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I am very concerned and a tad unhappy at what comes back each time I run a search for let's say African lesbian or Black lesbian Art etc... it seems to be a common theme for the results to be riddled with sexual images. Up to about 80% of the images. I'm wondering why this is the case. There is so much more to lesbianism than sex! Little wonder the outside world has a very skewed perspective of the community. What are your thoughts on this?

Get those nail clippers out NOW. 1. Use your intuition I know you're thinking,"OMFG, how will I know what to do?" And that's normal. If you've had male sexual partners that may help inform a fair bit of what you do, but it still might feel strange to be giving what you have previously received. The good news is that although tips and tricks are handy, sex is still largely intuitive whatever genders it's between. You might find you surprise yourself... 2. Communicate Your virgin voyage to the Sapphic Isles needn't come without a personalised map – or, you know, a super-hot Sat Nav with the voice of Marilyn Monroe, if you're lucky. You don't have to arrange a pre-coital business meeting with pointing sticks and blow-up dolls, but once you've brushed up on some girl-on-girl sex tips, simply talking dirty prior to the act is a great way to establish what you both do and don't want to try with each other. During the act? Never be afraid to say you've changed your mind about something – and always listen carefully to what she says too. Trusting your instincts, and each other, is a crucial part of enjoyable sex. 3. Masturbate for practice Girls have the same bits, yay – so what better way to practice? If you're a regular masturbator, great. If not, perhaps now is the time to learn more about it.Don't freak out if it doesn't work for you – solo sex isn't for everyone. Another good way to learn more about vulvas is by putting a mirror between your legs and having a good look. Women's vulvas vary in appearance (so don't be shocked if hers doesn't look much like yours at all) but delve a little deeper and you'll find the important bits are generally in a similar area. 4. Think about boobs I will never forget the first time I had a pair of boobs that weren't my own to play with. My mind went totally blank and I sort of flapped my hands excitedly at them. It wasn't my best sexual performance. Some women don't like having their breasts touched at all. If that's you or your partner, that's cool. But if breast play is on the agenda then, as a general guide, start gentle – some women's boobs are more sensitive than others. Cup them delicately, trace them lightly with your fingers, kiss them softly... Try not to grab. If all is going well, then try licking her nipples, using circular movements interspersed with sucking (not too hard). 5. Figure out the fingering Get those nail clippers out NOW. See those "lesbians" in porn films? I'm pretty sure 90% of their million-decibel screams and moans are because their co-star has snagged a crimson talon somewhere the sun don't shine. Clitoral stimulation is how most women achieve orgasm, but each woman is different: some women enjoy very fast friction directly to the clitoris, for instance, while others enjoy slow rubbing on the outer lips. Don't be put off if you have to go through a bit of trial and error with a new partner. Checked she's OK with penetration? Ready to go in? Start with one finger and build up – shoving four in at once, unless specifically asked to, can be considered bad form. You also need to make sure you keep an eye on what your other digits are doing – thumbs digging into thighs spoil the mood. Build speed up slowly. G-spot stimulation sends some women wild, others are indifferent, and still others actively dislike the sensation of having it touched. "OK," I hear you cry, "but where the hell is it?" If you put your own finger inside you and hook it up as if you were beckoning someone, you will feel a spongy bit. It's easier for some women than it is for others to find it, so persevere. Wiggle your finger(s) on it and see what happens... If you'd rather use a toy to stimulate her G-spot (and clitoris at the same time if you're feeling really generous), Ann Summers' Moregasm rabbit is such a good place to start. The super soft silicone moulds to the contours of your vagina and it feels incredible. 6. Giving oral This seems to be the bit that scares first-time lady-lovers the most. It's also the hardest aspect of girl-on-girl sex to give clear, one-size-fits-all advice on – sorry ladies! Again, starting slowly is a good plan. Gently part her outer labia and lick up from the entrance to the clitoris (this has the added benefit of giving you chance to find the clit if you are having trouble – some girls wear 'em buried deep!). Lick up and down the labia themselves. Focus on the clit and licking round it, using your wonderful friend Ms Circular Motion. Vary the pressure. Inserting a finger at the same time adds an extra frisson for some. Trial and error, trial and error. 7. Humping Check out point 10 to discover that there are myriad ways of doing this (hurrah!). For a simple starter, try it with one of you lying down and the other straddling her, placing one another's thigh in one another's crotch. You might feel a bit clumsy at first but you'll soon you should find you fit together and get into the rhythm of it. 8. Maybe get accessories involved Statistically, you are far less likely to catch anything from another woman than you are from a man. However, it is still possible. Lesbian sex can transfer bacterial vaginosis, herpes, HPV and, more rarely, trichomoniasis and hepatitis. For safer oral sex, little squares of latex called dental dams can be placed over your genitals. Handy hint: a slit open condom works just as well. For responsible fingering, grab yourself some latex gloves. You can get some awesome flavoured dental dams which taste great while keeping you protected, what's not to love? Pasante do a great selection of flavours including... chocolate. I know right?! Other kit? Well that's for discussion between the two of you. Personally I'd advise keeping this for later – things will be nerve racking enough as it is if you've never slept with a woman before! As ever, remember that some women don't like being penetrated – never assume anything. Use toys with condoms and/or wash them between uses to prevent spreading anything. 9. What about orgasms? As you are no doubt aware, women generally take longer than men to orgasm and some find it hard to manage at all. So don't despair if you've already come and she's still nowhere near the finishing line, or vice versa. I can never emphasise enough that an orgasm is not the be all and end all of a satisfying sexual experience – and of course the less you stress, the more likely it is you'll manage it in the future. 10. Next steps... Got the hang of all that and want to try something more adventurous? Source

