Self-Sabotaging at Work

[kimi]

Hi Girls,

So here's the thing. I've made an observation with younger women in the corporate world. They communicate with their emotions rather than using their words. So for example, they rebel, or give an attitude or worse off, deploy the silent treatment when they aren't happy with the terms of their work etc... and each time, they fail to realize that they are only setting themselves up for further harm.

These occurences only spell out one thing -the need for women to invest in mentors or better still, seek out a sponsor who could play that role as well. 

Personally, I prefer female mentors but I've always had male ones... I would do another follow-up post on how to befriend a prospective mentor.

I'm hoping that women would understand better the name of the 'game' and play it as professionally as their counterparts do. 

Selah 📿

 

[Chilee]

12 hours ago, kimi said:

. I would do another follow-up post on how to befriend a prospective mentor.

Will be looking out for this🙌🏾

[kimi]

From time to time, I would post updates as I encounter more ways in which women do not play the corporate game smartly. 

Quid Pro Quo:

It is very important to always think in terms of quid pro quo in the work place. Nothing goes for nothing. Always keep that in mind. When next you go out of your way for a colleague, bank it because, although unspoken, that person now owes you a favour in return.

In instances where they fail to reciprocate the goodwill extended to them, cross them off your list and cease from going out of your way for them as well. It's not personal, it's business and one of the unspoken currencies deployed in the work place.

Be transactional with your work relationships, I can bet you that your colleagues are too. *wink*

[kimi]

Leverage:
It may happen that you are made an offer from another organization you aren't necessarily interested in. I find people simply turning it down and using it as bragging rights without leveraging the opportunity to the maximum!

When next you are made an offer you are not looking to take probably because you enjoy your current company, I urge you to actively negotiate the offer to ensure that it offers more than your present role. Then, take that offer and use it to your advantage. Set up a meeting with your manager and present the facts. Talk about how you love your work and how you would love to stay if they are able to perhaps match the benefits from the other company.

The truth is that, if you are good at what you do and the company values your contribution, they will match it or at the very minimum bump you up if they are not able to match it a 100%

[kimi]

Hey Ladies,

What's poppin' lol. It's been an eventful day and I have made attempts at posting this 3 times already but kept getting distracted with the things of the world. Lol. 

I'll be continuing with the series and before another distraction hits, I better get on with it *wink*

Not burning your bridges:
There is always a right and wrong way of exiting a company.

Remember that your work relationships extend beyond your organisation. If your skills are specialist in nature, then chances are that your pool is much smaller and you are most likely to move to another place where you aren't so much of a stranger and people can easily get reference checks simply by reaching out to your previous colleagues.

Personally, these basic etiquette tips would set you on the path of leaving the right way and if you are wondering about why you should care about making a clean exit, then... all I would say is that these people who would soon become your former colleagues are now part of your network. You never can know who can help you with the next connect.

Here are a few things to note when exiting a company:

Give adequate or the stipulated notice period that your company requires. Do a proper handover. Lol. As basic as this reads, it isn't so basic and you find people leaving without putting together a handover note. It isn't so nice when this happens... "to what end really?" I ask myself.

In additon to the above and for the love of God, don't lie because you would be found out. Lol. If you would rather not say where you're headed then tell them out right. You are an adult and entitled to not say. These days, even kids are entitled to say no!

...and of course, don't leave with company property. Lol. Please. Lool.