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It came as a rude shock to Nigerians when Charly Boy’s daughter, Dewy Oputa, revealed on social media that she is a lesbian. She made this known on Instagram during the week by sharing photos and a video of herself and her girlfriend. While speaking with Sunday Scoop, Dewy said she shared the post because she got tired of hiding and decided it was time to live in her truth. She said, “My mission for creating a lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, queer platform is to provide a safe place for youths in the African community. I strive to create an accepting and welcoming community where everyone is free to express themselves and be loved for who they are. I want a place where individuals such as myself can create authentic friendships and thrive as the person they were born to be. Dewy, however, admitted that it was not easy for her parents when she revealed her sexuality to them. “I can’t pinpoint the exact age I found out about my sexuality, but I was much younger. When I came out to my parents, it took them a while to adjust but my happiness comes first. I don’t feel bad about the negative comments my sexuality post has generated. I knew Nigerians would always have negative things to say and I was mentally prepared for it. I’m not here to sway anybody’s point of view; I’m here to bring awareness,” she said. On whether she nurses any fear about coming to Nigeria considering that there is an anti-gay law in place in the country, the stylist and property management practitioner said, “To be honest, I do not have any fears. I think there are far more critical issues that are yet to be resolved. So, why should my sexual orientation affect the next man? Nigerians that have a problem with the LGBTQ community need to mind their business and focus on the critical life and death situation at hand. Love has never killed the next man.” Meanwhile, Charly Boy has come out to support his daughter, Dewy Oputa, after she shared a cozy photo of herself and her lesbian partner on social media. He told Sunday Scoop that he would always support his daughter irrespective of her choice of a sexual partner. He said, “She is my daughter, why won’t I support her even if she is whatever she is? My father supported me too. We can argue on moral grounds but we all have our rights to life. I fought for the gay community; so, if my daughter turns out to be this way, I should walk my talk.” Admitting that he might not like her sexuality personally, he said there was nothing he could do about it since she is an adult. The Area Father stated, “I have daughters who are married and have children, but she is the only one who has decided to be different. As long as she finds happiness or moves on with her life, I don’t have any problem with it. My father wanted me to be a lawyer and I told him I didn’t want to be a lawyer; I did what made me happy. “People can be talking based on moral grounds, but we are not in the position to judge. Nigeria is like this because of evil people and we should concentrate on those people; not my daughter’s sexuality.” Similarly, Charly Boy rubbished the anti-gay law in Nigeria, which imposed a 14-year jail term on any individual found guilty. “How many people have the law caught? Don’t we have a lot of homosexuals in the Senate or government? We know all these things. They should start with themselves. They shouldn’t be bothered about my child who is enjoying her life. I don’t have problems with anyone’s sexuality as long as they are good human beings. I am not in the same level with most Nigerians; so, my thinking is different,” he said. Source

A rainbow plaque honouring a woman described as "the first modern lesbian" has been unveiled in York. The unveiling at Holy Trinity Church commemorates Anne Lister's "marital commitment" to Ann Walker in 1834. Lister was born in Halifax, West Yorkshire in 1791 and is known for her coded diaries which tell the story of her life and lesbian relationships. The blue plaque with rainbow edging is the city's first LGBT history plaque and comes following a funding campaign. York Civic Trust said it honours Lister, who has been called "the first modern lesbian". Lister's diaries tell the story of her life and lesbian relationships at Shibden Hall, where she lived between 1791 and 1840. The journals, of more than four million words, were recognised as a "pivotal" document in British history by the United Nations in 2011. A new BBC TV drama starring Suranne Jones which is based on Lister's diaries, Gentleman Jack, is in production. Some of the diaries have been decoded for the first time for the drama, which is due to be screened on BBC One in 2019. Lister's diaries, which had to be decoded, included love letters to a woman named Eliza Raine, who she shared a bedroom with at the Manor boarding-school in York. The plaque was unveiled at in Goodramgate, York where on 30 March 1834, Lister received the church's blessing to privately contract a marriage to Ann Walker. The couple lived together until Lister's death six years later. Source