Nigeria became the first African country to qualify for the 2018 World Cup in Russia, after they beat Zambia 1-0 at the Godswill Akpabio Stadium in Uyo, the Akwa Ibom state capital. The first half of the encounter ended goalless, with the Chipolopolo the better side, troubling the Super Eagles with their pace in attack. Nigeria became the first African country to qualify for the 2018 World Cup in Russia, after they beat Zambia 1-0 at the Godswill Akpabio Stadium in Uyo, the Akwa Ibom state capital. The first half of the encounter ended goalless, with the Chipolopolo the better side, troubling the Super Eagles with their pace in attack. However, in the second half, the game swung the hosts’ way, after Gernot Rohr introduced Arsenal’s Alex Iwobi for Simon Moses. Iwobi finished off a fine move down the right, following nice combination play between Victor Moses and Shehu Abdullahi. Nigeria now have 13 points at the top of Group and an unassailable six-point lead ahead of Zambia, with one round of games left. They join other countries like Brazil, Spain, Mexico, England, Germany, Iran, South Korea, etc. who have also booked their places at next year’s tournament. Source

President Muhammadu Buhari has appointed Mrs. Aishah Ahmad, as Deputy Governor of the Central Bank of Nigeria. According to a statement on Thursday by his Special Adviser on Media and Publicity, Mr. Femi Adesina, the President had presented Ahmad to the Senate for confirmation. Adesina said the woman would replace a former Deputy Governor, who retired early this year. “In accordance with the provisions of Section 8(1) (2) of the Central Bank of Nigeria (Establishment) Act 2007, President Buhari urged the Senate President, Dr. Bukola Saraki, to consider the expeditious confirmation of Mrs. Ahmad, who would then resume work immediately,” the statement read. The presidential spokesman added that Buhari had written the Senate, seeking the confirmation of appointment of members of the Monetary Policy Committee of the CBN. He said the appointees were to replace four members, whose tenure expires at the end of this year. “The nominees are: Prof. Adeola Festus Adenikinju; Dr. Aliyu Rafindadi Sanusi; Dr. Robert Chikwendu Asogwa and Dr.Asheikh A. Maidugu. “After Senate clearance, the new members of the Monetary Policy Committee are to resume duties next January,” the statement added. A banker and investment adviser, Ahmad has over 20 years certified experience with global financial institutions such as Stanbic IBTC Bank, Zenith Bank PLC and Bank of New York Mellon among others. Source

