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Dewy Oputa the Daughter of Charly Boy who's known for her Stand in LGBT, has finally showed us the face of her Girlfriend for the first time, According to US based dewy she was nervous when she wanted to share the photos, but She doesn't care no more. See below

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Coming out is a hard thing to do most especially in Nigeria. Please feel free to share coming out stories with the community as you deem fit.

Eva Clitoral Massager Eva, a hands-free clit vibe, marries the aesthetics of a Pixar character with the sexual gravitas of an L Word character. The arms hug the lips of your labia while the ridge hits your clit, and it can be worn while somebody special is grinding against you or fingerbanging/intercoursing you. G-Spot Touch Finger Vibe “The first sex toy was the finger,” says the copywriter for this particular toy, revealing a deep primal understanding of lesbian mating rituals. “We’ve improved on that!” the copywriter continues, making a truly bold statement everybody here can appreciate. You can become your very own superheroine when you convert your fingers into android fingers capable of bringing your partner seven unique vibration patterns. SEVEN! If you’ve got your finger inside her, the textured pad at the base of the glove ensures her clit will not get lonely. “It literally feels like a vibrating extension of your hand,” the copywriter adds. I believe it! Fun Factory Sharevibe If you’ve ever been to a potluck you know that if there’s one thing lesbians love to do above all else, it’s SHARE. The Fun Factory Sharevibe lets couples share not only that lentil dish, but also that sweet, sweet vibe. One partner’s got the bulb inside them while the other is gently or mercilessly penetrated with control not possible with more traditional strap-ons. Our reviewer found the Sharevibe to bebest-suited for butch cock-sucking, noting, “there was no cloth harness to have to reach under, no hard silicone base to mess around with and no barrier between my mouth or fingers and any part of her. It was awesome.” Kinky Sprinkles describes it as “an amazing dildo that I have had so many super sexy nights with other female-identified partners.” Active Style Harness W/O Ring They look like traditional black boxer-briefs, ideal for lovers with a penchant for masc underthings who like to keep it simple and understated. But the surprise is that these aren’t traditional boxer-briefs, they’re A HARNESS! Plus they’re a harness you can wash in a washing machine, ’cause if everything goes right, you’re gonna get very messy. This strap-on harness is also a great option for trans women with penises who want to fuck their girlfriends with a dildo. We-Vibe Rave The We-Vibe Rave is a high-tech vibrator with ten vibration modes and a corresponding app. Lesbian couples are very often long distance, and the Rave enables you to take Skype sex up a notch when your girlfriend downloads the app on her phone and controls the vibrator from a million miles away. Thigh Harness A classic toy for lovers with specific access needs, this thigh harness enables your lady to bounce atop and rub all over your glorious, glorious thigh, possibly with her knee in a relatively convenient spot for you, and well who knows honestly what she can do with her free hands! You’re probably too distracted by the extraordinary view of her boobs! A world of possibilities awaits you, my fine friends. Clandestine Mimic Massager Picture this: you’re in a bathtub with your one true love, and you want to go down on her, but you can’t, because then you would drown! That’s where the Clandestine Mimic Massager comes in, enabling you to give your special somebody an oral-sex-esque experience while remaining face to face, above water, head in the clouds like a silly love song. It’s rechargeable with eight vibration speeds and is designed to fit right into your hand. nJoy Pure Wand As Lara the Sous Chef famously told Dana Fairbanks, female ejaculation is nothing to be ashamed of, it’s actually one of the best things ever! The nJoy Pure Wand gave our reviewer her best orgasm ever, and what’s more romantic than that? The Shi/Shi Union Girl Vibe At last we’ve come to our Ultimate Lesbian Sex Toy: designed by a lesbian who truly loves to scissor, the Shi/Shi Union is the first vibrating pleasure device designed specifically for female couples. Two contoured orbs, attached at their base and controlled independently by remote, smash right onto your vulvas and between your interlocked legs for scissoring sensations that’ll send you soaring into a sapphic sex solar system. Source

