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Hey ladies, I thought it would be rather interesting to have us share our (favourite) 'how I met her' stories here.
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Hey Girls, What's your take about boundaries? A. Would you come-on to a girl who has a boyfriend but who you think could also be into you? B. Would you come-on to a girl who has a girlfriend? C. Do the same rules apply to A and B bearing in mind the inequality (in law) between the two (that is; heterosexuals can actually get married but non-formalized relationships are all most lesbians in Nigeria may ever have)? D. Would you walk away once you are aware that the girl you like is unavailable?
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Hi Girls, I have been meaning to do a piece on this subject without having to reinvent the wheel as there are a myriad of articles on the subject. I was going to research them, collate salient points and publish here but in a bid not to oversummarize the points, I figured It's best to redirect you all to the relevant sites... The phenomenon is more commonplace than we could ever imagine. So commonplace that sometimes the perpetrator could be you/me or was you/me at one point or another. I would encourage us all to read them. Our mental health is our strength and we must seek to guard it jealously. It's also important we understand how we may impact others negatively albeit unknowingly. Ignorance has and will never be a good enough excuse to cause another emotional pain. ...and remember, relationships don't hurt people. People do. Feel free to share your emotional abuse stories here or provide tips on how to pick yourselves up afterwards... The links: https://liveboldandbloom.com/02/relationships/signs-of-emotional-abuse https://m.huffpost.com/us/entry/us_5a999fbee4b0a0ba4ad31a4d/amp http://www.thelawofattraction.com/signs-emotional-abuse-relationship/ https://psychologenie.com/emotional-abuse-signs-symptoms.amp https://www.healthline.com/health/signs-of-mental-abuse#control-and-shame
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Hey girls, how would you feel if you realised that your girlfriend repeats her pants (aka pata) for two or three days in a row PS - my girlfriend doesn't repeat her pants pliss. As a matter of fact, once she's worn a dress once, she auctions it!
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Are lesbians too demanding in their relationships compared to heterosexuals?
dequeen posted a topic in Chit Chat
I decided to compare lesbian relationships rather than homosexual relationships since I am not very familiar with how gay relationships work. Basically, I noticed that in a lot of heterosexual relationships, forgiving offenses even as serious as cheating is normal. 'Water under the bridge' people say. It's normal to meet a couple who have been together for decades tell you of a time when either one of them had been physically manhandled by the other but 'he/ she has changed' comes the triumphant smile at the end. Lesbian relationships however seem to have a different story to tell. A minute argument could end a relationship. An unfounded, unconfirmed feeling of distrust could spell doom for a couple. Sometimes it seems like lesbians are looking to date angels while the heterosexuals are okay dating mortals with all their faults and all. In several heterosexual relationships, exes getting back together and eventually getting married is normal, while lesbians scream 'my vomit?! Me lick my vomit!?' The statistics also make me wonder, considering that finding 6-8year old lesbian relationships in Nigeria has become as tedious as searching for a black goat in the night with no light. What are your thoughts on this? Do we lesbians expect too much from our partners and our relationships? -
I've heard it said countless of times "if it's yours, it will come back to you". What are your thoughts about this as it relates to relationships and love?