It's no secret that children need loving parents, but for decades, same-sex couples raising families have faced opposition from those who claim that growing up with two moms or two fathers might be bad for kids. It's unfortunate that this fight still needs to be fought, but research may be the key to helping everyone understand that having loving parents is more important for a child's development than who those parents love. Studies confirm kids raised in lesbian and gay families grow up to be just fine, and basically the same as people who were raise in heteronormative households. According to the researchers behind the longest-running study of same-sex couples raising kids, The National Longitudinal Lesbian Family Study (NLLFS), concluded that 25-year-olds who grew up with two moms have "no significant differences in measures of mental health" compared peers raised by heterosexual parents. "When I began this study in 1986, there was considerable speculation about the future mental health of children conceived through donor insemination and raised by sexual minority parents," says the study's lead author, Dr. Nanette Gartrell. "We have followed these families since the mothers were inseminating or pregnant and now find that their 25-year-old daughters and sons score as well on mental health as other adults of the same age." This follows another study published in the Journal of Developmental & Behavioral Pediatricswhich followed three groups of families in Italy: 70 gay fathers who had children through surrogacy, 125 lesbian mothers who had children through donor insemination, and 195 heterosexual couples who had children through spontaneous conception. "Our findings suggested that children with same-sex parents fare well, both in terms of psychological adjustment and prosocial behavior," said Prof. Roberto Baiocco, PhD, of Sapienza University of Rome. The scores psychological adjustment for the children were within the normal range for all three groups, with no major differences. The researchers note that the kids in same-sex homes actually reported fewer difficulties than those born to heterosexual couples. Parenting confidence impacts kids more than a parent's sexual preference. What matters isn't the parents sexual orientation, but rather how confident they feel as a parent. In all three types of families, parents who didn't feel competent in their own parenting reported more problems with their kids, and less satisfaction in their relationship with their partner. "The present study warns policy-makers against making assumptions on the basis of sexual orientation about people who are more suited than others to be parents or about people who should or should not be denied access to fertility treatments," Baiocco adds. These studies, which build on others and add to the growing pile of scientific evidence that same-sex families are just families like everyone else, may seem unremarkable to some, but to families struggling to be seen as such, they're powerful tools. In Italy, where Baiocco's study took place, access to fertility treatments is only available to couples who meet a set of conditions, including being heterosexual, and only this year were same-sex couples allowed to register their children to both parents. Stateside, about 114,000 same-sex couples are raising children in America right now, according to UCLA, but Alabama, Kansas, Michigan, Mississippi, North Dakota, Oklahoma, South Carolina, South Dakota, Texas, Virginia, do allow state-licensed child welfare agencies to refuse to place and provide services to children and families if it conflicts with their religious beliefs. The ACLU of Michigan is asking a federal judge there to let it sue the state for discrimination against same-sex couples, alleging faith-based adoption agencies that receive state funding have been turning away same-sex couples who would like to adopt. Source

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Dewy Oputa the Daughter of Charly Boy who's known for her Stand in LGBT, has finally showed us the face of her Girlfriend for the first time, According to US based dewy she was nervous when she wanted to share the photos, but She doesn't care no more. See below

