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This is his story (with modest editing and a few typographical errors corrected): The 19th of May 2020 was the luckiest day of my life. It was a sweet-bitter experience. It started at about 5:45 pm. I got a phone call from an acquaintance of mine who happened to have visited my house once sometime last month, saying that “he was in the area and wanted to come and say hi”. I admitted that I was home and that he was welcome to come. Lo and behold, at 5:58 pm my doorbell rang, and, when I opened up, I saw a team of six police officers from SARS [the Special Anti-Robbery Squad], all geared up and the said acquaintance was standing in front of them, cuffed. I was dumbfounded and, at the same time, surprised to see this person in handcuffs in the company of police officers because of how responsible and smart this individual was. Before I could ask any questions, the officers asked if I knew their suspect and I replied yes. That was when all hell broke loose. They barged into my home and began to enter into all the rooms and compartments, ransacking my house and roughly searching my personal belongings. While I was busy asking the officers their reasons for this invasion, they were busy handcuffing me while turning my bedroom upside down. Upon further inquiring about their station and the warrant for this arrest, one of the officers gave me a slap that rang bells in my ears. At this point, I just needed to calm down and follow the situation as it unfolded. I asked that I may wear my clothes because I had only boxers. While in cuffs, I put on my pants and hung my shirt on my shoulder as they took my phones, wallet, and house keys and ordered me out of the house. I managed to lock the front door. They dragged me down the stairs. Bear in mind, they not yet told me what my crime was. When we got to the gate, I saw their Sienna car and recognized their station,` which happened to be the dreaded Safe Delta Squad. The police command in Delta state had set up a special operational squad named “Safe Delta” to fight against kidnapping, cultism, and other criminal activities throughout the three senatorial districts of the state. This squad is the most dreaded and toughest among the Delta State Police Force. To give you a clear picture of how they operate: If you happen to be a victim, your phones will be confiscated and nobody will know your whereabouts until they are done with their investigations. Their station is located along the Asaba-Benin expressway before Isselle-Asagba, which is two villages after the Asaba metropolitan. Only a few know exactly where this station is located and mostly those who have in one way or the other became their victims, particularly, young men that look good and drive good cars. Well, that is a story for another day. They dragged me inside their car and zoomed off in the presence of onlookers. While we were on our way, I kept asking the acquaintance what led to the situation. I kept asking the officers what his crime was while equally letting them know that I am a Human Rights Defender and have worked with the police in the State to combat crimes. I stated how I knew their former commander and my organization’s contributions to the police force in Asaba. I was doing all these so I could get them to at least tell me what’s going on. But unfortunately, they were calling my bluff. In all these, I refrained from exposing my identity cards until I was sure of the crime in question. On getting to the station, they kept me behind the counter while they were busy facilitating the bail of this suspect that brought them to my house. After about 10 minutes, they called me into one of the offices, unlocked the cuffs, and showed me my Whatsapp chat with this said acquaintance. I asked the officer reading the chat, the essence of repeating conversations I already know I had with the said person. That was when he told me that the said individual admitted that he was a homosexual and claimed that I have been his enabler. At this point I got a clear picture of the situation and geared myself for the drama that followed. As all these were going on, I remembered that #IDAHOBIT2020 just happened two days before and the theme #BreakingTheSilence informed my decision to out myself to the police officers by fearlessly and courageously admitting before the officers that I am a gay man and that I work with an organisation that offers services, particularly sexual health care, HIV prevention, treatment and care for gay men in the State. And that the said person was a client at LIFFE’s facility, of which I happen to be the programs director and no other strings attached. That was when the Investigating Police Officer (IPO) said that I am a criminal and that my work was contrary the Same-Sex Marriage