Administrators Prisca Posted April 20, 2018 Administrators Share Posted April 20, 2018 Do you think long-distance relationships work out? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Moderators kimi Posted April 20, 2018 Moderators Share Posted April 20, 2018 "Yes I do" (said like the deloitte dude on big brother 😁) Provided both parties are committed to making it work. If two agree about a thing... 🙄📿 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mimy Posted April 20, 2018 Share Posted April 20, 2018 Why won't long distance relationship work for gay folks when one literally have to meet like over 1000 straight folks before meeting just one gay one (and you're damn lucky is she's your spec and like you too). 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Txunamy Posted April 20, 2018 Share Posted April 20, 2018 Yeah, long relationships works just fine. Just like @kimi said, as long as the parties are committed to making it work. These days, I prefer long distance sef. don't want someone breathing down my neck. And I am living in Lagos, dating someone in Lagos too is long distance. Well, except she lives down my street. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Damiee Posted April 20, 2018 Share Posted April 20, 2018 I do! As long as parties are willing to put in the work and remain optimistic, cos so on some days, it will be hard. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
VINA Posted April 20, 2018 Share Posted April 20, 2018 Now let me break long distance relationships into two, taking the Nigerian gay scene into consideration. 1) I am dating a girl 10000000 miles away from me and i have never seen her, no memories, I have no idea how she tastes, walks, smiles, talks. Those little things you remember and just smile. All i work with is hope, imagination, faith that one day the distance will close up and most times we literally break up before we legit see each other. Wtf!!! 2) I have dated my girl for 2 years, we have stayed together, been together for half of those years. I know her like the palm of my hand, i know her mannerisms, her gestures. When she laughs on the phone, i smile because i know how she looks while laughing. Then she gets a job and moves to Florida while i am still in Nigeria. Also long distance. i can do number 2, i would rather number 2. But i really cannot fathom number 1. How do you fall in love with someone you haven't seen???? I would stick with my number 2 bae for years, until we can work something out, i would wait for her, i would keep myself, i would make sure distance is not a barrier, i would keep loving her as long as she doesnt change. It would definitely work with number 2 bae, but with number 1, its dead on arrival. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mimy Posted April 20, 2018 Share Posted April 20, 2018 6 hours ago, vina said: 1) I am dating a girl 10000000 miles away from me and i have never seen her, no memories, I have no idea how she tastes, walks, smiles, talks. Those little things you remember and just smile. All i work with is hope, imagination, faith that one day the distance will close up and most times we literally break up before we legit see each other. Wtf!!! Lol this scenario you painted is quit funny. Unless you two live really really far like across countries and neither of you can afford to go see the other. Else why rely on hope and imaginations when either of you can just go see the other within first few months Into the relationship. It's actually possible to fall in love with someone you've never meet before. To be attracted to her mind, opinion on certain issues, voice, laughter, sense of humor... Before even meeting the person. It's not that hard you know. Lol it just happens 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
VINA Posted April 21, 2018 Share Posted April 21, 2018 19 hours ago, Gimbiyya said: Lol this scenario you painted is quit funny. Unless you two live really really far like across countries and neither of you can afford to go see the other. Else why rely on hope and imaginations when either of you can just go see the other within first few months Into the relationship. It's actually possible to fall in love with someone you've never meet before. To be attracted to her mind, opinion on certain issues, voice, laughter, sense of humor... Before even meeting the person. It's not that hard you know. Lol it just happens Dude i cant!!!! The ones wey i dey see sef, i never fall in love with. its a personal opinion. I am talking from my own view and experiences, everybody is different. Number 1 is not for me. Thanchu.. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Midnighter Posted April 22, 2018 Share Posted April 22, 2018 On 20/04/2018 at 6:53 AM, kimi said: Provided both parties are committed to making it work. If two agree about a thing... 🙄📿 You are absolutely correct. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Keke Posted April 26, 2018 Share Posted April 26, 2018 Depends on what you mean by "work out". "It was beautiful the while it lasted"? Then yes, it works for me. Long distance is all I've ever done. I've never really been with anyone who stays in the same city as I do. I don't know if that's delibrate, but I actually really feel that's the only thing that works well because of all the space you get and mutual respect of boundaries. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Hawken Posted April 28, 2018 Share Posted April 28, 2018 Neh. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MENA Posted April 28, 2018 Share Posted April 28, 2018 My opinion, long distance is crap! 1. Most partners are not faithful. 2. Sometimes when they finally meet, it doesn't work out. 3. If they were together before, one just keep hoping while the other has already move on. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