1) It’s a sexual orientation and not a lifestyle. It’s neither fashion nor culture. Being gay isn’t in how you dress or eat, the type of house you live in OR the colours you adore. Being gay is just who you are – your being in all of its own uniqueness and faults. In a nutshell, homosexuality is nature just as heterosexuality. 2) Homosexuality has no switch or time frame. I’ve heard people say, “I’m only gay for the time being. Once I get older and ready to settle down, I’ll definitely get married to a lady and be done with this life.”No! It’s not a race with a destination in sight. It is not a phase! This is no PS2 or chess game. You can’t turn off your gay (just as you can’t pray it away. Ask Bobby of the movie, Prayers for Bobby, he’d have more to say on this). Sure, you can decide to succumb to societal pressure, to familial expectations, you can decide to bend to the whims of heteronormativity and get married to a woman (if you’re a gay man) and vice-versa, but bare one thing in mind: exchanging those vows on that altar doesn’t mean you won’t be silently crushing on that well-dressed man seated at one of the front pews. You’re gay mister, and even a Catholic Priest can’t change that! 3) Homosexuality isn’t the cause of the economic problems we have in this country. It’s definitely not responsible for the deaths in the middle belt region of Nigeria and has nothing to do with the present bad government. It’s only an orientation and not an epidemic. It’s got no powers to affect the growth and development of the nation. Go tackle the issues facing the country and leave gay men and women alone. Their sexual orientation has nothing to do with your ardent corrupt practices. In essence, what’s the need for the law? 4) Mummy and Daddy, watching movies with homosexual content cannot, will not, and has never turned anyone gay. We very well know heterosexual content dominates the film industry. It’s mostly Ryan Reynolds and Shailyne Woolley banging on the creaking bed or Ramsey Noah and Genevieve getting our insides squishy with their believable love tales. We also know this is what a lot of us grew up watching. Now, if truly, movies have such magical powers, where are the gay ones sprouting out from? Saturn? Please, let’s not allow sentiments turn us into brain-dead vultures. It’s not cute. 5) Homosexuality is totally independent of physical disposition, gender and what have you. Yes, you can be male and feminine and still not gay. Not all the Chris Colfers in the world are gay. You can be female and masculine and still not lesbian. Not all the Ellen DeGeneres’ are lesbians. Let’s stop being quick to throw someone into a sexuality box all because of the way he/she is. When you do that, you have summed up a whole being on account of his/her perceived sexual orientation. Any other thing they represent doesn’t count. It’s stereotypical. It’s preposterous and in such modern era, unacceptable. 6) Homosexuality, just like heterosexuality, is only a part of a person. It doesn’t sum a whole being up. Your sexuality should not be confused with your personality. So yes, you can be gay and Christian, you can be gay and a paedophile, you can be gay and a thief, a corrupt politician, a rapist and so on. Do not cast the person away on the grounds that he is gay but because he is a murderer! You know why? Because we have all these people as heterosexuals too. They aren’t special. They aren’t in any way better. The same way a straight man can lie, a gay man can also. What makes the lie of a gay man any worse? What am I trying to say? GAY PEOPLE ARE ALSO HUMAN BEINGS. There’s nothing extraordinary (insert weird, abnormal). There’s no more to it than the fact that they are sexually attracted to people of the same sex. 7) There’s nothing like a gay job. Please, a girl can decide to be a conductor just like a guy can decide to be a cook or a hairdresser. These are services rendered and have nothing to do with genitals not to talk of who you are attracted to. 8) The whole world cannot, I repeat, CANNOT be homosexual. Just like the whole world can’t be black, Igbo, stupid or short. There would always be variations, its part of our existence. So when Homophobes throw shit like, “If everyone is gay, what becomes of the world?” do not be surprised when I burst their bubble with my word pins and consequently show them the level of daftness they’ve managed to attain. 9) The last and probably not the least on this episode of Things You Probably Didn’t Know; Homosexuality is going nowhere. There would always be gay ones amongst a lot. Those ones who have found refuge in the Rainbow community. Take it or leave it, pray against it or fight it with violence, homosexuality is here and it’s going nowhere. Source