There will be times that we are powerless when we face evil, injustice and tyranny but there must never be a time when we fail to protest. This man Buhari is a cancer that keeps growing and the only proper thing to do is to cut it out. Some say that the path of uncompromising and relentless opposition that we have chosen is a dangerous and unpredictable one. They forget that the wounds of honor are self-inflicted. If you want to be set apart and regarded as a man of courage, truth and honor, the champion of the oppressed and the voice of the voiceless you must be ready to take the blows, wounds and dire consequences that go with it. William Shakespeare wrote "cowards die many times before their time but the valiant die but once" whilst Wole Soyinka wrote "the man died in him who remained silent in the face of tyranny". To top it all one of the most courageous souls of the 21st century, Edward Snowden, who is the American spy that defected to Russia two years ago, wrote "speak not because it is safe but because it is right". Some of us have chosen to be valiant and have refused to remain silent. We made a choice to stand up and resist the chicanery and wickedness of this administration and we are prepared to pay the price for the choice that we have made. I for one would rather live a short life and die as a free man than live a long life as a slave. The Bible says "he who holds on to his life will lose it and he who is ready to give up his life for my cause will gain it". I do not fear any man or any circumstance because I know the God that I serve. I am a servant of truth, a warrior of light and a child of the Living God: I bow to no man and I do not tremble before tyrants. I will endure anything and pay any price to liberate my nation and deliver my people from the chains of perfidy, ignorance and oppression and from the tyranny, evil, manifest corruption and double standards of the Buhari administration. Femi Fani Kayode

I keep hearing lesbians say they feel safe from sexually transmitted infections (STIs) because they are dating another lesbian. I thought I was safe until I found out that I was not. I got herpes (HSV2) from another lesbian. I was her first female lover. I’m in my 50s now and have been out for a long time. When I came out as a lesbian, I went through hell with my family, friends and the outside world. It’s still a fight today to be free. Having herpes is another battle. I just refuse to live in shame anymore. I Knew Something Was Wrong We had been together for a while when I noticed some bumps on her butt. When I asked her about them, she lied and said it was because she was on her period. I believe I heard the voice of God tell me that something was wrong, but I decided not to worry about it. We had been together for two years before I finally found out the truth. I found the box of Valtrex (a herpes medication) in the trash. I asked her about it over the phone because I was afraid of what I was going to do to her if we spoke face to face. Eventually, I started getting breakouts. When I got my herpes diagnosis, she went with me to the doctor. I was so upset that I felt like I was going to kill her. Luckily, her son was with us when we got the results and that kept me from doing something I would regret. We ended up staying together for eight years. Even so, she repeatedly cheated on me with other women. She didn’t use protection or tell the other women of her diagnosis. I tried to stop her by telling them, but it didn’t change her behavior. I Feel Dirty and Ashamed Why did I stay? I think I was suicidal in some ways. I felt like my life didn’t matter now since I had this disease. Plus, I figured we both already had herpes it wasn’t like there was a risk of me re-contracting the disease. I heard different things from different doctors. The one thing they agreed on is that there is no cure for herpes. Even though herpes is not AIDS or HIV, I still sometimes feel dirty and ashamed. When I get breakouts, it’s pretty much everywhere, including my genitals. It’s physically painful. It also emotionally hurts to be rejected by other women when I tell them, but I understand why they don’t want to date me. Today the woman who gave me the disease is married. She didn’t tell her wife until after they got married and I threatened her. I do believe she understands the harm she has caused. It took a while but I do forgive her. I’m just having a hard time forgiving myself for not believing what God and my body said to me. I chose to listen to her excuses. I Don’t Believe in Waiting I have only been with one other person since her. We met in 2013. I told that woman straight out the gate. When I tell most people, I know I’ll never hear from them again. I don’t believe in waiting 90 days to tell somebody. Why waste my time or theirs? I thought it was strange this woman was okay with me having herpes. When we met up the next day, I asked her why she was okay. That’s when she confessed that she had herpes too. Even after I told her first, she was still scared to tell me. That is how much shame exists around this disease. I was with her for two years and we are friends today. Dating someone else with herpes doesn’t solve the problem–at least not for me. I’m extremely sensitive and if I am with someone with herpes, it triggers a breakout. Stop the Lies There is a lot of misinformation about sexually transmitted infections going around in the black lesbian community. We feel safe because we wrongly believe that only men who sleep with men and women who sleep with down low men can get sexually transmitted diseases. There are too many people who are afraid, cowards really, who don’t want to know. They don’t go get check ups and so they don’t know their own status. We are so afraid to be honest about this, but not me. I’m going to tell the truth. Having herpes has affected me on a mental, physical, emotional and spiritual level. I’m so deeply hurt that this happened to me. Your Life Matters! I worry about the next generation! We need to talk about this. We need to be honest. I think there are too many people who just want to have the gay experience without the responsibility of being safe. So ladies, ask for recent medical paperwork. Ask when was the last time they got tested. Ask to the go to the doctor and get tested together. Don’t be afraid. Your life matters. Source