The Federal Government on Wednesday unveiled the branding and livery for the new national carrier, Nigeria Air, and stated that the airline would be inaugurated at the end of this year. According to a statement issued by the Ministry of Aviation in Abuja, the Minister of State for Aviation, Senator Hadi Sirika, unveiled the carrier at a press conference during the Farnborough Air Show in London. Sirika was quoted as saying, “I am very pleased to tell you that we are finally on track to launching a new national flag carrier for our country, Nigeria Air. We are all fully committed to fulfilling the campaign promise made by our President, Muhammadu Buhari, in 2015. We are aiming to launch Nigeria Air by the end of this year. “We obtained the Certificate of Compliance from the Nigerian Infrastructure Concession Regulatory Commission two weeks ago and can now go into the investor search. I am confident that we will have a well-run national flag carrier that is a global player, compliant with international safety standards and one which has the customer at its heart. “We hope to establish an airline that communicates the essence of our beautiful country; an airline we can all be proud of.” The ministry said the branding and naming of the new national carrier came after a social media campaign that was undertaken by the Ministry of Transportation (Aviation). It said invited Nigerian youths were asked for their input in order to come up with a name for the new flag carrier, adding that the ministry’s Facebook page and website engaged over 400,000 people. The ministry said extensive market research was carried out, which involved focus groups across the country, and over 100 interviews with aviation stakeholders and professionals, politicians as well as business owners. It also stated that it was currently running an aviation road map that includes airport concession, aerotropolis, an aircraft Maintenance, Repair and Overhaul centre, agro allied terminals, the national carrier and an aircraft leasing company. Source

Research confirms that more than half of women who consume same-sex male pornography are watching it because they feel it is more authentic than other genres, according to a new study by London's Middlesex University. "Male gays in the female gaze: Women who watch m/m pornography," by researcher Lucy Neville, drew research from a recent survey from adult film site PornHub. Women appear at a physiological level to find gay male sex just as arousing as heterosexual sex, according to Neville's research. The study detailed in the book investigated why exactly women are aroused by watching male-on-male sex by surveying 275 self-identified women who watch gay male porn. The sample included straight, bisexual, lesbian, queer, asexual, pansexual, and demisexual women; 68 percent of participants also watched heterosexual pornography, and 53 percent also watched lesbian pornography. However, 82 percent of participants preferred gay male pornography over other genres. The overwhelming reason the women watched gay male porn was that they felt it was more authentic than other genres. "Respondents were more able to believe that both actors were enjoying the experience and that the sexual desire and pleasure between them, therefore, felt more ‘authentic,’" according to the research. Participants felt that because men on screen had very visual cues that indicated sexual desire such as erections and ejaculation, the actors "weren't faking it." They also felt male adult film stars as opposed to female performers were "enjoying each other more rather than simply playing to the camera." The women also said that they felt they shared a more common gaze with the target audience as opposed to heterosexual and lesbian porn, which is predominantly made for heterosexual men, and they felt gay men's point of view was more in line with their personal preferences and desires. By watching same-sex male porn, women also enjoyed that they could avoid seeing female bodies used as powerless sexual objects under the control of men. They perceived the rough sex in gay porn as more tasteful than behaviors displayed in heterosexual and lesbian porn, without it feeling "non-consensual." Some also appreciated that they were not presented with a female porn star they would "be jealous of" or "subconsciously compare themselves to "causing them to feel "uncomfortable about their own bodies." Other participants simply enjoyed the taboo of gay sex and the idea they would never experience what was happening on their laptops. Source

The almost 40-minute video which is titled ‘Make Nigeria Gay Again’ was produced by DedHed Media, a Lagos-based digital media group. The illustration of the video is done with so much humor, yet maintains a genuine tone while highlighting and explaining the many human implications of the country’s anti-gay law, citing several cases of human rights violations against LGBT persons who have suffered violent attacks as a result of their real or perceived sexual orientation. Even though the overall approach of the video presentation seems weird and could be perceived as having a stint of dark-humor, it does a very good job of breaking every inch of the law into bits, therefore bringing clarity to serious issues which are generally affecting the Nigerian LGBT community. In overall, the video is brilliantly done, and does serve its true purpose of exposing Nigeria’s homophobia whilst educating people about the true nature of the Anti-Same Sex Prohibition Act [SSMPA] which was signed into law in 2014 by former Nigerian president Goodluck Ebele Jonathan. Source