dequeen Posted May 12, 2018 Share Posted May 12, 2018 Gray areas.... LDR's work but they depend on so so much for them to work....so much that it gets tiring to keep up. Most LDRs only give you the chance to meet the persons mind, their heart, their voice. You might love all that and not love the persons physical appearance. Pictures lie....we take 10pictures, delete 9, and keep the one that has us looking like superstars... I have physically disappointed peeps but let me talk of the time I was physically disappointed. This girl, we were awesomeness on our chats....Her pictures made me feel she was a light shade of chocolate in complexion (forgive me for being a petty human). We met and she was as light skinned as a ripe mango fruit. My heart really sank....this wasn't going to work and of course it didn't. I don't think much about cheating because being faithful in a relationship is so darn easy. Especially when the parties involved aren't idle people and know what the word 'character' means. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mifled Posted May 15, 2018 Share Posted May 15, 2018 Lol....I think long distance is my definition of a relationship. I like my space a whole lot. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ChazBee Posted May 15, 2018 Share Posted May 15, 2018 I've really tried long distance on different scales But I hasn't worked out for me. I am a clingy kinda girl, I hate to pretend to be unnecessarily strong when am crazy about someone and if am dating you I wanna spend as much time with you as I can so that when that distance happens I will have a memory to hold unto. Long distance is mostly an illusion to me especially with people who think there's a pattern on which a relationship should work. Mbok, I love to cuddle and gist till midnight. I remember dating someone while in school, I was in Abuja and she was in Enugu. I drove to Enugu every two weekends and every opportunity I get to just be with her. That's me because Afterall I don't know how long I will have them for so why date someone in manfe while am in Kafanchan? 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Hawken Posted May 15, 2018 Share Posted May 15, 2018 4 hours ago, ChazBee said: I remember dating someone while in school, I was in Abuja and she was in Enugu. I drove to Enugu every two weekends and every opportunity I get to just be with her. I don't understand. Is Enugu not far from Abuja? Is there a shortcut or something? Tbh, I'm confused, 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Txunamy Posted May 15, 2018 Share Posted May 15, 2018 1 hour ago, Hawken said: I don't understand. Is Enugu not far from Abuja? Is there a shortcut or something? Tbh, I'm confused, Hawk... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Hawken Posted May 15, 2018 Share Posted May 15, 2018 2 hours ago, Ivyy said: Hawk... Lol no, seriously. I want somebody to love me like that. Anh anh Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Txunamy Posted May 15, 2018 Share Posted May 15, 2018 56 minutes ago, Hawken said: Lol no, seriously. I want somebody to love me like that. Anh anh Haha haha! I give up on you..😁 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ChazBee Posted May 16, 2018 Share Posted May 16, 2018 17 hours ago, Hawken said: I don't understand. Is Enugu not far from Abuja? Is there a shortcut or something? Tbh, I'm confused, It's very far oo, about 5 to 6 hours by road but I can do more for someone I call my own. I love hard girl Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
VINA Posted July 19, 2018 Share Posted July 19, 2018 If a relationship is distant for years upon years, my people, is that really a relationship?? Or you guys are just phone buddies?? I am still reiterating it, no no no no no nah, kush nein, Mba, nay, never. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Moderators kimi Posted July 19, 2018 Moderators Share Posted July 19, 2018 11 minutes ago, vina said: If a relationship is distant for years upon years, my people, is that really a relationship?? Or you guys are just phone buddies?? Hahahahaha. Please leave us alone 😁 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Michelle Posted January 6, 2019 Share Posted January 6, 2019 I've only done this in one relationship and I believe it worked for so long because we were able to see each other often...she flew in often. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Michelle Posted March 28, 2020 Share Posted March 28, 2020 It's workin'. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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