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If you could remove one thing from your daily schedule, what would it be?

Would you rather be without Internet or a phone for a week ☺?

Ladies, did she Slayy or Nayy? Would you take her home 👡👠💄?

A dietician and food expert, John Tehinse has warned Nigerians against cooking Moi-moi and other foods in nylons as it produced dioxins, a toxic substance that causes cancer. Tehinse gave the warning on Tuesday in Ilorin at an awareness campaign on food safety organised by the Food Safety Awareness Campaign Initiatives, funded by the European Union. In his lecture entitled: “Food Safety Control System in Nigeria”, he said that cooking Moin-moin in nylon had become widespread while people were unaware of the dangers. The food safety expert said nylons or cellophane bags produced dioxins when heated, adding “they are a group of chemically-related compounds that are persistent environmental pollutants (POPs)’’. Tehinse further warned that dioxins were highly toxic and could cause reproductive and developmental problems, damage the immune system, interfere with hormones and also cause cancer. He advised people to use the traditional leaves to cook the food. “Food business is not only to make money but a calling to protect public health and ensure what they offer to consumers is safe,” he said. Source To the moi moi lovers out there...

Selena Gomes shares her kidney transplant story on Instagram: Selena and her friend who donated her kidney Bless them both ☺. Would you donate a kidney to your partner or friend if needed?

If you could choose any celebrity of your choice (local/international), who would be your preferred pick for the following categories of relationships: A. Hang-Out B. Smash and Dash C. Date D. Marry

I find these questions coming up quite often in discussions with older lesbians. 1. Would you date someone who has never had sex with a woman before? 2. Would you be with someone who has never dated a woman before? Please give reasons if it's a 'NO' to either or both.

Ladies, what do you think about this new dance craze/madness/style?

Congratulations to DeWanna Bonner and Candice Dupree! The WNBA players just became new moms to twin girls! The couple met as teammates while playing for the Phoenix Mercury back in 2010. It took them less than a week to realize they were meant to be more than friends. “It was more as friends at first,” DeWanna said in a recent interview with the IndyStar “Then she kind of learned she couldn’t live without me.” Candice, an All-Star forward for the Indiana Fever, says that she had to grow up to make the relationship work and got help from her mom to help tame her “wild side.” Candice and DeWanna will juggle motherhood and a unique career in basketball where they travel nationally and internationally each year. The new moms will both return to basketball next WNBA season. Source

