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The Shoremi family in Nigeria have taken a newspaper advertorial to announce they have severed all ties with one of their daughters, Shalom, who recently tried to wed her lesbian partner here in Nigeria. Shalom had applied for marriage license from the Federal Marriage Registry but was denied as same sex marriage is prohibited in Nigeria. Former president Goodluck Jonathan had signed the Anti-gay bill into law in 2007. Source

The new film ‘We Don’t Live Here Anymore’ is directed by Tope Oshin, an award-winning Nigerian film director and producer notable for working on some of the highest box office breaking Nigerian films such as ‘Fifty’ ‘Shuga’ ‘The Wedding Party2’ ‘Journey to Self’ and ‘Tinsel’ (TV Series). Writing credits for the film goes to Noni Salma, a Nigerian U.S-based transgender filmmaker. Salma also wrote the film ‘Hell or High Water’ and ‘Veil of Silence’ a documentary film about LGBT struggle in Nigeria, all in collaboration with TIERs. ‘We Don’t Live Here Anymore’ is about two teenage boys Tolu Bajulaiye(Francis Sule) and Chidi Egwuonwu(Temidayo Akinboro) in the fictional Prominence high school who both find themselves embroiled in a high stake scandal that could alter the course of their future. With an impending expulsion at bay, Tolu’s mother Nike (Funlola Aofiyebi Raimi) who is a powerful matriarch pulls all the strings within her palm and resets the tone into what would become a battle of class, blackballing and a triggering society ready to punish anything besides the status-quo. Source

In an interview with Christiane Amanpour, President Uhuru Kenyatta claims that homosexuality is not an issue of human rights, but rather of "our own base as a culture." Thoughts ladies?

If you have the opportunity to be part of a team to plan a meet with the president of Nigeria concerning the LGBT Nigerian community, and this opportunity is presenting itself after years of bureaucracy in securing a date for an appointment with the first office. Your agenda and application is finally accepted and come June 2018, you will sit with the President for some hours to discuss issues centering around our home community. It could be questions, past events, suggestions, ideas or complaints. But its about us. What will you sound offs be? Uzodinma Iweala, a Nigerian - American award-winning author, and doctor is set to meet with Nigerian President Muhammad Buhari to discuss issues affecting LGBT people in Nigeria. Iweala is the author of two very successful books, ‘Beast of No Nation’, which was adapted as a Hollywood film in 2015 and ‘Speak No Evil’ his recent book which details the life of a brilliant young Nigerian gay man living abroad, and whose conservative Christian parents tries to cure of homosexuality. Recently, Iweala, made public that he will be meeting with the Nigerian president, Muhammad Buhari in late June to discuss issues affecting LGBT Nigerians and wants people to suggest to him, the possible questions he could ask the president. This is an opportunity - C

Tips on how to be a good lesbian girlfriend Everyone wants to know the secret to making relationships last. Here’s one: make your girlfriend happy. As they say, “A happy wife means a happy life.” How? By working on YOU first. In this case, be a good lesbian girlfriend first. What you need to do to be a good lesbian girlfriend Your partner has very basic expectations from you that you need to meet. Often than not, these are the things we take for granted, especially if we’ve been with our partner for so long, and end up arguing about. Meet these expectations and you’ll be surprised at how contented your partner will be. Here are some steps and tips you can do that will make your relationship a healthy and happy one: 1. Be kind and respectful Kindness and respect are often overlooked and feels like almost rarely practiced these days. Yet if we ask those who have been together for years or even decades, they will always mention kindness and respect, among other things, that really made their relationship last. Tip: A good lesbian girlfriend finds countless creative ways to be kind and respectful. Give compliments and mean them. Verbalize your appreciation. Give corrections in private and always with your partner’s well-being in mind. Avoid cruel or cutting remarks, even as a joke. Watch your words when you are angry. Remember, what you say in passing can have a lasting effect. Do nice things just because. Do the chores they hate. Occasionally give them a little gift on the way home. Say “please” and “thank you.” 2. Be open Experts unanimously stress the benefits of open and effective communication on relationships. Being both a good listener and communicator will help you strengthen your relationship. This means, among other things, telling your partner what you need from them and asking them what they need from you. Tip: A good lesbian girlfriend provides a safe space where her partner can speak without fear of rejection or dismissal. This will help manage both your expectations – in daily life, in the bedroom, in sticky situations, and in moments where how your partner responds really matters to you. 3. Be playful and have a sense of humor Everyone loves a good laugh and boredom can quickly set in if you keep doing the same things. Budding relationships are exciting because of the novelty of the experience and the person. Tip: A good lesbian girlfriend injects exciting newness into the relationship by doing things differently from time to time. Try out a new restaurant. Travel to new places together. Find a new hobby. Change up your morning routine. Or even pull a harmless prank on your partner (one that’s not too upsetting). 4. Prioritize the relationship Relationships can be likened to plants. When they get enough sun, water, nutrients, and TLC, they thrive. When they are neglected, they wither and die. Tip: A good lesbian girlfriend finds time to nurture the bond with her partner. Spend time with your partner. Focus solely on each other when together on a date. Share interests, hobbies, sports, etc. 5. Accept and forgive People in relationships often make mistakes, say hurtful words or let their partner down. Tip: A good lesbian girlfriend accepts that her partner is an imperfect human being, who nonetheless tries her best. In the same way, a good lesbian girlfriend knows that she herself is also an imperfect human being who will make mistakes. Own up when you mess up. Forgive and love your partner when they mess up. 6. Be faithful This one hardly needs saying. When a person is in a committed relationship, she is duty-bound to be faithful to her partner. Tip: A good lesbian girlfriend doesn’t give her partner cause to doubt her or lose trust in her. Trust can take a lifetime to build and only moments to destroy. Be faithful. Show them you have their back, always. You chose them, after all. Source

