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Versatile, simple, and almost everyone has one: bullet vibrators are essentially the little black dress of the sex toy world. I understand the temptation to just use them as you think you should: pressed right up against your clit until you orgasm, before popping out to the kitchen to make yourself a coffee, but there’s the potential to do so much more. Here are some tips on how to have sex using a bullet vibrator, that’'ll hopefully show you that this unassuming sex toy can be the gateway to a new world of possibilities. Test out the different areas of your clit Sure, it’s small on the surface, but you’d be surprised just how much variation there is in your clit, and in what happens where. If you’re used to manual masturbation, you might not be familiar with the level of precision you can achieve with a good bullet vibrator. A great bullet vibrator allows you to pinpoint exactly where you want the vibrations to be. Some people report that a particular side of their clit is more sensitive, while others prefer to stimulate somewhere just above or below it. If you’re especially sensitive, or you’re packing a bullet vibe that has a lot of power – you can also try using it outside the labia; by covering the clit, the vibrations are dulled slightly, which gives you a slower build up to orgasm. As an added bonus, the more you experiment with your technique, the better you’ll be at directing someone else if you want to use your bullet while shagging. Which is handy, and means you get to play the sexy teacher giving them a crash-course in how best to make you come. You don’t always have to go straight to orgasm I’ve heard of ‘edging’ mentioned far more frequently in relation to guys having a wank than girls, and I think that’s a shame. Edging is the practice of bringing yourself close to the ‘edge’ of orgasm, but not quite tipping yourself over it. Then you have a brief break, get back to it, reach the edge again, and keep doing this until you build to a state of super-heightened arousal, where literally any time you touch yourself you think you’re going to explode. Fun, right? Obviously. Edging can be one of the most delightful ways to kill an hour or so, and a bullet vibrator makes this so much easier, because you’re not having to worry that you’ll get hand-cramp halfway through and have to give the whole thing up and go sit on a washing machine or something. Use your bullet vibrator to bring yourself to the edge, then repeat and repeat until you can’t repeat any more. Especially useful when you’ve got a night in lined up and you’ve got no decent box sets to watch on Netflix. Examine the bullet vibrator pulse settings Back in the day most vibrators came with a selection of speeds from ‘rubbish and weak’ to ‘buzzes like a horde of angry bees’. These days the tech has moved on, and a decent bullet vibrator will come with a selection of different pulse settings. Like your phone when it rings on silent, but in a whole variety of different patterns. I was initially sceptical of these settings, because why on Earth would I want something to go‘on/off/on/off’ when instead it could be permanently jammed against my clit, and shoved ‘on’ to the highest setting? It turns out they’re bloody excellent, though. Like a meal which comes with salad so you appreciate the chips more, pulse settings give you a bit of a contrast. It’s essentially a clitoral massage, and exploring these massage settings means even more excuses to lock yourself in your bedroom with some loud music and a hard-drive full of porn. Use a bullet vibrator during sex I shouldn’t need to mention this, should I? OK, I should, and I will. Because after Nicki Minaj’s fierce and righteous proclamation that she demands orgasms from sex, we need to mention the fact that most people with clits find it easier to come clitorally than they do from penetrative sex. Given this, if you love your bullet vibrator and you struggle to come during penetrative sex, then for God’s sake please say so – it’ll help us challenge the myth that everyone wants exactly the same kind of sex, and introduce more people to the range of sexual variety that exists within different human bodies. By this point you should have a good idea of exactly the kind of setting you like, and know exactly the right place to put it. Show your partner, lie back, and enjoy a clitoral orgasm that both of you get to take part in. If your other half is reluctant, let them know that when you come, the muscles in your vagina are likely to twitch and spasm in a way that feels like a top-class milking machine. There are plenty of other ways to use a bullet vibrator during sex, of course – if you’d rather be in control, then placing it between you and your partner when you’re on top means you can do that fun tribbin thing. Use a bullet vibrator on things other than your clit Obviously, the clit is the place it’s most likely to give you an orgasm. Feel free to ease your partner into it by using the bullet on their sensitive bits: nipples, clit, labia minora, labia majoria, and the vagina. Basically, anywhere with nerve endings can be stimulated, and as long as it’s somewhere on the outside of your body (never ever stick a bullet vibe up your arse), it’s perfectly safe. Final tip: if you’ve got a bullet vibrator and you want to explore some of the best ways to use it, make sure you’ve got it fully charged (or with fresh batteries) before you begin. It’s fun, and time flies, and nothing’s worse than having a sex toy die on you when you’re a bare three seconds from climax. Source

