Ewoma Posted January 11, 2019 Share Posted January 11, 2019 When u are a friend or an intimate relationship with someone that complains about your status, achievement, job.everything around you. But still refuses to bow out of the friendship. Can we call it LOVE or lust? Lets talk about it, it's a true life story. Compares ur social status, knows she is ahead of you in almost everything, but still refuses to walk away. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Moderators kimi Posted January 11, 2019 Moderators Share Posted January 11, 2019 I would require more details to make the selection. Is sex involved? Do they both assume to be in a romantic relationship with each other? Do they proclaim love for each other? What is each party getting out of this: sex, financial gains, a girlfriend title etc.. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ewoma Posted January 11, 2019 Author Share Posted January 11, 2019 I will send u a dm to that Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Moderators kimi Posted January 11, 2019 Moderators Share Posted January 11, 2019 Okay... thanks Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Moderators kimi Posted January 11, 2019 Moderators Share Posted January 11, 2019 Thanks for that... They both need to have a honest conversation about your friend's realities and certain concerns need to be addressed. Ultimately, after your friend has had this somewhat difficult conversation, all that is left to do is to allow her decide and to respect her decision. That is; to either accept her for who she is which includes her present circumstances or exit the relationship and not cause further damage... your friend needs to be firm and strong (I understand that this may be very emotionally crippling). She needs to love herself enough and risk losing someone who perhaps doesn't feel the same way about her because the truth is, actions speak louder than words. Personally, I am of the opinion that people who look down on others do so because of their own insecuirities of being inadequate. 2 1 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ewoma Posted January 11, 2019 Author Share Posted January 11, 2019 #Trutalk.......when u choose someone as a friend.. It's a lot of sacrifice,the ability for you to be a positive change in someones life makes us unique. If u don't like ur friends condition, so because of that u talk down and make them feel like a piece of shit...Be proud of whoever you call ur friend, Friendship is a commitment, not necessarily dating or romantic. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ChazBee Posted January 11, 2019 Share Posted January 11, 2019 I hate to be nagged, it's something I can't forgive. If you're unsatisfied about something have a conversation about it and not nag me, I don't know how to forgive that, it kills me and as soon as I find myself with someone who does that to me I just wallllk...... And keep walking 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mimy Posted January 11, 2019 Share Posted January 11, 2019 How about this said person help in uplifting her? since she's so worried about her friend's circumstances. isn't that what friends are for. You'll not help me out of my predicament yet you find joy in ridiculing me. What kind of a witch are you. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Moderators kimi Posted January 11, 2019 Moderators Share Posted January 11, 2019 57 minutes ago, Mimy said: What kind of a witch are you. Hahahahaha... this is deep. Lol Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Michelle Posted January 11, 2019 Share Posted January 11, 2019 Why do I get the feeling that nagging from Naija women is on another level and outside of the norm? 😟 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Michelle Posted January 11, 2019 Share Posted January 11, 2019 1 minute ago, kimi said: Hahahahaha... this is deep. Lol Says the witch. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Moderators kimi Posted January 11, 2019 Moderators Share Posted January 11, 2019 1 hour ago, Michelle said: Says the witch. Hahaha. Takes one to know one witchie. 🙃😈 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Damiee Posted January 11, 2019 Share Posted January 11, 2019 4 hours ago, Mimy said: How about this said person help in uplifting her? since she's so worried about her friend's circumstances. isn't that what friends are for. You'll not help me out of my predicament yet you find joy in ridiculing me. What kind of a witch are you. 😂😂😂 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Damiee Posted January 11, 2019 Share Posted January 11, 2019 3 hours ago, Michelle said: Why do I get the feeling that nagging from Naija women is on another level and outside of the norm? 😟 Lol it’s not. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ewoma Posted January 11, 2019 Author Share Posted January 11, 2019 5 hours ago, Mimy said: Nice comment, let's bring it on Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Diff Posted January 12, 2019 Share Posted January 12, 2019 20 hours ago, Ewoma said: When u are a friend or an intimate relationship with someone that complains about your status, achievement, job.everything around you. But still refuses to bow out of the friendship. Can we call it LOVE or lust? Lets talk about it, it's a true life story. Compares ur social status, knows she is ahead of you in almost everything, but still refuses to walk away. In my opinion, she uses that person to feel good about herself because she's insecure. If she's with someone she's considerably "better" than, she could feel a bit better about herself. Or ... some people are like that and don't realize they are being toxic, so they can't help but be that way around those they love. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
dequeen Posted January 15, 2019 Share Posted January 15, 2019 In my opinion, the abused is more often than not an enabler to the abuser. Respecting and Loving yourself means walking away from a crippling person or situation. There are things that don't change. There are things about people that we can't change. If we hold on and think we will change those people, we lie to ourselves and remain victims of their abuse of us and enablers as well. Love sometimes means walking away. Clinging to a bad situation is not love, it is suicide. 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Moderators kimi Posted January 15, 2019 Moderators Share Posted January 15, 2019 10 minutes ago, dequeen said: In my opinion, the abused is more often than not an enabler to the abuser. Respecting and Loving yourself means walking away from a crippling person or situation. There are things that don't change. There are things about people that we can't change. If we hold on and think we will change those people, we lie to ourselves and remain victims of their abuse of us and enablers as well. Love sometimes means walking away. Clinging to a bad situation is not love, it is suicide. #Word... very profound words. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ewoma Posted January 16, 2019 Author Share Posted January 16, 2019 Hmmm Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MENA Posted January 16, 2019 Share Posted January 16, 2019 On 1/11/2019 at 12:16 PM, kimi said: I would require more details to make the selection. Is sex involved? Do they both assume to be in a romantic relationship with each other? Do they proclaim love for each other? What is each party getting out of this: sex, financial gains, a girlfriend title etc.. You sounded like a love Doctor here😁 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Moderators kimi Posted January 16, 2019 Moderators Share Posted January 16, 2019 6 minutes ago, MENA said: You sounded like a love Doctor here😁 Hahahaha. An amateur for sure lol 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ewoma Posted January 17, 2019 Author Share Posted January 17, 2019 13 hours ago, kimi said: Hahahaha. An amateur for sure lol I spoke with my friend whose experience I shared, she made it clear to me that everything has been sorted out between them. We wanna use this medium to appreciate all comments and advices unbehalf of my friend, We say thank you all......Gracias..... We love you all... Lesson's learned. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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