Administrators FlyJ Posted May 25, 2018 Administrators Share Posted May 25, 2018 Everyone comes out differently. Some people do it all at once, while others take years to get round to telling all of their nearest and dearest. There are many reasons why waiting can make sense, but that feeling when you finally take the step you’ve been dreading – especially if nothing falls apart – is wonderful. That’s exactly what one woman felt when she came out to her parents – by revealing that she had had a girlfriend for three years. “Finally open about my 3 year relationship to my family,” she wrote on Reddit, above a picture of the adorable couple. “100% out of the closet! So free.” The photo, which was taken at events venue Macaluso’s in New Jersey, received more than 19,000 upvotes and led to an outpouring of joy from commenters. Speaking to PinkNews, she recounted the stress of finally coming out to her parents. Asked how she felt, she said: “During: anxiety through the roof. “After: Free. I had been hiding who I was from them for waaaaay too long so it just feels odd to not have to lie anymore.” he added: “They reassured me they still loved me but neither of them are enthusiastic or joining PFLAG anytime soon lol.” On Reddit, she added: “My dad was the worst and says maybe my depression and mental health issues I’ve been having lately are because of ‘my lifestyle choice’ but ultimately he said he loves me and he’ll have to learn to deal and get over it. (His words).” But, she said, this had not affected the way she sees herself. “The only choice I’d ever be voluntarily making is denying who I am and settling down with a man to make them happy,” she said. “My real identity isn’t a choice (nor the cause of my mental health issues).” She added: “I hope they come around eventually. Love is love!” Lying for so long had taken a toll on her, she told PinkNews. “It was awful,” she said. “I lied to my mum constantly about my girlfriend being my best friend, but I wasn’t financially independent, so I didn’t wanna risk coming out and being cut off. “My girlfriend has been out so her family always knew about us and they were a great support system – it was like having a second family.” And the couple had a lovely story to go with their cute picture, as she explained. “We had been following each other on Tumblr since high school and then years later came across each other on a dating site (fate!) and recognised each other from years back and met up in the city for a date,” she said. “She really is a fairytale come true – not to say we don’t have our bad days, but I’m very lucky.” Some people wrote that the photo reminded them of Rosa and Amy from Brooklyn Nine-Nine, which delighted her. “Omg I love it!!” she said. “We’re both huge fans of the show so it was the best compliment .” And in response to hateful comments left below the photo, she wrote: “We’re lesbians and we’re gonna have kids and it will be wonderful.” So that’s that, then. Source 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Calllaris Posted May 25, 2018 Share Posted May 25, 2018 The biggest menace to 'coming out' in our community is the non- committalness. On this shore,1% believes in this thing. We don't believe in this plight at all. We don't believe in our partners therefore we can't rebel our family. We don't believe in love apart from the love that borders responsibility (read, heterosexual marriage). We dare not be different. Its mostly theory, poems and sex. Our tradition won after all. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Moderators kimi Posted May 25, 2018 Moderators Share Posted May 25, 2018 Congratulations to the pair. 😗 Lol Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
VINA Posted May 25, 2018 Share Posted May 25, 2018 Beautiful couple. I likey phewww!!! If the Americans who have it legal have the butterflies and jitters too, how much more Nigerians??? will this ever get easy easy???? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
dequeen Posted May 25, 2018 Share Posted May 25, 2018 9 hours ago, Calllaris said: The biggest menace to 'coming out' in our community is the non- committalness. On this shore,1% believes in this thing. We don't believe in this plight at all. We don't believe in our partners therefore we can't rebel our family. We don't believe in love apart from the love that borders responsibility (read, heterosexual marriage). We dare not be different. Its mostly theory, poems and sex. Our tradition won after all. @Calllaris Please do you mind expounding this?? I am especially interested in the concept of "noncommittalness". What is it, how is it affecting our Nigerian queer community, what are the solutions (How do we overcome it)? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Damiee Posted May 25, 2018 Share Posted May 25, 2018 Awwww 😌😌😌 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Althena Posted May 26, 2018 Share Posted May 26, 2018 The freedom is un-explainable!!! 😍😍😍👏👏👏 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Calllaris Posted May 27, 2018 Share Posted May 27, 2018 On 5/25/2018 at 1:35 PM, dequeen said: @Calllaris Please do you mind expounding this?? I am especially interested in the concept of "noncommittalness". What is it, how is it affecting our Nigerian queer community, what are the solutions (How do we overcome it)? .. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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