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On a scale of 1-10, how much do you care about other people’s opinions on what you do with your life?
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What's the strangest thing you've ever eaten?
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Write your user name in Japanese language.
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Would you rather go down on someone who tastes bad or someone who smells bad?
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Boobs. We’ve all got them — but how much do you really know about them? Did you know that the skin on your breasts is especially thin? Or that humans are the only mammals whose breasts stay full even when they’re not nursing? We’ve rounded up six surprising facts that will make you think twice about how you see your twins. 1. Your sleeping position affects your breasts You may want to think again about how you sleep. CNN published an article on sleeping positions, revealing that if you sleep facing downward or on your side, your breasts may change shape over a long period of time. More specifically, sleeping on your stomach is bad for your breasts because they are pressed against your mattress for hours, and sleeping on your side causes their ligaments to stretch over time The best sleeping positions for your breasts is on your side with a pillow under them for support, or sleeping on your back. 2. Your boobs get fat Plastic surgeon and associate professor of surgery at Northwestern's Feinberg School of Medicine Laurie A. Casas explained to Cosmopolitan that as you get older, the glands and collagen in your breasts shrink and are replaced by heavier breast tissue that will be more susceptible to gravity and start sagging. This process can be slowed down, but not prevented, by wearing an underwire bra. 3. Smoking affects your breasts As if you needed another reason not to smoke, researchers found that smoking leads to saggy breasts. According to University of Kentucky plastic surgeon Brian Rinker, "Smoking breaks down a protein in the skin called elastin, which gives youthful skin its elastic appearance and supports the breast." Put that cigarette down! 4. Your boobs don’t weigh much Cosmo reports that "an A-cup clocks in at only a quarter pound; a B, about half a pound; a C, three-quarters of a pound; and a D, around one pound." How they got those measurements, I’ll never understand. 5. Your left is probably larger There is no such thing as a perfectly symmetrical set by nature; a single pair can vary in breast size, nipple size, and even nipple direction. Scientists aren’t sure why, but size variations in breasts normally occur because there is more tissue in the left breast. In fact, the Huffington Post found that this applies to 65 percent of women. 6. Yours might still be growing Surprisingly, Planned Parenthood Toronto states that breasts can grow past puberty and into your early 20s. After your 20s, though, the only ways to get more busty are pregnancy, plastic surgery, and certain birth control pills. Source So remember to take care of your boobs… you only get one set!
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An Orthodox Israeli rabbi has claimed the spread of the deadly coronavirus in Israel and around the world is divine retribution for gay pride parades. The remarks by Rabbi Meir Mazuz, reported by the Israel Hayom daily on Sunday, drew condemnation from rights groups, including the Anti-Defamation League, which urged him to apologize. An influential Sephardic rabbi, Mazuz is the former spiritual leader of the defunct ultra-nationalist and homophobic Yachad party, and is head of the Kiseh Rahamim yeshiva in Bnei Brak. On Saturday night he gave a talk at the yeshiva, during which, according to the report, he said a pride parade is “a parade against nature, and when someone goes against nature, the one who created nature takes revenge on him.” Mazuz said that countries all over the world are being called to account because of their gay pride events, “except for the Arab countries that don’t have this evil inclination.” That was why, he claimed — falsely suggesting there has only been one case of infection in the Arab world — they have not seen a spread of coronavirus. The outbreak in Iran, one of the most serious in any country, he explained as being due to the wicked ways of Iranians and “their hatred of Israel.” According to the newspaper, Mazuz had earlier claimed Israel would be protected from the coronavirus. “It is regrettable that in times like these when the whole world