Bisexual invisibility: taking the B out of LGBT

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Bisexual invisibility or bisexual erasure according to Wiki is the " tendency to ignore, remove, falsify, or reexplain evidence of bisexuality in history, academia, the news media, and other primary sources. In some cases it may include denial of this sexuality or sheer biphobia. 

To Kenji Yoshino, there are three main things that may motivate the cultural erasure of bisexuality, both from homosexuals and heterosexuals. The first is sexual orientation stabilization, and this stems from the assumption that bisexuals are indecisive or that they are straight or gay folks in transition. This often manifests as biphobia within and outside the community. 
Then there is the need to uphold the importance of gender, and trying not to blur the binary lines of sexuality here,which majority believe is challenged by bisexuality. Finally, there is the need to maintain monogamous relationships, which bisexuals are thought to flaunt. From these assertions, it can be deduced that bisexuality appears as an aberration(being unable to pick a side), something not determined or decided by an identity label, and something not existing within the confines of the law of black and white.

The next question is who has it worse, or how true is the notion that bisexual men face more hostility than bisexual women?I think it's the reverse. Most bisexual men are haunted by the thought of sexual 'fluidity', believing that this denies them the right to politically align with gay men.The stereotype attached to most bi-men is that as bisexuals that they are gay, but are not fully out yet. This makes it super hard to date women (because they think you are gay), and it makes it pretty hard to date men because they think you are still partially in the closet and most guys don't want to deal with that stuff. Talk about being a bad bisexual. *Bland face emoji. And for the ladies, some men find it sexy that the lady they are about to get down with has already done it with different ladies, it seems the thought of having sex with a girl and her past gets it kinky. But it is not really all that rosy for bi-women, I mean they still have to face that bias from lesbians who believe that bisexual women are promiscuous 'queer apologetics' and 'gold star lesbians, so constantly switching sides or only sleep with ladies for fun as they'll eventually end up with men. These all become a huge problem when bisexuality has to contend with the two mainstream sexualities, homosexuality and heterosexuality, in a society that still views bisexuality as a pitstop to gayville or heterodom. Also,bisexuality as a legit sexuality is currently overlooked in the same sex debate, where the inclusion or exclusion of the bisexual person here depends on the gender of the person she/he wants to marry. This does not only lead to their marginalisation, but also limits their ability of expression within queer circles.
In addition, there is that overpowering need by the media to blur the lines. This is evident in the cases of personalities like Lady Gaga, Madonna, Kristen Stewart, Cynthia Nixon and Ani DiFranco, who are all openly bisexual but are given either the straight or gay tag when it appears 'convenient'.
It becomes problematic when bisexuality is viewed as "a privilege in order to be accepted within normative structures of sexuality and human relations. This privileged position, within a hetero-normative framework of gender and sexuality, allows for the misrepresentation and inclusion of these experiences. A woman who is feminine and bi-sexual can "pass" as straight if presently engaged in hetero-normative/straight sexual acts. In this case, femininity acts as a privilege within the queer context".

Biphobia: excluding the B from the LGBT.
The LGBT is where the B is supposed to feel safe and comfortable, but when happens when home becomes a war front you have to run away from, when biphobic slurs exist even in the midst of what you consider a queer haven? And these slurs are proof of a 'nauseating invalidation' of bisexuality in queer spaces.
According to Joel Lucyszyn, we must " dispel the myth that bisexual people benefit benefit from heterosexual privilege. While bisexual people can – and it’s sad that we often feel we have to – ‘pass as straight’ while in heterosexual relationships, any out and confidently bisexual person suffers the same at the hands of homophobia as lesbians or gay men".
And it doesn't just stop here, like "no homophobe will look at a bisexual man differently because he sleeps with women. The guys who shout ‘faggot’ at you in the street won’t stop to ask if you also like girls, and frankly, they don’t care. It is the threat of same-sex love, as real in bisexuals as in homosexuals, that is targeted and vilified. In fact, it’s often worse for bisexual people: the conceptions of bisexuals as unsafe, promiscuous and untrustworthy stems partly from the AIDS epidemic, where bisexual men were seen as ‘infecting’ the straight community with a disease they were keen to see isolated in queer people. The hostility of straight people toward bisexuals as ‘infiltrators’ is regrettably mirrored in the LGBT community, where we are consistently degraded and excluded for our heterosexual experiences and relationships".
I think Biphobia in queer space is pure ungratefulness, like totally ignoring the pioneering efforts and struggles of bisexual people from the first ever pride parade to date.
And finally, "bisexual people should never be apologetic on behalf of their identity, and we should assert the validity of our presence in queer spaces. But make no mistake: the onus is on monosexuals in the LGBT community to educate themselves on these issues, rather than taxing their bisexual friends and colleagues with the emotional labour of inquiry".

Links
https://www.varsity.co.uk/features/13617
https://www.google.com.ng/amp/s/amp.reddit.com/r/lgbt/comments/3njuhz/why_is_there_such_a_huge_biphobia_issue_in_the/
https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Bisexual_erasure