The events reportedly unfolded on Jan. 7 in Lagos when *Kingsley [not his real name], a budding actor, went to have his hair cut. At the barber shop, he met a man who recognized him from Facebook and, after a brief conversation, they exchanged phone numbers. Kingsley said the stranger started calling him, saying that he was interested in acting and asking that they meet and talk. When Kingsley visited the man at his residence at Igando-Ikotun in the Lagos area, the man quickly locked the door and requested that they have sex, but Kingsley declined. The stranger said that he knew Kingsley was gay because he had been following him on Facebook. The two men argued and fought. The man, who was older and stronger than Kingsley, overpowered him, forcefully pulled his clothes off and started taking pictures of him while he was naked. He then said that if Kingsley did not have sex with him, he would alert friends who he said were already waiting outside and tell them to enter the home, rape Kingsley and publicly disgrace him for being gay. If Kingsley did not give him N50,000 the stranger said, Kingsley would be outed publicly as gay and the photographs would be circulated online and sent to his family and police. Afraid, Kingsley called a friend and convinced him to pay the money. Once he received the money, the stranger stole Kingley’s phone and set him free. Under Nigerian law, blackmail and extortion are punishable by up to 14 years in prison. Nigerian LGBT rights activist Noble Charles Samuel said such cases are common in several parts of the country. No one has been able to rein in the gangs of blackmailers and extortionists who operate in Nigeria, he said. “We have similar gangs in Ibusa, in Delta state and in Aba, Abia state,” the activist said. Source

This viral video shows a transgender teenager being forced to strip down to his underwear while he's filmed by Homophobic Police officers. It's not clear where it took place but the video has sparked an outrage in the LGBT community. Is this right?

Media personality, Daddy Freeze has in his usual routine, come for Nigerian pastors – this time around, he says most pastors are into the work of God just because of the money involved. Freeze says Nigerian pastors left their professions because they can’t earn as much unlike in the ministry. In a video shared on Youtube, he said, “There are many fake pastors because of monetization; that pastor who cursed me is an architect, the one at BankyW’s wedding is a doctor. “Many of them are leaving profitable field because ministry is a more profitable field. “Monetization has made fake pastors come into two fold, it has made real pastors preach false messages. “Every doctrine in Nigeria has been monetized, you hear pastors say this year you will find your ‘apollos’ “Apollos in the Bible was increase in word of God not referring to sowing, Matthew 13;7 this verse speaks of seed of faith not money; those that twist this to you are thieves. There’s nothing spiritual about those criticizing me, the only spirituality in them is the ability to twist your brain. OAP Freeze also countered speaking in tongues in Nigerian Pentecostal churches, describing it as fake. He added, “Speaking in tongues in Nigeria Pentecostal churches is fake but speaking in tongues is not fake. “When speaking in tongues, you should speak in languages not in tongues that no one can understand. 1Cor 14:26-28; someone must interpret tongues…There is no speaking in tongues without an interpreter “Interpretation of tongues is missing in today’s pentecostal churches , if anyone speaks in tongues one or two should speak in tongues one at a time not multitude.That is falsehood 1Cor 14:23 is what pastors used to confuse you, they tell you tongues is an unknown language which carnal mind cannot understand. Everyone speaking in tongues in the church is false because it is a gift that everyone does not receive. “I’m a preacher that speaks from history and bible not sentiments like others; that’s why I can’t say God told me to pay titheS like they say. “I would tell you what God kept in bible not what God told me.” Do you think speaking in tongues is fake?

In his open letter to comedian I Go Dye which was published yesterday, Atiku Abubakar disclosed the difference between Nigeria and Naija. He wrote Ladies, do you agree with his definition? Source

Legendary singer Patti Labelle has outed late R&B legend, Luther Vandrose. See what she said below “We talked about [his being in the closet]. Basically, he did not want his mother to be...although she might have known, but he wasn’t going to come out and say this to the world. And he had a lot of lady fans and he told me he just didn’t want to upset the world.” Source

A 45-year-old Ghanaian lesbian, Janet Ofori, has proudly come to boast about sleeping with more than 10 women a day, in an interview with Adom TV. The woman, who claimed she became a pro in the lesbian act from Senior High School, said has been able to satisfy lots of rich single women in her country. According to her, some of her clients are ministers in government and MPs including some radio presenters. In the interview, Janet who hid her identity while speaking in her dialect, also revealed that she has been able to convert more than 3,000 women and still counting to reach her target. Ofori also rebuked the claims that lesbianism is an evil practice, saying it was never stated in the bible. She said, “Were you there, when God created Adam and Eve and you will come and tell me that, God made Adam and Eve to marry? And who says being a lesbian is wrong, show me where it is stated in the bible.” The 45-year-old woman was also accompanied by a gay man, Kwame Mensah, who disclosed that, with the help of creams, his anus has widened enough to receive any size of a man’s penis. “I take care of my family and am not working too, so I don’t think, I can take care of a woman.” “I don’t want broken heart and woman can’t satisfy me either. I go to church and I pay my tithe alright, so who is he to judge me.” “I choose the kind of men I want, and my anus can take any size, no matter how huge the person may be.” Source

