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In Nigeria, many Nigerian parents disown their children or subject them to very harsh and dehumanizing treatment after they find out about their sexuality. But the 26-year-old graduate of computer science said he is still in shock about the way his parents reacted after they found his gay porn online.

Speaking to NoStrings, he said; “I was very shocked and still am. I was also very scared when my mother called and started telling me about how my father and her saw me misbehaving with another man in a video online. Before I could explain myself, they cut in and told me that they wanted to see me”

Ikechukwu who finished from Abia State University three years ago with no job said he was frustrated, disappointed, and broke, hence, the reason why he dabbled into gay porn with the hope that he’ll be able to make some money to sustain himself.

“I got into acting gay porn through a friend. I was so broke, frustrated, and disappointed in myself and so desperately wanted to do something to survive and keep myself going. Things have become so hard now in the country, and as a jobless young man, it was even so difficult for me. I couldn’t turn to my parents because that’ll further make me feel like a total failure. Even though acting porn wasn’t as lucrative and sustainable as I had thought, it did help me pay some bills”.

During his days at the University, Ikechukwu learned how to cut hair, and was so good at it, but after he left school and moved to another state, it became difficult for him to find new clients. He also tried looking for a job and sent in several applications to several organizations that never called him back. Also, the few who called did not get back to him after the interviews. 

However, things took a positive turn for Ikechukwu after he received a call from his parents who afterward, decided to help him start up a business.

“I still cannot believe it. I was thinking they’ll scold and condemn me. I know my dad to be very harsh, and they are both very religious. I was even thinking they’ll talk about my sexuality, but instead, they only asked me why I was acting porn and I explained to them how things were not going well for me and how broke I was. They blamed me for not telling them, and then after a week or so, gave me money to set up my saloon. Now I am a proud owner of a classy hair salon. The business is still growing, but I am so grateful to them” He said with excitement.

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Awwwwwwh.... I'm thrilled for him we need more stories told of acceptance from parents in the community 🏳️‍🌈

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Awwwnnn. Very awesome parents and it warms my heart.

 

Although, I do think that they have refused to acknowledge his queerness at all like most parents do but it's alright. Little steps

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