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Coming out is a hard thing to do most especially in Nigeria. Please feel free to share coming out stories with the community as you deem fit.

Nollywood comic actor John Okafor well known for playing Mr. Ibu is one of the stars in a new romantic movie that tackles homophobia. John Okafor AKA: Mr.Ibu in the film ‘The Eve’ The movie titled 'The Eve' is An initiative of Cut24 Productions, directed by rapper-turned-director Tosin Igho, is about preparations for a supposedly happy couple’s wedding day. The young couple, Funsho and Yewande, have shockingly different personalities Just before their wedding, Funsho and his three childhood friends set out on a pre-wedding getaway and a bachelor’s night. Things quickly go awry, as events and revelations raise more questions than answers for the couple. Nollywood is yet shy of any authentic representations of LGBTIQ characters in its films. The industry is often touted for its seeming bias and stereotypical approach to telling stories with LGBTIQ characters. The producers say 'The Eve' is the first Nollywood movie of the modern era to tackle homophobia as a subplot Therefore, if the film lives up to its promise, it will be a positive step for mainstream media toward the recognition of LGBTIQ people’s struggles. The film stars John Okafor, Beverly Naya, Meg Otanwa, Kunle Remi, Adeolu Adefarasin, Mawuli Gavor, Ronke Oshodi, Ronke Odusanya and Uche Nwaefuna Okafor on his part has spoken against homosexuality in the past. In 2012, he called gay actors a ' virus' in Nollywood. In 2016, he was quoted saying that homosexuals were taking over the Nigerian movie industry and "they are killing the industry". Okafor has appeared in more than 200 movies and is known as one of Nigeria’s most talented comic actors. His movies have included Mr. Ibu (2004), Mr. Ibu in London (2004), and Ibu in Prison(2006). “The Eve,” is scheduled to be screened in Lagos on March 24 at the Day Dream Pool Club, Landmark Towers, Victoria Island. It will premiere nationwide just before Easter weekend (on Thursday, March 29). The film, which lasts under two hours, explores many other themes, including homosexuality. “The movie is an engaging love story that explores the themes of weddings, marriage, sex, friendship, dating, cheating, celibacy, partying, and homosexuality in a refreshing, comical and thrilling manner. It’s definitely a must-see for everyone,” said executive producer Femi Odugbemi. -Premiumtimesng

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Rigid sexual orientations have defined the preference of men and women for decades; however, a new study is attempting to do away with strict definitions of sexuality. The study, published in the Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, argues that there’s no such thing as a “straight” man or woman. Rather, people operate on a spectrum. Researchers showed men and women different kinds of pornographic material. Rather than relying on self-reporting, the study looked at physiological responses to the sexual material. Namely pupil dilation, which is a sign of sexual arousal. The study found that women’s eyes dilated when they viewed a man and a woman being sexuality intimate, and when two women were sexually intimate. Lesbian are more aroused to their preferred sex than the other sex, a pattern normally seen in men. A similar phenomenon was seen in men. Talking to Broadly, study author Ritch C Savin-Williams, who is also the Director of Developmental Psychology at Cornell University, said: We show straight men a picture of a woman masturbating and they respond just like a straight guy, but then you also show them a guy masturbating and their eyes dilate a little bit. So we're actually able to show physiologically that all guys are not either gay, straight, or bi. He argues that though the idea of bisexuality as the norm is becoming more accepted when it comes to women, men are still struggling with patriarchal stigma. Savin-Williams has a point. There have been multiple studies done that conclude women are naturally bisexual, like this one by Dr Gerulf Rieger at the University of Essex. He did an identical study where he looked at pupil dilation in women who were shown videos of attractive men and women. Source