comes together to eradicate coronavirus, Rabbi Mazuz finds it appropriate to blame the virus’s outbreak on the LGBTQ community. We harshly condemn his statements and urge him to apologize,” the ADL’s Israel branch said in a statement. The modern Orthodox Ne’emanei Torah Va’Avodah group also condemned Mazuz’s remarks. “Using this time of need to incite against the LGBT community is unacceptable. Trying to get people to return to religion cannot come at the price of harming others,” it said in a statement. Israel has thus far had 39 cases of coronavirus, including 14 new cases announced on Sunday night, but no deaths. Mazuz is no stranger to controversy or hateful rhetoric. In November 2015 he claimed gay pride parades and other forms of “sinful behavior” were the reason terrorists murdered Eitam and Naama Henkin on October 1, 2015. At a memorial event for the Henkins, Mazuz said that their shooting death at the hands of Palestinian terrorists had been a form of divine retribution. In 2016 Mazuz attributed the collapse of a Tel Aviv parking garage that killed six people and an explosion that destroyed the Amos-6 satellite to Shabbat desecration. Israel has two major gay pride parades each year, one in Tel Aviv and another in the capital, Jerusalem, which is billed as promoting tolerance. Source -
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With the growing acceptability of same-sex marriages, we have to accept same-sex divorces as well– and that lesbian divorces are more likely to occur. For example, a study in the UK noted that lesbian couples are more likely to get a divorce as compared to gay couples. Meanwhile, in the Netherlands, which was the first country to introduce same-sex marriage in 2001, 30 percent of lesbian marriages failed as compared to 15 percent of gay marriages. Reasons for more lesbian divorces In an interview with The Economist, Lisa Power, one of the co-founders of Stonewall, said the greater number of lesbian couples getting divorced is related to the concept of U-hauling. This is the tendency of lesbian couples to move fast and invest quicker in a relationship. She said: “We all used to move in with each other at the drop of a hat.” Meanwhile, Ayesha Vardag, president of divorce firm Vardags, told The Economist that this might be because women can be less tolerant of infidelity. “It’s distress about adultery or domestic violence, not being listened to, the sense of one party slogging away and the other one taking it easy. All the same things crop up,” Vardag said. However, Vardag added that the problems leading to divorce are the same whether gay, lesbian, queer or straight. Happier queer people in relations While this may be depressing for us lesbians, a 2017 study in the UK and Australia did find that LGBTQ people are happier in their relationships as compared to their straight counterparts. What’s more, a comparison of heterosexual divorces have women in straight marriages more likely to instigate divorce proceedings as compared to men in straight marriages. Lesbians are also more likely to have been married before with about 18 percent of women who formed civil partnerships were divorcees while 10 percent were men. If age is accounted for, second marriages are more likely to fail vis-a-vis first marriages. A resource for lesbian divorces Fortunately, we now have resources look into lesbian divorces like the book, LGBTQ Divorce and Relationship Dissolution: Psychological and Legal Perspectives and Implications for Practice. Published by Oxford University Press, this book was co-edited by Adam Romero of the Williams Institute at UCLA School of Law, and Abbie Goldberg, professor of psychology at Clark University. Romero noted that: “LGBTQ people going through a divorce are now largely treated like anyone divorcing. Yet, there are number of issues in divorce that are unique to LGBTQ people.” He noted that “because divorce law was developed with different-sex couples in mind, LGBTQ people who have arranged their relationships differently could find that their expectations are incompatible with the law’s commands.” He also pointed out that “many long-term couples who are now divorcing– together for 20, 30 or 40 years– are treated as only being together for the few years they were actually married.” Source
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The secret to any tasty Nigerian food or any food, is the meat stock/broth. Once you’ve nailed it, everything falls in place. Here is one of my many styles of cooking Nigerian stew. My recipes are always easy to follow and straight forward.
