dreamgal Posted October 3, 2017 Share Posted October 3, 2017 Will you break up with your girlfriend if she decides to transition and become a guy? You guys have been dating for a while and you've always known she has gender identity issues, will you leave her if she transition? And if you stay, don't that make you straight? 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Teewhy Posted October 3, 2017 Share Posted October 3, 2017 Ain't gonna stay please. Transition bi'ti ba'wo. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Moderators kimi Posted October 3, 2017 Moderators Share Posted October 3, 2017 Nopes. I won't leave her. We are together because I love her and if she had gender identity issues and I was always aware of it and her possibility of transitioning and still stayed.... then, I would still be there when it eventually happens 1 hour ago, dreamgal said: And if you stay, don't that make you straight? Nopes. Doesn't make me straight. I answered this question with a particular someborry in mind. Lol. She means the world to me and I will always stand firmly by her side, to give support. Always. Hoping she doesn't sha o... hahaha Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
dreamgal Posted October 3, 2017 Author Share Posted October 3, 2017 36 minutes ago, kimi said: Nopes. I won't leave her. We are together because I love her and if she had gender identity issues and I was always aware of it and her possibility of transitioning and still stayed.... then, I would still be there when it eventually happens Nopes. Doesn't make me straight. I answered this question with a particular someborry in mind. Lol. She means the world to me and I will always stand firmly by her side, to give support. Always. Hoping she doesn't sha o... hahaha But she won't be a "she" anymore and if you can stay with her (him), don't you think it means it's possible for you to actually date a guy and be straight. Cause it's understandable that you love her and want to support her, but being a lesbian isn't about loving her. It's about being attracted to women (vag and boobs) and not men (D). Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Moderators kimi Posted October 3, 2017 Moderators Share Posted October 3, 2017 Loool. She will always be that woman I fell in love with even if she doesn't want to be referred to as a she. The heart and the soul foster a bond so deep, such superficial things tend to not matter or carry as much weight. This premise is based on me believing beyond any reasonable doubt that I have met the one that completes me. Consequently, all else won't matter. It shouldn't. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
dreamgal Posted October 3, 2017 Author Share Posted October 3, 2017 Okay Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
VINA Posted October 3, 2017 Share Posted October 3, 2017 I would stay with her. Lesbian or straight, whatever, those are just labels anyways. It's the person that matters. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Hawken Posted October 3, 2017 Share Posted October 3, 2017 I won't stay. I will wish her the best life has to offer (and i will mean it) and be on my way. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mimy Posted October 4, 2017 Share Posted October 4, 2017 I came for the p**sy and now that the p**sy is gone and replaced, na to find my way. On a serious note, If the girl I'm dating and love so much decides she doesn't want to be a girl any longer, I'll still love her but have to let her go. Staying with her will be torturing to me since we can't have sex any longer. I'll eventually cheat on her. So it'll better I let her go. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Hawken Posted October 4, 2017 Share Posted October 4, 2017 If the girl i love transitions into a man, is that still the girl i love? But really though, her decision to transition is a personal and selfish one. So the decent thing would be for her to break up with me. If i wanted a man & woman relationship, we wouldn't be together in the first place. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Suavity Posted October 4, 2017 Share Posted October 4, 2017 No am not going to stay simple! 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Phegore Posted October 4, 2017 Share Posted October 4, 2017 Nah tbh I'll let her go Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
scarlet Posted October 4, 2017 Share Posted October 4, 2017 Apparently there are trans non binary people, and trans people who transition to another gender but still remain feminine or masculine, and this is the part were you're getting it all wrong. @dreamgal, because your question is a trick question. one transitioning doesn't automatically make them want to be the opposite sex, you know, humans are complex and varied beings, ( we are looking at possibility here right? all thanks to your question) so what if? the said trans female girlfriend transit to another gender which is supposedly male physically, but remain feminine innately because that's how she/ he feels? See ehn, stop complicating things, especially if you have no idea how these things work! just like having to see some " tomboys" who aren't interested in girls, despite their choice of appearance, so like wise a trans person who was previously female but transit to another gender which is supposedly male physically, but remain feminine innately, depending on how they feel. the existence of trans people / non binary people prove a salient fact that gender is not that rigid, unbreakable two way street that a lot of people wish it was. yes, I'd stay with her/he because I love them first, with or without transition and that has got nothing to do with my sexuality. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
dreamgal Posted October 5, 2017 Author Share Posted October 5, 2017 Clearly wasn't referring to non-binary transgenders. And the question is more about how the other party feels with the physical change and not how the trans feel inside. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mimy Posted October 5, 2017 Share Posted October 5, 2017 Those of you saying you'll stay. I'm not understanding. I understand love wins o but how about za oza room things na. What are y'all going to do with this her new D na? Lol 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Teewhy Posted October 5, 2017 Share Posted October 5, 2017 30 minutes ago, Gimbiyya said: Those of you saying you'll stay. I'm not understanding. I understand love wins o but how about za oza room things na. What are y'all going to do with this her new D na? Lol Haha, za oza room is very very important oo. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