Prohibition Act (SSMPA) and that I was arrested in connection to a crime of planned bank robbery which involved homosexual men who the said acquaintance was chatting with on Whatsapp. I was quick to recite the language of the SSMPA and reminded them that being gay as an identity is not yet a crime in Nigeria. One particular officer kept asking me if God was happy with me and if I know the implications of what I was saying. It became like a tussle of words because I never gave in to their intimidating and derogatory words. I responded with real facts and stood my ground. At this point, at about 7:50 pm the said suspect was bailed and he left with his surety while I was handed a police statement sheet to write my statement based on questions the IPO asked me. I kept on demanding that I needed my phones to make calls but the officer was busy perusing through my chats and photo gallery and wowing at the erotic photos of men on my phone. To cut this long episode short, I wrote my statement and my detention order was prepared. At about 8:35 pm, I was detained inside the police cell without the option of contacting anybody. At the early hours of 20th May 2020, LIFFE’s Project Manager (PM) Obinna Obiasulu Samuel was able to locate the police station where I was, after many efforts in visiting all the police stations in town the previous night when the news of my arrests came to light. The arrogant IPO asked him to leave and come back at 4 pm without granting audience or even allowing him to meet with me. Through all of this, I kept my wits and maintained my boldness to the awe of the cell inmates who I engaged in a conversation about human sexuality conversation, after which they admitted to having learned new things. Even though some of their homophobia was glaring, we had a good conversation, shared experiences, and learned from each other to the surprise of the rogue officers who thought they would have beaten me up. Finally, the PM was able to get the Delta State Police Headquarters to call the station’s Commander and demanded that my immediate release be effected. This came as a surprise and shock to them and my bail was immediately facilitated at the return of the PM without the presence of the IPO. They demanded 150,000 naira [about U.S. $385] for my bail and the PM who had already corroborated my statements made them understand that bail is free. At about 5:45 pm, I returned safely to my house but I will go back to the station to recover my phones as it was in the possession of the IPO who was absent at the time of my bail. Although I longer feel safe in my house and stand the risk of police arbitrary arrest anytime, I was fulfilled that I had borne true witness of my identity even in the toughest situation and before law enforcement officers without fear or shame. I was fulfilled and glad that I was able to break the silence and shame associated with homosexuality before policemen who are so quick to extort gay men by threatening to charge them in court if they refuse to admit to the crime of homosexuality. In this case, I admitted my homosexuality but made sure to erase any foreseen crime. Even though they pressured me to admit to gay sex by asking who my partner was and how I practice the said homosexuality but part of my statement read thus “I have been aware of my innate and natural attractions to same-sex but I have never acted on it all my life”. Wisdom, they say, is profitable to the wise. Source -
Social Media Tales Have you ever been on a date with someone & you plan to friend zone them after the 1st date?
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You win a jackpot for N300million tomorrow, are you staying with the person you are currently in a relationship with or leaving?
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Social Media Tales When you first came out who did you tell first? Why? How do you deal with acceptance or the lack thereof from family including parents?
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Adams, The Recycle Genius Fighting COVID-19 One Drum at a Time
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Recycle genius, Bamigbose Adams has revealed how he got inspired to join the fight against COVID-19 in Nigeria by turning used drums into hand washing basins. -
Social Media Tales Will you date potential? Will you date someone based off what they COULD be?
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Brené Brown studies human connection -- our ability to empathize, belong, love. In a poignant, funny talk at TEDxHouston, she shares a deep insight from her research, one that sent her on a personal quest to know herself as well as to understand humanity. A talk to share.
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Nigerian boy breaks two records in his school in the U.S.