Tips on how to be a good lesbian girlfriend Everyone wants to know the secret to making relationships last. Here’s one: make your girlfriend happy. As they say, “A happy wife means a happy life.” How? By working on YOU first. In this case, be a good lesbian girlfriend first. What you need to do to be a good lesbian girlfriend Your partner has very basic expectations from you that you need to meet. Often than not, these are the things we take for granted, especially if we’ve been with our partner for so long, and end up arguing about. Meet these expectations and you’ll be surprised at how contented your partner will be. Here are some steps and tips you can do that will make your relationship a healthy and happy one: 1. Be kind and respectful Kindness and respect are often overlooked and feels like almost rarely practiced these days. Yet if we ask those who have been together for years or even decades, they will always mention kindness and respect, among other things, that really made their relationship last. Tip: A good lesbian girlfriend finds countless creative ways to be kind and respectful. Give compliments and mean them. Verbalize your appreciation. Give corrections in private and always with your partner’s well-being in mind. Avoid cruel or cutting remarks, even as a joke. Watch your words when you are angry. Remember, what you say in passing can have a lasting effect. Do nice things just because. Do the chores they hate. Occasionally give them a little gift on the way home. Say “please” and “thank you.” 2. Be open Experts unanimously stress the benefits of open and effective communication on relationships. Being both a good listener and communicator will help you strengthen your relationship. This means, among other things, telling your partner what you need from them and asking them what they need from you. Tip: A good lesbian girlfriend provides a safe space where her partner can speak without fear of rejection or dismissal. This will help manage both your expectations – in daily life, in the bedroom, in sticky situations, and in moments where how your partner responds really matters to you. 3. Be playful and have a sense of humor Everyone loves a good laugh and boredom can quickly set in if you keep doing the same things. Budding relationships are exciting because of the novelty of the experience and the person. Tip: A good lesbian girlfriend injects exciting newness into the relationship by doing things differently from time to time. Try out a new restaurant. Travel to new places together. Find a new hobby. Change up your morning routine. Or even pull a harmless prank on your partner (one that’s not too upsetting). 4. Prioritize the relationship Relationships can be likened to plants. When they get enough sun, water, nutrients, and TLC, they thrive. When they are neglected, they wither and die. Tip: A good lesbian girlfriend finds time to nurture the bond with her partner. Spend time with your partner. Focus solely on each other when together on a date. Share interests, hobbies, sports, etc. 5. Accept and forgive People in relationships often make mistakes, say hurtful words or let their partner down. Tip: A good lesbian girlfriend accepts that her partner is an imperfect human being, who nonetheless tries her best. In the same way, a good lesbian girlfriend knows that she herself is also an imperfect human being who will make mistakes. Own up when you mess up. Forgive and love your partner when they mess up. 6. Be faithful This one hardly needs saying. When a person is in a committed relationship, she is duty-bound to be faithful to her partner. Tip: A good lesbian girlfriend doesn’t give her partner cause to doubt her or lose trust in her. Trust can take a lifetime to build and only moments to destroy. Be faithful. Show them you have their back, always. You chose them, after all. Source