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A recent study led by researchers from the National University of Singapore (NUS) revealed that regular tea drinkers have better organised brain regions -- and this is associated with healthy cognitive function -- compared to non-tea drinkers. The research team made this discovery after examining neuroimaging data of 36 older adults. "Our results offer the first evidence of positive contribution of tea drinking to brain structure, and suggest that drinking tea regularly has a protective effect against age-related decline in brain organisation," explained team leader Assistant Professor Feng Lei, who is from the Department of Psychological Medicine at the NUS Yong Loo Lin School of Medicine. The research was carried out together with collaborators from the University of Essex and University of Cambridge, and the findings were published in scientific journal Aging on 14 June 2019. Benefits of regular intake of tea Past studies have demonstrated that tea intake is beneficial to human health, and the positive effects include mood improvement and cardiovascular disease prevention. In fact, results of a longitudinal study led by Asst Prof Feng which was published in 2017 showed that daily consumption of tea can reduce the risk of cognitive decline in older persons by 50 per cent. Following this discovery, Asst Prof Feng and his team further explored the direct effect of tea on brain networks. The research team recruited 36 adults aged 60 and above, and gathered data about their health, lifestyle, and psychological well-being. The elderly participants also had to undergo neuropsychological tests and magnetic resonance imaging (MRI). The study was carried out from 2015 to 2018. Upon analysing the participants' cognitive performance and imaging results, the research team found that individuals who consumed either green tea, oolong tea, or black tea at least four times a week for about 25 years had brain regions that were interconnected in a more efficient way. "Take the analogy of road traffic as an example -- consider brain regions as destinations, while the connections between brain regions are roads. When a road system is better organised, the movement of vehicles and passengers is more efficient and uses less resources. Similarly, when the connections between brain regions are more structured, information processing can be performed more efficiently," explained Asst Prof Feng. He added, "We have shown in our previous studies that tea drinkers had better cognitive function as compared to non-tea drinkers. Our current results relating to brain network indirectly support our previous findings by showing that the positive effects of regular tea drinking are the result of improved brain organisation brought about by preventing disruption to interregional connections." Source
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I stumbled on this quote online, and decided to share with the group. What is your take on being socially awkward/introverted.
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I thought I had conquered my gay side: Nigerian gay model
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The award-winning U.K.-based professional Nigerian gay model and 2016 winner of ‘Mr. Ideal Nigeria Earth’ and the first runner-up of ‘Mr. Africa International’ has released a Q&A video on YouTube responding to some questions he’s been asked since he accepted himself as gay. In the video, Gede who was closeted throughout his stay in Nigeria until he left for the UK in 2017, said dating, and marrying a woman was fun. Just like many gay men who battle with their sexuality, Gede who is now dating a man said he thought that marrying a woman would turn him straight. “Being married was fun. The first year when we were dating and all that was fun. I was really in love and I am sure she was in love with me – I hope. At that point, I thought I had conquered this gay side of me.” He said. Gede answered many other interesting questions about his life and relationship with his ex-wife and kids. Watch the full video below. Source- 1 reply
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Opinion: Simone Biles penalized for having skills other gymnasts can't pull off
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Simone Biles is the last person international gymnastics officials should be using to try and make a point. In an effort to deter other gymnasts from trying skills they are not physically capable of doing, the International Gymnastics Federation watered down the value of a new element Biles plans to do at the world championships. That’s right. Penalize the reigning world and Olympic champion, who is almost cautious when it comes to adding difficulty, for the potential recklessness of others. “Am I in a league of my own? Yes. But that doesn’t mean you can’t credit me for what I’m doing,” Biles told NBC after learning of the decision this week by the women’s technical committee. “They keep asking us to do more difficulty and to give more artistry, give more harder skills,” she added. “So we do, and then they don’t credit it, and I don’t think that’s fair.” Every element in gymnastics is assigned a letter, which corresponds to a numerical value. An “A” skill is worth a tenth of a point, and every letter