A Nigerian researcher, Kehinde Okanlawon, has released an article in an academic journal which includes interviews with 14 gay and lesbian Nigerian University students, as well as analyzed secondary data sources about the experiences of LGBT students in some Nigerian schools. The report, titled “Homophobic bullying in Nigerian schools: The experiences of LGBT university students,” was based on interviews with 14 gay and lesbian students of a Nigerian university as well as other experiences of Nigerian LGBT students compiled from diverse secondary data sources. In the interviews, the students said that the constant bullying that they received from fellow students was inevitable and that accepting it was preferable to complaining to school authorities, who would then suspend them or expel them for homosexuality. The students said: Verbal abuse is common. Fellow students openly call them names on campus such as “homo,” “faggot,” “lesbo,” “woman,” and “gay lord.” It is common for gay students to face harsh condemnation from Nigerian school authorities, who often justified their homophobia by claiming that morality motivated their actions. Among the other examples of discrimination based on sexual orientation found in secondary data sources from other Nigerian universities are: A final-year student of Covenant University was expelled for committing lesbianism. A gay student was almost deprived of his certificate by the university despite his academic excellence. “He was on the disciplinary committee twice because he is gay. The disciplinary committee acknowledged that he graduated with a good grade but said that he didn’t have the morals required for a student who ought to be a good ambassador of the university. Fortunately, with the intervention of family and friends, he was eventually given his certificate.” Heterosexual students blackmail and extort money from LGBT students, taking advantage of the fact that certain sex acts associated with homosexuality have been criminalized. Sometimes heterosexual students try out other students who are gay/ lesbian by approaching them sexually just to get them to admit that they are gay. Violence sometimes occurs when certain gay or lesbian students approach other students whom they think are gay or lesbian. But things have not all been bad. A few of the gay and lesbian students who responded to the survey mentioned positive experiences, such as being defended by tolerant students and lecturers who consider homophobic bullying to be unjust. In conclusion of the study, Okanlawon argues that homophobic bullying in Nigerian schools impedes educational rights of LGBT students and contradicts the African Ubuntu which calls for compassion, solidarity, and respect for human dignity. Given these reasons, he recommends that appropriate policies be put in place to punish perpetrators of homophobic bullying in schools. Additionally, Okanlawon suggests that Nigerian schools incorporate anti-homophobic bullying policies into gender-based anti-bullying/anti-harassment-related policies in Nigerian schools in order to ensure respect for diversity. Besides, Okanlawon acknowledged that in order to address the issue of homophobic bullying in schools and homophobia in the larger society, many Nigerians and other Africans need to decolonize their minds so as to build an inclusive society with our own rules, where tolerance, solidarity, and empathy for one another can thrive as opposed to a society where we are psychologically colonized by the ideology of U.S Evangelicals and antiquated colonial legacies of homophobia. Finally, he recommended that Nigerians challenge the colonial legacies such as heterosexist and homophobic legacies which cause division and hatred among Nigerians today. Okanlawon noted that the belief that homosexuality is un-African is a fallacy. Actually, Okanlawon stated, it is homophobic bullying that is un-African. Historically, before colonization, Africans have been historically tolerant of diverse forms of sexual and gender diversity. In the research, Okanlawon argues for culturally relevant knowledge and approaches using locally meaningful values and terminologies in proposing solutions to the problem of homophobic bullying in Nigerian schools and homophobia in the larger society. Source

Prof. Adegboyega Fawole of the University of Ilorin Teaching Hospital, has warned that Human Papiloma Virus has been found in the throat of people engaging in oral sex. Fawole, who is of the Department of Gynaecology, UITH, told the News Agency of Nigeria in Ilorin on Tuesday that HPV was mostly sexually transmitted. He said that the virus caused almost all cases of cervical cancer and could cause genital warts and anal cancer. “Oral sex has been linked with an increased risk of acquiring HPV infection in the mouth and with an increased risk of developing oral cancers that are caused by HPV. “However, sex in general has also been linked with these risks,” he said. The gynaecologist warned that those engaging in oral sex were twice more likely to have oral HPV infection than those who did not engage in oral sex. Fawole, however, said there was no need for individuals in monogamous relationships to restrict their sexual activities if the pair was in good health. He called on people to always go for screening and check-up to guard against cancer of any kind. Source

