chocolat Posted August 28, 2013 Share Posted August 28, 2013 We all have done something or experience something, that we prefer to keep as a secret. Infact, some people will take their secret to the grave; Because once the truth comes out their will be shame and blame. So I pose this question to all 1. What is your biggest secret ***. Why are you so afraid to let it out. ***. How long do you intended to carry this burden. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
chocolat Posted August 28, 2013 Author Share Posted August 28, 2013 At age 14, I was molested by a close family friend, that was my first sexual contact with any person and for some reason the sex felt good, infact I think I cam during the ordeal so I blame my self for it. For so long, I replayed that incident in my head like it was yesterday and it pissed me off every time. I was mad at myself for so long because I didn't fight back, I hated that i didn't tell my parents or anyone because I was too afraid of the outcome plus I wasn't sure if anyone will believe me since my perpetrator was 10yrs older than me. I eventually seek help and through therapy and counseling, am No longer a victim. Although I have not disclosed and will not disclose that incident to my family. I know now that some people are sick and will hurt you because they've being hurt and knows no better. I am only responsible for my action not theirs. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Administrators FlyJ Posted August 30, 2013 Administrators Share Posted August 30, 2013 We all have done something or experience something, that we prefer to keep as a secret. Infact, some people will take their secret to the grave; Because once the truth comes out their will be shame and blame. So I pose this question to all 1. What is your biggest secret ***. Why are you so afraid to let it out. ***. How long do you intended to carry this burden. 1) Being gay maybe. 2) I am not afraid to let it out but i just don't want to hurt my parents. ***) I have no idea. I have just accepted to live a double life at least that gets me through. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Moderators moresko Posted August 30, 2013 Moderators Share Posted August 30, 2013 At age 14, I was molested by a close family friend, that was my first sexual contact with any person and for some reason the sex felt good, infact I think I cam during the ordeal so I blame my self for it. For so long, I replayed that incident in my head like it was yesterday and it pissed me off every time. I was mad at myself for so long because I didn't fight back, I hated that i didn't tell my parents or anyone because I was too afraid of the outcome plus I wasn't sure if anyone will believe me since my perpetrator was 10yrs older than me. I eventually seek help and through therapy and counseling, am No longer a victim. Although I have not disclosed and will not disclose that incident to my family. I know now that some people are sick and will hurt you because they've being hurt and knows no better. I am only responsible for my action not theirs. Sorry for ordeal you went through, stay strong. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
chocolat Posted August 30, 2013 Author Share Posted August 30, 2013 @ FlyJ, I can definitely relate to your situation. I wish, we live in a society where people can be TRUE to who they are. If living a double life makes life easier and worth living, Ride on sis. @ Moresko, Thanks for the encouragement. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Diff Posted August 30, 2013 Share Posted August 30, 2013 You're strong... You deserve a big hug too. Stay Strong :) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Lala1 Posted August 30, 2013 Share Posted August 30, 2013 Two big secrets: the fact that I like girls, and that I was molested as a kid. I certainly don't plan on letting any out soon. For reasons we're all too aware of. I don't know how long I'm gonna keep them in for. Lord knows I ain't dying to tell anyone either. Who I sleep with is my private business, and my abuse, well, that's another issue entirely. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
chocolat Posted August 30, 2013 Author Share Posted August 30, 2013 @ lala1, true statement....lol Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
simple Posted August 30, 2013 Share Posted August 30, 2013 Being a lesbian Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Administrators FlyJ Posted August 30, 2013 Administrators Share Posted August 30, 2013 @ FlyJ, I can definitely relate to your situation. I wish, we live in a society where people can be TRUE to who they are. If living a double life makes life easier and worth living, Ride on sis. @ Moresko, Thanks for the encouragement. Thanks Two big secrets: the fact that I like girls, and that I was molested as a kid. I certainly don't plan on letting any out soon. For reasons we're all too aware of. I don't know how long I'm gonna keep them in for. Lord knows I ain't dying to tell anyone either. Who I sleep with is my private business, and my abuse, well, that's another issue entirely. I understand you. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Michelle Posted October 10, 2019 Share Posted October 10, 2019 On 8/29/2013 at 5:19 PM, FlyJ said: 1) Being gay maybe. 2) I am not afraid to let it out but i just don't want to hurt my parents. ***) I have no idea. I have just accepted to live a double life at least that gets me through. Are these answers still accurate? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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