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Tips on how to be a good lesbian girlfriend Everyone wants to know the secret to making relationships last. Here’s one: make your girlfriend happy. As they say, “A happy wife means a happy life.” How? By working on YOU first. In this case, be a good lesbian girlfriend first. What you need to do to be a good lesbian girlfriend Your partner has very basic expectations from you that you need to meet. Often than not, these are the things we take for granted, especially if we’ve been with our partner for so long, and end up arguing about. Meet these expectations and you’ll be surprised at how contented your partner will be. Here are some steps and tips you can do that will make your relationship a healthy and happy one: 1. Be kind and respectful Kindness and respect are often overlooked and feels like almost rarely practiced these days. Yet if we ask those who have been together for years or even decades, they will always mention kindness and respect, among other things, that really made their relationship last. Tip: A good lesbian girlfriend finds countless creative ways to be kind and respectful. Give compliments and mean them. Verbalize your appreciation. Give corrections in private and always with your partner’s well-being in mind. Avoid cruel or cutting remarks, even as a joke. Watch your words when you are angry. Remember, what you say in passing can have a lasting effect. Do nice things just because. Do the chores they hate. Occasionally give them a little gift on the way home. Say “please” and “thank you.” 2. Be open Experts unanimously stress the benefits of open and effective communication on relationships. Being both a good listener and communicator will help you strengthen your relationship. This means, among other things, telling your partner what you need from them and asking them what they need from you. Tip: A good lesbian girlfriend provides a safe space where her partner can speak without fear of rejection or dismissal. This will help manage both your expectations – in daily life, in the bedroom, in sticky situations, and in moments where how your partner responds really matters to you. 3. Be playful and have a sense of humor Everyone loves a good laugh and boredom can quickly set in if you keep doing the same things. Budding relationships are exciting because of the novelty of the experience and the person. Tip: A good lesbian girlfriend injects exciting newness into the relationship by doing things differently from time to time. Try out a new restaurant. Travel to new places together. Find a new hobby. Change up your morning routine. Or even pull a harmless prank on your partner (one that’s not too upsetting). 4. Prioritize the relationship Relationships can be likened to plants. When they get enough sun, water, nutrients, and TLC, they thrive. When they are neglected, they wither and die. Tip: A good lesbian girlfriend finds time to nurture the bond with her partner. Spend time with your partner. Focus solely on each other when together on a date. Share interests, hobbies, sports, etc. 5. Accept and forgive People in relationships often make mistakes, say hurtful words or let their partner down. Tip: A good lesbian girlfriend accepts that her partner is an imperfect human being, who nonetheless tries her best. In the same way, a good lesbian girlfriend knows that she herself is also an imperfect human being who will make mistakes. Own up when you mess up. Forgive and love your partner when they mess up. 6. Be faithful This one hardly needs saying. When a person is in a committed relationship, she is duty-bound to be faithful to her partner. Tip: A good lesbian girlfriend doesn’t give her partner cause to doubt her or lose trust in her. Trust can take a lifetime to build and only moments to destroy. Be faithful. Show them you have their back, always. You chose them, after all. Source

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Coming out is a hard thing to do most especially in Nigeria. Please feel free to share coming out stories with the community as you deem fit.