If you are caught in the web of smartphone addiction, the following tips from Yudala will help you break the habit: Turn off instant notifications You are in the middle of a crushing schedule at work, with deadlines looming. Suddenly, your phone buzzes! Immediately, your attention switches to the device to see who has hit you up on WhatsApp, commented on your latest Facebook post, retweeted that tweet or liked your picture on Instagram. Instant notification is one of the features of the smartphone that has contributed to getting a lot of people hooked on their devices. Good news is that, you can break that cycle by tweaking your settings to turn off push notifications for the various apps on your smartphone, especially the distracting ones from social media. While this may make you a bit late to social media activity, the overall benefits are immense as you will gradually regain control from the tendency to check your device each time it buzzes. For other apps such as emails, you can choose to manually check once every hour or even turn on the notifications when out of the office so you don’t miss out on important correspondence. Use your smartphone less (with some help from apps) This is actually possible. By setting particular times in the day when you can use your device and sticking to these religiously, you can gradually begin to ease the heavy usage of the smartphone, which often results in dependence and addiction. It is common to see individuals in a social gathering actually devoting more time to their smartphones, thereby defeating the aim of the meet-up. As a rule, the smartphone must be kept far away from you during meetings, social gatherings or when having your meals. Interestingly, there are a number of apps that can help limit your smartphone use. Flipd, Moment and BreakFree are three very good examples. These can be installed and set up to gauge and help you control your smartphone use. Uninstall unnecessary apps If you fall into the category of app-happy smartphone users, you stand a better chance of kicking that smartphone addiction by uninstalling the unnecessary apps on your device. Rather than being app-happy (always in a hurry to download any new app you come across), the right mindset to smartphone use is to be app-smart. This way, you weigh the benefits and utility of each app and even check out the reviews before you download and install them on your device. Take the time to go through the tons of apps on your smartphone and decide which ones are serving duplicated roles or those that are actually enslaving you to the device. An app that notifies you of new comments on social media, for instance, may be one of those to let go of. By reducing the number of apps, you are taking a strong step to overcome the addiction to your smartphone. Turn off your device an hour before going to bed For most people, this is a seemingly impossible task. The sad reality is that many smartphone addicts fall into the class of those who can be found using their smartphone until sleep comes, often far beyond the normal hours. It is hardly surprising, therefore, that there is a strong correlation between this particular improper use of the smartphone and a host of sleeping disorders including, but not limited to, snoring, sleep apnea, insomnia, sleep deprivation and restless legs syndrome. In addition, the eyes come under excessive strain when you peer at the harsh glare of a smartphone screen for hours in a darkened room. It is advisable to switch off the phone at least an hour before going to sleep. In addition to helping you sleep better, the extra hour before bed can be put to better use through meditation, reflecting on the day’s activity, writing down your accomplishments for the day, reading a book (paper copy), communicating with your partner/spending time with your family, which is a very important part of bonding. Keep the phone away A common observation among smartphone addicts is their tendency to keep their devices within reach. One of the ways of beating this particular habit is to put some distance, physical or virtual, between you and your smartphone. When at work, you can have the device locked up in a drawer with set times for checking it. The same practice can apply at home, especially when spending time with family or friends. Complicated or multiple passwords or screen locks could also come in handy in preventing you from constant use of the device. Reviewing your smartphone use patterns can also be a good way of achieving this. Keeping the phone locked up in another room, for instance, can help you break the habit of immediately reaching for it upon waking up in the morning. Same goes for the ability to hold back from posting a picture on social media immediately it is taken. Control and self-discipline is key. Switch to a feature phone for a while To break your smartphone addiction, you may need to take a radical step by switching to a feature phone for a while. While the prospects seem unbearable, you may discover that the decision could eventually help you regain your life, enrich your relationships and may not be such an uncomfortable experience after all. For a start, you can use a feature phone for a month before switching back to a smartphone once certain you are in better control of the addiction. The experience may turn out to be a life-changing one… Source

Prof. Adegboyega Fawole of the University of Ilorin Teaching Hospital, has warned that Human Papiloma Virus has been found in the throat of people engaging in oral sex. Fawole, who is of the Department of Gynaecology, UITH, told the News Agency of Nigeria in Ilorin on Tuesday that HPV was mostly sexually transmitted. He said that the virus caused almost all cases of cervical cancer and could cause genital warts and anal cancer. “Oral sex has been linked with an increased risk of acquiring HPV infection in the mouth and with an increased risk of developing oral cancers that are caused by HPV. “However, sex in general has also been linked with these risks,” he said. The gynaecologist warned that those engaging in oral sex were twice more likely to have oral HPV infection than those who did not engage in oral sex. Fawole, however, said there was no need for individuals in monogamous relationships to restrict their sexual activities if the pair was in good health. He called on people to always go for screening and check-up to guard against cancer of any kind. Source

Do you like being the dominant one or the submissive one in the bedroom?

Mongolian beef sauce is a dish consisting of sliced beef, typically flank steak, and stir-fried with vegetables in a savory brown sauce. Ingredients 600g Beef 1/4 Cup Canola Oil 1/2 Cup Soy Sauce 1/2 Cup Brown Sugar 1/4 Cup Corn Flour Small piece of Fresh Ginger Handful of Spring Onions (to garnish) Watch Source

Ladies, what are your thoughts on braided eyebrows? Would you braid your brows?

Ladies, will you make with or pass…?