1) It’s a sexual orientation and not a lifestyle. It’s neither fashion nor culture. Being gay isn’t in how you dress or eat, the type of house you live in OR the colours you adore. Being gay is just who you are – your being in all of its own uniqueness and faults. In a nutshell, homosexuality is nature just as heterosexuality. 2) Homosexuality has no switch or time frame. I’ve heard people say, “I’m only gay for the time being. Once I get older and ready to settle down, I’ll definitely get married to a lady and be done with this life.”No! It’s not a race with a destination in sight. It is not a phase! This is no PS2 or chess game. You can’t turn off your gay (just as you can’t pray it away. Ask Bobby of the movie, Prayers for Bobby, he’d have more to say on this). Sure, you can decide to succumb to societal pressure, to familial expectations, you can decide to bend to the whims of heteronormativity and get married to a woman (if you’re a gay man) and vice-versa, but bare one thing in mind: exchanging those vows on that altar doesn’t mean you won’t be silently crushing on that well-dressed man seated at one of the front pews. You’re gay mister, and even a Catholic Priest can’t change that! 3) Homosexuality isn’t the cause of the economic problems we have in this country. It’s definitely not responsible for the deaths in the middle belt region of Nigeria and has nothing to do with the present bad government. It’s only an orientation and not an epidemic. It’s got no powers to affect the growth and development of the nation. Go tackle the issues facing the country and leave gay men and women alone. Their sexual orientation has nothing to do with your ardent corrupt practices. In essence, what’s the need for the law? 4) Mummy and Daddy, watching movies with homosexual content cannot, will not, and has never turned anyone gay. We very well know heterosexual content dominates the film industry. It’s mostly Ryan Reynolds and Shailyne Woolley banging on the creaking bed or Ramsey Noah and Genevieve getting our insides squishy with their believable love tales. We also know this is what a lot of us grew up watching. Now, if truly, movies have such magical powers, where are the gay ones sprouting out from? Saturn? Please, let’s not allow sentiments turn us into brain-dead vultures. It’s not cute. 5) Homosexuality is totally independent of physical disposition, gender and what have you. Yes, you can be male and feminine and still not gay. Not all the Chris Colfers in the world are gay. You can be female and masculine and still not lesbian. Not all the Ellen DeGeneres’ are lesbians. Let’s stop being quick to throw someone into a sexuality box all because of the way he/she is. When you do that, you have summed up a whole being on account of his/her perceived sexual orientation. Any other thing they represent doesn’t count. It’s stereotypical. It’s preposterous and in such modern era, unacceptable. 6) Homosexuality, just like heterosexuality, is only a part of a person. It doesn’t sum a whole being up. Your sexuality should not be confused with your personality. So yes, you can be gay and Christian, you can be gay and a paedophile, you can be gay and a thief, a corrupt politician, a rapist and so on. Do not cast the person away on the grounds that he is gay but because he is a murderer! You know why? Because we have all these people as heterosexuals too. They aren’t special. They aren’t in any way better. The same way a straight man can lie, a gay man can also. What makes the lie of a gay man any worse? What am I trying to say? GAY PEOPLE ARE ALSO HUMAN BEINGS. There’s nothing extraordinary (insert weird, abnormal). There’s no more to it than the fact that they are sexually attracted to people of the same sex. 7) There’s nothing like a gay job. Please, a girl can decide to be a conductor just like a guy can decide to be a cook or a hairdresser. These are services rendered and have nothing to do with genitals not to talk of who you are attracted to. 8) The whole world cannot, I repeat, CANNOT be homosexual. Just like the whole world can’t be black, Igbo, stupid or short. There would always be variations, its part of our existence. So when Homophobes throw shit like, “If everyone is gay, what becomes of the world?” do not be surprised when I burst their bubble with my word pins and consequently show them the level of daftness they’ve managed to attain. 9) The last and probably not the least on this episode of Things You Probably Didn’t Know; Homosexuality is going nowhere. There would always be gay ones amongst a lot. Those ones who have found refuge in the Rainbow community. Take it or leave it, pray against it or fight it with violence, homosexuality is here and it’s going nowhere. Source

Portia not only surprised her wife with an unexpected appearance on the show, she also gave her one of the most incredible birthday gifts Ellen has ever received.