1) It’s a sexual orientation and not a lifestyle. It’s neither fashion nor culture. Being gay isn’t in how you dress or eat, the type of house you live in OR the colours you adore. Being gay is just who you are – your being in all of its own uniqueness and faults. In a nutshell, homosexuality is nature just as heterosexuality. 2) Homosexuality has no switch or time frame. I’ve heard people say, “I’m only gay for the time being. Once I get older and ready to settle down, I’ll definitely get married to a lady and be done with this life.”No! It’s not a race with a destination in sight. It is not a phase! This is no PS2 or chess game. You can’t turn off your gay (just as you can’t pray it away. Ask Bobby of the movie, Prayers for Bobby, he’d have more to say on this). Sure, you can decide to succumb to societal pressure, to familial expectations, you can decide to bend to the whims of heteronormativity and get married to a woman (if you’re a gay man) and vice-versa, but bare one thing in mind: exchanging those vows on that altar doesn’t mean you won’t be silently crushing on that well-dressed man seated at one of the front pews. You’re gay mister, and even a Catholic Priest can’t change that! 3) Homosexuality isn’t the cause of the economic problems we have in this country. It’s definitely not responsible for the deaths in the middle belt region of Nigeria and has nothing to do with the present bad government. It’s only an orientation and not an epidemic. It’s got no powers to affect the growth and development of the nation. Go tackle the issues facing the country and leave gay men and women alone. Their sexual orientation has nothing to do with your ardent corrupt practices. In essence, what’s the need for the law? 4) Mummy and Daddy, watching movies with homosexual content cannot, will not, and has never turned anyone gay. We very well know heterosexual content dominates the film industry. It’s mostly Ryan Reynolds and Shailyne Woolley banging on the creaking bed or Ramsey Noah and Genevieve getting our insides squishy with their believable love tales. We also know this is what a lot of us grew up watching. Now, if truly, movies have such magical powers, where are the gay ones sprouting out from? Saturn? Please, let’s not allow sentiments turn us into brain-dead vultures. It’s not cute. 5) Homosexuality is totally independent of physical disposition, gender and what have you. Yes, you can be male and feminine and still not gay. Not all the Chris Colfers in the world are gay. You can be female and masculine and still not lesbian. Not all the Ellen DeGeneres’ are lesbians. Let’s stop being quick to throw someone into a sexuality box all because of the way he/she is. When you do that, you have summed up a whole being on account of his/her perceived sexual orientation. Any other thing they represent doesn’t count. It’s stereotypical. It’s preposterous and in such modern era, unacceptable. 6) Homosexuality, just like heterosexuality, is only a part of a person. It doesn’t sum a whole being up. Your sexuality should not be confused with your personality. So yes, you can be gay and Christian, you can be gay and a paedophile, you can be gay and a thief, a corrupt politician, a rapist and so on. Do not cast the person away on the grounds that he is gay but because he is a murderer! You know why? Because we have all these people as heterosexuals too. They aren’t special. They aren’t in any way better. The same way a straight man can lie, a gay man can also. What makes the lie of a gay man any worse? What am I trying to say? GAY PEOPLE ARE ALSO HUMAN BEINGS. There’s nothing extraordinary (insert weird, abnormal). There’s no more to it than the fact that they are sexually attracted to people of the same sex. 7) There’s nothing like a gay job. Please, a girl can decide to be a conductor just like a guy can decide to be a cook or a hairdresser. These are services rendered and have nothing to do with genitals not to talk of who you are attracted to. 8) The whole world cannot, I repeat, CANNOT be homosexual. Just like the whole world can’t be black, Igbo, stupid or short. There would always be variations, its part of our existence. So when Homophobes throw shit like, “If everyone is gay, what becomes of the world?” do not be surprised when I burst their bubble with my word pins and consequently show them the level of daftness they’ve managed to attain. 9) The last and probably not the least on this episode of Things You Probably Didn’t Know; Homosexuality is going nowhere. There would always be gay ones amongst a lot. Those ones who have found refuge in the Rainbow community. Take it or leave it, pray against it or fight it with violence, homosexuality is here and it’s going nowhere. Source

The events reportedly unfolded on Jan. 7 in Lagos when *Kingsley [not his real name], a budding actor, went to have his hair cut. At the barber shop, he met a man who recognized him from Facebook and, after a brief conversation, they exchanged phone numbers. Kingsley said the stranger started calling him, saying that he was interested in acting and asking that they meet and talk. When Kingsley visited the man at his residence at Igando-Ikotun in the Lagos area, the man quickly locked the door and requested that they have sex, but Kingsley declined. The stranger said that he knew Kingsley was gay because he had been following him on Facebook. The two men argued and fought. The man, who was older and stronger than Kingsley, overpowered him, forcefully pulled his clothes off and started taking pictures of him while he was naked. He then said that if Kingsley did not have sex with him, he would alert friends who he said were already waiting outside and tell them to enter the home, rape Kingsley and publicly disgrace him for being gay. If Kingsley did not give him N50,000 the stranger said, Kingsley would be outed publicly as gay and the photographs would be circulated online and sent to his family and police. Afraid, Kingsley called a friend and convinced him to pay the money. Once he received the money, the stranger stole Kingley’s phone and set him free. Under Nigerian law, blackmail and extortion are punishable by up to 14 years in prison. Nigerian LGBT rights activist Noble Charles Samuel said such cases are common in several parts of the country. No one has been able to rein in the gangs of blackmailers and extortionists who operate in Nigeria, he said. “We have similar gangs in Ibusa, in Delta state and in Aba, Abia state,” the activist said. Source