Nearly every song on JayZ's latest album, 4:44, generated buzz when the project dropped in June, but one track in particular stood out to many listeners: "Smile," on which the rapper revealed that his mother, Gloria Carter, is a lesbian. "Mama had four kids, but she's a lesbian / Had to pretend so long that she's a thespian," Jay-Z, 47, raps. "Had to hide in the closet, so she medicate / Society shame and the pain was too much to take / Cried tears of joy when you fell in love / Don't matter to me if it's a him or her." The end of the song features a spoken word poem recited and written by Gloria herself: "Living in the shadow feels like the safe place to be / No harm for them, no harm for me / But life is short, and it's time to be free / Love who you love, because life isn't guaranteed. Gloria publicly addressed the song for the first time on Tuesday, September 5, and revealed how she came out to her son. "Me and my son, we share a lot of information. I was sitting there and I was telling him one day, I just finally started telling him who I was," she explained on the D'USSE Fridaypodcast on Tuesday, September 5. "Besides your mother, this is the person that I am. This is the life that I live. My son started actually tearing 'cause he's like, 'That had to be a horrible life, Ma.' I was like, 'My life was never horrible. It was just different.' So that made him want to do a song about it." The track almost didn't see the light of day, though. "The first time I heard the song, I was like, 'Eh, I don't know, dude. I ain't feeling that,'" Gloria recalled. "When it first happened, I was sharing myself [with Jay], not to share myself with the world." After several discussions with her son, Gloria's apprehension faded away and she agreed to appear on the song. "I was never ashamed of me. But in my family, it was something that was never discussed," she said. "I'm tired of all the mystery. I'm gonna give it to 'em. ... Now it's time for me to live my life and be happy, be free." Source

A gay Australian couple has said that they intend to vote against marriage equality in the upcoming postal vote. The couple, Mark Poidevin and Ben Rogers, met 15 years ago on a website appropriately named ‘Gay.com’. They say it was love at first sight. Poidevin explained that he loves his partner “dearly” and that “there’s no-one else I’d like to spend my life with than him”. Despite their love, they will be voting against marriage equality, they told ABC Australia. “I used to be a believer in same-sex marriage”, Poidevin explained. He even proposed to his partner and was rejected, as Rogers said it is not his “cup of tea”. “At the time Ben said it wasn’t for him, that he didn’t believe in it, and I said, ‘When the laws change, would you like to?'” However, Poidevin’s views soon began to align with his partners and now the prospect is nearing in the form of a postal survey, Poidevin will be voting too. “There’s never been any discrimination with any of our families, or dramas coming our way because of our sexuality,” he said. The couple believes that marriage can only be a heterosexual union. Poidevin said: “When I first came out I think one of the consequences was giving up marriage and children and things like that. “If we make one exception for one community, that being the same-sex couples, where does it stop? “Do we then see other cultures being allowed to have multiple marriages? Do we see the age of consent being lowered for another group of minorities? That is my concern, of where it would lead.” The couple has had numerous accusations of homophobia levied against them. However, they said this criticism was poor and argued that “you’re not intolerant if you don’t support a view.” When asked their predictions about the ballot outcome, they said: “This could be the Brexit or Trump moment for Australia, where the polls are saying one thing but you go to the ballot box and people are clearly in another mind, going to vote another way.” The High Court of Australia will hear two challenges from the Yes campaign against the Government’s postal vote. Even if marriage equality is granted, the couple vowed to never walk the aisle. “If it’s yes, we’ll be like, ‘Congratulations, everyone can get married’,” Ben said. In just over a week, ballots for a nationwide postal vote will be sent out asking Australians whether or not they want same-sex marriage depending on the outcome of a High Court challenge. Source