Olamide finally drops the science student video. Was it worth the wait?

It’s been five years since the R&B singer released her critically-acclaimed Electric Lady album, and we’ve been gagging for new music ever since – thankfully, she’s blessed us with not just one, but two comeback singles. Django Jane is a slick, confident track which sees Janelle rap about race and female empowerment amid scenes of her sitting on a throne (where she belongs, duh) surrounded by a female army in matching suits. While Django Jane shows off her versatility as an artist, it’s Make Me Feel that’s really caught the world’s attention. With an infectious beat and an androgynous performance style that pays homage to Prince, it’s sure to become a classic in Janelle’s back catalogue – even better, It’s laced with imagery that alludes to bisexuality. Throughout the video, Janelle flicks back and forth between the different genders, while one very literal scene sees her run frantically between her male and female love interests, dancing seductively on each one. Lyrically, Janelle sings of being a “emotional sexual bender” as she makes her way through a nightclub ripped straight of Black Mirror episode San Junipero. While Janelle has refused to define her sexuality, she did describe herself as “sexually liberated” in a recent interview with The Guardian, where she also spoke more about the meaning behind Make Me Feel. “It’s a celebratory song,” she said. “I hope that comes across. That people feel more free, no matter where they are in their lives, that they feel celebrated. “Because I’m about women’s empowerment. I’m about agency. I’m about being in control of your narrative and your body. “That was personal for me to even talk about: to let people know you don’t own or control me and you will not use my image to defame or denounce other women.” Janelle also announced the release of her fourth studio album, Dirty Computer, which is due out 27 April. Source

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A gay couple have been arrested and charged for forcing their three children to eat dog feces as punishment. Amanda Wright, 29, and Besline Joseph, 25, are accused of repeatedly beating the children aged 8,9, and 10. The children were reportedly beaten with extension cords, belts, sticks and other objects, and they had bloody noses, bruises, and cuts as a result of these beatings. Police believe that the innocent children were also locked in closets and a basement, and fed only bread, water and oatmeal. Amanda and Besline are also accused of forcing the children to eat dog feces and threatened to kill them if they told anyone about what was happening. Both women were each charged with three counts each of first-degree child abuse, second-degree child abuse, first-degree assault, second-degree assault, reckless endangerment, neglect of a minor, stalking, use of a dangerous weapon with intent to injure, false imprisonment, and one count each of causing ingestion of a bodily fluid, preventing/interfering with report of suspected child abuse or neglect, and conspiracy to commit first-degree child abuse. The two women were arrested at their Wicomico County home Wednesday after an investigation by Maryland State Police. Source

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The events reportedly unfolded on Jan. 7 in Lagos when *Kingsley [not his real name], a budding actor, went to have his hair cut. At the barber shop, he met a man who recognized him from Facebook and, after a brief conversation, they exchanged phone numbers. Kingsley said the stranger started calling him, saying that he was interested in acting and asking that they meet and talk. When Kingsley visited the man at his residence at Igando-Ikotun in the Lagos area, the man quickly locked the door and requested that they have sex, but Kingsley declined. The stranger said that he knew Kingsley was gay because he had been following him on Facebook. The two men argued and fought. The man, who was older and stronger than Kingsley, overpowered him, forcefully pulled his clothes off and started taking pictures of him while he was naked. He then said that if Kingsley did not have sex with him, he would alert friends who he said were already waiting outside and tell them to enter the home, rape Kingsley and publicly disgrace him for being gay. If Kingsley did not give him N50,000 the stranger said, Kingsley would be outed publicly as gay and the photographs would be circulated online and sent to his family and police. Afraid, Kingsley called a friend and convinced him to pay the money. Once he received the money, the stranger stole Kingley’s phone and set him free. Under Nigerian law, blackmail and extortion are punishable by up to 14 years in prison. Nigerian LGBT rights activist Noble Charles Samuel said such cases are common in several parts of the country. No one has been able to rein in the gangs of blackmailers and extortionists who operate in Nigeria, he said. “We have similar gangs in Ibusa, in Delta state and in Aba, Abia state,” the activist said. Source

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