Lol. I found this very funny. Source

Versatile, simple, and almost everyone has one: bullet vibrators are essentially the little black dress of the sex toy world. I understand the temptation to just use them as you think you should: pressed right up against your clit until you orgasm, before popping out to the kitchen to make yourself a coffee, but there’s the potential to do so much more. Here are some tips on how to have sex using a bullet vibrator, that’'ll hopefully show you that this unassuming sex toy can be the gateway to a new world of possibilities. Test out the different areas of your clit Sure, it’s small on the surface, but you’d be surprised just how much variation there is in your clit, and in what happens where. If you’re used to manual masturbation, you might not be familiar with the level of precision you can achieve with a good bullet vibrator. A great bullet vibrator allows you to pinpoint exactly where you want the vibrations to be. Some people report that a particular side of their clit is more sensitive, while others prefer to stimulate somewhere just above or below it. If you’re especially sensitive, or you’re packing a bullet vibe that has a lot of power – you can also try using it outside the labia; by covering the clit, the vibrations are dulled slightly, which gives you a slower build up to orgasm. As an added bonus, the more you experiment with your technique, the better you’ll be at directing someone else if you want to use your bullet while shagging. Which is handy, and means you get to play the sexy teacher giving them a crash-course in how best to make you come. You don’t always have to go straight to orgasm I’ve heard of ‘edging’ mentioned far more frequently in relation to guys having a wank than girls, and I think that’s a shame. Edging is the practice of bringing yourself close to the ‘edge’ of orgasm, but not quite tipping yourself over it. Then you have a brief break, get back to it, reach the edge again, and keep doing this until you build to a state of super-heightened arousal, where literally any time you touch yourself you think you’re going to explode. Fun, right? Obviously. Edging can be one of the most delightful ways to kill an hour or so, and a bullet vibrator makes this so much easier, because you’re not having to worry that you’ll get hand-cramp halfway through and have to give the whole thing up and go sit on a washing machine or something. Use your bullet vibrator to bring yourself to the edge, then repeat and repeat until you can’t repeat any more. Especially useful when you’ve got a night in lined up and you’ve got no decent box sets to watch on Netflix. Examine the bullet vibrator pulse settings Back in the day most vibrators came with a selection of speeds from ‘rubbish and weak’ to ‘buzzes like a horde of angry bees’. These days the tech has moved on, and a decent bullet vibrator will come with a selection of different pulse settings. Like your phone when it rings on silent, but in a whole variety of different patterns. I was initially sceptical of these settings, because why on Earth would I want something to go‘on/off/on/off’ when instead it could be permanently jammed against my clit, and shoved ‘on’ to the highest setting? It turns out they’re bloody excellent, though. Like a meal which comes with salad so you appreciate the chips more, pulse settings give you a bit of a contrast. It’s essentially a clitoral massage, and exploring these massage settings means even more excuses to lock yourself in your bedroom with some loud music and a hard-drive full of porn. Use a bullet vibrator during sex I shouldn’t need to mention this, should I? OK, I should, and I will. Because after Nicki Minaj’s fierce and righteous proclamation that she demands orgasms from sex, we need to mention the fact that most people with clits find it easier to come clitorally than they do from penetrative sex. Given this, if you love your bullet vibrator and you struggle to come during penetrative sex, then for God’s sake please say so – it’ll help us challenge the myth that everyone wants exactly the same kind of sex, and introduce more people to the range of sexual variety that exists within different human bodies. By this point you should have a good idea of exactly the kind of setting you like, and know exactly the right place to put it. Show your partner, lie back, and enjoy a clitoral orgasm that both of you get to take part in. If your other half is reluctant, let them know that when you come, the muscles in your vagina are likely to twitch and spasm in a way that feels like a top-class milking machine. There are plenty of other ways to use a bullet vibrator during sex, of course – if you’d rather be in control, then placing it between you and your partner when you’re on top means you can do that fun tribbin thing. Use a bullet vibrator on things other than your clit Obviously, the clit is the place it’s most likely to give you an orgasm. Feel free to ease your partner into it by using the bullet on their sensitive bits: nipples, clit, labia minora, labia majoria, and the vagina. Basically, anywhere with nerve endings can be stimulated, and as long as it’s somewhere on the outside of your body (never ever stick a bullet vibe up your arse), it’s perfectly safe. Final tip: if you’ve got a bullet vibrator and you want to explore some of the best ways to use it, make sure you’ve got it fully charged (or with fresh batteries) before you begin. It’s fun, and time flies, and nothing’s worse than having a sex toy die on you when you’re a bare three seconds from climax. Source