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A Nigerian boy is being celebrated after he broke two records in his school in the U.S. Timi Adelakun, 18, became the first black valedictorian of South Broward High School in Hollywood, Florida. Also, he made history again by having the highest GPA ever recorded at the school. "Coming from a low-income community, it means a lot in general because of the way I was brought up," Adelakun said in an interview ABC News. Timi, who has a 5.604 GPA, is the youngest child of three siblings and neither of his parents attended college. He said that his major accomplishment is somewhat bittersweet because his father - who was deported over a decade ago - won't be there to celebrate with him. Adelakun's achievement comes after years of financial struggles. At his young age, the teenager has had to help his mum pay bills by engaging in side hustles, such as graphic design and photography. To save money for the family, he sometimes walked to school if he missed the bus. Source -
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A 28-year-old trans woman named Nina Pop was found stabbed to death in her Sikeston, Missouri apartment on May 3. Police are investigating the incident and whether it constitutes a hate crime. While neither police nor the media have released any additional details about Pop’s death, her Facebook page says she attended high school in Sikeston (population 16,000) and a 15-minute live video posted there shows that she attended a party in the early morning hours on the day of her death. The video shows Pop walking around a field and a structure of some sort, sipping on a drink while people excitedly talk around her. She is wearing makeup and earrings and has a sweatshirt on. “We are seeing an epidemic of violence that can no longer be ignored,” said Tori Cooper, director of community engagement for the Human Rights Campaign’s Transgender Justice Initiative. “Transgender and gender non-conforming people, especially trans women of color, risk our lives by living as our true selves — and we are being violently killed for doing so.” HRC says she is the 10th trans person to be murdered this year. Among the other trans women murdered this year are Penélope Díaz Ramírez, Layla Pelaez Sánchez and Serena Angelique Velázquez Ramos, three women who were all murdered in Puerto Rico during the same week. There’s also Johanna Metzger, a trans woman found stabbed to death in Baltimore, Maryland on April 11; Monica Diamond, a trans woman brutally gunned down in front of police while receiving treatment in an ambulance; Yampi Arocho, a Puerto Rican trans man who was shot in the face; Neulisa “Alexa” Luciano Ruiz, a Puerto Rican trans woman murdered after people harassed her for using a McDonald’s restroom; and Dustin Parker, a trans male taxi driver shot to death in his own car. Source
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Happy Mother’s Day to all the surrogate, lesbian, and bisexual mothers who are raising kids and showing the world that we can raise families, live, and love proudly in our schools and communities. To celebrate, we found 20 lovely pictures of same-sex moms and their kids spending time together and loving one another. We hope they make you smile whether you’re a mother, have a mother, or know some great moms worthy of celebrating. Source
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Manchester United legend Gary Neville has advised the club against spending £20m on striker, Odion Ighalo. The ex-Super Eagles striker, who is on loan from Chinese side Shanghai Shenhua, has been in good form since moving to England in the January transfer window. He has scored four goals for United in eight appearances in all competitions. This form has seen United considering him for a permanent deal after the expiration of his loan in June. His parent club, Shenhua, are hoping to keep him, tabling a contract renewal worth £400,000 per week for the striker. They are however willing to let go of him if United are able to cough out £20m for a permanent move. The Nigerian has also expressed his interest in staying at his boyhood club. But in an Instagram Live interview, Neville, advised United boss, Ole Gunnar Solskjaer, against spending that amount on the striker. According to him the ex-Watford player is not worth the £20m his parent club are asking for him. Source Do you think Odion is worth £20m?
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On Tuesday, a graphic video was posted online showing the deadly shooting of 25-year-old Ahmaud Arbery, an unarmed black man who was killed in February by two white men as he went for a jog in a Southern Georgia suburb. As video of the killing spread far and wide online, a Georgia prosecutor recommended the case go to a grand jury to decide whether to bring criminal charges. In a statement shared on Facebook Tuesday morning, District Attorney Tom Durden, representing the Atlantic Judicial Circuit, said that after “careful” review of the evidence, “I am of the opinion that the case should be presented to the grand jury of Glynn County for consideration of criminal charges.” The cellphone video, originally posted online by Georgia radio station WGIG Tuesday afternoon, appears to be taken from a person driving behind Arbery as he ran through the Satilla Shores neighborhood just outside of Brunswick, Ga., on Feb. 23. Arbery, wearing a white t-shirt, can be seen running down one side of a sunny two-lane road when he comes upon a white pick-up truck parked in the middle of the street. On the driver’s side door is Travis McMichael, holding a shotgun, and in the bed of the truck is his father, Greg McMichael, who was also armed with a pistol. Arbery runs on the passenger side of the truck before coming across the vehicle’s front, just as one shot goes off. Travis McMichael and Arbery struggle over Travis’s shotgun, as Greg can be seen drawing his own pistol. As they struggle over the gun, Travis and Arbery momentarily veer off-camera; the shotgun fires off again before they come back on camera. Arbery continues trying to fight Travis off before a third shot is fired, after which Arbery draws back and tries to run off. He stumbles and collapses in the middle of the street, bleeding out in broad daylight. Police say he died on the scene. Source
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Copied Ever had an insane mutual connection with somebody, but the person doesn't want a relationship, and you do?