In his open letter to comedian I Go Dye which was published yesterday, Atiku Abubakar disclosed the difference between Nigeria and Naija. He wrote Ladies, do you agree with his definition? Source

This viral video shows a transgender teenager being forced to strip down to his underwear while he's filmed by Homophobic Police officers. It's not clear where it took place but the video has sparked an outrage in the LGBT community. Is this right?

Media personality, Daddy Freeze has in his usual routine, come for Nigerian pastors – this time around, he says most pastors are into the work of God just because of the money involved. Freeze says Nigerian pastors left their professions because they can’t earn as much unlike in the ministry. In a video shared on Youtube, he said, “There are many fake pastors because of monetization; that pastor who cursed me is an architect, the one at BankyW’s wedding is a doctor. “Many of them are leaving profitable field because ministry is a more profitable field. “Monetization has made fake pastors come into two fold, it has made real pastors preach false messages. “Every doctrine in Nigeria has been monetized, you hear pastors say this year you will find your ‘apollos’ “Apollos in the Bible was increase in word of God not referring to sowing, Matthew 13;7 this verse speaks of seed of faith not money; those that twist this to you are thieves. There’s nothing spiritual about those criticizing me, the only spirituality in them is the ability to twist your brain. OAP Freeze also countered speaking in tongues in Nigerian Pentecostal churches, describing it as fake. He added, “Speaking in tongues in Nigeria Pentecostal churches is fake but speaking in tongues is not fake. “When speaking in tongues, you should speak in languages not in tongues that no one can understand. 1Cor 14:26-28; someone must interpret tongues…There is no speaking in tongues without an interpreter “Interpretation of tongues is missing in today’s pentecostal churches , if anyone speaks in tongues one or two should speak in tongues one at a time not multitude.That is falsehood 1Cor 14:23 is what pastors used to confuse you, they tell you tongues is an unknown language which carnal mind cannot understand. Everyone speaking in tongues in the church is false because it is a gift that everyone does not receive. “I’m a preacher that speaks from history and bible not sentiments like others; that’s why I can’t say God told me to pay titheS like they say. “I would tell you what God kept in bible not what God told me.” Do you think speaking in tongues is fake?

A 45-year-old Ghanaian lesbian, Janet Ofori, has proudly come to boast about sleeping with more than 10 women a day, in an interview with Adom TV. The woman, who claimed she became a pro in the lesbian act from Senior High School, said has been able to satisfy lots of rich single women in her country. According to her, some of her clients are ministers in government and MPs including some radio presenters. In the interview, Janet who hid her identity while speaking in her dialect, also revealed that she has been able to convert more than 3,000 women and still counting to reach her target. Ofori also rebuked the claims that lesbianism is an evil practice, saying it was never stated in the bible. She said, “Were you there, when God created Adam and Eve and you will come and tell me that, God made Adam and Eve to marry? And who says being a lesbian is wrong, show me where it is stated in the bible.” The 45-year-old woman was also accompanied by a gay man, Kwame Mensah, who disclosed that, with the help of creams, his anus has widened enough to receive any size of a man’s penis. “I take care of my family and am not working too, so I don’t think, I can take care of a woman.” “I don’t want broken heart and woman can’t satisfy me either. I go to church and I pay my tithe alright, so who is he to judge me.” “I choose the kind of men I want, and my anus can take any size, no matter how huge the person may be.” Source