A Los Angeles woman was assaulted late last month at a local fast food restaurant, ABC 7 reports. Police are treating the incident as a hate crime. Sabrina Hooks, 26, says a group of five men and women attacked her and her girlfriend, Morgan, in a downtown Jack in the Box. “They said, you know, I’m a dyke and I’m gay and I had to keep my ’hoe in check’ and just for no reason,” Hooks recalls. Hooks says the verbal attack escalated into physical violence after she tried to defend her girlfriend from the abuse. She was repeatedly punched and kicked in the head. “It was like a horror movie, except I wasn’t watching it… I was in it,” Hooks tells Fox 11. “It’s not even about my sexuality, it’s about human decency.” Hooks, whose face was left swollen from the beating, was hospitalized with serious injuries. Her front tooth was knocked out and there is possible permanent damage to her left eye. “Looking at her makes me want to cry every single time I look at her,” says Morgan, who adds that no one at the Jack in the Box came to their aid. “To just assume that two guys can seriously put their hands on a female, it’s shocking.” “For it to get violent and, like I said, no one helped, that’s just what really stunned me and it still hurts,” Hooks continues. “It makes me fear just to walk down the street.” The LAPD is currently following up on leads and studying video surveillance footage from the scene to help track down the suspects. “Just a little justice would be nice,” Hooks says. “Just so the next person doesn’t have to worry like I do.” Source

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Everyone is dying to know this one very important question: Why are lesbians so perfect? We treat women how they deserve to be treated, many of us are vegetarians because we wouldn’t dare hurt another living thing, and the great majority of us worship, adore, and obsess over dogs. Okay, it’s settled! We are perfect! Put your hands up for lesbians! Okay, now that we know why lesbians rule the world, let’s discuss why we love dogs. As a dog obsessed lesbian myself I’ll prove just why us lady lovers like fur babies more than most, and no, I’m not talking about a vagina (although that’s a great name for a vag). Lesbians Are Extremely Empathetic We’ve had it hard. We’ve had to battle our confusing sexuality. We’ve been told our relationships aren’t as valuable as heterosexual relationships, and some of us have even been rejected by our families. We’ve all felt lost. We understand hardships. That’s why many of us can’t stand the thought of a lonely dog, scarred and scared in an animal shelter. Ever heard of Ellen DeGeneres? Yeah, she gets it. We Love Cuddling Show me a lesbian who doesn’t love cuddling and I’ll show you a liar! Honestly, I personally love cuddling more than anything. I love cuddling more than sex. Okay, that’s not necessarily true – but some days it sure feels that way. Dogs are the best species because they will cuddle all. damn. day. Kisses and cuddles: the way to a lesbian’s heart. (That might be the future name of my memoir). Dogs Give Unconditional Love Sometimes having to prove oneself is hard. We have to prove our love, our success and our sexuality. It’s a lot. Dogs don’t give a sh*t about any of that. A dog will always welcome you home whether or not you’re gayer than a softball coach dancing at an Indigo Girls concert. Come home with a femme, a dyke or a dude and your dog will never judge you. Well, maybe about the dude – but probably not. Dogs Bring Us Joy Whether you’re a gay man or a woman, being queer can be tough. We all have days when being different isn’t always fun. It can hurt deep and it can bring us down. Dogs lift us way up! They make us feel special, bring us companionship and most importantly, make us smile. Dogs bring light and love into any household and we love them for it. Kids Are A Lot Why bring kids into the picture if your relationship is already flawless? I can’t speak for everyone but my relationship feels great without children. That feeling may change in the next five or ten years but for now, I feel fine without the stress of a child. Also, what if I give birth to a straight, white male? That’s terrifying! All jokes aside, kids are great but dogs are generally better. A dog will never be embarrassed or ashamed of having lesbian moms either. Dogs most likely understand the great privilege of being raised by powerful lesbian moms. Although I don’t know any child embarrassed of his/her lesbian moms, it could happen and that deeply scares me. Although all types of humans worship dogs, nobody knows the bond between a lesbian and her dog. Don’t believe me? Come over to my house and see for yourself. Source