The photo of a Nigerian man chilling on Lekki-Ikoyi link bridge has made its rounds on social media platforms. The unidentified man was seen sitting beside his parked car with a bottle of wine beside him. While no one knows what made him sit out in the middle of the road by himself, the two glasses of wine placed on the stool showed he was either expecting a guest or he posed for a photo shoot. Interestingly, the rare photo of the man would not be the first one to be seen as he has been spotted sitting in the middle of the road in another area. Ladies, will you do this if the road is free? What could make you get spotted in a place like this? Source

You probably know that you should take care when using an Automated Teller Machine, but how can you know for sure that the device has been compromised – and what should you do upon realising this? The ATMs in the wall of banks, hotels, supermarkets, shopping malls, bus stops and other locations contain a lot of money. Attempting to remove the money by force will result in the notes being dyed, becoming easy to trace alongside the perpetrators, according to www.makeuseof.com This has more or less ended the practice of physical brute force attacks on the ATMs, as well as attempts to steal the whole devices (a practice common in the past using four-wheel drive trucks with winches or heavy-duty tow bars). Instead, thieves have opened a new line of attack: through you. There are three distinct types of the ATM crime. The first is when someone waits for you to withdraw cash and then steals it from you. The second occurs when a victim is forced under duress to make a withdrawal and hand it over to the criminal. Third is the mode by which your PIN is observed and your card stolen. The vast majority of the ATM crime is based on a digital variant of this third method. This way there is no physical crime and those plotting the fraud can remain comparatively anonymous, largely avoiding recognition in person or by camera. They visit the scene of the crime just a couple of times to install and later remove the hardware modifications they have made to the ATM. These modifications can leave you penniless. Using ATM safely Increasingly concerned about their customers’ use of ATMs, over the past few years banks have begun to take the issue of the ATM crime seriously. Before we look at how you can spot a cash point or hole-in-the-wall that has been modified by criminals, let us take a look at how you can use these devices safely. According to www.makeuseof.com, the first thing to do is avoid using an ATM, wherever possible. If the option to queue at the bank and take money out of your account over the counter is available, you should take it. Opting for cash-back in your supermarket is another alternative. If you must use an ATM, ensure that there are no obvious modifications. Next, look around you to check that no one is too close – ask him or her to step back if too close. When inputting your PIN, ensure your spare hand is covering the number you enter – you don’t want anyone else to know it, do you? Make sure you quickly remove your card and put it away safely and securely; repeat for your withdrawal, then take one more look around you before you move away from the machine to a safe area, before continuing upon your business. Finally, assume that any ATM or automated card payment machine can be compromised. Several card payment devices in petrol pumps have been compromised over the past few months and the possibility that scammers could modify other similar devices (such as self-service payment aisles in supermarkets) should not be overlooked. What does a compromised ATM look like? Identifying an ATM that has been modified is not easy. Scammers use fake card readers, fake keyboards and even cameras, styled to look like the originals that they cleverly fit over the top of. Close inspection of a compromised ATM should reveal one of the following, however: Fake keyboard – this sits over the original, and features keylogging software that records every PIN. As the PIN is entered, each key press will push down on the original keys below, leaving the user none the wiser. Fake card reader – these have developed considerably over the past few months. Miniaturisation has resulted in skimmer devices that sit inside the original card reader, whereas previously they might have sat on top. Recently new and some older ATMs have been fitted with “anti-skimmer” devices that purport to prevent skimmers from being fitted (pictured above). Cameras – not to be confused with the ATM’s built-in camera, which is intended to record your face rather than your PIN. These are used as an alternative to the fake keyboard, but will be positioned so that the PIN can be recorded. Any part of the ATM that seems slightly too big is a potential home for a hidden camera, whose presence will often be betrayed by a small hole. Meanwhile, a machine that has been hacked, but in a state of unreadiness, might be displaying the operating system boot screen or desktop (or even the warning message displayed below), often Windows XP or its embedded alternative. Naturally you should avoid any machine that does not display the standard graphics for inserting your card, although bear in mind that ATMs running Windows XP continue to be a threat until they are upgraded to a later version. What to do if you find a dodgy ATM If you find an ATM that you believe has been compromised, there are two things you should do. The first is to inform the owner straight away. This might mean popping into the bank or business that owns or rents the device and reporting the incident, or making a phone call to their ATM security team. You should also take to your social networking account to report the ATM to your friends in the area. Better still if there is a local news group in operation, share it here too. The more people that know about the scam, the less chance anyone has of being taken in by it. You might also consider leaving a note on the device informing other potential users of your discovery.