Spelman College, a liberal arts women’s college located in Atlanta, Georgia, will begin to admit trans women – and begin to refuse admission to transgender men. The college, a historically-black only-women’s only college, announced the shift in policy this week. Until now it had only admitted cisgender women, but confirmed it will now allow transgender women who “self-identify” as female. The policy adds that transgender men who “self-identify” as male will no longer be permitted to enrol, regardless of their legal gender. Mary S. Campbell, President of Spelman College, explained the change in a letter to the college community. She said: “During the 2016-2017 academic year, I assembled a task force comprised of faculty, staff, students, alumnae and trustees to consider the admissions and enrollment policies at Spelman as they apply to an evolving understanding and knowledge of gender. “After a year of research, benchmarking against other single-sex women’s colleges, extensive listening sessions with students, faculty, staff and alumnae and surveys to the Spelman community, the task force made a set of recommendations to the president of the College and the Spelman College Board of Trustees. “As a result of this extensive study, I, as president, along with the Spelman leadership team, and the Board, concur on the following admissions and enrollment policy: Spelman College, a Historically Black College whose mission is to serve high-achieving Black women, will consider for admission women students including students who consistently live and self-identify as women, regardless of their gender assignment at birth.” However, it added: “Spelman does not admit male students, including students who self-identify and live consistently as men, regardless of gender assignment at birth.” Asked about students that transition to male partway through a course, Campbell said: “If a woman is admitted and transitions to male while a student at Spelman, the College will permit that student to continue to matriculate at and graduate from Spelman.” The College head added: “In adopting this admissions policy, Spelman continues its fervent belief in the power of the Spelman Sisterhood. “Students who choose Spelman come to our campus prepared to participate in a women’s college that is academically and intellectually rigorous, and affirms its core mission as the education and development of high-achieving Black women. “The admissions policy outlined above goes into effect for students enrolling for the 2018-2019 academic year. “I have asked an implementation committee to convene this year to consider the impact on the campus resulting from the new policy.” An all women’s college in the US state of New York previously voted to allow trans women. The college now admits applications who “consistently live and identify as women, regardless of the gender assigned to them at birth”. A number of all-women’s colleges across the US have recently voted to approve similar measures. Source

Nigerian human rights activist and feminist Dorothy Akenova shares her personal story about growing up and reasons why she has been advocating for the social inclusion and acceptance of LGBT people in Nigeria. I was a victim of differential treatment as a child. I fought my way through it to get the same educational opportunities as my male siblings. I fought my way over dress codes within the family. I was always defending myself and got physical beatings regularly for asserting myself. I grew up with the capability of spotting the difference in how people were treated. I analysed the socio-political contexts that I lived in and was always aware of inequality, particularly between men and women. Working with a women’s health organisation helped me to organise my thoughts and contextualize my response. It also helped me to institutionalize my response and helped me to expand my analysis and scope of engagement beyond me and my friends to the broader society. I call myself a feminist because I am able to challenge situations of inequality, design and implement interventions to bring about change. Integrity, diversity and choice are the values that I hold dear. I have been part of the group of feminists and human rights activists who have worked to shift the paradigm of “sexual reproductive health rights”; two separate but related focuses on sexual health and rights and reproductive health and rights. I have advocated over the years for attention to and respect for sexual rights, especially for sexual minorities. I have also been part of the movement to shift a focus from pathology in dealing with sexual health, to a focus on rights. I am vocal about the need to use sexual pleasure as an entry point for addressing women’s health and rights issues. We need to place the positive aspects of sex and sexuality at the centre of our interventions, and not just try and make people change their behaviour out of fear. In my work I continue to train and advocate at a community level and around Nigerian government policies, and I’m also part of activist networks that are pushing for the respect of sexual and human rights of sexual minorities at the United Nations and in the African regional level. I am motivated to make a difference. In my view the more orgasms that are out there, under conditions that are safe and respectful of rights, the more motivated I am to continue my work, and inspired that change is in fact happening. Source

When meeting a woman for a date, A. What is the first thing you will usually notice about her? B. What could instantly turn you off such that a second date would not even be conceivable. Lol

If you were stranded on an island and the only way out was in a boat owned by your ex. A. Do you think she would give you a ride? B. Would you get in or would you rather wait another 24hours for the rescue team?