Life is tough out there for bisexual women and they get equal amounts of crap from lesbians and straight people. So they definitely don’t need me piling on, but that won’t stop me. When I first started dating women, I never understood why lesbians were so adamant about not dating bi women. Many told me they just didn’t trust these women not to cheat on them with men. I thought that was crap and felt lesbians were just being insecure. So whenever I met a lesbian I was interested in, I lied and told her I was a lesbian too. In some parts of the lesbian community, you’re only considered a real lesbian if you’ve never even thought of a guy. It seems like the greater the length of time between when you last slept with a guy and your discovering your lesbian tendencies, the more legitimate your lesbian card is. Anyway, as I’ve gotten older, I’ve come to discover for myself, and through others, why some bisexual women are so annoying and a complete turn off. These types of bi women are especially annoying for those of us who are holistically ready and available to settle down and just don’t have energy for bi drama. Over the years, I’ve learned to steer clear of these types of bi women and maybe you should too: 1. The curious bi girl. Before accidentally stumbling on some girl-girl porn, this chick has never even thought about being with a woman. How do I know that? One girl I talked to couldn’t even articulate when she started finding women attractive or what it was about women that intrigued her. This is akin to the white boy dating a black girl out of curiosity not attraction. That’s insulting. Last night hanging out at karaoke with my BFF, I caught sight of a super fine woman and asked the woman she came with, if she was single. The good news was, yes, she was single. The bad news was, she was bi curious. I passed. There are women out there who pride themselves on turning a bi girl out. I’m not one of them. 2. The gay-for-pay (me attention) bi girl. You know who you are. You kiss or flirt with girls just to get attention, usually from guys. If you’re dealing with this type, she’s probably too young to be dealing with anyway. 3. The I’m-only-gay-when-I-want-to-have-sex bi girl. These are the types who are only interested in getting their sexual needs met. These are usually considered pillow princesses. They really don’t care about being a good lover and ensuring that their partner get some sexual satisfaction too. If she’s selfish in the bedroom, she’s probably selfish in other areas too. Next! 4. The only-female-genitalia-I-like-is-my-own bi girl. If you’re not interested in other women’s tittays or vaginas, you’re most likely straight or asexual. When it comes to a sexual experience, the fun part is generally mutual desire. This girl is similar to number 3, she can’t give it to you even if she tried. So tell her to please move along and stop wasting other people’s time. 5. The you-will-do-until-the-right-man-comes-along bi girl. There are some women out there who don’t mind being a space-filler for you when you are bored and horny, but most human beings don’t like being used. So, if you’re going to proceed with a woman like this, proceed at your own risk and at least have an honest conversation up front. 6. The I-want-you-and-my-man-at-the-same-time bi girl. These women can be broken down into several categories: the ones who want a threesome or have their man watch, the ones who are secretly gay but are too scared to give up straight life and the one who is polyamorous and pansexual. Not many bi women are the latter, and if they are, being poly requires honest conversations not sneaking around lying to everyone. 7. The Bible-says-being-gay-is-wrong-bi-girl. This bi girl is the most egregious offender in the selfish bi girl pantheon and many of us, myself included, have fallen for her ravenous head games, both literally and figuratively. This type of bi girl wants to have sex with you, spend all her free time with you, tells you that she loves you and continues to tell you what you want to hear all the while hating herself and your relationship. And lawd let’s not hope she goes to one of those churches where gay-bashing is a sermon staple, because she will regularly withdraw from you and break up with you damn near every Sunday. I was one of these girls and I’ve dated one of these girls. It’s not pretty and it’s actually pretty sad. Avoid this one at all costs. Clearly this list is just my own opinion, but for those who are looking to be in a serious relationship, dealing with someone who is just discovering her sexuality can be a pain and painful. Some of us just don’t feel like it’s worth the emotional wreckage a potential relationship can cause, so if you’re one of these bi girls, now you understand why wise lesbians cross the street when we see you coming. Source

It was supposed to be just a friendly visit, but it turned into robbery and blackmail for Victor, as all his money was taken from him by teenagers who accused him of being gay. Gay Nigerians are often the victims of blackmail, robbery, and extortion on the basis of the country’s “Same-Sex Marriage Prohibition Act,” which threatens LGBT people with prison terms of 10 to 14 years. Victor (not his real name), a Nigerian teenager, told NoStringsNG of just such an experience he had two years ago. “I connected with this guy on 2go [the chat program for mobile phones]. He was in Ogun State. We became friends in no time, as he seemed really nice. We stayed in contact with each other for two months, calling and chatting, until I decided to visit him, unknowing to me that I was embarking on a journey I wouldn’t forget in a hurry.” Victor said that, upon his arrival at his supposed friend’s place in Ogun State, he met several teenagers who seemed nice at first, but things soon became intense and scary, as they pulled out knives. “When I got to his place in Ogun State, I met some other boys there. They were all five in number. They waited for me to settle in and then they all brought out their knives. I was dead scared. They called me all sorts of names. They threatened to call my family. I was forced to cooperate as they robbed me; they took the N3,000 [about US $8] on me and my school bag. My Blackberry Bold 5 [smartphone] was also taken away from me.” They also took his ATM debit card and threatened to call his family to inform them that he is gay. “I was working at that time so I had about N40,000 [US $112] in my savings account. They took my ATM card and later withdrew all of it leaving just N1,500 for me. This I discovered after I went to the bank the next day to block my account.” Victor said that, until now, he has been unable to speak about the incident because he still lives with the shock. “I couldn’t tell anyone, not even my parents; I just let them get away with theft.” Source

