dreamgal Posted January 16, 2015 Share Posted January 16, 2015 lets say you are already in love with her, yet to have sex tho. she wakes you up one night to reveal she is HIV positive, and didn't tell you earlier cause she was scared you will leave her. will you go on with the relationship or break up? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
relangel Posted January 16, 2015 Share Posted January 16, 2015 Thank God we never have sex but she wild have told me from the beginning before I fall in will not leave her but will pray for miracle of healing Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Iris Posted January 16, 2015 Share Posted January 16, 2015 I wouldn’t expect an HIV positive person to tell everyone she meets she’s positive. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
dreamgal Posted January 16, 2015 Author Share Posted January 16, 2015 hmmm, una get mind. I am going to be a good friend to her, but the relationship part can't work anymore. no preventive measure is 100%, can't risk it Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Iris Posted January 16, 2015 Share Posted January 16, 2015 Lol good friend. Anyway, well...nobody said they would date an HIV infected person. I’m talking from a "Married Couple-'ONLY' one of them is Positive-Child is Negative " perspective. I know there are recorded stats. (This is why screening before any kind of 'deep' investment is the safest option). Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
dreamgal Posted January 16, 2015 Author Share Posted January 16, 2015 Lol good friend. Anyway, well...nobody said they would date an HIV infected person. I’m talking from a "Married Couple-'ONLY' one of them is Positive-Child is Negative " perspective. I know there are recorded stats. (This is why screening before any kind of 'deep' investment is the safest option). the last part (tho not too popular in nigeria) is very true and necessary. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Nomusa Posted January 16, 2015 Share Posted January 16, 2015 if someone is honest to me about their status and if I am into them then I would date that person.. And be grateful to them because These days most people don't reveal their status anyways, some do not even know.. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
dreamgal Posted January 16, 2015 Author Share Posted January 16, 2015 if someone is honest to me about their status and if I am into them then I would date that person.. And be grateful to them because These days most people don't reveal their status anyways, some do not even know.. hmmm nice point. I didn't see it that way initially. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Milad Posted January 16, 2015 Share Posted January 16, 2015 You only get one life, and I am not putting mine into a blender. We can be friends but not chancing it 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
dequeen Posted January 16, 2015 Share Posted January 16, 2015 HELL NO! I won't bear the consequences of any bodies actions with them. I can be your friend though but I have the inclination for stigmatization. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
savvy Posted January 16, 2015 Share Posted January 16, 2015 Truth be told,doubt I'd be able to bring myself to go on with the relationship and what's the point of holding on to something if you both ain't happy cos blieve you me id just be pretending to be happy...although being Hiv positive ain't the end of the world and I'd tell her i appreciate the fact that she trusted me enough with such secrete but then naaaaaaaa i won't be able to bring myself to do anything sexual with her Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Fummy Posted January 17, 2015 Share Posted January 17, 2015 Well that's a hard one.... Honestly I don't know what I'll do, I doubt if I'll want to continue with the relationship and Even if I continue with it, there would be nothing sexual between us, there are so many risks involved. However, I won't leave her as am already in love with her its not like I can jump out of fall with her so I'll still care for her, love her n be there for her as a super close friend n all... Though to be sincere, I would feel hurt finding out about her status after investing so much in our relationship/falling in love with her NO not because she is HIV positive but because she had to wait that long to tell me, I know its not something that's that easy to share but I hate secrets, if its important to you, pls tell me before we start a relationship, that's why its a good idea to be friends first and yeah I'll forgive her and understand how hard it must have been for her but I feel its kinda wrong to hide something that important from someone you are in love with.. Being Hiv positive isn't the end of the world, she deserves to be with someone who knows her status and loves her nevertheless... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Iris Posted January 17, 2015 Share Posted January 17, 2015 the last part (tho not too popular in nigeria) is very true and necessary. Yh. It's an exception not d norm. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Iris Posted January 17, 2015 Share Posted January 17, 2015 if someone is honest to me about their status and if I am into them then I would date that person.. And be grateful to them because These days most people don't reveal their status anyways, some do not even know.. "And be grateful to them because These days most people don't reveal their status anyways, some do not even know..". Wise. There's absolutely no ambiguity about d fact that she told you for the sole reason that she cares to. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Iris Posted January 17, 2015 Share Posted January 17, 2015 Not every positive person is/was promiscuous. If you want to challenge that fact, go for a test today. If you want to make a difference, if you'd rather not be in this situation at all, then screening before dating at all is important. I will say though that d best bet for an HIV infected person is to deal with her issue first (by praying to God) and look forward to a time God will heal her as d best time for meeting women. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Fummy Posted January 17, 2015 Share Posted January 17, 2015 if someone is honest to me about their status and if I am into them then I would date that person.. And be grateful to them because These days most people don't reveal their status anyways, some do not even know.. This is very true, most people don't even know their status @all, lol.... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Fummy Posted January 17, 2015 Share Posted January 17, 2015 if someone is honest to me about their status and if I am into them then I would date that person.. And be grateful to them because These days most people don't reveal their status anyways, some do not even know.. This is very true, most people don't even know their status @all, lol.... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
evelyn Posted January 22, 2015 Share Posted January 22, 2015 I pray o Na to ferege sure pass Nt putting my self at risk biko Friendship tins Ya'll aint being truthful to ur selves Wen ebola dey country hmmm most of ya'll stopped hugging Heheh Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
dequeen Posted January 23, 2015 Share Posted January 23, 2015 I pray o Na to ferege sure pass Nt putting my self at risk biko Friendship tins Ya'll aint being truthful to ur selves Wen ebola dey country hmmm most of ya'll stopped hugging Heheh Lol.... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sophia blinks Posted January 24, 2015 Share Posted January 24, 2015 I honestly don't know what my reactions would be. No one ever knows until you are faced with such challenges. Those saying they will quit the relationship because you don't want to get infected,have you thought of the fact that you are prolly infected already. Assuming you in a relationship with that person and she didn't disclose from the onset that she's infected, then you are sexually involved with her, isn't there a chance that you are infected already. I think people would know what to do when in such predicaments but I'm sure I'll be a great friend. I don't know how. Much of a lover I'll be Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Helena Posted February 19, 2015 Share Posted February 19, 2015 I pray o Na to ferege sure pass Nt putting my self at risk biko Friendship tins Ya'll aint being truthful to ur selves Wen ebola dey country hmmm most of ya'll stopped hugging... I toyally agree!!! Esp. The hugging Heheh Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rencie Posted February 22, 2015 Share Posted February 22, 2015 Nope Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Milad Posted February 25, 2015 Share Posted February 25, 2015 Stigmatization is dangerous and leads people to conceal which is why I am against it. But whats equally dangerous is people being too selfish to disclose their situation early on. Granted you dont want to disclose to early, like upon meeting someone, but if you see someone is showing genuine interest in you then you need to disclose. Manipulating others feelings to make them fall for you knowing full well it wont go anywhere is playing games. Personally, if I were infected I wouldn't seek out non-infected people as mates, simply bc we don't yet have the capability to assure safety. So many lives can be affected and I am not that selfish. P.S. if you are a gold star lesbian this shouldn't even be an issue, hence my dating only lesbians who date only other lesbian. Sure can they lie yes, but that's what clinical tests are for. Get a full spectrum std profile lol Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Iris Posted February 25, 2015 Share Posted February 25, 2015 Tests way to go. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Michelle Posted April 25, 2019 Share Posted April 25, 2019 It would depend on whether I feel she is truly made for me. If so, there's not much that would make me consider walking away from her. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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