in the alphabet that follows is an additional tenth. So a “D” skill is four-tenths of a point while the rare “J” skill is worth a full point. Biles is doing two new skills at worlds: a triple-twisting, double somersault on floor exercise and a double-twisting, double somersault dismount off balance beam. The triple-double was valued as a J skill, while the double-double was only deemed to be an H. After widespread criticism of its decision, the women’s technical committee (WTC) released a statement Friday explaining its reasoning: “In assigning values to the new elements, the WTC takes into consideration many different aspects; the risk, the safety of the gymnasts and the technical direction of the discipline,” it said. “There is added risk in landing of double saltos for beam dismounts (with/without twists), including a potential landing on the neck. “Reinforcing, there are many examples … where decisions have been made to protect the gymnasts and preserve the direction of the discipline.” Translation: Some gymnasts are trying to pad their scores by chucking skills they have no business doing, and we need to protect them from themselves. There’s no shortage of hypocrisy in that rationale. If the federation is so concerned with athlete safety, why allow I and J skills in the first place? If Biles’ double-double is going to encourage gymnasts to take risks they shouldn’t, wouldn’t her triple-double do the same? And, while we’re at it, why not allow gymnasts to do a warm-up on the floor before event finals? Most bothersome, though, is that the federation has ignored the means it has to keep irresponsible impulses in check. In addition to the difficulty score – the sum value of all the elements in a routine – there is an execution score. If a gymnast insists on trying a skill he or she has no business doing – some of you vaulters, you know who you are – hammer them on the E score. Source -
Uber and Lyft drivers more likely to cancel on LGBT passengers
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A new study has proved LGBT+ people routinely face discrimination from Uber and Lyft drivers, who cancel their journeys almost twice as frequently as with straight passengers. The study “When Transparency Fails: Bias and Financial Incentives in Ridesharing Platforms” revealed that LGBT+ people and black people were the most likely groups to be cancelled on. Professors Chris Parker and Jorge Meija conducted the study by creating passenger profiles with a picture of a rainbow flag, suggesting that the rider would be LGBT+ or an ally. They also created profiles with pictures of black riders and names often perceived as black, such as Keisha, Latoya, Rasheed, and Jamal. In a study of 3,200 journeys, they determined that the LGBT+ or ally “customers” were canceled on almost twice as much as those without the rainbow symbol. “We know that LGBTQ riders face discrimination with these rideshare apps, but we thought that it was an interesting little twist, that even just signalling your support for the LGBTQ community could result in a canceled ride,” Parker told NBC News. Similar cancellation rates were seen during peak and non-peak hours. The inherent bias was even worse with the study’s black riders, whose journeys were cancelled nearly three times as often as white riders. However, unlike LGBT+ passengers, they were less likely to be cancelled during peak hours, suggesting that the increased cost of the trip was enough of an incentive to accept the journey. Although the study only proved drivers’ inherent bias before a LGBT+ person enters the car, there are LGBT+ people have often complained of discrimination once inside an Uber or Lyft. Uber drivers have been accused of giving customers low ratings because they are LGBT+, and there are numerous examples of LGBT+ couples being thrown out of taxis for public displays of affection. Source -
Openly Gay Nigerian Student Shares Homophobic Experiences
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The undergraduate student went on Twitter to share about 5 cases of homophobic assaults and harassments he has experienced living openly as gay in Nigeria. Homophobic attacks are common in the country. Every day, the rights of lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, (LGBT) people are violated by state and non-state actors. Perpetrators enjoy impunity because the law doesn’t protect LGBTIQ+ people. Religion and ignorance about LGBTI issues are the leading cause of homophobia in Nigeria. Frustrated with his situation, Blaise who has suffered multiple human rights violations and a victim of several hate crimes says he is now struggling with his mental health. “Everything that happened to me messed me up big time, I won’t lie. I still haven’t recovered from any of them. I now deal with a complicated paranoia and anxiety. I’m not in a good place mentally at all. Much has happened, I have passed them but I know many will still come” he tweeted. Read his tweets below. Source- 9 replies
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Saw this online If the judge ordered you to be with your ex for a year or get locked up for a year, what will you do? 😉😄😃
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A friend sent this to me, and it got me cracking up, so I thought to share. What are your thoughts?