Legendary singer Patti Labelle has outed late R&B legend, Luther Vandrose. See what she said below “We talked about [his being in the closet]. Basically, he did not want his mother to be...although she might have known, but he wasn’t going to come out and say this to the world. And he had a lot of lady fans and he told me he just didn’t want to upset the world.” Source

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A Los Angeles woman was assaulted late last month at a local fast food restaurant, ABC 7 reports. Police are treating the incident as a hate crime. Sabrina Hooks, 26, says a group of five men and women attacked her and her girlfriend, Morgan, in a downtown Jack in the Box. “They said, you know, I’m a dyke and I’m gay and I had to keep my ’hoe in check’ and just for no reason,” Hooks recalls. Hooks says the verbal attack escalated into physical violence after she tried to defend her girlfriend from the abuse. She was repeatedly punched and kicked in the head. “It was like a horror movie, except I wasn’t watching it… I was in it,” Hooks tells Fox 11. “It’s not even about my sexuality, it’s about human decency.” Hooks, whose face was left swollen from the beating, was hospitalized with serious injuries. Her front tooth was knocked out and there is possible permanent damage to her left eye. “Looking at her makes me want to cry every single time I look at her,” says Morgan, who adds that no one at the Jack in the Box came to their aid. “To just assume that two guys can seriously put their hands on a female, it’s shocking.” “For it to get violent and, like I said, no one helped, that’s just what really stunned me and it still hurts,” Hooks continues. “It makes me fear just to walk down the street.” The LAPD is currently following up on leads and studying video surveillance footage from the scene to help track down the suspects. “Just a little justice would be nice,” Hooks says. “Just so the next person doesn’t have to worry like I do.” Source

It was supposed to be just a friendly visit, but it turned into robbery and blackmail for Victor, as all his money was taken from him by teenagers who accused him of being gay. Gay Nigerians are often the victims of blackmail, robbery, and extortion on the basis of the country’s “Same-Sex Marriage Prohibition Act,” which threatens LGBT people with prison terms of 10 to 14 years. Victor (not his real name), a Nigerian teenager, told NoStringsNG of just such an experience he had two years ago. “I connected with this guy on 2go [the chat program for mobile phones]. He was in Ogun State. We became friends in no time, as he seemed really nice. We stayed in contact with each other for two months, calling and chatting, until I decided to visit him, unknowing to me that I was embarking on a journey I wouldn’t forget in a hurry.” Victor said that, upon his arrival at his supposed friend’s place in Ogun State, he met several teenagers who seemed nice at first, but things soon became intense and scary, as they pulled out knives. “When I got to his place in Ogun State, I met some other boys there. They were all five in number. They waited for me to settle in and then they all brought out their knives. I was dead scared. They called me all sorts of names. They threatened to call my family. I was forced to cooperate as they robbed me; they took the N3,000 [about US $8] on me and my school bag. My Blackberry Bold 5 [smartphone] was also taken away from me.” They also took his ATM debit card and threatened to call his family to inform them that he is gay. “I was working at that time so I had about N40,000 [US $112] in my savings account. They took my ATM card and later withdrew all of it leaving just N1,500 for me. This I discovered after I went to the bank the next day to block my account.” Victor said that, until now, he has been unable to speak about the incident because he still lives with the shock. “I couldn’t tell anyone, not even my parents; I just let them get away with theft.” Source