The Federal Ministry of Health has advised Nigerians to desist from eating monkeys, bush meat and dead animals as doing so could make one susceptible to the Monkeypox Disease. The Minister of Health, Prof. Isaac Adewole, said this in a statement signed by the Director, Media and Public Relations at the ministry, Mrs. Boade Akinola, on Thursday. Adewole said the disease neither had a cure nor a vaccine. He, however, said there was no cause for alarm as it was mild. The statement read in part, “He said that the virus was mild and there was no known treatment and no preventive vaccines hence the public should be at alert and avoid crowded places as much as possible “He advised the public to avoid eating dead animals, bush meat and particularly bush monkeys.” The minister also revealed that test samples had been sent to the World Health Organisation in Senegal but the result was not yet out. The statement added, “Prof. Adewole said although Monkeypox could not be confirmed until laboratory investigations by WHO referral laboratory in Dakar, Senegal, he noted that Monkeypox was milder and had no record of mortality. “The symptoms include headache, fever, back pains and in advanced cases, rashes bigger than those caused by chicken pox. He said the disease was a viral illness by a group of viruses that included chickenpox and smallpox. “Investigation is still ongoing and our partners are working with us on this reported outbreak’ while the Nigerian Centre for Disease Control team in Bayelsa State would give support,” the statement said. Source

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Yaaaay! Or a not so yaay...🤔 Nevertheless, a happy Independence day to my NL family. I set up this thread not really because I am in a celebratory mood. I set it up to get your opinion on a crucial subject matter as it relates to our country. Question: What do you think is Nigeria's biggest problem? Clearly all is not well or we won't be where we are after 57years post independence. Please share your thoughts.

So I had this idea to start a series whereby members who will be paired, battle it out. This is how it will be played: let's say the game selected is "names of states". The duo in the battle ring will have to keep posting till one person either repeats a word or is unable/fails to after 30seconds. Hopefully 30seconds is enough time to ensure people don't have enough time to run to google and back. Lol. No prizes so please no cheating k... makes for more fun. If you think this is something you will like to participate in, please sign up below 🙄😋 I will do the pairing of who would battle it out with whom. Yay. Lol. Also, I'm thinking this should run weekends when people are most likely to have some time to themselves (with minimal interruptions).

Former Super Falcons star, Chichi Igbo aka Chified, literally came out as a Lesbian on her IG page today. She shared the lyrics of a coming-out song she composed on her Instastory. The lyrics said it all. Continue to see the lyrics below... Source

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Relationships are the same, that’s true, but there some differences between straight and lesbian relationships. On one hand, there are fun things about being in a lesbian relationship. On the other hand, we’re also sure there are pluses on the other side of the team. It’s not that we’re comparing ourselves, but there are still people out there wondering how these two are different. Let’s enlighten those who don’t know how lesbian relationships are different from the straight ones. Straight And Lesbian Relationships Difference #1: Celebrity Status We’re serious about this. When two women walk into a restaurant and have a nice quiet dinner, the whole place stops to take a look at us. This is especially more intense when said two women walk in hand in hand. Who else do you know can stop activity like that– except celebrities? Okay, seriously now, we do get a lot more attention than straight couples. If in the past these are more on the negative side, this time people are cheering us on for being out and proud. So there. That’s a celebrity status in a way. Straight And Lesbian Relationships Difference #2: Periodic Table When you’re in a straight relationship, this means only one of you has their menstrual periods. This also means at least three days in a month, you can’t have sex unless you want it all bloody. With lesbian relationships, two people have their periods and sometimes they don’t happen at the same time. Ergo, in a lesbian relationship there are at least six days of no sexual contact. It’s a good thing then sometimes we like to just cuddle, especially when we’re feeling hormonal. Straight And Lesbian Relationships Difference #3: One Night Stands When they said that women are from Venus, what they meant was while men have a tendency to have sex on the brain, women are more inclined towards intimacy. More women would prefer to have sex when the objective is long term. So in a straight relationship, there is one partner who would want to have sex with you, period. In a lesbian relationship, on the other hand, there are more chances that both partners would want to get to know each other better before going to bed together. No surprise here that one-night stands in a lesbian relationship have a tendency to turn into relationships. Straight And Lesbian Relationships Difference #4: Birth Control Lesbian relationships have a higher savings on their account. Why? We don’t need a budget for birth control pills and condoms. What for when we have no use for them. At all. Wonderful, isn’t it? Straight And Lesbian Relationship Difference #5: Pregnancies Because of the above, we don’t have to deal with unwanted pregnancies and indulge in abortion. Not unless we woke up one day and same-sex relations can now produce babies. Of course, this is a news feature and not a science fiction literature. There’s no chance of that ever happening. So, truth be told, lesbian relationships are the ultimate pro-life, pro-choice unions. We have a choice not to have children, and we have a choice to adopt instead. What makes us all the same? We’re all people and we all have the right to love whom we love. Source