scarlet Posted October 5, 2017 Share Posted October 5, 2017 10 hours ago, dreamgal said: Clearly wasn't referring to non-binary transgenders. And the question is more about how the other party feels with the physical change and not how the trans feel inside. you did a terrible job at not stating specific. If I recall, your question was about a (she transitioning to a he), that was your key question ba? and I still insist you don't have the sightly idea how these things really work, even though you are very much part of queer community. ( no offense) You of all people should understand that there is a grave, if not distinctive different between sexuality and gender, and both are just one aspect of a personality trait right? Just because she transitions and uses the he pronouns doesn't influenced their/ them sexuality, This is my point. Trans males differs. There are trans male who are involved with men, just as do trans male who are very much interested /involved with woman, same goes when you use the above interchangeably, not putting aside also trans men who could never accept the socialisation of women and trans male who are non binary, all of this do not disenfranchised them on where they fall in the sexuality spectrum. That said, so what about how the other person feels with the looks? Is like you have grouse with transgender people oo. If you don't mind me asking aren't there cisgendered women with "manly" attributes? Or cisgendered men with feminine attributes? Or lesbian women with manly attributes? ( chi girl who recently came out as lesbian is a typical example when you take a cursory look at lesbians who posses manly physique but identify as woman yet sexually involved with women ) does that hinders anything, Both physically and sexually? Don't they have partners who love and appreciate them? If yes, why can't that be seen among relationship involving trans persons and their partners? is there any difference physically between these set of couples and couples with trans partner? you make It seem like these things are news, and are non- existent. But they aren't. I guess those who'd love them, and appreciate them despite all, would. Shikena. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
dreamgal Posted October 5, 2017 Author Share Posted October 5, 2017 7 minutes ago, scarlet said: you did a terrible job at not stating specific. If I recall, your question was about a (she transitioning to a he), that was your key question ba? and I still insist you don't have the sightly idea how these things really work, even though you are very much part of queer community. ( no offense) You of all people should understand that there is a grave, if not distinctive different between sexuality and gender, and both are just one aspect of a personality trait right? Just because she transitions and uses the he pronouns doesn't influenced their/ them sexuality, This is my point. Trans males differs. There are trans male who are involved with men, just as do trans male who are very much interested /involved with woman, same goes when you use the above interchangeably, not putting aside also trans men who could never accept the socialisation of women and trans male who are non binary, all of this do not disenfranchised them on where they fall in the sexuality spectrum. That said, so what about how the other person feels with the looks? Is like you have grouse with transgender people oo. If you don't mind me asking aren't there cisgendered women with "manly" attributes? Or cisgendered men with feminine attributes? Or lesbian women with manly attributes? ( chi girl who recently came out as lesbian is a typical example when you take a cursory look) does that hinders anything, Both physically and sexually? Don't they have partners who love and appreciate them? If yes, why can't that been seen among relationship involving trans persons and their partners? is there any difference physically between these set of couples and couples with trans partner? you make It seem like these things are news, and are non- existent. But they aren't. I guess those who'd love them, and appreciate them despite all, would. Shikena. Oh my goodness! What are you on about? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
dreamgal Posted October 5, 2017 Author Share Posted October 5, 2017 You know what, whatever you say. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mimy Posted October 5, 2017 Share Posted October 5, 2017 On 10/***/2017 at 7:44 AM, dreamgal said: Will you break up with your girlfriend if she decides to transition and become a guy? @scarlet, I believe this question impliedly means a girl who has undergone changes (both sex change and all) and has now become a guy aka transgender, will you breakup with her as result of these changes? Shikena. No need stretching it to binary and non binary wahala na. Lol Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
contessa Posted October 5, 2017 Share Posted October 5, 2017 I did not come for rock hard chest, I m here for the soft Succulent body mahn. If the premium cuts are going....I m going with them. I have sworn allegiance to brezz...not betraying my oath. I may love her mind but it's body I m seeing.... She can be side graded to being my close friend cos that bod ain't gonna do Nada for me... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Teewhy Posted October 5, 2017 Share Posted October 5, 2017 This is getting interesting. I'm still here to read comments tho. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
scarlet Posted October 5, 2017 Share Posted October 5, 2017 6 hours ago, Gimbiyya said: @scarlet, I believe this question impliedly means a girl who has undergone changes (both sex change and all) and has now become a guy aka transgender, will you breakup with her as result of these changes? Shikena. No need stretching it to binary and non binary wahala na. Lol I understood the question, but I just nided her to stop dissecting trans related topics with the wrong motive at heart, and owning to fact she knows little or nothing about this people.. and also she's aware of the discrimination toward them in this community. That's all. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Moderators kimi Posted October 5, 2017 Moderators Share Posted October 5, 2017 12 minutes ago, scarlet said: I understood the question, but I just nided her to stop dissecting trans related topics with the wrong motive at heart, and owning to fact she knows little or nothing about this people.. and also she's aware of the discrimination toward them in this community. That's all. I have kept quiet all this while because by nature, I tend to avoid heated debates. I don't think it is fair to conclude that her motive was wrong. There is no way to ascertain that. I also didn't see it from the perspective with which you did because clearly we are two different people and thus view the world differently. More importantly, we each have our struggles. Her question (from my perspective) was from a place of sincere inquisition. What if she is asking for herself or for a friend? There is always so much more that we do not know. Please be gentle with your responses is all i'm saying. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Hawken Posted October 5, 2017 Share Posted October 5, 2017 Scarlet, you sound defensive. She asked a simple and straight forward question. You could have schooled us all (seeing as you know so much about trans people) without the passive aggression. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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