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Tips on how to be a good lesbian girlfriend Everyone wants to know the secret to making relationships last. Here’s one: make your girlfriend happy. As they say, “A happy wife means a happy life.” How? By working on YOU first. In this case, be a good lesbian girlfriend first. What you need to do to be a good lesbian girlfriend Your partner has very basic expectations from you that you need to meet. Often than not, these are the things we take for granted, especially if we’ve been with our partner for so long, and end up arguing about. Meet these expectations and you’ll be surprised at how contented your partner will be. Here are some steps and tips you can do that will make your relationship a healthy and happy one: 1. Be kind and respectful Kindness and respect are often overlooked and feels like almost rarely practiced these days. Yet if we ask those who have been together for years or even decades, they will always mention kindness and respect, among other things, that really made their relationship last. Tip: A good lesbian girlfriend finds countless creative ways to be kind and respectful. Give compliments and mean them. Verbalize your appreciation. Give corrections in private and always with your partner’s well-being in mind. Avoid cruel or cutting remarks, even as a joke. Watch your words when you are angry. Remember, what you say in passing can have a lasting effect. Do nice things just because. Do the chores they hate. Occasionally give them a little gift on the way home. Say “please” and “thank you.” 2. Be open Experts unanimously stress the benefits of open and effective communication on relationships. Being both a good listener and communicator will help you strengthen your relationship. This means, among other things, telling your partner what you need from them and asking them what they need from you. Tip: A good lesbian girlfriend provides a safe space where her partner can speak without fear of rejection or dismissal. This will help manage both your expectations – in daily life, in the bedroom, in sticky situations, and in moments where how your partner responds really matters to you. 3. Be playful and have a sense of humor Everyone loves a good laugh and boredom can quickly set in if you keep doing the same things. Budding relationships are exciting because of the novelty of the experience and the person. Tip: A good lesbian girlfriend injects exciting newness into the relationship by doing things differently from time to time. Try out a new restaurant. Travel to new places together. Find a new hobby. Change up your morning routine. Or even pull a harmless prank on your partner (one that’s not too upsetting). 4. Prioritize the relationship Relationships can be likened to plants. When they get enough sun, water, nutrients, and TLC, they thrive. When they are neglected, they wither and die. Tip: A good lesbian girlfriend finds time to nurture the bond with her partner. Spend time with your partner. Focus solely on each other when together on a date. Share interests, hobbies, sports, etc. 5. Accept and forgive People in relationships often make mistakes, say hurtful words or let their partner down. Tip: A good lesbian girlfriend accepts that her partner is an imperfect human being, who nonetheless tries her best. In the same way, a good lesbian girlfriend knows that she herself is also an imperfect human being who will make mistakes. Own up when you mess up. Forgive and love your partner when they mess up. 6. Be faithful This one hardly needs saying. When a person is in a committed relationship, she is duty-bound to be faithful to her partner. Tip: A good lesbian girlfriend doesn’t give her partner cause to doubt her or lose trust in her. Trust can take a lifetime to build and only moments to destroy. Be faithful. Show them you have their back, always. You chose them, after all. Source
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I have heard and read that sometimes, emotions get so intense that people cry during love making or afterwards. Have you ever cried during sex (tears of joy o) Lol. Or do you think you have potential to cry. 😁
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Hey ladies, what's your default? Are you the more cautious type who takes her time to open up to a new love interest OR do you tend to dive in like a love struck bunny -wearing your emotions on your sleeves? It's also very possible that you were once expressive with your show of love but have now transitioned to being a more reserved lover. What would you pin point as being the reason for the switch?
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Over the radio the other day, there was a topic I considered rather interesting. Here it is: A. If you were seeing someone (dating, nothing official), would you expect that they stopped dating other people and focus on you both or is it okay with you that they may very well be dating multiple others alongside you? B. How long into dating would you think that both parties need to stop seeing other people on the side?
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So I'm here wondering how you all deal with temptations when you are in a relationship. I must confess, I have noticed that I am more focused and difficult to get through to when single. When In a relationship, perhaps because of the new status, over confidence creeps in and I find myself being more friendly than I would if single. This has a few times taken my mind the wrong direction. Now my questions: 1. If you find that you are really struggling with temptation or a temptress, how would you overcome? What specific thing(s) would you do 2. Would you discuss your struggle with your partner or do you find that it is best to deal with it on your own -without getting her involved?