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As queen, I can only marry a woman –Dunkwu, Omu of Anioma
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The Omu of Anioma, Martha Dunkwu, is a revered traditional ruler of Anioma land, which covers nine local government areas in Delta State. Anioma people are the Igbo located in Delta, who are separated from the Igbo in the South-East by the River Niger. Dunkwu tells OCHEI MATTHEW about the historical background of the Omu, its spirituality and others What has been the most interesting part of being the monarch? The most interesting part is the fact that the throne is indigenous to Anioma people. The two titles of Omu: Omu queen mother and Eze Nwayi (queen). Our forefathers’ intention was for the Omu to be a queen in charge of women. So, you find out that when I go all over the country, people look at me as if I’m a TV screen or movie star because they had not seen such before. Our former governor, Chief James Ibori, wrote me a goodwill message when I celebrated my 50th birthday, 14 years ago. He said I brought feasibility to this ancient institution. As a media person, I brought that to this institution. So, it has been interesting going all over the world because they didn’t know there is a part of Africa where their forefathers had decided 700 years ago that a woman must occupy this throne and play her part for the community to move forward. So sometimes at events, I’m the only female at a setting dominated by men. What were you doing before you became the Omu? I was a media practitioner. I studied in England, the United States of America and returned 35 years ago. I was a media consultant for the late Oba of Benin, His Royal Majesty, Omo n’Oba n’Edo Uku Akpolokpolo Erediauwa, of blessed memory and the late Orodje of Okpe. At some point, I consulted for the Asagba of Asaba and about seven traditional rulers. I was in the consultancy business but when I became the Deputy Omu, I decided that the best thing was to start working for traditional rulers. I was Deputy Omu for three years and became substantive Omu for 17 years, so I have done the work of Omu for 20 years now. How much do you miss your old life? No, I don’t miss my old life at all. I must confess that what I am doing is the physical manifestation of spiritual conclusion. So, once God has decided on a matter, you cannot miss anything because that’s the intention of God. How did you feel when you got to know that you would become the traditional ruler? Well, initially I was apprehensive because in the past, Omus were women in their early 80s and 90s and as you are aware, Omu doesn’t get married. And if you are married, once you become Omu, you must leave your marital home. However, I was not married so I didn’t have any issue with having to leave my husband. I wasn’t quite sure of how I would handle it but when I was convinced that it was the intention of God, I took it upon myself to do the right thing and I will continue to do to the right thing. How has your life as a female monarch been? Rosy…(laughs). Well, it’s challenging when you cannot marry, go into a relationship or attend a burial. There are so many things you cannot do as Omu. However, the work of Omu is 70 per cent spiritual, so I have to keep praying. I also have chiefs attached to my palace. There are spiritual and executive chiefs in the palace. What experience do you think you have had that you think came as a result of your being a queen? I am grateful to God and I remain grateful to the late Oba of Benin Kingdom. I learnt a lot from him. The Omu institution is very conservative and ancient. It is a dictatorship in the sense that no woman was consulted when few old wise men instituted the Omu institution. When many people see me and find out about the institution, they marvel. The challenges I have are even from our people. So what have been your biggest challenges since you became the monarch? One, I have tried to fuse the good of the old times with the good of the new period to have something brand new. I don’t have any challenge from the people of the North, West, South-East or Deltans. If there are any challenges I am facing, they are from my people and not necessarily from Anioma people. They are from my own home – Okpanam – and of course, it is understandable because even the best among us are despised in their homes. Anioma people own this institution; it is not a personal institution. So, one would not call what I experience as challenges in that sense. Even in Okpanam, the institution is for our forefathers and not for any individual. That’s why it is said that the Omu cannot abdicate the throne and people cannot put all manner of things in place to remove the Omu. So, in 700 years, no Omu has abdicated the throne and no Omu has been removed. Source- 13 replies
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People in polyamorous relationships may or may not be married, although people who identify as polyamorous tend to be rejecting of the restrictions of the social convention of marriage, and particularly, the limitation to one partner. Polyamory is not the same as an "open" relationship, which involves a committed couple agreeing that one or both partners are permitted to have sex with other people, without necessarily sharing information on the other partners, although polyamorous couples may also have open relationships. ~ Culled from google I was having a discussion with my friend the other day on the rise of polyamorous relationships in the queer community. What is your take on this? Will you give polyamory a go?