A French film about two queer black women falling passionately in love is now available to watch online. Susanne Serres, screenwriter and filmmaker of Zaya, describes it as “a short film promoting love and acceptance”. The protagonist, Zaya, is a contemporary dancer who realises that she’s attracted to Nadege, her dance partner. To be able to face who she is entirely, Zaya feels the need to overcome her internal fear and come out to her mother. Her mother’s unwavering love and immediate acceptance is an emotional thing to watch, and is a much-needed relief from the tragedy so often portrayed in LGBT+ movies. Source

Research released this week shows support for the theory of sexual fluidity, that a person’s sexual orientation can fluctuate and change throughout their lifetime. A report presented at the annual meeting of the North American Menopause Society last week wanted to increase awareness of sexual fluidity, particularly in regard to healthcare. Arguing that sexual fluidity is more common in women than men, the presenters wanted to reach out to women feeling first-time same-gender attraction later in life and tell them not alone. They also wanted to help doctors understand, so they wouldn’t assume women had only had partners of the same gender in their lives. “We know of a number of women who have been in perfectly happy marriages with men, they raised a family, and at some point—in their 40s or so—they find themselves unexpectedly falling in love with a woman, without ever having thought that was possible,” said Kingsberg. Kingsberg argues there’s evolutionary evidence for this – that when women go through menopause they no longer have a biological imperative to mate with a male, and so their body becomes attuned to same-sex attraction. Dr Lisa Diamond, one of the study’s researchers, also believes her theory has scientific support. Over time, sexual fluidity can be influenced by “a complicated dynamic between hormonal changes, physical experiences, and sexual desires,” she told the Daily Mail. In 2008, Diamond released a study in which she had followed 79 lesbian, bisexual and ‘unlabelled’ women for a decade and found that two-thirds of them changed the label they identified with during that time period. They particularly wanted to emphasise awareness of sexual fluidity for doctors, so that they could support “later-in-life-lesbians.” “Women should always be encouraged to have an open dialogue with their healthcare providers about a wide array of health concerns and also feel comfortable in discussing any lifestyle changes,” Dr JoAnn Pinkerton, NAMS executive director, said. “This presentation should remind us that we need to ask questions and not assume a patient’s sexual orientation when discussing their concerns.” “Don’t be so presumptive that the woman you’ve been caring for for 20 years is automatically always going to have the same partner or the same gender of partner,” Kinsberg told healthcare professionals. They also want women to be aware that fluidity is common, and “not feel like they’re alone or that they’re an outlier.” “If they discover, heading toward midlife, that they have shifted their love interest and are falling in love with a woman, they should know that it’s not unusual,” Kinsberg said. However, some call into question the way this research interacts with research on bisexuality. Diamond herself suggests that bisexuality may be “a heightened capacity for sexual fluidity,” and many agree that the two identities have overlap. However, although they don’t deny that sexual fluidity exists, some bisexual activists point out that much of the debate in favour of it has tendencies towards biphobia, for example, this study’s claims that sexual fluidity has gained media attention because celebrities are “making it fashionable to change sides.” Some worry that, although studies into sexual fluidity could open up the LGBT umbrella, it could also deny agency to gay people and demonise bisexuals, ultimately undermining the community that identity and labels bring. Source

Pamela Adie discussed Impact of Homophobia on Families with Arit Opko. She share her experience, the support she needed and why such support can help an LGBT persons but also strengthen family relationship. Her discussion with Arit was based on her personal experience which give a good perspective into what LGBT persons experience. -#UntoldFacts Enjoy ladies!

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