Rap mogul 50 Cent apparently don't know when to stop playing. He shared a photo with openly gay Empire creator Lee Daniels and insinuated that Diddy and Lee Daniels are in a gay relationship. Source

Lesbian oral sex is, by far, one of the mind-blowing sexual intercourses between two women. So we’re a little surprised when some lesbians ask us how we do it. We thought it comes with the package once a lesbian is born. To those asking, here are some tips on how to do lesbian oral sex. Lesbian Oral Sex Tip #1: Foreplay Lesbian oral sex isn’t foreplay as some people think it is. It’s an entire intercourse altogether that can make your partner reach orgasm again and again. So when going down on your woman, do a little foreplay. Nothing helps a successful lesbian oral sex than an already wet, swollen, raging vagina. For foreplay, you can do kissing, or mashing of breasts or even fingering lightly just to let her feel you’ll be going there soon. Lesbian Oral Sex Tip #2: Lick Everything When doing lesbian oral sex, you don’t just focus on the clitoris. Your tongue should be exploring everything, from the inner thighs to the labia to the vulva. We know the clitoris is where she will get her orgasm, but to make it mind-blowingly good, you have to lick the other parts as well before you get to the good stuff. If you remember those lollipops with gum inside them, that’s your strategy with the gum as the orgasm. Everything has to be consumed because all these are part of the experience. Lesbian Oral Sex Tip #3: Tell Her How Beautiful She Is There are a lot of women who are still conservative when it comes to sex. Lesbian oral sex is the last thing these sex-shy women would do. As a woman, you know how awkward it can be with your legs stretched wide open and your partner seeing your hoo-hoo in all its glory (when you, yourself, haven’t even seen it.) Some are embarrassed how vaginas can smell and taste weird. So use affirming words to assure her. Tell her how beautiful she is from that angle, how heavenly you feel being down there. Words have power, and making love isn’t any different. Lesbian Oral Sex Tip #4: Reading Her Responses Some people don’t do lesbian oral sex because they think they don’t know how. But how hard is it when there is instant gratification? You will know you’re doing it right by her responses. Trust us. The first sign that she likes it is when she starts pressing on your lips. This isn’t to help you, this is a natural reaction that she wants this to go on. The second sign is if she starts getting wet, or if she already was, she gets wetter. The wetness of her vagina has more oily feel than saliva, so when it’s easier to slide around, that’s your clue. Third, she starts moaning mixed with a rapid breathing and she’s humping your face already. That’s not even arousal anymore but she’s nearing climax. Lesbian Oral Sex Tip #5: These Are Just Tips Making love is the one thing you can never teach another person, not unless you’re guiding her as you’re doing it. Like snowflakes, there are no identical ways to make a woman orgasm. Everyone is different. So while we can give you all the tips in the world, only by exploring your partner will you know how to properly do it. This is also why we encourage to stick to one partner because there’s so much to explore in one woman. Source