Life is tough out there for bisexual women and they get equal amounts of crap from lesbians and straight people. So they definitely don’t need me piling on, but that won’t stop me. When I first started dating women, I never understood why lesbians were so adamant about not dating bi women. Many told me they just didn’t trust these women not to cheat on them with men. I thought that was crap and felt lesbians were just being insecure. So whenever I met a lesbian I was interested in, I lied and told her I was a lesbian too. In some parts of the lesbian community, you’re only considered a real lesbian if you’ve never even thought of a guy. It seems like the greater the length of time between when you last slept with a guy and your discovering your lesbian tendencies, the more legitimate your lesbian card is. Anyway, as I’ve gotten older, I’ve come to discover for myself, and through others, why some bisexual women are so annoying and a complete turn off. These types of bi women are especially annoying for those of us who are holistically ready and available to settle down and just don’t have energy for bi drama. Over the years, I’ve learned to steer clear of these types of bi women and maybe you should too: 1. The curious bi girl. Before accidentally stumbling on some girl-girl porn, this chick has never even thought about being with a woman. How do I know that? One girl I talked to couldn’t even articulate when she started finding women attractive or what it was about women that intrigued her. This is akin to the white boy dating a black girl out of curiosity not attraction. That’s insulting. Last night hanging out at karaoke with my BFF, I caught sight of a super fine woman and asked the woman she came with, if she was single. The good news was, yes, she was single. The bad news was, she was bi curious. I passed. There are women out there who pride themselves on turning a bi girl out. I’m not one of them. 2. The gay-for-pay (me attention) bi girl. You know who you are. You kiss or flirt with girls just to get attention, usually from guys. If you’re dealing with this type, she’s probably too young to be dealing with anyway. 3. The I’m-only-gay-when-I-want-to-have-sex bi girl. These are the types who are only interested in getting their sexual needs met. These are usually considered pillow princesses. They really don’t care about being a good lover and ensuring that their partner get some sexual satisfaction too. If she’s selfish in the bedroom, she’s probably selfish in other areas too. Next! 4. The only-female-genitalia-I-like-is-my-own bi girl. If you’re not interested in other women’s tittays or vaginas, you’re most likely straight or asexual. When it comes to a sexual experience, the fun part is generally mutual desire. This girl is similar to number 3, she can’t give it to you even if she tried. So tell her to please move along and stop wasting other people’s time. 5. The you-will-do-until-the-right-man-comes-along bi girl. There are some women out there who don’t mind being a space-filler for you when you are bored and horny, but most human beings don’t like being used. So, if you’re going to proceed with a woman like this, proceed at your own risk and at least have an honest conversation up front. 6. The I-want-you-and-my-man-at-the-same-time bi girl. These women can be broken down into several categories: the ones who want a threesome or have their man watch, the ones who are secretly gay but are too scared to give up straight life and the one who is polyamorous and pansexual. Not many bi women are the latter, and if they are, being poly requires honest conversations not sneaking around lying to everyone. 7. The Bible-says-being-gay-is-wrong-bi-girl. This bi girl is the most egregious offender in the selfish bi girl pantheon and many of us, myself included, have fallen for her ravenous head games, both literally and figuratively. This type of bi girl wants to have sex with you, spend all her free time with you, tells you that she loves you and continues to tell you what you want to hear all the while hating herself and your relationship. And lawd let’s not hope she goes to one of those churches where gay-bashing is a sermon staple, because she will regularly withdraw from you and break up with you damn near every Sunday. I was one of these girls and I’ve dated one of these girls. It’s not pretty and it’s actually pretty sad. Avoid this one at all costs. Clearly this list is just my own opinion, but for those who are looking to be in a serious relationship, dealing with someone who is just discovering her sexuality can be a pain and painful. Some of us just don’t feel like it’s worth the emotional wreckage a potential relationship can cause, so if you’re one of these bi girls, now you understand why wise lesbians cross the street when we see you coming. Source

A French film about two queer black women falling passionately in love is now available to watch online. Susanne Serres, screenwriter and filmmaker of Zaya, describes it as “a short film promoting love and acceptance”. The protagonist, Zaya, is a contemporary dancer who realises that she’s attracted to Nadege, her dance partner. To be able to face who she is entirely, Zaya feels the need to overcome her internal fear and come out to her mother. Her mother’s unwavering love and immediate acceptance is an emotional thing to watch, and is a much-needed relief from the tragedy so often portrayed in LGBT+ movies. Source