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Relationships are the same, that’s true, but there some differences between straight and lesbian relationships. On one hand, there are fun things about being in a lesbian relationship. On the other hand, we’re also sure there are pluses on the other side of the team. It’s not that we’re comparing ourselves, but there are still people out there wondering how these two are different. Let’s enlighten those who don’t know how lesbian relationships are different from the straight ones. Straight And Lesbian Relationships Difference #1: Celebrity Status We’re serious about this. When two women walk into a restaurant and have a nice quiet dinner, the whole place stops to take a look at us. This is especially more intense when said two women walk in hand in hand. Who else do you know can stop activity like that– except celebrities? Okay, seriously now, we do get a lot more attention than straight couples. If in the past these are more on the negative side, this time people are cheering us on for being out and proud. So there. That’s a celebrity status in a way. Straight And Lesbian Relationships Difference #2: Periodic Table When you’re in a straight relationship, this means only one of you has their menstrual periods. This also means at least three days in a month, you can’t have sex unless you want it all bloody. With lesbian relationships, two people have their periods and sometimes they don’t happen at the same time. Ergo, in a lesbian relationship there are at least six days of no sexual contact. It’s a good thing then sometimes we like to just cuddle, especially when we’re feeling hormonal. Straight And Lesbian Relationships Difference #3: One Night Stands When they said that women are from Venus, what they meant was while men have a tendency to have sex on the brain, women are more inclined towards intimacy. More women would prefer to have sex when the objective is long term. So in a straight relationship, there is one partner who would want to have sex with you, period. In a lesbian relationship, on the other hand, there are more chances that both partners would want to get to know each other better before going to bed together. No surprise here that one-night stands in a lesbian relationship have a tendency to turn into relationships. Straight And Lesbian Relationships Difference #4: Birth Control Lesbian relationships have a higher savings on their account. Why? We don’t need a budget for birth control pills and condoms. What for when we have no use for them. At all. Wonderful, isn’t it? Straight And Lesbian Relationship Difference #5: Pregnancies Because of the above, we don’t have to deal with unwanted pregnancies and indulge in abortion. Not unless we woke up one day and same-sex relations can now produce babies. Of course, this is a news feature and not a science fiction literature. There’s no chance of that ever happening. So, truth be told, lesbian relationships are the ultimate pro-life, pro-choice unions. We have a choice not to have children, and we have a choice to adopt instead. What makes us all the same? We’re all people and we all have the right to love whom we love. Source
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LET ME MAKE IT CLEAR FOR CHURCH FOLK: WHO I LOVE IS NOT A PHASE Written by Kendal S Turner “Let me make something clear for the people in the back who don’t know me or my history. I have “struggled” for the lack of a better word with my sexuality since I was in kindergarten. Yes I said kindergarten. However because of “church folk” and society I tried to live up to y’alls standards for as long as I could. I have ALWAYS been attracted to the same sex. ALWAYS. So this is not a phase. I’m not a freak just trying something new. This has been ME. I knew this BEFORE I was molested at 8. I Knew Who I was Before I was Raped I knew this BEFORE I was raped. I knew this BEFORE I got married twice trying to “do what’s right” so trust me. I’ve been on a 40 day fast. I’ve been in every prayer line. I know all of the scriptures. I have broken men’s hearts trying to pretend to be sexually attracted to them to the point to where I couldn’t even make love to my own damn husband so don’t come at me with no scripture or what the lord told you to tell me. Where were you when I was getting hit upside my head and kicked out half naked in a hail storm by a man who claimed to love me? Where were you when my cousins stuck their penises in me before I even know what “hard” meant! I Knew Who I was When I was Married to a Man Where were you when I cried in the shower after sleeping with my husband because I felt violated every damn time? Where were you when I tried to commit suicide because I was preaching in churches trying to encourage women to fly like an eagle and I knew I was living a lie. Not even being my own authentic self but trying to encourage broken women to do so! Huh? I’ll wait….. my sons love me. My son told me Moma you should have done this a long time ago. Now it’s a shame a child has to convince his mother to be who she is because he loves me no matter what. I Know Who I Am When I Pray to God You can’t pray a prayer for me that I’ve already prayed. So listen and listen good. I am delivered. I am free. I’m free from you and the manipulation that the church has had over me for years! When I tried to kill myself God himself spoke to ME and said “Kendal there is nothing wrong with you” so believe me when I say, I have no fear of death. I have no fear of where I’m going when I pass. I know who GOD IS, I talk to him DAILY! So pray for yourself in your unhappy ass marriage. Pray for your kids with they bad ass cause me and my house are just fine. If you don’t like my lifestyle and the fact that I walk, talk and teach love then you can delete yourself. I promise to God I won’t notice” source
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