Septuagenarian General Overseer of the Redeemed Christian Church of God (RCCG), Pastor Enoch Adejare Adeboye, has declared that he can kill anyone who tampers with his beloved wife, Pastor (Mrs) Foluke Adeboye, for love. Delivering his message on ‘Activating Your Destiny’ at the Throne of Grace parish and National Headquarters of RCCG, Ebutte Meta, Lagos on Sunday, monitored on Facebook from Warri, the revered man of God said 50 years after his wedding, he was still in honey moon with his heartthrob. Explaining how he would execute the ‘killing,’ Daddy G.O, as he’s fondly called, said he would not do it physically, but report such fellow to his Father (God) and the person would pass on in his or her sleep. His words: “Be ready to lay down your life for your partner if you’re truly in love. My wife doesn’t like me saying this: “You can slap me; you can lie against me, you can criticise me, it doesn’t bother me, but touch my wife, I’ll kill you! “I want the world to hear. They’ll say if I killed they’ll arrest me, jail me, that is if I killed with cutlass or gun. If you tamper with my wife, I will talk to my Daddy and you’ll sleep and will not wake.” The declaration was greeted with thunderous cheers from the worshippers who were there in their thousands to worship and celebrate with the couple. Adeboye was in golden colour suit while his wife was also clad in a golden colour attire to mark the golden jubilee of their marriage at the RCCG headquarters on Sunday. He enjoined youths, who are ripe for marriage, not no marry for money, beauty and influence, which, he said, were ephemeral, but for love, which he said, was God and eternal. He, however, perhaps jocularly added that if they wanted to marry for influence, they should opt for pastors whose influence, he claimed, endures if they remained in Christ Jesus. “If you want to marry a person who’s influential, marry a pastor. If he does not fall into sin, he’ll remain a pastor forever,” he noted. Pastor Adeboye, whose marriage clocks 50 on September 8, 2017, reiterated the need for youths to marry for love as he did. Giving reminiscences on his early days in marriage, he said: “Marry for love. It’ll endure. I’ve been married for 50 years and still on honey moon. I was the poorest among those lurking around the girl I married. “One was a lawyer who had a car; I had nothing. But I told the girl that of you marry me, whatever I am, wherever I ever become will be yours.” He said his wife cherished his 100 per cent honesty and opted for him in marriage, adding that although things were initially hard, because they were in love, they pulled through. Adeboye also informed the gathering that he graduated from the university in June and got married in September of 1967 after he had barely collected two months salary from the teaching job he got. According to him, after their wedding that was conducted without a cake which they could not afford, they immediately resumed work the following working day where they were teaching without going for honey moon. “I was not a Christian, but i was an incurable optimist. We struggled over ‘pomo’ as I usually hear me say, but today if we want to eat a cow now, God will provide. “After our wedding in September 8,1967, we faced challenges. The baby came 1968. It was tough. We were happy because we were in love. I had no car, no house, a married into a rented room and a parlour. We have stories to tell. If you marry for love, the reason it will last is because God is love, ” he enthused. Adeboye went to substantiate why love matters above other considerations. He described love as fire as contained in Hebrews 12:29 and that the fire must be tended to keep it burning. He identified what keeps love burning between couples as gifts, no matter how little. “You must continue to tend the fire., meaning: no matter how little, you must constantly give gifts to your partner. If it’s given in love, it’ll be appreciated. “When two people are in love, they exchange gifts. Always open your mouth to say to your partner “I love you, ” the holiness preacher urged couples. He added that his love for his wife is so intense that each time he travelled abroad or anywhere for assignments, he would never do without putting a call across to his wife at least once in a day, just as he’s always eager to return to the waiting arms if his wife and home. The couple, after the message, were led to cut their 50th wedding anniversary cake and a Thanksgiving followed as they danced with their children and grandchildren before the altar where they were prayed for. The man of God prayed for the healing of marriages on trials, youths who are about making choices and every other attendee at the service. Source

Nigerian lady who goes by the name Etz Cici Olamide on Facebook, shared these photos of her kissing and posing with her partner, Ajoke. Ajoke replied saying: Source

The first time is always the hardest time to do something. It tends to get easier from then on... If you choose to kill for the first time or lie for the first time or betray a trusted friend for the first time, if not curbed, it can easily become a habit because afterall, before any action comes the hesitation and the contemplation and all the analysis we can think of. The 2nds or 3rds wouldn't require all that work that went into executing the first. On the flip side, if we choose truth instead and to forgive and to seek peace and love the first time, it only gets easier to keep loving and to keep forgiving and to keep choosing to be the better person. The choice is always ours to make. Who would you rather become? #Sundaymusings As you all know, when I get bored Sunday mornings, these sort of posts happen. Hahaha

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