Hawken Posted March 4, 2019 Share Posted March 4, 2019 "I strongly believe if you cheat in a relationship, you actually donβt love your partner, or you never loved them at all. Like at all. Itβs just cruise youβre catching there." The above tweet came into my TL, I retweeted and commented. A friend saw and immediately jumped in my DM, after a little back and forth, I decided it was best we agreed to disagree. But it made me wonder, because I honestly thought it was quite simple... So what are your thoughts, does love really make you unable to cheat? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Txunamy Posted March 4, 2019 Share Posted March 4, 2019 IΒ wrote two paragraphs on my thoughts, but last minute, i decided to keep it simple and short.. Right now, all i am thinking is if you love someone, then why cheat on the person? It should be clear cut.. Personally, i have never cheated on anyone i am in love with. Two words :Grey Area Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Txunamy Posted March 4, 2019 Share Posted March 4, 2019 1 hour ago, Hawken said: "I strongly believe if you cheat in a relationship, you actually donβt love your partner, or you never loved them at all. Like at all. Itβs just cruise youβre catching there." The above tweet came into my TL, I retweeted and commented. A friend saw and immediately jumped in my DM, after a little back and forth, I decided it was best we agreed to disagree. But it made me wonder, because I honestly thought it was quite simple... So what are your thoughts, does love really make you unable to cheat? I would also like to know your thoughts Buddyπ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Hawken Posted March 4, 2019 Author Share Posted March 4, 2019 I think you can be in love with someone and still cheat. Mistakes happen. It takes a lot of self control and discipline to not cheat mostly in a long term relationship. And unfortunately, not everybody has that. @Txunamy Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Txunamy Posted March 4, 2019 Share Posted March 4, 2019 9 minutes ago, Hawken said: I think you can be in love with someone and still cheat. Mistakes happen. It takes a lot of self control and discipline to not cheat mostly in a long term relationship. And unfortunately, not everybody has that. @Txunamy True...Hence, The Grey area. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Michelle Posted March 4, 2019 Share Posted March 4, 2019 Cheating would not occur by mistake with me...it would be intentional. She would have to be neglectful towards me in some form. And I could only see myself cheating on a spouse that I may not be willing to divorce just yet. I wouldn't consider cheating on a girlfriend as they're often easily replaceable. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Moderators kimi Posted March 5, 2019 Moderators Share Posted March 5, 2019 I do believe it is possible to love andΒ cheat. Not everyone can be as disciplined or strong-minded enough to look the other way when temptation comes looking for them. Some are also just polygamous by nature. They are able to share lots of love around. Lol. I also do believe that it takes a lot of discipline, effort and commitment (to your partner and your relationship) to remain faithful. Personally, I believe in discussing these things. Even if one ever feels like she isΒ struggling, tell her. Come clean and trust her to handle it in a mature way. Because, girl.. you would want all the help youΒ can get. Lol Β Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Moderators kimi Posted March 5, 2019 Moderators Share Posted March 5, 2019 8 hours ago, Hawken said: I think you can be in love with someone and still cheat. Mistakes happen. It takes a lot of self control and discipline to not cheat mostly in a long term relationship. And unfortunately, not everybody has that. @Txunamy I agree... long term relationships go through so many phases. Mehn... couples would need to be deliberate aboutΒ keeping things fresh and exciting.Β Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Hawken Posted March 5, 2019 Author Share Posted March 5, 2019 8 hours ago, Michelle said: Cheating would not occur by mistake with me...it would be intentional. She would have to be neglectful towards me in some form. And I could only see myself cheating on a spouse that I may not be willing to divorce just yet. I wouldn't consider cheating on a girlfriend as they're often easily replaceable. Yes, the only reason I would cheat on a partner is if I'm not ready to let her go. But then, if said partner finds out, she could leave still. Legit fear 11 minutes ago, kimi said: Some are also just polygamous by nature. They are able to share lots of love around. Lol. Personally, I believe in discussing these things. Even if one ever feels like she isΒ struggling, tell her. Come clean and trust her to handle it in a mature way. Because, girl.. you would want all the help youΒ can get. Lol This polygamous nature we talk about, could it just be that these people have very high libidos? So perhaps if they met someone with just as high a libido they might not step out? Or step out as much? The bolded is risky behavior π Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Moderators kimi Posted March 5, 2019 Moderators Share Posted March 5, 2019 3 minutes ago, Hawken said: Theο»Ώ bolded is risky behavior πο»Ώ Hahahaha. I know... friendly advise: know your woman. Plus this a conversation you should have had while still at the getting to know phase.Β 4 minutes ago, Hawken said: Thisο»Ώ polygο»Ώamous nature we talk about, could it just be that these people have very high libidos? So perhaps if they met someone with just as high a libο»Ώido they might not step out? Or step out as much? Hahahaha. I honestly don't know. I simply believe this applies to someone somewhere in the world. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mimy Posted March 5, 2019 Share Posted March 5, 2019 18 minutes ago, Hawken said: Thisο»Ώ polygamous nature we talk about, could it just be that these people have very high libidos? So perhaps if they met someoneο»Ώ withο»Ώ just as high a libido they might not step out? Or step out as ο»Ώmuch? I don't think It has anything to do with high libido. Some people are just wired that way. However satisfied their partner keeps them, they never really derived satisfaction being in a monogamous relationship.Β Β Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Michelle Posted March 5, 2019 Share Posted March 5, 2019 55 minutes ago, Hawken said: she could leave still That's not likely to happen if she's married though...especially if kids are involved. You have a better shot at mending the relationship with counseling and high priced gifts when you're legally married. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