Rita who spoke to NoString said that she was arrested after her ex-husband found her in bed with a female friend and reported her to the police. The police then invaded her house, arrested her and jailed her. The incident reportedly happened a few weeks ago at the victim’s house in Lagos. Rita told NoString that she had divorced her husband a few years ago after the death of her father, who had pressured her to get married. “I knew I was a lesbian, but my father pressured me into getting married,” she said. “I did not have the energy to fight him by refusing, so I obliged. But when he died, I felt that there was no need for me to continue with the marriage since I did not love the man I was married to.” Rita said that her ex-husband, Afolabi (not his real name), was shocked and could not understand why she wanted a divorce. He tried to fight it but lost. The marriage was officially dissolved in court. “After the divorce, I moved away from him and got my own apartment. He swore to deal with me, and never took it well. He kept on sending me threatening text messages and kept on stalking me. I reported him to his family, but nothing changed,” Rita said. On the day of the incident, Rita said that one of her relatives, a young boy who lives with her, left the front door unlocked. Then Afolabi barged into the house, walked straight to the bedroom, and found her and her girlfriend undressed, lying on the bed. Rita stated: “He came right into my bedroom and started shouting and taking pictures. We were not doing anything. We were just gisting [chatting]. My girlfriend had just a towel on her. I quickly asked her to get up and leave. He came outside and shouted that he now had evidence to ruin me. The neighbors gathered to watch what was going on. “He left a few minutes later and then came back with the police, who arrested me and took me to the station. At the station, I was abused by the police officers. Then they locked me in a room along with other girls. I slept on the cold tiled floor for four days. It was a weekend and they said that I could not get bail on weekends.” Rita said that she was eventually released after paying police what to her was a huge sum. “I paid N62,000 [about $172] before I was bailed out. I have been asked to come back to the station at a set date to deal with the matter. I am so afraid right now and I cannot take up the case against my ex-husband. because He is a crazy person and well-connected too. He knows where I live and where I work. I do not know what he might do to me. He said that he can even kill me and nothing will happen to him in Nigeria.” Source

Peter Okoye of the Nigerian music duo, Psquare, has allegedly split from the group. According to a letter circulating on social media, purportedly sent by Peter Okoye to Festus Keyamo chambers, Peter said he had decided to terminate the agreement between him and Psquare. Recently, the announcement of Peter’s new stage name, Mr P, on social media, had led to rumours that the brothers were not in good terms. But in the letter that has since gone viral, Peter Okoye stated his reasons for terminating the agreement between Paul and older brother/ manager, Jude Okoye, adding that he had acted with caution because the safety of his family was his priority. Mr P also stated that his decision was a painful one as he wished his brothers well in their future endeavours. He said, “What I am about to do has been the most difficult decision to make, I have tried and exhausted all my options to make this work. However, it seems that Paul is not willing to cooperate. “For example, he cancelled our US tour without discussing it with me, he cancelled each show we were booked for. “He has also been accusing and threatening my wife and family of unimaginable lies via social media outlets. I and my wife have been getting different threatening messages… “I cannot continue with Psquare in conditions like this that will jeopardize my well-being. “We all have agreed that as long as PSquare is in existence, we can operate as individuals as long as it doesn’t tamper with the group songs. “I wish Jude and Paul the best in their careers, I love them and their families but my family comes first.” Source

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This past summer, Pastor Twanna Brown and Pastor Vanessa Gause consecrated their love before God and 200 guests at the New Vision Full Gospel Baptist Church in East Orange, N.J. Twanna, 46, and Vanessa, 45, are pastors of Rivers of Living Water United Church of Christ, which has locations in Newark and New York. Love At First Sight Their love story started nearly 30 years ago when both were teenagers singing in the same choir in Jersey City. “I was like, ‘Oh wow, what in the world, who’s that, she’s beautiful,’” Vanessa told the New York Times in an article about their union. “I immediately felt this kind of strange, warm feeling wash over me, and though I had not yet spoken a word to her, I could see myself loving this woman forever. My head was just spinning.” But for Twanna, who was two years older, Vanessa was just a friend. Soon Vanessa’s father, a staunch, conservative pastor moved their family to Atlanta. Enduring Love In 2005 the two reconnected when Twanna invited Vanessa to preach at a church in Harlem where she was ministering. It was after dinner and a night of reminiscing when they shared their first kiss. “It was a wonderful first kiss,” Vanessa recalled. “Well worth the wait!” The two married even though Vanessa’s father, who is strongly against their union citing the biblical texts, refused to attend. For both women all that matters is love. And that was reflected in their wedding ceremony. “Love is patient, love is kind. … Love hopes and endures all things,” recited Rev. Dr. Yvette Flunder, the presiding bishop of the Fellowship of Affirming Ministries, from 1 Corinthians 13 during their ceremony. Love Wins Vanessa later wrote on her Facebook page: “What we want Twanna’s father and those who believe as he does to know is that Love Wins! Love was winning before we got married, Love won on our wedding day and Love will always win.” Source