Moderators kimi Posted May 16, 2021 Moderators Share Posted May 16, 2021 Hello Ladies, What better day to start your journey of healing and wholeness. So.... I had an epiphany the other day and figured it would be useful to share it with you. We all go through life carrying an inner child who sometimes is broken and plagued by a variety of unresolved issues which ultimately frame how we react, love, expect to be loved and express emotion. In this case, the first step to healing is to acknowledge your inner child and to recognize that she's hurting and to understand where she's hurting. To pinpoint exactly what the hurt is e.g. feeling that she didn't have enough love or acceptance growing up, feeling the need to always please to feel loved or earn whatever love she gets, feeling inadequate because a parent figure didn't step up, feeling closed-off because she was raised in an environment that didn't allow for expression etc... I don't want you to dismiss your inner child or how she feels. To move forward and to be whole, you need to soothe her pain. You need to close your eyes and see her in your mind's eye. You need to apologise to her for how she feels and how she had nothing to do with the non-acceptance. How it is not her fault and how she must forgive those who hurt her because if people knew better, they would act better. You need to kiss her and embrace her tightly while telling her that you love her, that you are proud of her for being so strong. You need to kiss her and hug her intensely so that she breaksdown in your arms. Then you need to tell her to stop expecting love and acceptance from those figures (parental or otherwise) in her past because it may never come. You need to help her accept that situation because it is only after acceptance and letting go of those expectations and cravings of love from sources that cannot give it that healing can truly begin. Still holding her close, you need to tell her all about what amazing things you've been up to and how there is so much to look forward to. You then look her in the eye and kiss her one more time. This simple exercise of self love brings with it fresh perspective that will allow you not expect another to fill an unfillable void. instead, you will be in a place where you simply allow another (a partner or any other) to love you how they know how without projecting unmet needs and expectations on them. Selah 📿🖤🏳️🌈 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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