Eva Clitoral Massager Eva, a hands-free clit vibe, marries the aesthetics of a Pixar character with the sexual gravitas of an L Word character. The arms hug the lips of your labia while the ridge hits your clit, and it can be worn while somebody special is grinding against you or fingerbanging/intercoursing you. G-Spot Touch Finger Vibe “The first sex toy was the finger,” says the copywriter for this particular toy, revealing a deep primal understanding of lesbian mating rituals. “We’ve improved on that!” the copywriter continues, making a truly bold statement everybody here can appreciate. You can become your very own superheroine when you convert your fingers into android fingers capable of bringing your partner seven unique vibration patterns. SEVEN! If you’ve got your finger inside her, the textured pad at the base of the glove ensures her clit will not get lonely. “It literally feels like a vibrating extension of your hand,” the copywriter adds. I believe it! Fun Factory Sharevibe If you’ve ever been to a potluck you know that if there’s one thing lesbians love to do above all else, it’s SHARE. The Fun Factory Sharevibe lets couples share not only that lentil dish, but also that sweet, sweet vibe. One partner’s got the bulb inside them while the other is gently or mercilessly penetrated with control not possible with more traditional strap-ons. Our reviewer found the Sharevibe to bebest-suited for butch cock-sucking, noting, “there was no cloth harness to have to reach under, no hard silicone base to mess around with and no barrier between my mouth or fingers and any part of her. It was awesome.” Kinky Sprinkles describes it as “an amazing dildo that I have had so many super sexy nights with other female-identified partners.” Active Style Harness W/O Ring They look like traditional black boxer-briefs, ideal for lovers with a penchant for masc underthings who like to keep it simple and understated. But the surprise is that these aren’t traditional boxer-briefs, they’re A HARNESS! Plus they’re a harness you can wash in a washing machine, ’cause if everything goes right, you’re gonna get very messy. This strap-on harness is also a great option for trans women with penises who want to fuck their girlfriends with a dildo. We-Vibe Rave The We-Vibe Rave is a high-tech vibrator with ten vibration modes and a corresponding app. Lesbian couples are very often long distance, and the Rave enables you to take Skype sex up a notch when your girlfriend downloads the app on her phone and controls the vibrator from a million miles away. Thigh Harness A classic toy for lovers with specific access needs, this thigh harness enables your lady to bounce atop and rub all over your glorious, glorious thigh, possibly with her knee in a relatively convenient spot for you, and well who knows honestly what she can do with her free hands! You’re probably too distracted by the extraordinary view of her boobs! A world of possibilities awaits you, my fine friends. Clandestine Mimic Massager Picture this: you’re in a bathtub with your one true love, and you want to go down on her, but you can’t, because then you would drown! That’s where the Clandestine Mimic Massager comes in, enabling you to give your special somebody an oral-sex-esque experience while remaining face to face, above water, head in the clouds like a silly love song. It’s rechargeable with eight vibration speeds and is designed to fit right into your hand. nJoy Pure Wand As Lara the Sous Chef famously told Dana Fairbanks, female ejaculation is nothing to be ashamed of, it’s actually one of the best things ever! The nJoy Pure Wand gave our reviewer her best orgasm ever, and what’s more romantic than that? The Shi/Shi Union Girl Vibe At last we’ve come to our Ultimate Lesbian Sex Toy: designed by a lesbian who truly loves to scissor, the Shi/Shi Union is the first vibrating pleasure device designed specifically for female couples. Two contoured orbs, attached at their base and controlled independently by remote, smash right onto your vulvas and between your interlocked legs for scissoring sensations that’ll send you soaring into a sapphic sex solar system. Source

Let's play - Do you prefer using a dildo or bullet or both? Why would you pick one over the other?