for the abolition of the illusion necessitates creating conditions that don’t require the illusions.–Ever wondered what the correlation between religion and poverty is? The poorer a nation, the more the requirement for religion to create that illusion that acts as an escape from the reality of the situation of the oppressed.–Why on earth will a clown offer you an apron to protect you from attacks, while they themselves have bullet proof cars and armed body guards to protect them from those same attacks?–Some people thrive from ensuring these illusions are kept alive, thus are at the epicenter of the problem itself.–Remove those making a living off the illusion (Yahoo boy Pastors) and those creating the conditions that require the illusions (corrupt politicians) and our society will heal itself like magic, in no time.–The failure to act now, is extremely perilous! ~FRZ The YouTube page is the official page for a Prophet Jeremiah Omoto Fufeyin of Christ Mercyland Deliverance Ministries (CMDM) in Warri, Delta State, Nigeria. What do you ladies think? Source

Food for thought - "After I came out of the closet, I learned many lessons about life. I’ll share two," She writes The first thing I learned is that I’m on my own. It took me a while to realize this because I kept expecting and waiting on family and friends to show support, give approval, and accept me. Very few did. The others remained silent. And they’re still silent till today because neither has bothered to break the silence. The second lesson is that nobody owes me anything. There’s a tendency to feel entitled to peoples love, acceptance, and financial resources based on their supposed role in our lives...mother, father, brother, sister, uncle, aunt, cousin, niece, bestie, friend, etc. Nothing could be more false. You’re not entitled to anything. You want something, work hard for it. Bear the consequences. The sooner I started to feel less entitled, the happier I became. I engaged with those that wanted to engage, laughed with those that wanted to laugh. If I was in need, I asked. If I got, I appreciated.If I didn’t, no hard feelings. Life continued. That’s how I live my life even now and I’m getting better at it. So, instead of feeling like people owe you anything, work hard on your own and be grateful for life helpers you meet along the way. Good morning. Source

Dear friends, A lot has changed over the past decade plus and I am so thankful, humbled, and truly indebted that you have accepted me through the fat and the fug and the then and the now. We've grown up together and evolved and I continue to do so - in the best way possible! I am beaming with joy and pride as I share with you that my family has grown yet again. Last week my son and daughter welcomed a sister into the world! #MayteAmor was born on Wednesday, October 4th at 3:26 PM - weighing 7 lbs 4 oz, measuring 20 inches long, and she's perfect! Named after her grandparents - Mario & Teresita - their love will forever flow through her and protect her and all of my kids. Grandma is over the moon and so are her siblings! Mayte Amor waited until 41 weeks to make her fashionably late arrival. She's doing everything a newborn should do and doing it so well. She's a whole 7 days advanced! Thank you to my sister for keeping everything running so smoothly on the site. Thank you to everyone who's reached out with love and concern over my needed social media break. And, most importantly, thank you to the surrogate who gave me the greatest gift anyone could ever receive! And thank you to the other two surrogates who helped us as well! And thank you to all the surrogates who give so selflessly and whose kindness is inspiring! There are still many states in America that, sadly, prohibit surrogacy and I hope to use my voice to advocate for making it legal across the country! I am deliriously tired and equally happy! This is a very special time for me and my family! Family time is the best time! Family first! They are my everything! Source

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"When love is real, you can see beyond today. I pray our love continues to stand the test of time" Lit and sweet ☉🌟😎