Administrators FlyJ Posted December 1, 2013 Administrators Share Posted December 1, 2013  1. Ideal circumstances. The happiest people do not live with a certain set of circumstances, but rather with a certain set of attitudes. Choosing to be positive and grateful for what you have now is going to determine how youâre going to live the rest of your life. So look for something positive about today. Even if you have to look a little harder than usual, it still exists.  Ultimately, your greatest achievements are moments in time when what youâre doing allows you to see how wonderful your life already is.  2. Everyoneâs approval. The biggest prison you will likely ever live in is your fear of what other people think.  You cannot let other people tell you who you are or what you want. You have to decide that for yourself. When youâre making big decisions, remember, what you think of yourself and your life is more important than what people think of you. Donât let others make you feel guilty for living your life. Itâs YOUR life. As long as youâre not hurting anyone else, live it YOUR way.  Fulfillment and success in life lie in your ability to use your entire mind to achieve your goals, dreams and desires. Take sufficient time to spend with yourself, without external interference. Youâre worth it. (Angel and I discuss this in more detail in the âSelf-Loveâ chapter of 1,000 Little Things Happy, Successful People Do Differently.)  ***. A perfect past. Do not let the shadows of your past darken the doorstep of your present and future. Let go, forgive and move forward. Just because the past didnât turn out like you had hoped, doesnât mean your future canât be better than you had envisioned. In fact, we often grow stronger in the places we were once broken. Because itâs not until youâre broken for a while that you truly learn what youâre made of on the inside. And this insight gives you the ability to rebuild yourself, stronger than ever before.  Most of the time the only difference between long-term happiness and long-term despair is not quitting on yourself. As long as you are breathing itâs never too late. Today is a new beginning.  4. Full control of lifeâs constant changes. Life is constantly changing and weâre changing with it. Weâre not the same person we were a year ago, a month ago, or a week ago. Lifeâs cycle doesnât stop. Change is what itâs all about. But every ending is the beginning of something else. Every exit is an entry somewhere else. Live, learn, and let go. Donât hold yourself down with the changes you canât control.  Although some forces are out of your control, you can control how you react to things. Everyoneâs life has positive and negative aspects â whether youâre happy or not depends greatly on which aspects you focus on. The best thing you can do is to let go of what you canât control, and invest your energy in the things you can. Live simply, love generously, speak truthfully, breathe deeply, do your best, and leave the rest to the powers above you. (Read The Road Less Traveled.)  5. A carefree, stress-free life. Great challenges make life interesting; overcoming them makes life meaningful. Donât wait until everything is just right; it will never be perfect. There will always be challenges, obstacles and less than perfect conditions. So what! Get started now! With each step you take, you will grow stronger and stronger, more skilled, more confident, and more successful.  Say it: âI am determined to live a happy life no matter my challenges! I will turn all my tales of fury into tales of glory! I will turn all of my tales of woe into tales of WOW!â And no matter what happens, just do your best and appreciate what youâre learning. You wonât enjoy your life if you donât enjoy your challenges.  6. All the things you donât have. You are right here, right now, with what you have, breathing. Enjoy it. Youâve got nothing to do today except to smile.  Happiness is valuing what you have, and enjoying the people, places, objects and events in your life for what they are. Itâs not about changing and achieving all the time; sometimes itâs about being and appreciating. And you can nearly always enjoy the things you have and the events happening around you if you make up your mind firmly that you will.  7. A mountain of money. If we counted our blessings more often, instead of our money, we would be a lot richer. Keep money on your mind but out of your heart. Never get so busy making a living that you forget to make a life for yourself. Cultivate your spiritual growth. The real measure of your wealth is how much youâd be worth if you lost all your money.  Happiness formula = Do your best and appreciate what you have. Unhappiness formula = Compare yourself to others and the things they have.Itâs nice to have money and the things that money can buy, but itâs also important to make sure you havenât lost track of the things that money canât buy. You donât need a lot of money to lead a rich life. Good friends and a loving family are worth their weight in gold. It really is the little things that mean the most⌠like a long hug at just the right time. (Read The Happiness Project.)  8. Any event happening in another time and place. Make your time count. Do not wish your moments away. Do not ruin today by focusing on another time and place. There is only now; realize how rich you are in it.  Right now you are creating history â your legacy. Donât let life slip by without being aware of it. Life works in a strange way: You want something and you work and wait and work and wait, and feel like itâs taking forever to come. Then it happens and itâs over and all you want to do is relive all the great memories you made along the way.  Happiness is the journey. Open your eyes. Donât miss it.  9. Constant happiness. The bottom line is that you canât be happy unless youâre unhappy sometimes. Life is not always perfect, and the utopian world of constant happiness in not natural, nor should you expect it.  In the short-term, your mood will fluctuate, but it is your ability to realize and deal with these fluctuations that allows you to maintain long-term happiness. Any fool can be happy when times are good. It takes a strong soul with real heart to develop smiles out of situations that make most people weep. But it is possible.  Live every day of your life in full. Experience the highs and the lows, the positives and the negatives, and all the moods present between the various extremes. Donât focus on simply being happy. Focus on living a well-rounded, seasoned life. Focus on achieving completeness. Yes, happiness is part of this completeness, but so is sadness, difficulty, frustration, and failure. And overcoming these latter points supports your personal growth far more than constant happiness.  Next steps⌠Choose happiness today by taking life moment by moment, complaining very little, and being thankful for the little things that mean a lot.  Your turn⌠What would you add to the list? What do we sometimes forget we do NOT need to be happy?  Source  1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
chishlom Posted December 1, 2013 Share Posted December 1, 2013 good one,I needed that!!! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Suavity Posted December 1, 2013 Share Posted December 1, 2013 Thanks @flyj, you just made my day! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lovebird Posted December 1, 2013 Share Posted December 1, 2013 9ce!!very 9ce..its going to help me..alot Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
dreamgal Posted December 1, 2013 Share Posted December 1, 2013 very good and true. I have learnt that happiness unlike what I was taught is not when you get what you want or add to you, happiness is actually when you take awaay/remove from you. happiness is the absence of suffering (unhappiness) and when u remove or detach yourself from things that bring suffering to you, ur happiness is sure. happiness is temporal for most people cs they expect it from people or material things(cud be family, a gud job, a good spouse or maybe a new car). they forget that nothing last forever and so deriving happiness from something temporal will always shortened ur happiness. so wenever something or someone is makin u unhappy, simply remove it from your life.lol. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
dreamgal Posted December 1, 2013 Share Posted December 1, 2013 very good and true. I have learnt that happiness unlike what I was taught is not when you get what you want or add to you, happiness is actually when you take awaay/remove from you. happiness is the absence of suffering (unhappiness) and when u remove or detach yourself from things that bring suffering to you, ur happiness is sure. happiness is temporal for most people cs they expect it from people or material things(cud be family, a gud job, a good spouse or maybe a new car). they forget that nothing last forever and so deriving happiness from something temporal will always shortened ur happiness. so wenever something or someone is makin u unhappy, simply remove it from your life.lol. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Administrators FlyJ Posted December 1, 2013 Author Administrators Share Posted December 1, 2013 Happy Y'all enjoyed reading this piece... 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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