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Sometimes lesbians want to find a wife with whom to run a small sheep farm in Wales; sometimes what we want is a hard wet fuck from a beautiful woman we barely know in the bathroom of a gay bar. We contain multitudes. But how do you make the latter happen? I bring to you cruising tips and casual sex advice built off the years of skanky queer life experience that have solidified me as one of the leading minds in the highly un-scientific field of “Lez Slut-ology.” The Basics What’s cruising? Cruising is going out into the world with the specific intention of finding someone with whom to have casual sex. If you message or approach someone just wanting to hook up, you are cruising. It’s a time-honored gay tradition and a rich part of our cultural history that forgoes respectability politics and homonormative assimilation in favor of radical expressions of queer sexuality. Cruising is knowing what you want and actively pursuing it. The term is thought to have come from queer folks walking or driving around town searching for a casual encounter. Though cruising has gained prominence as practiced by men who have sex with men, it isn’t theirs alone; dyke communities have also engaged in cruising and casual sex for years. Where do you cruise? I would recommend any events or settings where you know lady-loving lady hotties abound as a great place to cruise. This includes: + Dyke nights at your local gay bar + Pride + Dance parties + Brunch + A-Camp + A Hayley Kiyoko/Tegan & Sara/Mirah/Melissa Etheridge concert + BDSM play parties + A gay picnic + A book fair + NaijaLez So my golden rule is: “If there’s a hot gay around and you aren’t at like, a trauma center or a funeral, you can cruise there.” An elegant golden rule, I know. How do you cruise? Feel good about it! We live in a society that indoctrinates us into believing that having desires is predatory and shameful, and that women who desire women are even more so. I think another big part of it is that many of us have experienced predatory behavior and are very scared to replicate it. It’s not predatory to want someone and let them know it. It’s not predatory to desire another woman in a purely sexual manner. It’s only predatory if you are being disrespectful of someone’s boundaries, body, and personhood. So don’t do that. As for fears about being desirable or confident enough, remember that queer desire is complex and multifaceted and lots of types of people are attracted to lots of types of people and bodies; why not you! I suggest wearing something you feel really confident and hot in, that outfit that just makes you feel like the baddest bitch. And when all else fails, fake the confidence because we honestly all do that. Flirting Flirting is the first step of cruising and something I know many queers struggle with. I know many queer folx, especially women, feel frozen by this deep fear of rejection and getting over that is the first step to being a more confident cruiser. Being rejected doesn’t say anything bad about you or them and it doesn’t invalidate your gayness. I fear rejection too, but learning to accept it as a likely possibility has helped me become my best flirt and built my confidence in other aspects of my life. What is important is to not be objectifying in how you interact with them. If they aren’t into it, respect the no, move on, and don’t make it weird. If you’re approached by someone you aren’t into, try to handle it the way you would want to be rejected, say thank you and politely decline. My favorite ways to flirt with or be flirted with by women are to be complimented — find something you think is beautiful, stylish, or attractive about this person and let them know — and then having them get down to it — ask for what you’re interested in, whether it’s a number, a date, or getting fucked in the bathroom. Having Casual Sex How do you actually initiate casual sex? In practice: you’re out and about and have spotted a hottie, and have been flirting by complimenting them and chatting. Maybe this doesn’t go well; either they aren’t into it or upon closer interaction you aren’t as into them as you thought you were. That’s fine; chalk it up to the mysteries of life and move on. If they do seem equally interested in you, you can take the initiative! If it’s a setting like a bar, party or social gathering where you could feasibly say “Do you want to go to my place/the bathroom/my car/anywhere else we can have sex?” you can ask that! If you’re in the middle of a protest or drag queen story hour for kids at 10 am at the public library, maybe you want to ask for their number so you can make a similar suggestion at a more appropriate time — like getting someone’s info to ask them on a date, but focusing more on asking them “I think you’re really hot, do you want to come over Saturday night?” If you are trying to get fisted in your car in the parking lot of the bar — congrats! — maybe wear something you can slip in and out of easily. Once you get to actually having sex, you of course are aware it’s good to communicate basic stuff about boundaries and consent, even if it is casual. There’s no set list of things to discuss before sleeping with a stranger, but if it’s something like a medical condition, a boundary, or testing status, then definitely bring it up. Examples: “Hey just so you know, I have a latex allergy, so finger me with nitrile gloves.” “Please make sure you don’t touch my neck. It’s a trigger for me.” “How recently have you been tested?” “My partner and I have a rule about getting no marks from hookups.” “I don’t like gentle sex.” “I have been tested recently and my results came back positive for gonorrhea.” Source
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If this was your Thanksgiving table, what would you do?