VINA Posted March 5, 2019 Share Posted March 5, 2019 CHEATING!!! Eleyi gidi gan!!! Quite a sensitive topic for me. Β First off, to approach this topic, we have to examine love and sex. is sex a show of love? Do you love everyone you're sexually attractedΒ toΒ or can we actually separate love from sex? Β Now the answer differs from person to person. And so cheating affects everyone differently.Β Β For me cheating is a decision I make. It has nothing to do with emotions for me because I can separate my emotions from sex. Β so yes, people can make mistakes, be reckless for a minute, get tempted and fall before quickly realizing that they Β love their partners and then stop. considering that love is a scarce commodity these days, I would rather I married someone loyal, Β disciplined and morally upright than one who says they loved me. The former is less likely to cheat. imo. 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Hawken Posted March 5, 2019 Author Share Posted March 5, 2019 9 hours ago, Michelle said: You have a better shot at mending the relationship with counseling and high priced gifts when you're legally married. How does this counseling work? I'd be embarrassed af. I mean its one thing to tell a friend your problems, but to tell it to someone else in the presence of said partner, I would clam up. 10 hours ago, Mimy said: I don't think It has anything to do with high libido. Some people are just wired that way. However satisfied their partner keeps them, they never really derived satisfaction being in a monogamous relationship.Β Β Sounds enviable πππ 6 hours ago, Blakky said: I would rather I married someone loyal, Β disciplined and morally upright than one who says they loved me. The former is less likely to cheat. imo. ππ but Blakky, are you the former or latter? Meanwhile, I totally agree that the the former is less likely to cheat because not cheating for them isn't about their partners , its about their principles. I won't cheat not because I love my partner so much but because I wouldn't be able to live with the fact that I am after all a mere mortal who is susceptible to temptation ππππ Β Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
VINA Posted March 5, 2019 Share Posted March 5, 2019 2 hours ago, Hawken said: How does this counseling work? I'd be embarrassed af. I mean its one thing to tell a friend your problems, but to tell it to someone else in the presence of said partner, I would clam up. Sounds enviable πππ ππ but Blakky, are you the former or latter? Meanwhile, I totally agree that the the former is less likely to cheat because not cheating for them isn't about their partners , its about their principles. I won't cheat not because I love my partner so much but because I wouldn't be able to live with the fact that I am after all a mere mortal who is susceptible to temptation ππππ Β kikikiki. This question!!Β I am the principled one that rarely takes a decision but will stand by it when I finally do. Β I decided years ago that being faithful to someone who I wasn't married to was a waste. When they finally leave me in the dust, Β I find out I've missed out on a whole lot of awesome pussies.Β That thing dey pain reach bone!!! Β Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Hawken Posted March 5, 2019 Author Share Posted March 5, 2019 54 minutes ago, Blakky said: Β I decided years ago that being faithful to someone who I wasn't married to was a waste. When they finally leave me in the dust, Β I find out I've missed out on a whole lot of awesome pussies.Β That thing dey pain reach bone!!! Β πππ dont be like this now, there are still plenty faithful girls out there. I mean take me for example π Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
VINA Posted March 5, 2019 Share Posted March 5, 2019 1 hour ago, Hawken said: πππ dont be like this now, there are still plenty faithful girls out there. I mean take me for example π lool. I haven't met you, or anyone remotely close. Β Just a lot of cheetahs on these streets and me sabi learn bad things sharp sharp Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Michelle Posted March 5, 2019 Share Posted March 5, 2019 5 hours ago, Hawken said: How does this counseling work?ο»Ώ I'd be embarrassed af. I mean its one thing to tell a friend your problems, but to tell it to someone else in the presence of said partner, I would clam up. I wouldn't have a problem with it. It's just the two of you with a professional in a closed private session. I wouldn't be ashamed of cheating on someone that neglected me.Β Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Hawken Posted March 6, 2019 Author Share Posted March 6, 2019 2 hours ago, Blakky said: Just a lot of cheetahs on these streets and me sabi learn bad things sharp sharp Lmao based on where you are from. Thinking about it now, your sisters have done me strong thing in this life, I don't know how I survived ππ 1 hour ago, Michelle said: I wouldn't have a problem with it. It's just the two of you with a professional in a closed private session. I wouldn't be ashamed of cheating on someone that neglected me.Β Fair enough Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ewoma Posted March 6, 2019 Share Posted March 6, 2019 On 3/4/2019 at 11:23 PM, Michelle said: Cheating would not occur by mistake with me...it would be intentional. She would have to be neglectful towards me in some form. And I could only see myself cheating on a spouse that I may not be willing to divorce just yet. I wouldn't consider cheating on a girlfriend asΒ Easily replaceable..... You mean girl friends are every where.....Β Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Michelle Posted March 6, 2019 Share Posted March 6, 2019 22 minutes ago, Ewoma said: Easily replaceable..... You mean girl friends are every where.....Β pretty much Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ewoma Posted March 6, 2019 Share Posted March 6, 2019 Wow Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Michelle Posted March 7, 2019 Share Posted March 7, 2019 12 hours ago, Ewoma said: Wow There are plenty of cuties with boodies in this United States. I haven't had many girlfriends that could hold my attention for an extended period of time...just one. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Txunamy Posted March 7, 2019 Share Posted March 7, 2019 4 hours ago, Michelle said: There are plenty of cuties with boodies in this United States. I haven't had many girlfriends that could hold my attention for an extended period of time...just one. ππππππππππππππ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Michelle Posted March 7, 2019 Share Posted March 7, 2019 5 hours ago, Txunamy said: ππππππππππππππ π Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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